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Not proud of it, but I've done this. As a teenager, I met a couple, recognized that she had a passing interest in me. Over the next period of time, I focused my efforts on both approaching her and making him look bad. I succeeded, but like I said, it was kind of a dirty thing to do. In a fitting twist of karma, she left me for one of my friends. (And then left him for one of his friends. And then left HIM for one of HIS friends.)

Something that gets left out of a lot of stolen-significant-other dynamics is that you can't ever trust a cheater. If they cheated WITH you, then eventually they'll cheat ON you.

Truer words never spoken, Jim. If they cheat with you, there's about a 99% chance they'll cheat on you after. I've snagged a couple girls while they were in the decision process of leaving their current bfs, cheated on them with me, left them, then cheated on me before leaving. Can't trust girls like that at all.

 Platuan4th wrote:

 Avatar 720 wrote:
Anyone who feels the need to ruin someone else's relationship in order to get with one or both of the people involved in it obviously never cared for that person in the first place.-

FTFY

http://www.colbertnation.com/the-colbert-report-videos/391692/july-12-2011/dan-savage?xrs=share_copy

Skip to 3:55.

 Jimsolo wrote:
Not proud of it, but I've done this. As a teenager, I met a couple, recognized that she had a passing interest in me. Over the next period of time, I focused my efforts on both approaching her and making him look bad. I succeeded, but like I said, it was kind of a dirty thing to do. In a fitting twist of karma, she left me for one of my friends. (And then left him for one of his friends. And then left HIM for one of HIS friends.)

Something that gets left out of a lot of stolen-significant-other dynamics is that you can't ever trust a cheater. If they cheated WITH you, then eventually they'll cheat ON you.

That train left on a regular schedule I got to witness this at my fraternity house on like a weekly basis

Steal their hearts maybe, but actually "steal", love doesnt work that way, an S.O. isnt an object.

unknown poet wrote:Truly, Dost thou not wish that thy beloved was as radiant as I?

 Spacemanvic wrote:
Steal their hearts maybe, but actually "steal", love doesnt work that way, an S.O. isnt an object.

So you mean my plan to grow a handlebar mustache, steal the hero's love interest, and then tie her to railroad tracks while I deliver my evil monologue doesn't count?

meh....

if they can be stolen from you, either you or they must not be that awesome in the first place

this is why sex robots will be the future!

*continues tinkering with steam engine and fleshlight*

cadbren wrote:
I totally agree that if some girlfriend does get "stolen" then she was never "your's", she was only with you until something better came along.

Technically speaking, most people are only with the person they're with until something better comes along. In many instances the 'something better' doesn't mean an actual person but singledom/separation/divorce/etc. People leave situations for better ones. It's usually a healthy thing.

In terms of someone convincing your boyfriend or girlfriend to be with them instead of you... then yes it exists.

I've never had it happen to me though because I treat my significant other with respect/ I know how to pick em right

I think "he stole my girlfriend " isn't related to reality in any way but more so an example of humans inability to blame their ex partner for being at fault in the relationship. If someone leaves you for someone else, clearly it is the person who lefts fault and not the 3rd party.
Blaming the 3rd party is a convenient way of absolving yourself and your ex partner of all blame for relationship breakdown , though i must admit it does help the soul some (and at least you have something to talk about in your "post relationship drunk phase" other than how much you miss her .

Scarlet squig said before that lining someone up before people move out of the old relationship is douchy (or something) , I've always thought that this was modus operandi for about 50% of society (the other 50% being annoying drunks for 6 months before they get their life back together).

If you love something, set it free. If they come back to you it was meant to be. Else, hunt it down and kill it.

- Abraham Lincoln.

 LordofHats wrote:

 Ouze wrote:
If it were possible to steal your significant other, they weren't really yours anyway.

This. In the sense that 'stealing' essentially means cheating yeah. If someone your dating is now off doing things with someone else, they're either not worth your time because their unwilling to commit to the relationship or they no longer have interest in you.

Either way get over it

Man, I don't even like the term "cheating" cause if someone is unsatisfied with their relationship I don't see why they shouldn't be allowed to have intimate relationships with other people. Even in a healthy relationship I don't see what's wrong with getting a bit of side pussy/cock once in while

so long as there are agreed upon rules set in place.

 Cheesecat wrote:
Man, I don't even like the term "cheating" cause if someone is unsatisfied with their relationship I don't see why they shouldn't be allowed to have intimate relationships with other people. Even in a healthy relationship I don't see what's wrong with getting a bit of side pussy/cock once in while

so long as there are agreed upon rules set in place.

If you have rules in place then it isn't cheating, it's just having a non-monogamous relationship. Cheating isn't cheating because it's sex, it's cheating because you're lying to your partner(s) and breaking the rules you agreed on.

OK, that makes more sense.


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 scarletsquig wrote:
Well, the thing is, only a jackass would interfere in someone else's relationship.

This applies both to men looking to get in with a lady who already has a boyfriend and women looking to have "the next one lined up" before leaving their current partner. Or vice versa.

Neither of these types of people deserve any happiness, it's all mean, backstabby behaviour however you look at it.

I don't think most guys/girls who try to hook up with another person who's already in a relationship think of themselves as ruining an existing relationship but instead just really want to be with that person besides if they can pull it off then that person is a better match.

 Cheesecat wrote:
I don't think most guys/girls who try to hook up with another person who's already in a relationship think of themselves as ruining an existing relationship but instead just really want to be with that person besides if they can pull it off then that person is a better match.

Not necessarily - if you've been with someone a while, your relationship can plateau, then when someone else comes along it all seems new and exciting.
Then, when you've changed people around, you could find out that they are less suited to you than the person you were with.

The grass is not always greener when you get to the other side.

I agree with most people in this thread - if someone will cheat with you, they'll cheat on you.

 Frazzled wrote:
If you love something, set it free. If they come back to you it was meant to be. Else, hunt it down and kill it.

- Abraham Lincoln.

That was at Gettysburg II: the Quickening, wasn't it?

If you aren't willing to steal someone elses significant other, you just aren't try hard enough.

 Easy E wrote:
If you aren't willing to steal someone elses significant other, you just aren't enough of a dick.

Fixed that for you.

 kronk wrote:

 Frazzled wrote:
If you love something, set it free. If they come back to you it was meant to be. Else, hunt it down and kill it.

- Abraham Lincoln.

That was at Gettysburg II: the Quickening, wasn't it?

Just after he dealt with all those vampires

 cincydooley wrote:
Hah. Can we add a check box that says, "not if you're an actual adult."

I agree with this.

I've been young, and I know how young love feels. But, trust me on this, once you're in your 30s nobody "steals" girlfriends, even in the most figurative sense. You just end up breaking up with bitter resentment and shouting and hangovers.

 Polonius wrote:

 cincydooley wrote:
Hah. Can we add a check box that says, "not if you're an actual adult."

I agree with this.

I've been young, and I know how young love feels. But, trust me on this, once you're in your 30s nobody "steals" girlfriends, even in the most figurative sense. You just end up breaking up with bitter resentment and shouting and hangovers.

Don't forget assualt charges, restraining orders, and revenge porn!

 kronk wrote:

 Frazzled wrote:
If you love something, set it free. If they come back to you it was meant to be. Else, hunt it down and kill it.

- Abraham Lincoln.

That was at Gettysburg II: the Quickening, wasn't it?

Indeed. Its in the Director's Cut.

 Polonius wrote:

I've been young, and I know how young love feels. But, trust me on this, once you're in your 20s nobody "steals" girlfriends, even in the most figurative sense. You just end up breaking up with bitter resentment and shouting and hangovers.

Corrected. I've been bitter about relationships, but I haven't expressed such bitterness in the words "he stole my girlfriend" since I was about 17. Better to be a mature and responsible adult about it by making a pass at her sister and drinking heavily.

 daedalus wrote:

 Polonius wrote:

I've been young, and I know how young love feels. But, trust me on this, once you're in your 20s nobody "steals" girlfriends, even in the most figurative sense. You just end up breaking up with bitter resentment and shouting and hangovers.

Corrected. I've been bitter about relationships, but I haven't expressed such bitterness in the words "he stole my girlfriend" since I was about 17. Better to be a mature and responsible adult about it by making a pass at her sister and drinking heavily.

I was engaged once, and about a year before we were to get married, my fiance dumped me. She married another guy six months after that. Even then, I don't think he "stole" her. I think she was making a calculated decision to trade up, with quesitonable results.

 Polonius wrote:

 daedalus wrote:

 Polonius wrote:

I've been young, and I know how young love feels. But, trust me on this, once you're in your 20s nobody "steals" girlfriends, even in the most figurative sense. You just end up breaking up with bitter resentment and shouting and hangovers.

Corrected. I've been bitter about relationships, but I haven't expressed such bitterness in the words "he stole my girlfriend" since I was about 17. Better to be a mature and responsible adult about it by making a pass at her sister and drinking heavily.

I was engaged once, and about a year before we were to get married, my fiance dumped me. She married another guy six months after that. Even then, I don't think he "stole" her. I think she was making a calculated decision to trade up, with quesitonable results.

My story is strikingly similar, except it was two weeks before the wedding. She started hanging around with a guy she worked with, all "friends" like. Eventually, I was talking to her mom on the phone and she told me that she doesn't understand what her daughter is doing anymore, she wouldn't talk to her about anything, and that from what she DID know, I should probably call the wedding off for my own sake.

I did, and around all the fallout of that happening, she started seeing him. Not sure what state she's in now, years later.

Bottom line is that he didn't "steal" her. She was just a crazy nutter. Of course, now I get the cheery meme, "daedalus Breaks Women" paraded around by my friends, but such is life.

Monogamy is a joke. I have a house full of bitchiz. All of them are in relationships/marriages

 fishy bob wrote:
Monogamy is a joke. I have a house full of bitchiz. All of them are in relationships/marriages

"A man's wife is his life, mr UPS man".

 fishy bob wrote:
Monogamy is a joke. I have a house full of bitchiz. All of them are in relationships/marriages

What are you...twelve? My kids have underwear older than you.

 Frazzled wrote:

 fishy bob wrote:
Monogamy is a joke. I have a house full of bitchiz. All of them are in relationships/marriages

What are you...twelve? My kids have underwear older than you.

I was kind of thinking that all of the talk lately of GES had reawakened his spirit in the form of fishy bob.