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![[Post New]](/s/i/i.gif) 2010/06/08 06:39:22
Subject: Re:Help....sorry for vague title...
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Fixture of Dakka
Kamloops, BC
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Wrexasaur wrote:Cheesecat wrote:When in doubt I use a condom.

I'm glad I have the support of the president, too.
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![[Post New]](/s/i/i.gif) 2010/06/08 13:15:03
Subject: Re:Help....sorry for vague title...
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Twisted Trueborn with Blaster
Sweden
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Cheesecat wrote:Wrexasaur wrote:Cheesecat wrote:When in doubt I use a condom.

I'm glad I have the support of the president, too.
I wonder how glad the fella whom created the topic is about your jesting...
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![[Post New]](/s/i/i.gif) 2010/06/08 13:45:09
Subject: Help....sorry for vague title...
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Ragin' Ork Dreadnought
Monarchy of TBD
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You come to the OT forum for help with your drama, you stay for the free sex education.
Word of the day- hosebeast. Thanks Phryxis!
@ the OP- In 5 years, none of this will matter. It is a maxim that will take most of the stress out of your high school years. The dating and relationship drama that you're going through now is the tutorial for the serious relationships you'll forge later on. From what you've said, it appears that you realize the game is not yet afoot. Learn what you can about what you like in a relationship, and what another person's actions really say about them.
In the meantime, ignore JohnHwangdd's advice. Sure, pulling out of the trench run will probably work- but it only takes one photon torpedo to blow up the Death Star, and you start shooting those out from the moment you take off. (Oh that's right, a Star Wars analogy. )
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Klawz-Ramming is a subset of citrus fruit?
Gwar- "And everyone wants a bigger Spleen!"
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I admire your aplomb and instate you as Baron of the Seas and Lord Marshall of Privateers.
Orkeosaurus wrote:Star Trek also said we'd have X-Wings by now. We all see how that prediction turned out.
Orkeosaurus, on homophobia, the nature of homosexuality, and the greatness of George Takei.
English doesn't borrow from other languages. It follows them down dark alleyways and mugs them for loose grammar.
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![[Post New]](/s/i/i.gif) 2010/06/08 15:38:27
Subject: Re:Help....sorry for vague title...
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Decrepit Dakkanaut
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sebster wrote:Cheesecat wrote:Well, preferably I sink my pink torpedo into girls I know and are honest about their sex life.
Everyone's honest about their sex life, then you get Hep-B. Up to you dude, but I’ve found there’s a difference between trust and blind faith.
Well, theres this one thing though.... oh yea, don't think with your weener, that pretty much fixes that problem.
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![[Post New]](/s/i/i.gif) 2010/06/08 15:52:17
Subject: Re:Help....sorry for vague title...
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Monstrously Massive Big Mutant
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Backing off does seem like a good idea but don't go appologize to this guy. It's really unnecessary and it isn't going to make you look better because people don't understand taking the moral highground at this age (I've tried, it fails) it will just make every see you as a target and treat you worse. If your gunna leave just get out of there but don't make a problem out of it.
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![[Post New]](/s/i/i.gif) 2010/06/08 15:59:52
Subject: Re:Help....sorry for vague title...
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Mutilatin' Mad Dok
Gloucester
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4M2A wrote:Backing off does seem like a good idea but don't go appologize to this guy. It's really unnecessary and it isn't going to make you look better because people don't understand taking the moral highground at this age (I've tried, it fails) it will just make every see you as a target and treat you worse. If your gunna leave just get out of there but don't make a problem out of it.
Some good advice there.
If your freindship with this girl is causing agro for everyone involved then maybe it's best to distance yourself from her a bit. If her boyfriend then decides to keep making an issue of it then just give him a good kicking again until he gets the message to stay away from you. Just don't go looking for a fight.
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![[Post New]](/s/i/i.gif) 2010/06/08 17:45:44
Subject: Help....sorry for vague title...
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5th God of Chaos! (Yea'rly!)
The Great State of Texas
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Lord of Kaith wrote:At my local youth group there's a girl I've started a friendship with. Just friendship, not girlfriend/boyfriend stuff. However, she has a boyfriend who is overprotective and thinks I'm muscling in on his girl. The girl has no intererest in *that* sort of relationship and neither do I, but the b-friend thinks I'm after his girl, despite my explaining otherwise. Last time we got into a minor scuffle. Not a good career move, I'm now quite unpopular as this kid is pretty much the epitome of cool to the other teens around here. To make it worse I beat him pretty badly (Tae Kwon Do FTW!) and so now he's more pissed off than before, because, well, I'm sorta skinny and he's sorta big so it's humiliating. Not to sound like the goody-two shoes, but I would have avoided the fight if possible, but it wasn't possible. He threw the first punch, and I was in the backstage area of the stage in the gym, so nowhere to run except into the wall...or through him.
Any advice? I've mentioned this to his parents and the leaders but the leadership is pretty weak and his parents can't handle him too well.
If I weren't suspended for two more days I'd say:
"talk is for girls. Time to instill...TERROR! Find him alone and explain to him if he doesn't straighten up you're gonna  him in the  with a  and then  his head a  ing and then  shove the drill  completely off and then  . He'll get the message"
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-"Wait a minute.....who is that Frazz is talking to in the gallery? Hmmm something is going on here.....Oh.... it seems there is some dispute over video taping of some sort......Frazz is really upset now..........wait a minute......whats he go there.......is it? Can it be?....Frazz has just unleashed his hidden weiner dog from his mini bag, while quoting shakespeares "Let slip the dogs the war!!" GG
-"Don't mind Frazzled. He's just Dakka's crazy old dude locked in the attic. He's harmless. Mostly."
-TBone the Magnificent 1999-2014, Long Live the King!
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![[Post New]](/s/i/i.gif) 2010/06/08 18:33:56
Subject: Help....sorry for vague title...
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Lone Wolf Sentinel Pilot
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Pretty tame for you Frazzled. Wouldn't you normally just skip the explaining bit?
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![[Post New]](/s/i/i.gif) 2010/06/08 18:40:25
Subject: Help....sorry for vague title...
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5th God of Chaos! (Yea'rly!)
The Great State of Texas
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I'm just feeling extra compassion these days.
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-"Wait a minute.....who is that Frazz is talking to in the gallery? Hmmm something is going on here.....Oh.... it seems there is some dispute over video taping of some sort......Frazz is really upset now..........wait a minute......whats he go there.......is it? Can it be?....Frazz has just unleashed his hidden weiner dog from his mini bag, while quoting shakespeares "Let slip the dogs the war!!" GG
-"Don't mind Frazzled. He's just Dakka's crazy old dude locked in the attic. He's harmless. Mostly."
-TBone the Magnificent 1999-2014, Long Live the King!
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![[Post New]](/s/i/i.gif) 2010/06/08 20:03:46
Subject: Re:Help....sorry for vague title...
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Longtime Dakkanaut
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You can't blame the guy for wanting to stand up to someone he perceives is "making a move" on his girlfriend... if that's not the case, give him/them space, and everything should be cool... You'd be the bigger man for it, imho.
I certainly can. She is a person he is in a relationship with. She isn't property, she isn't his child and she isn't his subordinate. To put it another way, he doesn't have any place trying to forcefully stand between her and anyone or otherwise try to dictate her relationships.
What he can do is make it clear what he is and isn't willing to deal with in a relationship. She can choose either try to make things work by not doing things that make the relationship unworkable for him or continue to do things that he dislikes. At that point he can choose to end it if things aren't working for him.
The guy in question is being possessive and stepping way over the line. Somebody needs to call him on it now, as this isn't really the kind behavior someone needs to be continuing into adulthood and it will if people just treat it as acceptable/normal.
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![[Post New]](/s/i/i.gif) 2010/06/08 20:44:56
Subject: Re:Help....sorry for vague title...
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Stealthy Space Wolves Scout
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Let me get this straight, are we talking about social relationships/interactions in a religious youth group setting? Among 13-17 years of age? And everyone in it already has a boyfriend/girlfriend? And church leaders condone this, plus fighting and ostracizing of members? And we are discussing whether he should steal the girl or not? If so, wow. The moral and ethical dilemmas people focus on astounds me.
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![[Post New]](/s/i/i.gif) 2010/06/08 20:54:16
Subject: Re:Help....sorry for vague title...
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Veteran ORC
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Ironhide wrote:Let me get this straight, are we talking about social relationships/interactions in a religious youth group setting? Among 13-17 years of age? And everyone in it already has a boyfriend/girlfriend? And church leaders condone this, plus fighting and ostracizing of members? And we are discussing whether he should steal the girl or not? If so, wow. The moral and ethical dilemmas people focus on astounds me.
Priorities. We has them.
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![[Post New]](/s/i/i.gif) 2010/06/08 20:59:14
Subject: Re:Help....sorry for vague title...
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Stealthy Space Wolves Scout
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heh heh! I'll go with that.
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![[Post New]](/s/i/i.gif) 2010/06/09 00:53:41
Subject: Re:Help....sorry for vague title...
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Fixture of Dakka
Kamloops, BC
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If she's fethable then become her boyfriend and get laid, you won't regret it (at least until the break-up and possible STD's).
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![[Post New]](/s/i/i.gif) 2010/06/09 01:12:45
Subject: Re:Help....sorry for vague title...
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Nimble Pistolier
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Slarg232 wrote:Have you tried talking it over with him now that you've pulverized him? People are kinda like Orks, in my experiance. As long as you can krump em, yous da boss.
Exactly,beat the liveing gak out of him,tell him to back off the babe and gtfo.
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"I dont over react,i just get pissed easily"-Me
FOR THE PELIVIC THRUSTING LEIGIONS!
Starting WHFB empire
1250pts Tyranids
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![[Post New]](/s/i/i.gif) 2010/06/09 01:20:54
Subject: Re:Help....sorry for vague title...
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Fixture of Dakka
Kamloops, BC
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Soladrin wrote:sebster wrote:Cheesecat wrote:Well, preferably I sink my pink torpedo into girls I know and are honest about their sex life.
Everyone's honest about their sex life, then you get Hep-B. Up to you dude, but I’ve found there’s a difference between trust and blind faith.
Well, theres this one thing though.... oh yea, don't think with your weener, that pretty much fixes that problem.
Good thing my bratwurst doesn't have a brain.
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![[Post New]](/s/i/i.gif) 2010/06/09 03:09:53
Subject: Re:Help....sorry for vague title...
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Powerful Chaos Warrior
Texas, USA
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Ironhide wrote:Let me get this straight, are we talking about social relationships/interactions in a religious youth group setting? Among 13-17 years of age? And everyone in it already has a boyfriend/girlfriend? And church leaders condone this, plus fighting and ostracizing of members? And we are discussing whether he should steal the girl or not? If so, wow. The moral and ethical dilemmas people focus on astounds me.
Did I ever say it was a church youth group?
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"That's an impossible shot, Batman" -Robin
"That's a negative attitude, Robin" -Batman
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![[Post New]](/s/i/i.gif) 2010/06/09 05:11:31
Subject: Re:Help....sorry for vague title...
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Stealthy Space Wolves Scout
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No, but the usual assumption is youth group = church. What kind of youth group is it then? High school?
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![[Post New]](/s/i/i.gif) 2010/06/09 16:02:43
Subject: Re:Help....sorry for vague title...
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Powerful Chaos Warrior
Texas, USA
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Ironhide wrote:No, but the usual assumption is youth group = church. What kind of youth group is it then? High school?
It started out as a few teens having monthly meetings at a house, and grew from there. So since a lot of them are from the local high school, they convinced them to let us use their gym to meet. Basically we meet, have discussion on various items, but really just fool around most of the time.
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"That's an impossible shot, Batman" -Robin
"That's a negative attitude, Robin" -Batman
I offer commission painting. See the Painting Service list in the Dakka Swap Shop for details.
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