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Thanks everyone for your advice. Maybe I'll split my army and play a small game with her to see if she is even interested. I guess there is not a lot of women on dakka. I was kind of interested to see wich army women pick the most.

Eldar for me, it was aesthetics.

 notprop wrote:

Zwan1One wrote:
My fiancé is super competitive. I won't play monopoly with her anymore. But I know she would get hooked onto 40k or similar if she played a few games. But may prefer more co-op war games/board games.

I'm blackmailing her into playing space hulk by paying for half her wedding dress.

So she's getting you to pay for the dress for the party that gives her the rest of your money?

I wouldn't get her into wargaming it sounds like she has you has you hands down beaten already, perhaps you might want to keep wargaming a as your own little getaway.

Well, she is pushy and he *is* whipped, but I don't think that's quite the phrase you're looking for there Raj.

My gamer wifey says that the key is to make it fun. We started playing when she was on bedrest and laid up at home with our first child. The sentimental association as well as my superior skill at making explosion noises and terrible accents keeps her playing every once in a while. If you want to game with your spouse you have to make it about spending time together, work on minis together, learn rules together, and yes... forge a narrative for the game together. It doesn't hurt that my oldest boy plays with us now and they have developed a heated rivalry... it's well known in my house that Dad (me) always loses so they consider their games to be the "real" ones...

 artofwaaagh wrote:
Thanks everyone for your advice. Maybe I'll split my army and play a small game with her to see if she is even interested. I guess there is not a lot of women on dakka. I was kind of interested to see wich army women pick the most.

I have talked to my wife about 40k and she asked if there were any armies that are not all men or heavily sexualized. I told her about SoB and their backstory, then she asked if they were any good; I personally can't comment on their quality so I couldn't answer her.

My wife likes narritive, she played Vampire and Changeling for many years so she is used to a story in her gaming. That might also help you in peaking her interest, tell her she can make up the background of her army.

 ProtoClone wrote:

 artofwaaagh wrote:
Thanks everyone for your advice. Maybe I'll split my army and play a small game with her to see if she is even interested. I guess there is not a lot of women on dakka. I was kind of interested to see wich army women pick the most.

I have talked to my wife about 40k and she asked if there were any armies that are not all men or heavily sexualized. I told her about SoB and their backstory, then she asked if they were any good; I personally can't comment on their quality so I couldn't answer her.

My wife likes narritive, she played Vampire and Changeling for many years so she is used to a story in her gaming. That might also help you in peaking her interest, tell her she can make up the background of her army.

What about the Eldar? They aren't all men pumped up with Testosterone... And I don't really think they're heavily sexualized...

This is true about the Eldar, except there is a whopping 2 female minis in the entire line. Both in the box of 10 Guardians.

As for Sisters of Battle, they used to be fantastic. I have not seem them played or gotten to try them under the new "not a codex" they have.

Majority seems to think it is awful and not worth trying.

The Dark Eldar is pretty much the only army that has a lot of female minis mixed in, and perhaps this is why it is more popular.

Then you could take in to account an all Slaanesh Daemon army, if you consider Daemonettes to be women, even though daemons.

Do it man. My girlfrinds paints with me all the time. I just bought her her own chaos army.

 The Masked One wrote:

 ProtoClone wrote:

 artofwaaagh wrote:
Thanks everyone for your advice. Maybe I'll split my army and play a small game with her to see if she is even interested. I guess there is not a lot of women on dakka. I was kind of interested to see wich army women pick the most.

I have talked to my wife about 40k and she asked if there were any armies that are not all men or heavily sexualized. I told her about SoB and their backstory, then she asked if they were any good; I personally can't comment on their quality so I couldn't answer her.

My wife likes narritive, she played Vampire and Changeling for many years so she is used to a story in her gaming. That might also help you in peaking her interest, tell her she can make up the background of her army.

What about the Eldar? They aren't all men pumped up with Testosterone... And I don't really think they're heavily sexualized...

She wanted to know if there was an all female army and I told her SoB were probably the closest to that.

Also, DE told her about them and she definately did not sound interested in them.

 BladeWalker wrote:
My gamer wifey says that the key is to make it fun. We started playing when she was on bedrest and laid up at home with our first child. The sentimental association as well as my superior skill at making explosion noises and terrible accents keeps her playing every once in a while. If you want to game with your spouse you have to make it about spending time together, work on minis together, learn rules together, and yes... forge a narrative for the game together. It doesn't hurt that my oldest boy plays with us now and they have developed a heated rivalry... it's well known in my house that Dad (me) always loses so they consider their games to be the "real" ones...

This is true wisdom.

Female IG army made mostly with 3rd party minis? There are all-female regiments in the fluff, IIRC.

 Shadowseer_Kim wrote:
This is true about the Eldar, except there is a whopping 2 female minis in the entire line. Both in the box of 10 Guardians.

As for Sisters of Battle, they used to be fantastic. I have not seem them played or gotten to try them under the new "not a codex" they have.

Majority seems to think it is awful and not worth trying.

The Dark Eldar is pretty much the only army that has a lot of female minis mixed in, and perhaps this is why it is more popular.

Then you could take in to account an all Slaanesh Daemon army, if you consider Daemonettes to be women, even though daemons.

So, what happened to the all female squad of Banshees?

Talked to my wife and she said this...

"It depends on who I play with but it has to be fun, and worth my time and money."

Oh yea the Banshees, I have never used them, so completely forgot about them. oh yea and there are female Harlequins. duh.

I left my brain somewhere.

 Peregrine wrote:
Because all women think the same you should just give her a pink army.

I was just thinking the same thing.

No, no, 40k is just for your friends and not for your wife. Seriously, that's my opinion.

The closest I got to getting my fiancee involved was when I was getting back into 40k. We walked into GW, and I asked what army I should start. She pointed at the Tyranids in the display cabinet and said 'them, they're cute'.

Worked out well, as I was planning on picking up Tyranids anyway.

She showed interest in Infinity a little, but then promptly lost interest.

Well, not my wife, but my mom - so my dad's wife - plays Orks currently. She used to play Space Marines until 6e came out and I wanted to ally my Space Marines with my Sisters of Battle. We both use my models to play, so it would've been tough to tell which Space Marines were on which side, particularly because I have a dislike for painting.

She likes Orks because they're very straightforward. They don't require meticulous planning, just send the choppies at the enemy and blast away with the shooties. Her memory isn't so good, and a quick game for us usually takes a few gaming sessions over a few days to a week, so having to remember an intricate strategy isn't really gonna work for her.

I often have to fight very hard to eke out a draw. And I'm pretty sure one of those hard-fought draws was actually a win for her, due to the steps of a crucial close combat at the end of the game being done wrongly - specifically, Celestine charged a mob of Ork Boyz that were strung out between two objectives, and we moved the models in like a pile-in move before resolving overwatch, and Celestine took a Slugga round to the head.

My memory's pretty weird though, so I might be remembering what was wrong with what was done in that close combat wrong. It's like my memories are influenced by my imagination when I'm trying to remember things.

This kind of thread gets posted with some regularity. This is a summary of whats been said:

1: Don't force her into playing,
2: Start her on a less complex game: Like X-wing
3: Even if she's not interested in playing, Maybe she'd be interested in modeling and painting
4: If she has no interest, don't nag her about it and accept this is your "Me Time"

Ralis wrote:
This kind of thread gets posted with some regularity. This is a summary of whats been said:

1: Don't force her into playing,
2: Start her on a less complex game: Like X-wing
3: Even if she's not interested in playing, Maybe she'd be interested in modeling and painting
4: If she has no interest, don't nag her about it and accept this is your "Me Time"

5. Don't expect her to suddenly change her mind because you show her Sisters of Battle or threw a game in her favor or anything else. Would you expect me to suddenly take up my girlfriend's hobby of local theater because she showed me there was a play about space elves?

6......use the line if you loved me you'd do it?