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**sennacherib**

I will take two please.
That made me laugh Matty.

**Henners91**

My girlfriend says it's a stupid excuse made by a woman who's not interested. The word 'douche' was used a lot.

'Rock on dude, you'll find someone better'.

**Avatar 720**

Kick her. Kick her in the head.

I mean, errr, plenty more fish in the sea etc. etc.

**Zyllos**

Henners91 wrote:My girlfriend says it's a stupid excuse made by a woman who's not interested. The word 'douche' was used a lot.

'Rock on dude, you'll find someone better'.

Like this answer

**AustonT**

I suppose no one has asked so I will: do you have naked pictures of her?

**notprop**

Take some from the tree in front of her bathroom window, it's the only way to be sure.

**Ahtman**

OP, we need you to have her make an account on Dakka and post her side so we can get further insight to the situation.

**CT GAMER**

AustonT wrote:
Oh Matty! I love you in a way only a heterosexual man can love another heterosexual man.

In the closet?

**sennacherib**

Ahtman wrote:OP, we need you to have her make an account on Dakka and post her side so we can get further insight to the situation.

I thought about sending her a link to this discussion so she could get some impartial feedback.
Why would i post this kind of stuff here on dakka. For exactly the above reason. Only four people know me here on dakka and they are all my freinds so having them know the situation is fine. The rest of you dont know me so its a great way for me to get feedback. thanks.
By the way, i am NOT all broken up about this, it just made me curious how many had similar experience and when most of you who have partners had told them you play these games.

**dogma**

I don't tell any of my partners. They find out in due kind.

I've found the best way to deal with the issue is to treat it like it isn't an issue, because it isn't.

**mattyrm**

CT GAMER wrote:
AustonT wrote:
Oh Matty! I love you in a way only a heterosexual man can love another heterosexual man.

In the closet?

Nobody is going anywhere near Mattys closet.

Its already full anyway.. two years worth of Stagg chilli.

**Samus_aran115**

KingCracker wrote:Uhg, youve been on DAKKA long enough to know you shouldnt post that crap and ask for advice........

Ya.

She sounds like one of those girls who thinks they're writing something poetical, but really, it's just common speak with a few fancy words thrown in. I'm always sure to be as vulgar and aloof as possible in break up messages/emails/texts:

Hey girl, how you do. Just wanted to tell you, you're a terrible gurlfran, and I'm breaking up with you, because, honestly, I love my right hand loads more than you. K bye.

PS. 'Loads' lol

**CT GAMER**

mattyrm wrote:
CT GAMER wrote:
AustonT wrote:
Oh Matty! I love you in a way only a heterosexual man can love another heterosexual man.

In the closet?

Nobody is going anywhere near Mattys closet.

Its already full anyway.. two years worth of Stagg chilli.

Are you stockpiling for the end times?

**notprop**

I'm guessing Fray Bentos pies are off the menu thats all. Bloody Argies!

**Dreadwinter**

Sneak in her house and redecorate it with as much fantasy junk as you can.

Lets see if she is telling the truth here......

**Cannerus_The_Unbearable**

OP, just think of how awesome this story will be later. You need to put a broken heart symbol on a marine to commemorate the occasion then send her a picture.

AustonT wrote:I suppose no one has asked so I will: do you have naked pictures of her?

Also this.

**AustonT**

while you're there see if she has any jewelry or silver

**Ahtman**

sennacherib wrote: The rest of you dont know me so its a great way for me to get feedback. thanks.

You think lay opinions from strangers is a good way to get quality feedback? To each his own. You really only needed to send a pm to Matyrm and the situation would have been resolved right away, as you can see.

Cannerus_The_Unbearable wrote:
AustonT wrote:I suppose no one has asked so I will: do you have naked pictures of her?

Also this.

Indeed.

**FabricatorGeneralMike**

mattyrm wrote:Dress in a suit, have a shave, go round her house with flowers and tell her you sold all your minis, burned all your old clothes and gave up the culture because she is so important to you. Keep this up until you seal the deal, be sure to drop your suit jacket and trousers at the foot of the bed and ensure the last sexual position of the evening is doggy.

Enabling you to quickly whip your accessories from your discarded clothing while still behind her.

And lo, when she glances behind her, you have placed half a tactical squad and some slugga boyz on her back, and your rolling to wound across her shoulder blades. She recoils and turns fully around to see you sporting an adhesive ginger neck beard, several piercings and a Pantera shirt.

Bask in the win.. then get another bird!

Again, thanks for the awsome smile my face has. You my good sir win +1 internetz here have a cookie....hell cookies for ALL!!!!!

What a fool she is, she didn't even ask you about your local meta!

**Albatross**

Samus_aran115 wrote:
She sounds like one of those girls who thinks they're writing something poetical, but really, it's just common speak with a few fancy words thrown in.

Y'know what? Sometimes I really, really, really love Americans.

**Johnny-Crass**

I was just thinking, she puts gaming akin to being around a abusive alcoholic so maybe she just misunderstood when you said you beat your friend in a game of warhammer. (See what I did there?

But no spousal abuse is no laughing matter)

**Piston Honda**

Well at least she did it via email and not in person along side with the guy she left you for.

Oh god did that hurt.

**kevlar'o**

i told my wife from the start '' I've been doing this since 2000 and we have been together since 2006.... you do the math honey!''

**DickBandit**

daedalus wrote:Can you filibuster sexual congress?

I see what you did there.

**Johnny-Crass**

The poster above mes name alone makes him a master of relationships. My hat is off to you DickBandit!

**chromedog**

murdog wrote:If it makes her sick it makes her sick, so you probly don't want to be with her. If she's lying and its something else you probly don't want to be with her. If she can't talk to you about the way she feels, or even ask you about your priorities in life, and can only think 'his hobby = i won't like him later', then you probly don't want to be with her. If she is comparing grognards to abusive alcoholics, you probly don't want to be with her. If you really are 'a genuinely awesome guy', you should forget about her and find someone less shallow, because a genuinely awesome guy can be a gamer and a good mate at the same time, and should be able to find someone who will let you be you. Sorry if any of thats harsh, offensive, or way off base, just my opinion based on very little info.

^
This, very much this. +1, etc.

No-one in my wife's family is a gamer.
One of her brothers-in-law (she has two of them) used to game. He used to game with another friend of hers. I knew this other friend.

She knew I was a gamer from day 1.
She knew I was an SF nerd from day 1.
She knew none of this was going to change.

We've known each other for 25-ish years, been together 15 or so, married for 5.

She had a problem (her, you, no difference, really). She moved on. FOLLOW HER LEAD. MOVE ON.
She wasn't "the one", so keep looking.
(If she had been, she wouldn't have broken it off, neh?)

**fluffstalker**

I guess it depends on where you live. In the US or Aus or Europe, I would be fairly confident in stating wargaming or video gaming as a primary interest.

But living in Asia with it's more conservative gender roles and culture, you can really shoot yourself in the foot if you do that. Which might seem strange at first because of all the gaming and anime fans here, but then one realizes that those fans tend to be socially awkward teenagers, and resembling them in even the vaguest of ways is an excellent way to send Asian ladies running to the nearest rich white expat (which they do already, but you know what I mean.)

**Ratius**

Ratius wrote:
I thought about sending her a link to this discussion so she could get some impartial feedback.

You're kidding right?

Hey! After our break up, I thought I'd post the gorey details on a gamers forum (yes the very same gamers that you loath and caused the relationship to implode) and thought you'd like to view the feedback from the well adjusted and emotionally balanced group of characters that inhabit here. I hope my violation of our intimate conversation and publication of your private feelings and past history dosent affect you too much and you can take whatever absolute dross is thrown at you from the aforementioned forum goers in good stead.

Let it go boss, seriously

Automatically Appended Next Post:
Bah no idea what happened to the editing there.

**FabricatorGeneralMike**

chromedog wrote:
murdog wrote:If it makes her sick it makes her sick, so you probly don't want to be with her. If she's lying and its something else you probly don't want to be with her. If she can't talk to you about the way she feels, or even ask you about your priorities in life, and can only think 'his hobby = i won't like him later', then you probly don't want to be with her. If she is comparing grognards to abusive alcoholics, you probly don't want to be with her. If you really are 'a genuinely awesome guy', you should forget about her and find someone less shallow, because a genuinely awesome guy can be a gamer and a good mate at the same time, and should be able to find someone who will let you be you. Sorry if any of thats harsh, offensive, or way off base, just my opinion based on very little info.

^
This, very much this. +1, etc.

No-one in my wife's family is a gamer.
One of her brothers-in-law (she has two of them) used to game. He used to game with another friend of hers. I knew this other friend.

She knew I was a gamer from day 1.
She knew I was an SF nerd from day 1.
She knew none of this was going to change.

We've known each other for 25-ish years, been together 15 or so, married for 5.

She had a problem (her, you, no difference, really). She moved on. FOLLOW HER LEAD. MOVE ON.
She wasn't "the one", so keep looking.
(If she had been, she wouldn't have broken it off, neh?)

My GF has known from day one that I am a 'little different' in my hobbies. She is into crafts also so it's not that bad. She actually likes that I have this hobby it keeps me busy so I am not pestering her when I am bord.

Her grandson who is three also likes 'mikeys little figgies' he especially likes space marines and my gundam model kits. =o]

**Howard A Treesong**

sennacherib wrote:
Ahtman wrote:OP, we need you to have her make an account on Dakka and post her side so we can get further insight to the situation.

I thought about sending her a link to this discussion so she could get some impartial feedback.

This is an appallingly bad idea.