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Do you put down your paintbrush to help her pack.....

....or do you tell her she's blocking the lightsource and you're trying to get the purity seals right?

Choose gaming.

But the reason is abit different then what you guys might assume , i dont want to say it xD

Anyone who throws out such an ultimatum deserves to be dumped anyway.

I am sooo thankful my wife loves my hobby. She's proud of me and fawns over every award I bring home from a tourney or painting comp. She encourages me and keeps me going!

Deadshane1 wrote:Do you put down your paintbrush to help her pack.....

....or do you tell her she's blocking the lightsource and you're trying to get the purity seals right?

Tell her to not let the door hit her on the on way out!

How big are her boobs? Because that highly effects my answer to this question.

lol well i think this time i would try to compramise. Last time i chose gaming over my partner i had to give up my house, and in a bizzare twist all my savings. so maybe second time round id think of a way to make both work.

Roze wrote:lol well i think this time i would try to compramise. Last time i chose gaming over my partner i had to give up my house, and in a bizzare twist all my savings. so maybe second time round id think of a way to make both work.

That's crazy talk! Crazy logical talk. But yeah, the serious answer is we'd make something work together, that's what relationships are after all. Though if I could learn to love Hello Kitty (damn you Julie!), I'm sure a woman could learn to love rolling dice with me =)

Neconilis wrote:How big are her boobs? Because that highly effects my answer to this question.

ahahahahhahahahahaha, that is so male!

Anyone who throws out such an ultimatum deserves to be dumped anyway.

Exactly, I'd dump her ass. No one gives me a god-damned ultimatum.

There is a compromise in every fight... And if she is so stuck up about it, she'll have my size 47 (european size) army boot firmly imprinted on her backside on the way out... I mean, do we not put up with their funny quirks? We deserve our own quirks!

Think of the effect on your wallet. A g/f is going to cost more in the long run! (certain above example obviously excluded!) You do also have to take into consideration added benefits though - cooking cleaning etc (I have a good deal, I cook, she cleans - think i'd die if I had to do both )

Sidstyler wrote:

Anyone who throws out such an ultimatum deserves to be dumped anyway.

Exactly, I'd dump her ass. No one gives me a god-damned ultimatum.

$10 says you looked over your shoulder after you typed that.

Deadshane1 wrote:Do you put down your paintbrush to help her pack.....

....or do you tell her she's blocking the lightsource and you're trying to get the purity seals right?

I actually had this happen a few months ago, the conversation went something like this:

"Why do you spend more time gaming and painting than with me?"

"The toys are here to stay for good, you however i seriously doubt it."

"OMG! What a thing to say"

"Its true though *now i actually have to put down the model I was working on*

"Well thats fine, you've lost me to your little toys are you happy now,"

me quoting something can't remember what..."Can you lose something you didn't want in hte first place"

ahhhhhhhh thank god she is gone.

Ah, women come and go, but there's always gaming and beer. Besides, there'll be another woman desperate enough to go out with me anyways.

My gf loves the hobby, she doesn't play but shes a scifi geek, avid reader and comp game player and loves reading the fluff in the codices and the artwork and modelling/painting.

I have almost convinced her to play eldar (she loves the sculpts) but I suspect she will try to usurp me and play orks (cos she loves one thing more than anything else, the ork with goggles, cigar and flamethrower in the DoW intro).

I only had one gf that was not at least sympathetic to the cause and referred to it as 'your toy soldiers' and insisted I sell all but one army, but then she was on a mission to normalise me from the beginning, I dumped her for an industrial-goth chick with pierced nipples as I recall.

The miniatures and fantasy/scifi, geekness, computer games, fishkeeping, it's part of what I enjoy doing, my hobbies reflect who I am and if she doesn't care for what your doing, then she doesn't really want you.

Unless you genuinely are ignoring her for the sake of the figures, then you are a sad bastard, cos no amount of winning 40k compares to winning at Wet Snuggles with the lady.

IF they can spend ridiculous amounts of money on shoes....

it's not only girls that act so irrational. Men (as proven by my first post) like to throw the me or them ultimatums about too. RPG's were always things i enjoyed in most any form...which my Bf dosen't like, so i can't do that when he is there i also can't watch sci fi movies because he dosen't like them or watch cartoons (my big weakness i Love cartoons!) and many other bits, i don't do these things because i wouldn't like to be sat watching something that i really didnt enjoy....or because im so bloody soft. *sigh*

here is my opinion.

I like to keep seperate identities when i am in a relationship. I often see people blend together... and that is just a shame. If you make time for her, and she makes time for you then there should still be time left over for ourselves.

Plan a bit more in advance. Do you go every weekend out to game? Maybe 1-2 weekends a month? it all depends.

You have to balance things... too much gaming makes you get fat... not enough gaming makes you dull

eh... ::my point trails off:: everything in moderation

What can I say? My wife enjoys time with me.

The models will always be there later.

/whipcrack

Yes, mistress. Sorry fellas, gotta go.

Roze wrote:it's not only girls that act so irrational. Men (as proven by my first post) like to throw the me or them ultimatums about too. RPG's were always things i enjoyed in most any form...which my Bf dosen't like, so i can't do that when he is there i also can't watch sci fi movies because he dosen't like them or watch cartoons (my big weakness i Love cartoons!) and many other bits, i don't do these things because i wouldn't like to be sat watching something that i really didnt enjoy....or because im so bloody soft. *sigh*

Just to make sure its clear....

My GF actually thinks the hobby is really cool and doesnt curtail my hobby activities in the least.

....it just struck me as a funny thing to post. (as long as she doesnt see it!)

malfred wrote:What can I say? My wife enjoys time with me.

The models will always be there later.

/whipcrack

Yes, mistress. Sorry fellas, gotta go.

Thats the power of the kitty.

The wife wins! Making an issue of it only leads to tighter restrictions on gaming down the line. Besides, if you immediately drop everything and take care of her, then your wife tends to be... appreciative. An evening with an appreciative wife is far more enjoyable than even the best night of gaming.

Hopefully you learn the signs to avoid people who are possesive like that, or do what I did and just date married women. That leads to lonly holidays though.

If you are spending so much time working on your models, that your Gf/Wife has to remind you to do other things, it's you who deserve to be kicked to the curb.

it's a relationship, if you put more time into hobby, then you are having a relationship with the minis no?

It's a matter of moderation in all things. Too much booze, you get stupid. Too much nookey, you get stupid. Too much male friends over at the house, well, we won't touch that one. Too much hobby time, you get stupid.

See the point? If you are balancing things well enough, you have time for hobby, sex, GW/wife, beer, friends, etc. You obviously don't balance things well if she's poking you saying, "Hey, take a look at these for a while ..."

I'd stop playing/painting for awhile. I'd eventually find some free time to paint/play again I'm certain of it. But of course I don't life with my GF so I suppose it's easier.

After 12 years together, she finally decided to start playing after seeing my son enjoyed playing too. I joke with her now that after the kids go to bed, we can play some nude 40k. I don't think the game would get very far is her answer.

After a long, hard look at the sort of genes I might be passing on, and my own lack of patience with my fellow Human beings I have come to the conclusion a long time ago that I was done trying to impress the Goils. I can cook well enough for me, and my innate Nurglyness stands me in good stead for tolerating the mess.

Roze wrote:it's not only girls that act so irrational. Men (as proven by my first post) like to throw the me or them ultimatums about too. RPG's were always things i enjoyed in most any form...which my Bf dosen't like, so i can't do that when he is there i also can't watch sci fi movies because he dosen't like them or watch cartoons (my big weakness i Love cartoons!) and many other bits, i don't do these things because i wouldn't like to be sat watching something that i really didnt enjoy....or because im so bloody soft. *sigh*

Frak that! I wouldn't spend time with someone who put an end to my hobbies or worse wouldn't even watch some SF with me. I need someone I can connect with and have shared interests. Sex great, but you spend the majority of the time doing other things, and if that means watching bloody soaps or something I'm outta there.

Failing all that I suppose you could slap her about the kitchen.

frgsinwntr wrote:here is my opinion.

I like to keep seperate identities when i am in a relationship. I often see people blend together... and that is just a shame. If you make time for her, and she makes time for you then there should still be time left over for ourselves.

Plan a bit more in advance. Do you go every weekend out to game? Maybe 1-2 weekends a month? it all depends.

You have to balance things...

QFT. Marriage/LTRs *aren't* about two people becoming one, no matter what cheesy crap they put on greeting cards. They're about compromise and understanding between two individuals.

And that's why I've never understood the quest for the gamer girl. Separate (nondestructive) interests -- and the understanding that you'll give the other person a little space for their interests -- is the sign of a healthy relationship, IMO. And really, it's not hard to find a girl with a hobby of her own. She may not understand yours, but she'll be able to appreciate what comes with being part of a hobby.

So to the OP, you don't do either. You have a conversation about it because that's what adults do.

Gaming is a dark and seductive mistress in it's own right. For me, in the long run (not sure what this says about me) gaming has been the healthier of the two relationships.