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 Ketara wrote:
hotsauceman1 wrote:
This was at the local Waterpark, they where not smooth, I heard the term "Bitch" a couple of times when they asked

The context of the question was 'How do I ask a girl out', not 'How do I negg a girl'. There are alternative methods of hitting on someone without acting like a moron reading an internet 101.

Sebster wrote:The question comes with what you do if they say no, or don't call at all. Do you just stop going to that grocery store?


See, I live in London where your odds of seeing them again are pretty remote. Heck, even if you frequent the same large supermarket, odds of seeing them again are small. Not to mention that even if you do, it's easy to just use another cashier's terminal to pay. Or even self-service. Nobody's going to push an interaction. And even if you did, British people would be unlikely to say anything nasty. After all, even if they decide not to call you, you did pay them a compliment by asking them out (assuming you didn't use the word 'b***h....)

obsidianaura wrote:Hi, sorry if this is awkward as you're obviously busy at work.

I just wanted to let you know I think you're interesting and wondered maybe you'd like to go out sometime? No problem if not but here's my number/social media anyway

Thanks, Cheesecat

I'm sorry, but that sounds awkward as hell.



You left out the P.S, its vital!

Seriously though, I feel like it's the least awkward, most merciful way to do it in a busy supermarket. I guess it depends on the delivery. I've been in the same relationship for nearly 14 years so am far from an expert.

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A woman's perception of a man's attractiveness is less linked to physical features than the other way around though. Keep it cool, confident, and casual, and you'll have loaded the social stack in your favour as much as you can. That's all you can ever hope for.



Shouldn't generalise about women, they hate that... generally.

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 obsidianaura wrote:
I think a note might be the way to go.

You could write something like,

Hi, sorry if this is awkward as you're obviously busy at work.

I just wanted to let you know I think you're interesting and wondered maybe you'd like to go out sometime? No problem if not but here's my number/social media anyway

Thanks, Cheesecat


I have to concur with you and Ketara. I don't think in general she would be off limits, but you have to be show some discretion about when - pick your moment. Not when she's busy, and don't be weird about it.

If she doesn't ever contact you, I would never, ever bring it up again. You could keep shopping there but I would uh, at least avoid her line if possible.


For what it's worth, my friend once tried this with the girl at the counter at McDonalds. They would up getting married and having 2 kids together.


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 Cheesecat wrote:
Is it okay to ask the person bagging your groceries out on a date? Like would it be rude? There's other people in the line waiting for their items bagged as well, there's a bit of an audience, etc. Should I take any opportunity I can?


If you're nervous, stuff a sausage down your pants.

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 kronk wrote:
 Cheesecat wrote:
Is it okay to ask the person bagging your groceries out on a date? Like would it be rude? There's other people in the line waiting for their items bagged as well, there's a bit of an audience, etc. Should I take any opportunity I can?
If you're nervous, stuff a sausage down your pants.

Edit: Down the FRONT of your pants.
Pay for it first though.
A woman was arrested for 'using' a sausage in the shop's toilets last week....

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There is no good way to do this..... so just do it anyway.

Dating is a numbers game, the more you ask for dates the more you get. You don't even have to be good at it.

Too many people focus on "the right thing to say" insteaad of just getting out there and asking. The number one reason a person doesn't get a date is because they never ask for one.

Therefore, Carpe Diem... or seize the sausage and shove it down someone's pants..... or something.

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I've been slipped a number while working in a grocery store before, never called and never saw them again so it all worked out.

However I was out on the floor at the time so it was no big deal really.

Don't do it while they're at the register it'll be super awkward.
Just remember, if it'll put them on the spot in front of others or possibly hold up other customers:

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 n0t_u wrote:

Don't do it while they're at the register it'll be super awkward.
Just remember, if it'll put them on the spot in front of others or possibly hold up other customers:


Agreed. You're trying to ask them out, not embarrass them.

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I say no. I have some sort of vague notion that I haven't fleshed out yet about it being a similar relationship as to the one between employer and employee. It's similar to, but not quite as dire as the bartender or waitress situation.

You're potentially putting her on the spot in front of other people. In her mind, she might have to be concerned about how you'll react if she turns you down. Are you going to be cool if that happens? Are you going to make a scene and try to get her in trouble with her employer?

I mean, I'm sure that kind of stuff happens all the time, so it's probably not that big of a deal. It's not something I go for though.

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 daedalus wrote:
I say no. I have some sort of vague notion that I haven't fleshed out yet about it being a similar relationship as to the one between employer and employee. It's similar to, but not quite as dire as the bartender or waitress situation.

You're potentially putting her on the spot in front of other people. In her mind, she might have to be concerned about how you'll react if she turns you down. Are you going to be cool if that happens? Are you going to make a scene and try to get her in trouble with her employer?

I mean, I'm sure that kind of stuff happens all the time, so it's probably not that big of a deal. It's not something I go for though.


I think that rather than issuing 'rules' (Do it/don't do it at the register), it is better to simply gauge when it would be appropriate. Doing it to an employee in training with a manager behind them is very obviously a no go. Doing it immediately after you've watched them have a ten minute issue with a problem customer? Likewise. Doing it with a line of fifty people standing grumbling behind you? She's probably stressed out. So a bad time. etcetc

On the other hand, if it's a relaxed day, and other patrons/cashiers are spaced out enough not to be breathing down the girl's neck? You're probably good.

There's nothing more wrong about doing it at the register than there is at any spot in the shop, or indeed, general public. The key to remember is that much like the rest of life, there is a time and a place. Gauge the situation before doing your receipt scribble and cheeky smile (or whatever method you're planning on). Don't be a creep and a douche. Don't put them on the spot. Just leave them with all the knowledge they need (your name, number, the fact you're damn fine/interested in them), and leave the ball entirely in their court to act upon or not at a time of their choosing.

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 Ketara wrote:
I think that rather than issuing 'rules' (Do it/don't do it at the register), it is better to simply gauge when it would be appropriate. Doing it to an employee in training with a manager behind them is very obviously a no go. Doing it immediately after you've watched them have a ten minute issue with a problem customer? Likewise. Doing it with a line of fifty people standing grumbling behind you? She's probably stressed out. So a bad time. etcetc


Probably the best time would be at night when she's walking to her car after work.

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 Ouze wrote:
 Ketara wrote:
I think that rather than issuing 'rules' (Do it/don't do it at the register), it is better to simply gauge when it would be appropriate. Doing it to an employee in training with a manager behind them is very obviously a no go. Doing it immediately after you've watched them have a ten minute issue with a problem customer? Likewise. Doing it with a line of fifty people standing grumbling behind you? She's probably stressed out. So a bad time. etcetc


Probably the best time would be at night when she's walking to her car after work.



Sounds like a winner.

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One mans smooth is another mans smarm. Any fella dressed up like he's god's gift and dripping with all the smooth he can muster is a whole lot of try-hard in some people's books. If that's really not you don't fake it.

Then again if buying a bag of lime and a shovel five minuets before closing time and asking the cashier when she's getting off for the night is more your style... then maybe don't be yourself.

Jokes aside, Its hard that you have no other place to bump into them. Kinda not ideal circumstances are pushing into dodgey territory and you're clearly aware of that. Points for general social awareness in your favour at least.

   
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 Frazzled wrote:
 Ouze wrote:
 Ketara wrote:
I think that rather than issuing 'rules' (Do it/don't do it at the register), it is better to simply gauge when it would be appropriate. Doing it to an employee in training with a manager behind them is very obviously a no go. Doing it immediately after you've watched them have a ten minute issue with a problem customer? Likewise. Doing it with a line of fifty people standing grumbling behind you? She's probably stressed out. So a bad time. etcetc


Probably the best time would be at night when she's walking to her car after work.



Sounds like a winner.


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Kamloops is not a huge town. It shouldn't be too difficult to "bump in" to her somewhere else and "recognize" her from the grocery. (hopefully) it will flatter her that you remember her face and then you can easily ask her out.

Her first name + name of store will probably get you her FB profile. Sounds stalker-ish I guess but it's probably a better idea than ambushing her at work.

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I'd say just ask her out. Just find a good time to do it like when she's not at work so she's not on the spot. Wait till she's not busy, taking a break or maybe about to go home. You can even ask her when she gets off work. Try not to be awkward about it though that might be hard since we're all socially awkward nerds here.

Anyway my brother in law met my half sister because she was a waitress at a diner or something. He had to have his sister wing-man (wing-woman?) for him though. Also helps to have a lady bro as a wing-man. I imagine it's true that women make the best wing-men. They know what women want and usually they're not interested in the woman in question.

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Get naked and jump up on the conveyor then proceed to urinate everywhere to both mark your territory and as a display of dominance. This will impress everyone at the store and get the cashier to notice and respect you. Police will arrive just to cheer you on.

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 flamingkillamajig wrote:
I'd say just ask her out. Just find a good time to do it like when she's not at work so she's not on the spot. Wait till she's not busy, taking a break or maybe about to go home. You can even ask her when she gets off work. Try not to be awkward about it though that might be hard since we're all socially awkward nerds here.


Oh no. Nothing says "hi, I'm a stalker, want to date me and see what happens?" like following a person of interest and waiting to ambush them at the right moment.

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I said ask them during break but fine whatever.

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 flamingkillamajig wrote:
I said ask them during break but fine whatever.


And how do you know when they have a break? Someone coming up to talk to me on my way to my break might as well be carrying a giant sign saying "I'VE BEEN LURKING AND WATCHING YOU TO SEE WHEN YOU TAKE A BREAK", at which point my only concern is getting out of the awkward situation without things getting any worse.

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 Ahtman wrote:
Get naked and jump up on the conveyor then proceed to urinate everywhere to both mark your territory and as a display of dominance. This will impress everyone at the store and get the cashier to notice and respect you. Police will arrive just to cheer you on.



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 BigWaaagh wrote:
 Ahtman wrote:
Get naked and jump up on the conveyor then proceed to urinate everywhere to both mark your territory and as a display of dominance. This will impress everyone at the store and get the cashier to notice and respect you. Police will arrive just to cheer you on.



No bar code, no conveyor for you!


A marker and a steady hand can fix that. Or a tattoo. The question is what do you want to ring up as? And where to put the code.

   
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 Ahtman wrote:
Get naked and jump up on the conveyor then proceed to urinate everywhere to both mark your territory and as a display of dominance. This will impress everyone at the store and get the cashier to notice and respect you. Police will arrive just to cheer you on.


Ahtman has the true way of it.

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 Nevelon wrote:
 BigWaaagh wrote:
 Ahtman wrote:
Get naked and jump up on the conveyor then proceed to urinate everywhere to both mark your territory and as a display of dominance. This will impress everyone at the store and get the cashier to notice and respect you. Police will arrive just to cheer you on.



No bar code, no conveyor for you!


A marker and a steady hand can fix that. Or a tattoo. The question is what do you want to ring up as? And where to put the code.


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 Skinnereal wrote:
 kronk wrote:
 Cheesecat wrote:
Is it okay to ask the person bagging your groceries out on a date? Like would it be rude? There's other people in the line waiting for their items bagged as well, there's a bit of an audience, etc. Should I take any opportunity I can?
If you're nervous, stuff a sausage down your pants.

Edit: Down the FRONT of your pants.
Pay for it first though.
A woman was arrested for 'using' a sausage in the shop's toilets last week....


I ddn't need to know that. Because its the sort of offense that could be repeatable and now I wonder if on previous occasions she put the sausage back.


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 BigWaaagh wrote:
 Ahtman wrote:
Get naked and jump up on the conveyor then proceed to urinate everywhere to both mark your territory and as a display of dominance. This will impress everyone at the store and get the cashier to notice and respect you. Police will arrive just to cheer you on.



No bar code, no conveyor for you!


Never tried a barcode reader on a cell door, wonder what happens.

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Why would you ask for dating advice on a miniatures site?

Your odds of success are directly proportional to the attributes you possess that she likes. Handsome, friendly, confident guy can do things that are romantic that seem creepy when some odd looking, awkward guy does it.

With retail or service never make a move when they are busy. It's just going to piss everyone off. Try going in during off hours and do a little friendly chit chat, flirt a bit and gauge interest. Keep it light and friendly. It is okay to go in on a few off days (preferably spread out over a few weeks) to build a bit of a connection and gauge personalities. But do not harass her, get upset, or continue if she indicates disinterest. That's stalker territory.

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PS YOU OBVIOUSLY NEED TO FOLLOW UP IN THIS THREAD WITH WHAT HAPPENED NO MATTER THE OUTCOME


Yes, please!

kronk wrote:
 Cheesecat wrote:
Is it okay to ask the person bagging your groceries out on a date? Like would it be rude? There's other people in the line waiting for their items bagged as well, there's a bit of an audience, etc. Should I take any opportunity I can?


If you're nervous, stuff a sausage down your pants.

Edit: Down the FRONT of your pants.


Excellent advice there - and LOL funny too!
   
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You have 2 basic approaches. If you do use the first one- please, please have one of your friends film it for us.
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And the second is a variation on that.
On a not busy moment (like no customers near, the cashier looks bored) buy a notepad and a pen. Pay with your debit card. Enter the wrong number enough times to catch her attention. Smile disarmingly at her, crack open the notepad and pick up the pen and say 'My number isn't working- could I have yours?'

Either way, try to remember exactly what she says.

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