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Just curious what the females think. If I wanted to try to convince my wife to get into the game what army should i try to introduce her to. How do I even introduce the game and try to convince to play with me. I need some women's perspective on this matter.

Because all women think the same you should just give her a pink army.

My wife isn't a gamer, isn't interested in gaming, and would not play if I gave her an army.

It's enough for me that she supports me in my hobbying and has a separate one for herself. Even married couples need "me" time.

Besides, there are other, better games that partners can play than wargames.

 chromedog wrote:
My wife isn't a gamer, isn't interested in gaming, and would not play if I gave her an army.

It's enough for me that she supports me in my hobbying and has a separate one for herself. Even married couples need "me" time.

Besides, there are other, better games that partners can play than wargames.

Is that what you and your wife tell the kids? Playing games?

 artofwaaagh wrote:
Just curious what the females think. If I wanted to try to convince my wife to get into the game what army should i try to introduce her to. How do I even introduce the game and try to convince to play with me. I need some women's perspective on this matter.

I let sweety pick out the game, the army, and help her to paint/assemble if need be. Then learn on a very low count list. 250 points combat patrol. Let her learn the system. LET HER WIN a few games by not playing the OMEGA MURDER BLAST tournament lists. I think that is the all time killer when people want newbies to play and you choose the ALPHA STRIKE from HELL and obliterate them from the board.

Let them win. Let them learn and help them through all of this. Sweety is getting good at 250 points so sooner or later it will go to 400 points and so on.

Or perhaps your GF/wife likes to paint only. Let her just paint then. This helps the hobby at a whole

Never force them to game/paint, otherwise you will lose them.... forever.

Remember Sweety and I are (gasp) old people, but we are young at heart. Kind of funny. We still play with toys.

-Adam

Okay, I'm going to chirp in despite possessing a manly package. I've played a handful of miniatures games with my wife over the years. I've found that she enjoys the ones with relatively simple rules, and where she can have all of the stats for something on front of her. We had fun playing D&D minis for awhile, and we've been playing a little of the new X-Wing game (which is a bit silly since neither one of us is a huge Star Wars fan.) Games like 40k have relatively complicated rules and require looking in 3 or 4 different places to know what a given unit can do; and she's just plain not interested in dealing with that.

Really? Just let her look through some of the miniatures and see if anything catches her eye. Alternately just ask her to give a small game a try to see if she enjoys it and see how she responds to it. If it takes more work to convince her to play than simply letting her know that you'd really appreciate it if she gave it a try, then you're probably better off letting the issue go. Then again, she's your wife. You know her better than random people on the internet. I can only speak for how I've learned to treat my own.

 LumenPraebeo wrote:


Is that what you and your wife tell the kids? Playing games?

No kids. No interest in having them and no capability to have them (and adoption is out because the local mobs are church run and we don't fit their profile as 'parents'.).

No need for privacy locks on the bedroom door, either as a result.

Realistically, if she was interested, she'd already be playing. Since the chances are low that you guys met & got married yesterday, she's seen enough or has heard enough that if she had wanted to, she would have come to you about it by now.

However, on the off chance she hasn't, simply ask her if she's interested. If she is, THEN you guys can contemplate & consider armies. If not, then drop it.

~Vryce

Start with board games, to get her "into it".

Has she ever expressed any interest at all? Has she seen the wall of 40k models at the local game store and said "those guys look cool" or anything remotely similiar?

If yes, then proceed to start small with whatever she showed interest in.

Then again, board game and card games are easier to get into.

 Shadowseer_Kim wrote:
Has she ever expressed any interest at all? Has she seen the wall of 40k models at the local game store and said "those guys look cool" or anything remotely similiar?

If yes, then proceed to start small with whatever she showed interest in.

Then again, board game and card games are easier to get into.

Good point! +1 to you

My girlfriend is a reader. I gave her a couple of the 40k books to read to see if it peaks her interest. If it does, I may start to try and get her to play the game. Though to be fair, my girlfriend spends her free time making cosplays, playing World of Warcraft, and watching science fiction movies. So she's not exactly run of the mill.

My missus has bugger all interest in the miniatures hobby. She appreciates the time involved and the fact that it keeps me from spending my spare cash on other, less salubrious, hobbies. But she has zero interest in the background, rules or anything else involved.

And believe me, I don't push it

The simplest way for you to get your wife into the hobby is......... duct tape, knife, windowless van and the promise of a puppy and candy.

..er... wait. I think that's how you get a girlfriend. oops. Nevermind.

Like others have said, if she is interested, she will come to you about it.

If not, never mind.

My wife has not the least bit of interest in the hobby and that is fine with me. Everybody needs something for themselves that gives them some me time.

She doesn't have a problem with me doing it or spending money on it as long as there isn't something else which we need the money for, which is fair enough. It's just not for her.

Hehe - I tried the trick of showing my girlfriend SoB images in order to intice her to start playing 40k. I mean surly an amry made of 'girls' that kicks butt (relative speaking of course) would stir the femNazi inside her to play and kick male buts.

However, after looking at them she just repled that they looked like angry lesbians.

She apreciates the time and painting skills going into the hobby, but other than that, she is just not interested.

If she wants to play badly enough she will eventually go to you. Trying to force the game on her or trying to "lure" her into it is liable to backfire.

Just show her the army list on the GW website, and when she finds one or two that looks cool, tell her about them, background wise. Just besure to tell her that Dark Eldar are kindda tricky to play well when first learning. Just watch, one of her choices will be Dark Eldar, it always is

Mrs S loves tyranids, she is a fan of the alien films and insects/reptiles, so she was instantly interested in the nids. She really enjoys painting them and I had got her to try and learn the rules, we'd got a couple of 500pt games in when 6th edition hit and I started to explain she needed to relearn some rules... nope, that turned her right off the gaming side, so now she just collects and paints her bug babies and has no interest in gaming... Perhaps I can try again in a year or so, we'll see.

OP, if your lady has any interest in collecting or gaming, let her look over things and choose for herself what aesthetic she likes, if not, don't force it, you'll make her resent the games and then it'll become an issue.

Wife went Dark Eldar .........

I found most women got into Infinity more easily than 40K. It's a good gateway drug to minis wargaming.

Boardgames/cardgames are also a solid start. Chaos in the Old World is probably the best with a GW theme.

Space Hulk (any edition) is also brill of course, and fairly accessible.

Yeah, I hear a lot(if there are any) girls choose Dark Eldar.
Must just be there awesome looks, equality amongst sexes and badassness.
But anyway, ask her what she likes the look of and then just walk to a local hobby store and talk to a worker, it's there job to get people interested in this stuff...That was probably bad advice...

Buy her whatever army you want to get next. That way you can't lose.

I'd start with kill team or something equally small. Maybe just a 500 point game.

Honestly, if she hasn't expressed an interest in playing I wouldn't bother.

But if you want to try I would recommend building two forces out of the one army you already have, if you have that much, and run her through a simple skrimmage.

I taught my wife to play heroclix and she loved it, but expressed absolutely no desire to learn anything more.

 sarpedons-right-hand wrote:
My missus has bugger all interest in the miniatures hobby. She appreciates the time involved and the fact that it keeps me from spending my spare cash on other, less salubrious, hobbies. But she has zero interest in the background, rules or anything else involved.

And believe me, I don't push it

How long have we been seeing the same woman?

My Mrs tolerates (yes that's the right word) gaming so long as it doesn't spread out of the office at home and she can still get to the computer. The alternative is that I would be down the rugby club covered in beer, probably wearing no clothes singing songs about women of questionable morality from Penzance while shouting up another round for the lads.

Wargaming is much cheaper, involves less hangovers and less rowdy people (with some exceptions - they know who they are ).

We are both quite happy with the situation.

My Mrs. started playing after accompanying me to a couple of tournaments and getting bored.

She's a mean tactician and the game appeals to her sense of competition. However she does not paint or model so that means I do. She does however get the veto on anything which usually comes down to aesthetics, for example she has no terminators as she does not like the look of them.

 Darth Bob wrote:
My girlfriend is a reader. I gave her a couple of the 40k books to read to see if it peaks her interest. If it does, I may start to try and get her to play the game. Though to be fair, my girlfriend spends her free time making cosplays, playing World of Warcraft, and watching science fiction movies. So she's not exactly run of the mill.

My gf is also a reader and this is how I got her to be "sorta" interested in it. My gf is into fan fiction a lot and writes some buffy fan fiction she also edits star wars fan fiction for a really well known writer. I also got my daughter into its, she is ten and is now painting pink orks.

My fiancé is super competitive. I won't play monopoly with her anymore. But I know she would get hooked onto 40k or similar if she played a few games. But may prefer more co-op war games/board games.

I'm blackmailing her into playing space hulk by paying for half her wedding dress.

Well my gf got into it after I took her to a local hobby store a couple of times. She started playing at the end of the 5th edition. 6th edition kinda sucked so we both kinda stopped around there. She still paints and models her Dark Eldar, though.

Zwan1One wrote:
My fiancé is super competitive. I won't play monopoly with her anymore. But I know she would get hooked onto 40k or similar if she played a few games. But may prefer more co-op war games/board games.

I'm blackmailing her into playing space hulk by paying for half her wedding dress.

So she's getting you to pay for the dress for the party that gives her the rest of your money?

I wouldn't get her into wargaming it sounds like she has you has you hands down beaten already, perhaps you might want to keep wargaming a as your own little getaway.