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The question is pretty straightforward, but its probably bound to have some entertaining awnsers: How has wargaming affected your "Love Life", whether they are simple romantic relationships or marriage, have they affected it in a positive or negative way, or have they not affected them at all?

Personally, they ahve actually been a bit of a positive in my current relationship. My girlfriend finds the fact I am into Warhammer 40k kindof cute, although she doesn't want me to tell her anything about it lest I bore her to death

So what about you, dakka? How has wargaming affected your relationships?

EDIT: Hm, upon a second check, this probably needs to be moved to Dakka Discussions...

I was introduced to this universe via my girlfriend.

It took off from there, and, to say the least, I don't belong here or at my local GW at all. Completely different lives from the people there, I cannot relate.

So, I basically just play with her and talk to her about it..keeps her happy, so I share this account with her.

It has succeeded in preventing me from getting any nasty viruses or worrying about getting a lady pregnant.

How inappropriate of the OP. My love life is as good as it's always been for 3 years, I'm getting married in october.

Slarg232 wrote:It has succeeded in preventing me from getting any nasty viruses or worrying about getting a lady pregnant.

Pretty much this, I'm sad to say. Well - I'm glad I don't have any nasty viruses or unexpected children, but being a nerd has basically put a damper on the love life.

(Not that I'm saying that nerds can't find true love. I know several friends who have, or thought they did. I, personally, however, have not.)

Locclo wrote:

Slarg232 wrote:It has succeeded in preventing me from getting any nasty viruses or worrying about getting a lady pregnant.

Pretty much this, I'm sad to say. Well - I'm glad I don't have any nasty viruses or unexpected children, but being a nerd has basically put a damper on the love life.

(Not that I'm saying that nerds can't find true love. I know several friends who have, or thought they did. I, personally, however, have not.)

What is this "love life", "romance" and these "relationships" of which you speak?

Somehow my lack of experience in the relationships department doesn't surprise me, but I highly doubt it's because of the wargaming; something's telling me that if someone is crazy enough to like me, the whole wargaming thing won't be likely to sway their decision.

I've found war-gaming or many of my nerdy hobbies have little affect on my relationships whether they're romantic, professional, friendship, antagonistic, sexual, etc. What I find effects relationships the most is my

ability to relate with the person, sensing non-verbal cues and being a good conversationalist. That being said I haven't really experienced a true romantic/sexual relationship, but I've had several frustratingly

unsuccessful attempts at it.

It hasn't, but then again I didn't even know what "wargaming" was until I was almost thirty...by then I'd been married twice...
Basically I grew up a " Normal" punk rock guy, playing in " Normal" Punk rock bands and " interacting" with "Normal" Punk Rock girls...

Not affected at all.

My wargaming covers only a small part of my interests, its like background noise. It helps that my wife is a bit of a sci fi geek.

Coming to think of it the majority of girls/women I have been out with havent been bothered by my toy soldiers.

I don't think women really give a flying fig unless the first thing you say to her is 'I Like the warhamms' pew, pew, deal with it succubus!BEWBS!' or force her to see the lavish attention you have paid to your kingdom death sculpts.

Your hobby does not affect your love life. Your personality does. With the possible exceptions of the whole "the dollies go or I do" scenario, I cannot see how playing a miniature was game will de-facto prevent you from interacting with other human beings. Cause and effect is all mixed around on this one.

FITZZ wrote: It hasn't, but then again I didn't even know what "wargaming" was until I was almost thirty...by then I'd been married twice...
Basically I grew up a " Normal" punk rock guy, playing in " Normal" Punk rock bands and " interacting" with "Normal" Punk Rock girls...

I'm pretty sure that you're using the word "Normal" in a manner different than it's intended meaning. Miles away in fact.

In response to the OP: in no way at all. Most women don't care if you're a gamer, they look for things like confidence, compassion, a sense of humor and intelligence. Fortunately, I found an outlier.

Biccat:

Never had any effect bar making it easy for girls to buy me birthday presents.

Women have always adored me, my hobbies have little bearing on this, and I am forced to beat them back with a flaming branch whenever i venture into a public place.

Well.. Except Games Workshop obviously.

I'm a confessed closet geek, (confessed only to my wife and a friend) Very few people know I have thousands of dollars in minis/comics/anime. So, it hasn't been an issue once.

When it came to my wife finding out, I didn't talk about it much when we started dating. When we moved in together it just slowing started to show itself. We've been married 5 years, and dated for 5 before that.

I've always treated it like any other hobby, though my wife is not fan. She doesn't dislike it because it's nerdy, She dislikes it because she can't understand the cost.

Luckily for me, I have my striking good looks, charming personality, and rapier sharp wit going for me.

The few dozen supermodels I have dated have all thought it was really cool and even directly offered extra sex after being very impressed by my painting skills and well-groomed neckbeard.

Well, I got back into 40K back in september, and my girlfriend of six years left me at the end of May....She was ok with my nerdy-ness before, but I'm pretty sure my Tau addiction was the last straw (despite the fact she denies that 40K had nothing to do with it) haha.

But now I'm seeing a girl who's really getting into 40K; she actually watched a 4500 point Apoc game a couple weeks ago! Plus, I think she's more excited for the Space Marine game than I am

So, it (could've been) the final nail in the coffin on one relationship, and a fun past time in another relationship

They usually don't care. One of them rolled her eyes and said, "oh no, what have I gotten in to," but that was mostly in jest.

Another one, who was a friend I was trying to "get with", saw the nerd closet and exclaimed, "My god, Brad, what have you done?" That was the end of that one, but it was a rare case.

I got my other half into collecting Skaven.

In fact, she seems to hate my video games more than my other geeky activities.

Wargaming Girls.

1. Hot
2. Mentally Stable
3. Single

Choose two.

Two?

Where is this Shangri-La that you live in?

Sasori wrote:Wargaming Girls.

1. Hot
2. Mentally Stable
3. Single

Choose two.

Truer words have never been spoken.

Sasori, i think your talking about all girls, you can pick one for wargamers

Considering what I wore to my wedding instead of a tux I'd say wargaming has done little to effect my "love life':

mega_bassist wrote:

Sasori wrote:Wargaming Girls.

1. Hot
2. Mentally Stable
3. Single

Choose two.

Truer words have never been spoken.

Ummm dude that applies to most women. Except my wife of course.

ChainswordHeretic wrote:

mega_bassist wrote:

Sasori wrote:Wargaming Girls.

1. Hot
2. Mentally Stable
3. Single

Choose two.

Truer words have never been spoken.

Ummm dude that applies to most women. Except my wife of course.

Your wife is single?

biccat wrote:

ChainswordHeretic wrote:

mega_bassist wrote:

Sasori wrote:Wargaming Girls.

1. Hot
2. Mentally Stable
3. Single

Choose two.

Truer words have never been spoken.

Ummm dude that applies to most women. Except my wife of course.

Your wife is single?

Technically, he didn't say she had all three qualities, just that she didn't have two. She could have one or none after all.

biccat wrote: they look for things like confidence, compassion, a sense of humor and intelligence.

That's only partially true while those qualities help, if she's not attracted to you in the first place all the humour and confidence in the world isn't going to magically make the relationship kick start into a romantic/sexual

one.

Cheesecat wrote:

biccat wrote: they look for things like confidence, compassion, a sense of humor and intelligence.

That's only partially true while those qualities help, if she's not attracted to you in the first place all the humour and confidence in the world isn't going to magically make the relationship kick start into a romantic/sexual

one.

This is one thousand times true. For us unfortunate few, all we can really do is wear masks, stalk them, and play organs in hidden rooms inside opera halls.