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Moving to a new school at the start of 2012 and I need some advice on how to make friends with my new classmates.
They obviously already have formed tight nit social groups. I need some advice or else I will officially be a loner

Just be yourself really. Either they'll like you or not, no real two ways about it and if you pretend eventually they'll figure it out.

Don't try to force yourself into a group either, you'll likely be able to make friends in some classes and it'll go from there.

Why the need to impress against a establish order? Make them come to you since your cooler Let them come to you. No need to build anything...just don't show off your mini's off the bat during school lunch or something.

Dont immediately fall in with the crowd that looks like it may collect Warhams. Spend a week or 2 searching out the cool kids... and not "oh look at me im so awesomely cool" kids, search for the group who are just innately, those that have no need to try. Then once your in with the cool guys you can meander your way over to the Warhammer group and still keep up the pretence of being awesome.

Or you could just do what Not_u said and be yourself. Thats usually the best way to go about things.

guyperson5 wrote:Moving to a new school at the start of 2012 and I need some advice on how to make friends with my new classmates.
They obviously already have formed tight nit social groups. I need some advice or else I will officially be a loner

Go up to the biggest kid and shank him in the bathroom.

Oh wait, did you say school or prison?

Oh wait, is there a difference?

Yes, prisons have guards.

n0t_u wrote:Yes, prisons have guards.

My kid's schools have police as well. I know, the school needed them to throw the Wife's ex-husband out one time.

Be polite, be professional; have a plan to kill everyone you meet.
Wait I think that's for a different situation.

Find the biggest guy in the yard and beat him until he bleeds chocolate milk from his eyeballs.
Oops you said school

Bring your pogs and slammers, meet behind the cafeteria to win friends and educations black-market currency.



Be yourself if you try anything else the friends you make won't be right for yo anyways.

AustonT wrote:Be polite, be professional; have a plan to kill everyone you meet.
Wait I think that's for a different situation.

Find the biggest guy in the yard and beat him until he bleeds chocolate milk from his eyeballs.
Oops you said school

Bring your pogs and slammers, meet behind the cafeteria to win friends and educations black-market currency.



Be yourself if you try anything else the friends you make won't be right for yo anyways.

Be yourself. If that doesn't work be someone else.

Nonono. Be yourself. If that does work KILL someone else and become them.

Ignore these people, be you. Failing that be me, because you'll be at uni, and not have to worry about the school kids!

In all seriousness, just intrduce yourself to a couple of people you meet, be yourself, and it'll sort itself out from there! Don't worry about it, you won't be the only person like yourself there.

AustonT wrote:Nonono. Be yourself. If that does work KILL someone else and become them.

Well, yea.. WEaring their skin in public is probably not a good idea though.

Find the biggest, meanest kid in school and kill him in order to establish your dominance.

Coolyo294 wrote:Find the biggest, meanest kid in school and kill him in order to establish your dominance.

Yeah. It's usually shank or be shanked in prison. You gotta show them that you're the dog that can lift his leg the highest.

It worries me that almost everyone in this tread has either suggested shanking/killing people or has agreed with someone who did.

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Snrub wrote:It worries me that almost everyone in this tread has either suggested shanking/killing people or has agreed with someone who did.

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I worry that you're worried about this. Obviously you didn't go to the same schools as everyone else. Trust me, I've seen less blood in emergency rooms than I have in schools.

In all seriousness (and in response to the OP), just spend a bit of time watching people and puzzling out who you think would be fun to hang out with, and then try approaching that person/ group of people. Ask to eat lunch with them or something like that. And if all else fails, you might get lucky and there'll be a kid at the school who is something similar to how I acted in school who will approach you and ask what your deal is. Answer correctly, and you just might score a friend that way. Or (as earlier posts indicate) you'll get shanked.

Find the prettiest girl in school, and spend as much time as possible staring at her and licking your lips. Wear a black trench coat. No one will have the balls to mess with you. If they do, take unbelievably over the top revenge on the first one. Ride that for 40-50 years, and cash in your chips when your liver fails you. I recommend walking out into a snowstorm; relatively painless and you'll freak someone out come spring.

It's easy, just go up to someone.....doesn't matter who....and say...........................
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Hi, my name is ____

grayshadow87 wrote:

Snrub wrote:It worries me that almost everyone in this tread has either suggested shanking/killing people or has agreed with someone who did.

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I worry that you're worried about this. Obviously you didn't go to the same schools as everyone else. Trust me, I've seen less blood in emergency rooms than I have in schools.

In all seriousness (and in response to the OP), just spend a bit of time watching people and puzzling out who you think would be fun to hang out with, and then try approaching that person/ group of people. Ask to eat lunch with them or something like that. And if all else fails, you might get lucky and there'll be a kid at the school who is something similar to how I acted in school who will approach you and ask what your deal is. Answer correctly, and you just might score a friend that way. Or (as earlier posts indicate) you'll get shanked.

No you see in Australia we have good schools.

Jokes aside I have heard some fairly horrific things about American schools, you know... Not counting Columbine and Virginia Tech. I read that some schools have metal detectors and xray machines. I suspect that this would only be the worst of the worst, but is it true?

Depends. Which city? Inner city school?

Take it from me. When I was twelve I moved from Canada, to New Zealand. It was a whole new transition for me. The people and culture were totally different, the the general behavior of people was different. The way I tried to make friends was totally the wrong way, I have plenty now, but I think I did it wrong and it would have saved me a lot of pain and a series of stand-downs and suspensions.

What I tried to do was build a rep for myself through this thing called "respect" (remember I was 12 at the time). And the way I did this was if any other kid tried to push me around or picked on me. without any thought, I smacked him straight in the face and tried to go for his buddies straight after that (now, I'm not tooting my own horn, saying I'm tough or anything... I assure you I'm not) within my first few weeks of "college" (High school to North Americans) I was already in like 7 fights and had like 3 stand downs. The other kids new I would not take any type of gak from them and they "respected" me for that. Which over time I new was a bunch of bull-crap.

What I tried to do was take on the tough guy look and act like I was some sort of champion fighter. But I wasn't. I think I've lost all my fights cept maybe two. And I've bin in quite a few. Lol I've started to go on

Anyways my point is this. If people/you try to act like something your not. you'll just end up looking like a dick and in my case. Looking like a dick aaaand getting in heaps of gak.

I now hang out with everyone in my year group cept the drop kicks who ended up dropping out and now work at McDonalds, or about to get fired from McDonalds. The funny thing is though. everyone I know loves hanging out with me, but I get the most gak and now am considered the bitch of the group... wasted my time didn't I!

grayshadow87 wrote:

Snrub wrote:It worries me that almost everyone in this tread has either suggested shanking/killing people or has agreed with someone who did.

...........

I worry that you're worried about this. Obviously you didn't go to the same schools as everyone else. Trust me, I've seen less blood in emergency rooms than I have in schools.

In all seriousness (and in response to the OP), just spend a bit of time watching people and puzzling out who you think would be fun to hang out with, and then try approaching that person/ group of people. Ask to eat lunch with them or something like that. And if all else fails, you might get lucky and there'll be a kid at the school who is something similar to how I acted in school who will approach you and ask what your deal is. Answer correctly, and you just might score a friend that way. Or (as earlier posts indicate) you'll get shanked.

God made Arrakis er High School to train the Fathful!


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Snrub wrote:

grayshadow87 wrote:

Snrub wrote:It worries me that almost everyone in this tread has either suggested shanking/killing people or has agreed with someone who did.

...........

I worry that you're worried about this. Obviously you didn't go to the same schools as everyone else. Trust me, I've seen less blood in emergency rooms than I have in schools.

In all seriousness (and in response to the OP), just spend a bit of time watching people and puzzling out who you think would be fun to hang out with, and then try approaching that person/ group of people. Ask to eat lunch with them or something like that. And if all else fails, you might get lucky and there'll be a kid at the school who is something similar to how I acted in school who will approach you and ask what your deal is. Answer correctly, and you just might score a friend that way. Or (as earlier posts indicate) you'll get shanked.

No you see in Australia we have good schools.

Jokes aside I have heard some fairly horrific things about American schools, you know... Not counting Columbine and Virginia Tech. I read that some schools have metal detectors and xray machines. I suspect that this would only be the worst of the worst, but is it true?

Of course its true. Its defense in depth. The metal detectors are right past the guards with Black German Shepherds, which are, in turn, inside the concertina wire. Its all very safe, except for the occasional drive by from a neighboring school (ah good times there, but I digress). The secret is not to sit by the windows and you'll be fine. Mostly.

Just do what you do. High school is bs anyway. In a couple of years you'll look back and wonder what all the fuss was about.

Best advice I can give is just do what I did in highschool. Everything.

Devote time working out to be good in sports. Jocks will in the very least respect that much.

If someone wants to talk trash, make them eat their teeth. Do it quickly and suddenly, but stay calm and don't get carried away.

Just be friends with everyone. No matter how odd or stupid they appear to be, EVERYONE has a use at one point or another.

If you start picking on someone, realize that it's bad and you should feel bad, and apologize to them in public.

that about sums my tips up.

You want to be popular in a new school? I've got two words for you: Put out.


Wait... are you a guy? Sorry, then that won't work.

High school may feel like an eternity and the sum of the whole universe while you are there. Once you are out, you will realize that it is quite transitory and petty.

Here's what I wish I had understood back then.

First and foremost: Grades. You're there for an education to enable you to get into a decent college (hopefully with a scholarship) and therefore a decent job. If you are averaging C's, you're not trying hard enough. Yes, I KNOW it is boring listening to the teacher repeat someting umpteen times to the other idiots in class who just don't get it. If you tune out (as I did) you risk missing when the teacher gets to something new, and now YOU are the one falling behind.

Likewise, homework is important. Not so much for itself, mind you. It's almost always some sort of busywork to demonstrate that you did, indeed, get it in class. What it teaches you is discipline and patience. This discipline and patience are what is really important, because you are going to get more of the same in college, and once you get to really start working the tedium really begins. It'll make you nostalgic for the days back in class listening to the teacher drone on. But you're going to have to deal with it, because that is the nature of work in the first place. Even soldiers - who would seem to have an exciting job - spend most of their time doing boring, routine training and boring routine maintenance. If you can't deal with it in high school and college, you'll get to deal with far worse tedium working in a McJob somewhere, for crap pay to boot.

Good grades may not equal good pay... but it does stack the odds in your favor.

Next up: Socialization. This does not necessarily mean being popular. It means meeting people and learing how to deal with them. Once you start working, you are going to have to deal with people at your job. If you don't know how, your career is going to stall at entry level no matter how brilliant you may be; no matter how well you did in college. If you cannot talk to people and deal with them as they are, you will accomplish nothing.

So... how do you do this? It's very simple, which is not at all the same thing as easy. (Believe me, I know, I suffer from mild social anxieties even now; I was much worse then.) You talk to people. Walk up, smile, look them in the eye, say something like 'Hi, I'm ______' and see what happens. If they give you crap, they are the ones with the problem, not you. You are trying to be sociable; They are being antisocial.

And don't sweat it if you don't make friends right away, or at all. I only had three real friends in high school. Looking back, two of them were tools pretending to be my friends. The other... well, I haven't seen him since graduation.

This goes double for 'relationships.' The odds of a sucessful marriage begining in high school are literally astronomical. On the off-chance a high-school couple lasts long enough to marry, it almost always ends in divorce very quickly. So, since you're incredibly unlikely to have a permanent relationship out of high school, don't sweat relationships - or the lack thereof - too much.

Yes, I know how it feels when you get that first love. I know just how special it is. You are pretty much required to screw that one up, so that you can properly appreciate the ones that follow.

This isn't to say that you shouldn't try to date; this is a required part of your socialization. If you can't talk to girls coming out of college, you are going to be in real trouble the first time you have to work with one. Besides, as I said, you pretty much have to screw up your first relationship, as much out of ignorance as anything else. So, since high school is for learning, it's time to learn about that as well. Best to do it now because, as I mentioned, the odds are that once high school is over you'll never see any of them again. Get it over with so the failure doesn't follow you; people are expected to screw up relationships in high school. Once you are an adult you are expected to know better.

How to get a date? The same way you meet people. Walk right up with a smile, look her in the eye, "Hi, I'm _____. Want to go (catch a movie/get something to eat after school/something along those lines)?"

Yes, it's really that simple. Yes, I know your heart is going to be pounding through your ribcage when you do it the first time. Guess what? She can't tell that from looking. On fact, the odds are the first time someone asks her out, she's going to be just as nervous as you are. And that's the thing to remember: Girls get nervous too! Come across as confident, and take 'no' gracefully when it comes.

What's the worst that can happen? She gives you crap for four years and then you never see her them again? Believe me, once you get through college it simply won't matter anymore.

But if you never ask, you'll never hear her say 'Yes!' either.

Asking about this in the OT forum is like dangelig a naked butt in jail, but back on topic. Dont worry about fitting in, you will find you place in due time

Vulcan wrote:High school may feel like an eternity and the sum of the whole universe while you are there. Once you are out, you will realize that it is quite transitory and petty.

Here's what I wish I had understood back then.

First and foremost: Grades. You're there for an education to enable you to get into a decent college (hopefully with a scholarship) and therefore a decent job. If you are averaging C's, you're not trying hard enough. Yes, I KNOW it is boring listening to the teacher repeat someting umpteen times to the other idiots in class who just don't get it. If you tune out (as I did) you risk missing when the teacher gets to something new, and now YOU are the one falling behind.

Likewise, homework is important. Not so much for itself, mind you. It's almost always some sort of busywork to demonstrate that you did, indeed, get it in class. What it teaches you is discipline and patience. This discipline and patience are what is really important, because you are going to get more of the same in college, and once you get to really start working the tedium really begins. It'll make you nostalgic for the days back in class listening to the teacher drone on. But you're going to have to deal with it, because that is the nature of work in the first place. Even soldiers - who would seem to have an exciting job - spend most of their time doing boring, routine training and boring routine maintenance. If you can't deal with it in high school and college, you'll get to deal with far worse tedium working in a McJob somewhere, for crap pay to boot.

Good grades may not equal good pay... but it does stack the odds in your favor.

Next up: Socialization. This does not necessarily mean being popular. It means meeting people and learing how to deal with them. Once you start working, you are going to have to deal with people at your job. If you don't know how, your career is going to stall at entry level no matter how brilliant you may be; no matter how well you did in college. If you cannot talk to people and deal with them as they are, you will accomplish nothing.

So... how do you do this? It's very simple, which is not at all the same thing as easy. (Believe me, I know, I suffer from mild social anxieties even now; I was much worse then.) You talk to people. Walk up, smile, look them in the eye, say something like 'Hi, I'm ______' and see what happens. If they give you crap, they are the ones with the problem, not you. You are trying to be sociable; They are being antisocial.

And don't sweat it if you don't make friends right away, or at all. I only had three real friends in high school. Looking back, two of them were tools pretending to be my friends. The other... well, I haven't seen him since graduation.

This goes double for 'relationships.' The odds of a sucessful marriage begining in high school are literally astronomical. On the off-chance a high-school couple lasts long enough to marry, it almost always ends in divorce very quickly. So, since you're incredibly unlikely to have a permanent relationship out of high school, don't sweat relationships - or the lack thereof - too much.

Yes, I know how it feels when you get that first love. I know just how special it is. You are pretty much required to screw that one up, so that you can properly appreciate the ones that follow.

This isn't to say that you shouldn't try to date; this is a required part of your socialization. If you can't talk to girls coming out of college, you are going to be in real trouble the first time you have to work with one. Besides, as I said, you pretty much have to screw up your first relationship, as much out of ignorance as anything else. So, since high school is for learning, it's time to learn about that as well. Best to do it now because, as I mentioned, the odds are that once high school is over you'll never see any of them again. Get it over with so the failure doesn't follow you; people are expected to screw up relationships in high school. Once you are an adult you are expected to know better.

How to get a date? The same way you meet people. Walk right up with a smile, look her in the eye, "Hi, I'm _____. Want to go (catch a movie/get something to eat after school/something along those lines)?"

Yes, it's really that simple. Yes, I know your heart is going to be pounding through your ribcage when you do it the first time. Guess what? She can't tell that from looking. On fact, the odds are the first time someone asks her out, she's going to be just as nervous as you are. And that's the thing to remember: Girls get nervous too! Come across as confident, and take 'no' gracefully when it comes.

What's the worst that can happen? She gives you crap for four years and then you never see her them again? Believe me, once you get through college it simply won't matter anymore.

But if you never ask, you'll never hear her say 'Yes!' either.

All I can say is. VERY GOOD POINT(S)! my man!

Show off your ipod's porn collection to the guys at the new school you'll suddenly become very popular.

ahhh but the trick is, what type of porn is it?.. mhmmm...?