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Krazed Killa Kan






Newport, S Wales

 azazel the cat wrote:
Arigata-meiwaku: An act someone does for you that you didn’t want to have them do and tried to avoid having them do, but they went ahead anyway, determined to do you a favor, and then things went wrong and caused you a lot of trouble, yet in the end social conventions required you to express gratitude


This should basically be the family motto on my mother's side.


How humorous would it be, if the guy who invented that word did it by the action it describes
*cue scene, Sushi bar in Tokyo, late at night, you enter halfway through a conversation*
'...ah, what's that thing, you know, when someone does something for you, but, like, you don't want them to do, and then it sucks, but you have to say thank you anyway?'
'I know, I'll come up with a word for it!'
'Nah, don't worry about it, let's just order I'm starving...'
'No no no, it'll only take 5 minutes, hang on, hang on, I'll think of something now, bingo! arigata-meiwaku! that's what we'll call it! Now, just give me a sec while I phone the dictionary company and get this added!'
'No, seriously, I'm hungry and last orders is soon, let's just eat and deal with it later'
*pulls out cellphone*
'Hey, um, dictionary guys, I've got a new word to add, yeah, its a-r-i-g-a-t-a...'
*30 minutes later, waitress approaches table*
*hangs up phone*
The waitress speaks: 'I'm very sorry gentlemen, but the restaurant has now closed'
'oh dang, took a bit longer than I though, but hey, it's all sorted buddy, you're new word is now officially in the dictionary!'
*stomach grumbles*
'Um, thanks, yeah, that's great...'

Anyway, back to the Topic, have you thought about playing the 'too little time' card? just say you don't have the time to dedicate a particular time amount on a particular day to play it because you need to get other important stuff done, and you don't want him to waste money on a subscription you won't get your money's worth out of?

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 Atma01 wrote:

And that is why you hear people yelling FOR THE EMPEROR rather than FOR LOGICAL AND QUANTIFIABLE BASED DECISIONS FOR THE BETTERMENT OF THE MAJORITY!


Phototoxin wrote:Kids go in , they waste tonnes of money on marnus calgar and his landraider, the slaneshi-like GW revel at this lust and short term profit margin pleasure. Meanwhile father time and cunning lord tzeentch whisper 'our games are better AND cheaper' and then players leave for mantic and warmahordes.

daveNYC wrote:The Craftworld guys, who are such stick-in-the-muds that they manage to make the Ultramarines look like an Ibiza nightclub that spiked its Red Bull with LSD.
 
   
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Winged Kroot Vulture






You know it is a gift, right? So what if it is crap. It is like getting socks for Christmas. Big deal. Thank the person and move on. If he brings it up at social functions, smile and say 'Yeah, it was really cool. I really liked X. Just never got into it. Thanks again though!'

I would have preferred socks really, seriously...I like socks! I have been polite and have talked about the game and have explained why I am not always online, like he is. Also, it is not x-mas, or my birthday, he is ruining; it is my ability to tolerate him whenever my wife and I are around him.

 Manchu wrote:
OP, I will by you a car on the condition that you drive me wherever I want to go whenever I want to go there and never use it for your own purposes.


This sums it up for me, thanks!

Arigata-meiwaku: An act someone does for you that you didn’t want to have them do and tried to avoid having them do, but they went ahead anyway, determined to do you a favor, and then things went wrong and caused you a lot of trouble, yet in the end social conventions required you to express gratitude

Wow, there really is a word for that?

This message was edited 4 times. Last update was at 2013/02/05 15:58:30


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Decrepit Dakkanaut





UK

The question is do you buy gifts for him ?

If so buy something you can enjoy with him (eg a meal out with your OH & his somewhere your OH enjoys)

or something to wind him up (I'm sure you can find a charity you'd support but he'd not apreciate... and turning down a charity gify always makes folk look bad)

on the other hand if you don't buy him gifts why are you complaining

 
   
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 OrlandotheTechnicoloured wrote:
The question is do you buy gifts for him ?

If so buy something you can enjoy with him (eg a meal out with your OH & his somewhere your OH enjoys)

or something to wind him up (I'm sure you can find a charity you'd support but he'd not apreciate... and turning down a charity gify always makes folk look bad)

on the other hand if you don't buy him gifts why are you complaining


Yes, we have bought him gifts before and never with strings attatched.

Personally, I let my wife pick them out and it is always with the intentions of giving a gift, that's it.

Even if I didn't buy him a gift for his birthday, there is an ettiquette to giving gifts. When you buy someone a gift, you don't do it with an ulterior motive meant to manipulate them into doing something for you; that's not a gift, that's a favor. His actions have definately made it clear this was not a gift for me, but him buying an MMO friend for two months.

This message was edited 1 time. Last update was at 2013/02/05 21:52:29


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