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Cheesecat wrote:

Billinator wrote:
- If there's something i can't stand, it's people who goes behind other people's backs to talk sh*t about them, because they haven't got the guts to confront them! :s

Maybe they're just being polite and don't want to offend the person's feelings.

I don't mean it in an agressive sense, even though it might've sounded that way. I just think that you should be given the opportunity to, well... Know what you've done wrong. If they don't show you the courtesy to speak to you about what's bothering them about me, then how can i show mine by reflecting upon it?

As said, i don't mean it in an agressive way. It's just my logic, i guess..?

Don't make a big deal about it. Just distance yourself from him, soon he will float away like a turd in the drain.

Beautiful imagery, i'm so creative.

Ron White for "confused young man" joke

I had a mate at school whom I fell out with.

He had started to smoke dope to an excessive degree (this was going to be a problem as his family did have a history of schizophrenia - something that can be exacerbated by dope smoking).

I told him I couldn't hang out with him anymore - not because of the dope, but because of the amount he was using (he started to make Cheech & Chong look like a documentary).

Walk away, dude. Just walk away.
If it's your only gaming outlet that he hangs out at, it's a bit harder, but there ARE often other places to go.

Ogryn wrote:Hi, Dakka. Now, straight to the point. My friend has become a person that I do not want to hang around anymore in the hobby. He critizises everyone’s work, and is overly competitive. I have begun to realize this after he told a beginner that his painting skills suck. I have told him many times not to do this, but he only responds by saying “I can’t help it if they are terrible at painting.” I really do not know how I should stop hanging around him. What should I do?

You answered your own question.

Don't game with him. Its not a punishment, not an ultimatum, a sanction on his behavior, a demand that he change, etc. It's simply a matter of you not enjoying while in his presence. Why would you force yourself to be a part of something that doesn't make you happy when you're supposed to be playing a game/hanging out in the name of fun? You may as well go smash your hand with a hammer and call that fun as well. If the kid actually values you as a friend, then maybe he'll change at which point you can reconsider you're relationship. If not, then who cares you didn't like him anyways so he may as well not have even existed - are you really going to miss stressing over him?

chromedog wrote:
Walk away, dude. Just walk away.

Does he have a Cpt Shrike?

If so jack that gak.

It is a time honored method of getting that one up on your nemesis.

Ogryn wrote:Hi, Dakka. Now, straight to the point. My friend has become a person that I do not want to hang around anymore in the hobby. He critizises everyone’s work, and is overly competitive. I have begun to realize this after he told a beginner that his painting skills suck. I have told him many times not to do this, but he only responds by saying “I can’t help it if they are terrible at painting.” I really do not know how I should stop hanging around him. What should I do?

Get a shovel and some gloves. You'll know what to do.

I think you should talk to him. Say something like "You're being a ****. I don't like hanging out with ****s. If you stop being a ****, I can keep hanging out with you."

Substitute your favorite pejorative.

DukeBadham wrote:

KingCracker wrote:Even if shes an ugly woman, itll get your point across Also, before doing this idea, PM Cannerus, he might be of some help

Dude, I just had the image of you, some old lady, and Cannerus all having some fun. Thanks for that horrifying and nightmare-inducing mental image, I will now kill myself.

"Youll hear clappin when bodies start flappin, from doin the wild thang" dun chit dun, dun chit dun *drum roll w/heavy breathing sound*

It can be hard when the douche in question or DIQ is always hanging around the same folks you hang with. Lots of social pressure blah blah. Point is, I'd just stop playing games with him and avoid him when you can and basically ignore him when you can't. A time will come that he'll notice and probably ask, and thats when you say, "You have been acting like a douche. You're not fun to be around anymore." Honesty might hurt but if he's a real friend he'll try to make things right. If he's not, then you've lost nothing.

Point of the story, all you Douches out there, don't be a DIQ.

biccat wrote:I think you should talk to him. Say something like "You're being a ****. I don't like hanging out with ****s. If you stop being a ****, I can keep hanging out with you."

Substitute your favorite pejorative.

This. And tell the shop owner about him making a new player walk away from the table.

Thanks for the advice guys!

Ogryn wrote:Thanks for the advice guys!

So, what'd you do?

You gotta tell us, man!

Nothing yet, but I think that I am going to give him one more chance. If he blows that, well...

Ogryn wrote:Nothing yet, but I think that I am going to give him one more chance. If he blows that, well...

Remember pigs can eat 8 lbs of human meat a day (or was it an hour). Here, this will provide handy assistance.

Next time he does something dickish, just say; "Dude, that was a dick move. I don't want any part of that." Then walk away.

So, I got up yesterday morning, ate a delicious breakfast of Sausages, and went down to a Games Workshop, one that I go to quite a lot, to find my “Friend” there. Throughout the whole time he did his usual “Being-a-Douche” act, until he told me that my painting skills were terrible, and tried to “educate” me on painting. I flat out told him he was a douche, and that noone liked him. (A little harsh, but he deserved it) I then went off to model, and paint my new Harlequins, and to game. So, while he tried to rethink ways of becoming my friend, I had a great time painting, and gaming. He tried calling me four times after I left, but I decided that he had been a douche enough.

Nicely put. Straight and to the point.

You did the right thing.

Ma55ter_fett wrote:Does he have a Cpt Shrike?

If so jack that gak.

It is a time honored method of getting that one up on your nemesis.

This entertains me

Tell him his painting is great! for a 5 year old, who may have head trauma


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Frazzled wrote:

Ogryn wrote:Nothing yet, but I think that I am going to give him one more chance. If he blows that, well...

Remember pigs can eat 8 lbs of human meat a day (or was it an hour). Here, this will provide handy assistance.

damn it frazzled, i'm trying so hard to hate you... but Snatch is my favorite movie.

Good to hear you have ressolved this i had someone that kept mocking me and my painting, the thing is though he was half my size so i just walked off.