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This thread is full of win and ironically sums up why it's so hard to see more girls and women in the wargaming hobby.

But maybe it's also te WAR-gaming aspect. You don't see that many playing action games for example. Not wanting to stereotype, just stating facts.

Greets
Schepp himself

My fiance is a bit of sci-fi nerd (likes Star Trek, Firefly and actually introduced me to the new Battlestar), but draws the line (with a big thick black marker) at Warhammer. In fact she barely tolerates models being painted on the kitchen table.

As for meeting girls through playing Warhammer? Never met a single one myself (well not in person anyway).

barlio wrote:
I just live in one of those areas where events are sausage-fests. If I want to meet a girl I'll do it the old-fashioned way (in the park at night).

That sounds incredibly suspicious.


My FLGS doesn't have this staring problem as far as I can tell. Frankly a lot of girls that come in are completely ignored. Recently a random MtG girl came up to the painting table, where I was sitting, having just packed all of my things into the car outside and was just finishing off a drink...

"Hey, did anyone ever tell you you look like Orlando Bloom?"
Shocked, and my general dislike of elves and elf-references bubbling over, I said to everyone but her, "Well, I guess I'd better be leaving," and promptly left. The look on her face was priceless.

But on that note, most of the regulars either have partners or are happy being young and carefree. The shop is pretty central in town and is technically an internet cafe on the side, so there are plenty of different visitors. The professional oglers get a better view out the front window anyway, and can actually comment on what they see without disturbing anyone.

Met a nice girl back in 3rd edition (I was 15ish?), and we dated for about 6 months. She played Nids, I played DA, that kept things spicy.

My father-in-law runs a hotwheels stand at a collectors show, and told me about these guys who just moved in and have tables set up with little plastic tanks and men, and they roll dice to see who dies, (exact words, I swear) and my wife, being the loving soul that she is, insisted that I go back to my parents house and pick up my army to go play. She had no idea I had 20k+ points worth of stuff to take up space with.

I have gotten her into painting though, she enjoys that at least.

H.B.M.C. wrote:

assultmarine wrote:how in the world do you tell a girl you play with little toy men!!!!!!

Rohypnol.

Rapies?

I met a girl who works at the grocery store near the gaming store, does that count?

Xero524 wrote:I met a girl who works at the grocery store near the gaming store, does that count?

Depends, if she is working the express lane, does she let you come through her lane even if you obviously have more items than is allowed?

CF Scout wrote:

Xero524 wrote:I met a girl who works at the grocery store near the gaming store, does that count?

Depends, if she is working the express lane, does she let you come through her lane even if you obviously have more items than is allowed?

nudge*nudge, wink*wink

I think this thread is pretty indicative of why women avoid the hobby on the whole. The responses range from bad pick-up lines to spastic incoherence.

I've never met a gf through 40k/FB, but I have had a number of anime/tcg game store girls approach that flirty/crush zone. The whole married thing seems to keep most of that away, thankfully.

My wife likes that I have a hobby that has a creative outlet. I don't drink, don't do drugs, and I hate sports. She would much prefer me gluing together inch-high Incan dinosaur warriors and asking her how her day went than just mindlessly sitting on the couch with a beer in my hand lost in some sporting competition between the same people I couldn't stand in high school.

Ive taken to really messing with LGS employees.

I walk in and the usual look of confusion crosses thier face and they ask 'Can I help you find anything?'

Ive given a variety of answers, ranging from 'Yes, are there any real men here?' to 'Do you sell that cherry flavored latex safe lubricant here?'

If theyre gonna make me feel uncomfortable I can have fun and do it right back ^_^

Jive Professor wrote:I think this thread is pretty indicative of why women avoid the hobby on the whole. The responses range from bad pick-up lines to spastic incoherence.

I've never met a gf through 40k/FB, but I have had a number of anime/tcg game store girls approach that flirty/crush zone. The whole married thing seems to keep most of that away, thankfully.

My wife likes that I have a hobby that has a creative outlet. I don't drink, don't do drugs, and I hate sports. She would much prefer me gluing together inch-high Incan dinosaur warriors and asking her how her day went than just mindlessly sitting on the couch with a beer in my hand lost in some sporting competition between the same people I couldn't stand in high school.

Thats unfair to people who play sports and arn't donkey-caves. Like me. Unless you can't stand me. Which would be unfair because you don't even know me.

Mistress of minis wrote:Ive taken to really messing with LGS employees.

I walk in and the usual look of confusion crosses thier face and they ask 'Can I help you find anything?'

Ive given a variety of answers, ranging from 'Yes, are there any real men here?' to 'Do you sell that cherry flavored latex safe lubricant here?'

If theyre gonna make me feel uncomfortable I can have fun and do it right back ^_^

Don't tempt fate. One day you will walk into a LGS that does sell cherry flavored latex safe lubricant, and then you'll have to deal with the creepy looks the staff is giving you. I remember the last time I walked into my local BDSM/Wargames store.....

lol, they really freak out if a girl comes to the LGS?
I mean, it's not that common sure, but it's not like the parting of the Fething Red sea or anything. It's a girl. they do exist. In fact, there are a lot of them out there.

I know a girl who likes fantasy, but mostly putting them together and painting, not so much playing. And my "friend" claims he knows a girl who collects a banshee obessesed army but can't make it to the club becuase of her busy schedule. Do you think he's making it up? (Our club is held only on Saturday so it could be possible.)

"virtually guarantee at least a 2 year extension on thier virginity. "

that made me laugh way too much, and now theres sweet, sweet booze on my keyboard :(

Have to say every girlfriend except one has "allowed" me to paint "my little men" as they put it without any fuss.
The one who basically persuaded me to sell most of it was the worst.

But currently i can get on with it, and she puts a lot of input into how my sculpting is going especially my female cadians and commisars.

barlio wrote:
I just live in one of those areas where events are sausage-fests. If I want to meet a girl I'll do it the old-fashioned way (in the park at night).

Guys like you force me to carry a whistle at night and a can of mace. "NO" means "NO".

My GF refuses to enter our local (or indeed any) GW store. To be honest, the guys in there even creep me out a little at times.

There were 2 girls in my D&D group though. It was quite a strange group. One of the girls was the GF of one of the other players and the other girl was the GF of the DM, although she was actually quite into the game (sometimes anyway).

BrookM wrote:

barlio wrote:
I just live in one of those areas where events are sausage-fests. If I want to meet a girl I'll do it the old-fashioned way (in the park at night).

Guys like you force me to carry a whistle at night and a can of mace. "NO" means "NO".

Sounds like you need some new gear BrookM. Take a look at these fantastic products designed to fight any pervert at an effective range of 100 yards.

First of all you will need both a tear-gas launcher for ranged shots and crowd control.


Next you will need some industrial bear-mace for those buggers who just wont go down. Keeping an range of mace will provide flexibility from "stun" to "totally knock the hell out".


Oh and my personal favorite, your fists best friend, the tazer knuckles!!!

Nothing against tazer knuckles, but I think we're getting a bit off topic here.

Summary: no one has yet been able to report getting a girlfriend through 40k, although plenty of us have them despite it.

Oh, and many of us are self-deluded enough to think that our womenfolk are right on the verge of playing.

Maybe this should have been a poll thread?

Is there some sort of prize for getting a girl freind into 40K?

Only eternal damnation.

Having no escape from her, I'd guess.

The Girlfriend's son saw my minis and said "cool", so now he plays Dwarves.

The Girlfriend saw the High Elves and said "cool", so now she plays FB too.

The only stipulation that both of them wanted was that I had to play an opposing army to them, so O&G it is! (Skaven will be next....)

I know a handful of women who play, and really, there would be more, but some of the guys just creep them out.

Anecdotal story: I went in to a LGS with the GF to pick up some stuff, and the local Gray Knight took one look at her, and was flirting with her in an instant. He was way in her personal space, and even had her slightly backed into a corner at one point. Creepy, fat unhygenic men should not do that to any women period.

The local Gray Knight, lol . . .

It's certainly true that a lot of fellas who play the Warhamms creep ladies out BUT, in our defense, some of the girls who play (or the "type," if you like) kinda creep me out.

Mithrax wrote:Anecdotal story: I went in to a LGS with the GF to pick up some stuff, and the local Gray Knight took one look at her, and was flirting with her in an instant. He was way in her personal space, and even had her slightly backed into a corner at one point. Creepy, fat unhygenic men should not do that to any women period.

GW policy 101: Target the uninitiated or apparantly uninitiated and try to sell them as much new products as possible.

I'm guessing the end to this story is
1. You told him to back off and he duly went off to whimper in the corner next to the store order point.

or

2. You and your gf ended up leaving with 3 new Valkyrie's you neither wanted or needed for fear of offending this poor socially inept staffer's feelings

Arctik_Firangi wrote:

Recently a random MtG girl came up to the painting table, where I was sitting, having just packed all of my things into the car outside and was just finishing off a drink...

"Hey, did anyone ever tell you you look like Orlando Bloom?"
Shocked, and my general dislike of elves and elf-references bubbling over, I said to everyone but her, "Well, I guess I'd better be leaving," and promptly left. The look on her face was priceless.

Please post a photo so we can debate your likeness

"random MtG girl"

This is what I'm talking about, people.

Marshal2Crusaders wrote:

Jive Professor wrote:I think this thread is pretty indicative of why women avoid the hobby on the whole. The responses range from bad pick-up lines to spastic incoherence.

I've never met a gf through 40k/FB, but I have had a number of anime/tcg game store girls approach that flirty/crush zone. The whole married thing seems to keep most of that away, thankfully.

My wife likes that I have a hobby that has a creative outlet. I don't drink, don't do drugs, and I hate sports. She would much prefer me gluing together inch-high Incan dinosaur warriors and asking her how her day went than just mindlessly sitting on the couch with a beer in my hand lost in some sporting competition between the same people I couldn't stand in high school.

Thats unfair to people who play sports and arn't donkey-caves. Like me. Unless you can't stand me. Which would be unfair because you don't even know me.

I can't stand you so much, I made the decision to not like you before I met you. It's some kinda time-paradoxical douchery.

SilverMK2 wrote:My GF refuses to enter our local (or indeed any) GW store. To be honest, the guys in there even creep me out a little at times.

There were 2 girls in my D&D group though. It was quite a strange group. One of the girls was the GF of one of the other players and the other girl was the GF of the DM, although she was actually quite into the game (sometimes anyway).

I have always known a TON of D&D chicks, and through my friends wives, girlfriends, and female friends, I've probably introduced a dozen women to PnP rpgs that absolutely love them. Minis gaming, not so much. Probably still resolves around the "We are at someone's house, everyone is friends of everyone else, fun and safety la la la" as opposed to "Welcome to the poorly air-conditioned nerd box with only one visible exit and a bunch of Free Willy man-children and their tiny plastic legions."

Mistress of minis wrote:Is there some sort of prize for getting a girl freind into 40K?

For nerds I think the prize and the objective are one in the same... or maybe I'm wrong. Maybe it's store credit. If that's the case maybe I should try to get a mistress or something. Lord knows I could use a few more Drop Pods...

Jive Professor wrote:I can't stand you so much, I made the decision to not like you before I met you. It's some kinda time-paradoxical douchery.

By George, he's mastered Dakka in under 100 posts!

In the words of my friend: "I hate them for trying to sell me junk I don't need or trying to treat me like a daft bint who hasn't seen the game ever before. They also can't understand the reply "no I don't want anything else with that mail order" no matter how many times you tell them. I've also been asked to try out every demo game there is, have a crack at painting a mini or receive an exclusive tour to the back rooms with the special gaming tables.

I JUST WANT TO ORDER SOMETHING FOR SOMEONE SO CAN I OR ARE YOU NOT INTERESTED IN MAKING ANY MONEY TODAY?!?!?! >:@"

BrookM wrote:In the words of my friend: "I hate them for trying to sell me junk I don't need or trying to treat me like a daft bint who hasn't seen the game ever before. They also can't understand the reply "no I don't want anything else with that mail order" no matter how many times you tell them. I've also been asked to try out every demo game there is, have a crack at painting a mini or receive an exclusive tour to the back rooms with the special gaming tables.

I JUST WANT TO ORDER SOMETHING FOR SOMEONE SO CAN I OR ARE YOU NOT INTERESTED IN MAKING ANY MONEY TODAY?!?!?! >:@"

have i had girlfriends- yes
did i meet them through wargaming- no
have i known gamer girls- yes
did they wargame- one, and her boyfriend got her started

Most gamer girls i've met have been pretty much in the dnd/mtg/larping crowd
There use to be a goodly number of girls at the gaming club i frequent at the college I attend.
Unfortunatly, as the old crowd graduated/moved on, we've gotten a new crowd......and they are
somewhat lacking in the social graces, as such, the only girls that show these days are either
armed (one of the most attactive girls i know is a gamer, and carries a knife), or are also of the
creepy gamer variety. That gaming club is pretty much dead to me.

I've thought of a way to help the creepy gamers though......we start a charity foundation to get them a birthday hooker