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If I didn't know any better I'd think this was a wind up post.
You will only ever get to know her if you talk to her. You went to the same school, you didn't grow up together, otherwise you would not be so scared.

TALK to her. Do NOT add her to your fracking Facebook friends without talking to her first! That's dumb. She's obviously waiting for you.

As Chowderhead says grow a pair and talk to her.

1. Whip out your tool the next time she sees you and say "This isn't gonna get hard by itself"
2. ??? ( )
3. PROFIT ( )

Vladsimpaler wrote:1. Whip out your tool the next time she sees you and say "This isn't gonna get hard by itself"
2. ??? ( )
3. PROFIT ( )

Yeah NO.

chowderhead13 wrote:

Vladsimpaler wrote:1. Whip out your tool the next time she sees you and say "This isn't gonna get hard by itself"
2. ??? ( )
3. PROFIT ( )

Yeah NO.

Someone obviously doesn't live life on the edge

Vladsimpaler wrote:1. Whip out your tool the next time she sees you and say "This isn't gonna get hard by itself"
2. ??? ( )
3. PROFIT ( )

Vladsimpaler wrote:

chowderhead13 wrote:

Vladsimpaler wrote:1. Whip out your tool the next time she sees you and say "This isn't gonna get hard by itself"
2. ??? ( )
3. PROFIT ( )

Yeah NO.

Someone obviously doesn't live life on the edge

Well if by "living life on the edge" you mean running from the cops, then no I don't live a similar lifestyle.

Well, I work in the morning, hopefully she does too.

I plan on waving when I see her, wish me luck.

Edit: and if we get to talking, I'll tell her the truth, the reason I have been acting wierd is because she caught me off guard and I didn't know how to react.

Slarg232 wrote:Well, I work in the morning, hopefully she does too.

I plan on waving when I see her, wish me luck.

Don't wave, say "hi" and start a conversation.

Cheesecat wrote:

Slarg232 wrote:Well, I work in the morning, hopefully she does too.

I plan on waving when I see her, wish me luck.

Don't wave, say "hi" and start a conversation.

Oh I wiill, just not right off the bat. I will wait a few minutes so my boss doesn't think that I just came in to work just to talk to her, you know?

Slarg232 wrote:

Cheesecat wrote:

Slarg232 wrote:Well, I work in the morning, hopefully she does too.

I plan on waving when I see her, wish me luck.

Don't wave, say "hi" and start a conversation.

Oh I wiill, just not right off the bat. I will wait a few minutes so my boss doesn't think that I just came in to work just to talk to her, you know?

I'm assuming your boss would think you came to work to work, because thats what you're being paid for and that chatting briefly to a girl you like is considered ok as long as it doesn't hamper your job.

Cheesecat wrote:

Slarg232 wrote:

Cheesecat wrote:

Slarg232 wrote:Well, I work in the morning, hopefully she does too.

I plan on waving when I see her, wish me luck.

Don't wave, say "hi" and start a conversation.

Oh I wiill, just not right off the bat. I will wait a few minutes so my boss doesn't think that I just came in to work just to talk to her, you know?

I'm assuming your boss would think you came to work to work, because that what you're being paid for and that chatting briefly to a girl you like is considered ok as long as it doesn't hamper your job.

In order to talk to her, I would have to either:

A) Yell halfway across the store (well, 15-20 feet, but still)

B) Stop what I'm doing and go out of my way by that 15-20 feet.

We work in different departments (she's a cashier, I'm a stockboy), so we don't see that much of eachother, but we do see a fair amount.

My Plan: If she is working her till tomorrow, I am going to wave, and if she waves back, I am going to walk up to her and ask her when she is taking her 15 minute lunch break (we are both part time, we don't get a 30 minute one ) and ask if she minded if I joined her. Sound like a Man's Plan?

Slarg232 wrote:

Cheesecat wrote:

Slarg232 wrote:

Cheesecat wrote:

Slarg232 wrote:Well, I work in the morning, hopefully she does too.

I plan on waving when I see her, wish me luck.

Don't wave, say "hi" and start a conversation.

Oh I wiill, just not right off the bat. I will wait a few minutes so my boss doesn't think that I just came in to work just to talk to her, you know?

I'm assuming your boss would think you came to work to work, because that what you're being paid for and that chatting briefly to a girl you like is considered ok as long as it doesn't hamper your job.

In order to talk to her, I would have to either:

A) Yell halfway across the store (well, 15-20 feet, but still)

B) Stop what I'm doing and go out of my way by that 15-20 feet.

We work in different departments (she's a cashier, I'm a stockboy), so we don't see that much of eachother, but we do see a fair amount.

My Plan: If she is working her till tomorrow, I am going to wave, and if she waves back, I am going to walk up to her and ask her when she is taking her 15 minute lunch break (we are both part time, we don't get a 30 minute one ) and ask if she minded if I joined her. Sound like a Man's Plan?

Do B just have a brief chat and then get back to what you're doing unless this is grocery store or Wal-Mart, then no.

Yup, I know. This is a grocery store on a military base, I wasn't going to yell across it

Hell, I get stares because I was brought up in a military family and use "Wilco" and "Fubar" in my vocabulary.

Slarg232 wrote:Yup, I know. This is a grocery store on a military base, I wasn't going to yell across it

Hell, I get stares because I was brought up in a military family and use "Wilco" and "Fubar" in my vocabulary.

Feth I was hoping it wouldn't be a grocery store, then you're stalling a line-up at the cash register alright scratch plan B then. Do Military grocery stores have big line-ups?

Cheesecat wrote:

Slarg232 wrote:Yup, I know. This is a grocery store on a military base, I wasn't going to yell across it

Hell, I get stares because I was brought up in a military family and use "Wilco" and "Fubar" in my vocabulary.

Feth I was hoping it wouldn't be a grocery store, then you're stalling a line-up at the cash register alright scratch plan B then. Do Military grocery stores have big line-ups?

Oops, sorry, not grocery store, General store. My bad, I be tired.

But no, right off the bat is hardly ever busy, maybe 3 cashiers for four people roaming the store.


(In my defense, they both start with G.....)

Good plan. Don't depend on it.

I mean, chatting with someone on their break isn't such a huge deal that you ought to feel you need to ask her permission to be around. Get stuck in and talk to her, trying to find some common ground or gossip to converse upon. Social interaction 101. Don't try to pull any lines if you're not confident enough because it just comes off as creepy.

If you've known her for a while but have never really gotten to know her then that's a good excuse. Tell you find (common interest goes here) interesting and that you'd kick yourself for never getting to know her better - want to do (relevant activity) together some time?

It will get the point across without being pushy. She'll respond to your attention if she's interested. You want to get to know her too, of course. Don't be one of those guys who cracks on to 'pick up' - you'll do a lot better by your own self if you make sure she's 'your type' in the mean time!

Arctik_Firangi wrote:Good plan. Don't depend on it.

I mean, chatting with someone on their break isn't such a huge deal that you ought to feel you need to ask her permission to be around. Get stuck in and talk to her, trying to find some common ground or gossip to converse upon. Social interaction 101. Don't try to pull any lines if you're not confident enough because it just comes off as creepy.

If you've known her for a while but have never really gotten to know her then that's a good excuse. Tell you find (common interest goes here) interesting and that you'd kick yourself for never getting to know her better - want to do (relevant activity) together some time?

It will get the point across without being pushy. She'll respond to your attention if she's interested. You want to get to know her too, of course. Don't be one of those guys who cracks on to 'pick up' - you'll do a lot better by your own self if you make sure she's 'your type' in the mean time!

"Hey, what time are you going to lunch? Just wondering because maybe we could catch up with what has happened these last few years since we last saw eachother?"

Sound good?

if you two work the same shift invite her for an overpriced beverage after work one afternoon. i think that's been mentioned a couple times, but seems to bear repeating.

loranafaeriequeen wrote:if you two work the same shift invite her for an overpriced beverage after work one afternoon. i think that's been mentioned a couple times, but seems to bear repeating.

Not exactly: we both get there at random times and leave at random times, with different hours too. She may start work at 9 and get off at 2, but I'll get there and start at 9:30 and not get off until 3:30. It's all completely random because we are both the low little worker drones in our areas.

Maybe this isn't helpful, but why not when you do talk to her, before you leave, ask for her number. You can call her and go out over the weekends and have something to look forward to.


It that didn't do anything for you, just look her in the eyes alot. It really helps if you aren't looking around, and nervous like I am. When you show confidence, that is a plus. My mother always taught me to keep my head up, and I have been recently. This could work for you?

If none of those helped, sorry for wasting your time.

Phone might be too soon, though I will keep it in mind.

Heading off to work right now, hopefully she is working too. Wish me luck.

Taking relationship advice from a game forum is about as bad as taking advice on fighting from a game forum: bad idea.

Don't rehearse cony lines, don't fall down some stairs to get her attention, or any other foolishness.

Be yourself and simply talk to her.

Say hello when you can, maybe straight up ask her if she wants to go to lunch. Sincerity(even if awkward) is better then corny/fake acting.

IF she is interested you will soon know it, if not you will know that as well, and without having to out on some awkward show to get her attention...

CT GAMER wrote:Taking relationship advice from a game forum is about as bad as taking advice on fighting from a game forum: bad idea.

Don't rehearse cony lines, don't fall down some stairs to get her attention, or any other foolishness.

Be yourself and simply talk to her.

Say hello when you can, maybe straight up ask her if she wants to go to lunch. Sincerity(even if awkward) is better then corny/fake acting.

IF she is interested you will soon know it, if not you will know that as well, and without having to out on some awkward show to get her attention...

And your advice resembles most of the other wargamers advice, so maybe gamers do know what they're talking about when it comes to dating or you're no exception.

CT GAMER wrote:Taking relationship advice from a game forum is about as bad as taking advice on fighting from a game forum: bad idea.

Don't rehearse cony lines, don't fall down some stairs to get her attention, or any other foolishness.

Be yourself and simply talk to her.

Say hello when you can, maybe straight up ask her if she wants to go to lunch. Sincerity(even if awkward) is better then corny/fake acting.

IF she is interested you will soon know it, if not you will know that as well, and without having to out on some awkward show to get her attention...

But..... thats what I do! Im a goofy guy! I landed a second date with my wife (see.....my methods get you laid for life )

Good news: She was there.

Bad News: I never had the chance to talk to her, I got in at 12 and the store opens at 9, so we were really busy (she had four people in her line the entire time) and she left before I could go on my 15 minute lunch break.

Tomorrows the busiest day for us Stockers, thats when we get resupplied, so tomorrows not going to work either. And that's assuming I can even get to work, The winds are really picking up up here.

I'll get her soon, hopefully.

Same with me bro. It seems I cannot speak to the girl I like to. Damn this shyness! I laugh at how I can talk to everyone but this girl >.<

Slarg232 wrote: And that's assuming I can even get to work, The winds are really picking up up here.

What, do you sail to work?

I still think my idea of sweeping her off her feet in a passionate embrace (leading into a passionate kiss, and maybe latter… more passion!) was a good one.

Ma55ter_fett wrote:I still think my idea of sweeping her off her feet in a passionate embrace (leading into a passionate kiss, and maybe latter… more passion!) was a good one.

That only works in the movies.....

Asherian Command wrote:

Ma55ter_fett wrote:I still think my idea of sweeping her off her feet in a passionate embrace (leading into a passionate kiss, and maybe latter… more passion!) was a good one.

That only works in the movies.....

Movies are the closest I have ever come to romance