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Orkeosaurus wrote:Okay how about an alternative scenario: Your gaming models become animate and tell you to choose between them and your wife/girlfriend.

What do you do now?

I'm not sure over 300 Ork boyz with all of their vehicles, weapons and supporting grots, coming to life, would be a good thing! Even if I chose them over her they would eventually start to fight. Even being an inch or so tall, the WAAAGH!!! would probably destroy the dining room and even when I managed to take them all out (Assuming I avoid the rokkits and 2 Looted Leman Russ') I would forever worry about the spores, the horrible spores!

Yeah, on second thought that might be kinda cool.

I have to put my 2 pence worht in here. Clearly if your partner is telling you its either them or the models, then you've only yourself to blame and deserve to be booted.

If you've got your partner well trained, they'd have never have asked that question in the first place !

Orkeosaurus wrote:Okay how about an alternative scenario: Your gaming models become animate and tell you to choose between them and your wife/girlfriend.

What do you do now?

Geez, isn't it obvious?

You dump the gf or divorce the wife before they realize what's going on. You then train your minis to do tricks, and take the show on the road. Make mass bank, and get all the groupies you want. It's PERFECT!!!!

Oh, and I gotta agree with the no ultimatums. I really don't respond well to bullying, or threats. My families a bit controlling, so most control dramas just result in me shrugging or laughing, and tell the other person where to get off. It's a bit hard some times, and results in some hard feelings, but at the end of the day I'm free.

OTOH, if she came in and said something like "Honey, I don't feel like you've been spending enough time with me, can we go do X." I'm all for it.

If you REALLY don't want to spend time with your SO it's time to find somebody else.

Finally, I understand the interest in a gaming gf. Mine likes board games, it gives us something in common, something to do together, something to discuss. My interest in wargaming doesn't seem as immature as it might to somebody coming from a different background. (Her sister thinks it's very geeky, but then she's pretty young, and I've seen/heard about the guys she goes out with! )

Neconilis wrote:How big are her boobs? Because that highly effects my answer to this question.

QFT...I just pray my wife doesn't decide to join Dakka.....j/k

Roze wrote:lol well i think this time i would try to compramise. Last time i chose gaming over my partner i had to give up my house, and in a bizzare twist all my savings. so maybe second time round id think of a way to make both work.

Roze wrote:it's not only girls that act so irrational. Men (as proven by my first post) like to throw the me or them ultimatums about too. RPG's were always things i enjoyed in most any form...which my Bf dosen't like, so i can't do that when he is there i also can't watch sci fi movies because he dosen't like them or watch cartoons (my big weakness i Love cartoons!) and many other bits, i don't do these things because i wouldn't like to be sat watching something that i really didnt enjoy....or because im so bloody soft. *sigh*

Roze wrote:well i never expected him to like all the things that i like that would just be boring, but being able to enjoy them more than once every blue moon when he works late would be lovely. He likes guitar hero, i'm not so keen but i play when he ask's me to. would be nice for him to try some RPG's just to see if he did like them, thats all i was saying i wasn't saying he had to like what i like or vice versa.

Well if you ever wanted to loose the non sci fi non cartoon watching non gaming guy you could move here I love cartoons and sci fi and today is game day yipee.
I would try to work it out with her.

Aw, Jesus.
I knew it was just a matter of time before someone started hitting on the ladies in the thread.

Classy.

Eric

MagickalMemories wrote:Aw, Jesus.
I knew it was just a matter of time before someone started hitting on the ladies in the thread.

Classy.

Eric

I agree! Epic fail.

did someone say there were girls in this thread.... ?

if she told me to choose between her or gaming?
i would give up gaming.
allthough, since she plays just as much as me then i would throw her the same question.

so either way, i wont have to give up, or, ill get to spend alot more time with her.

win / win situation i guess

usernamesareannoying wrote:did someone say there were girls in this thread.... ?

OMG!!! Slobber Slobber!

If you got this ultimatum, you've already lost. Either talk it out or kick him to the curb.

When we bought my current home, I had a requirement of a basement where I can put a game table and work area. If she makes that sort of ultimatum now, I demand she gives up her DS and XBox 360. Then we file for divorce because we spend too much time together.

dietrich wrote:The best bit of advice that I heard before getting married summarized the difference between men and women.

Two men have a fight. Go out for beers that night, all is forgiven.

Two women have the same fight. They don't speak for five years.

OK, so what I'm taking out of this is that your advice is to have a gay marriage with a gamer.



Whilst I can see some of the advantages, it doesn't float my boat.

More power to you though!

it's a relationship, if you put more time into hobby, then you are having a relationship with the minis no?

I don't know, those Dark Elf Whitches look awfully foxy.

My wife doesn't appreciate the game, but she knows I do, so I get 1 evening a week to play and the rest of the time (as long as I'm at home with her) she doesn't mind if I paint, put the mini's together or whatever. That's the way it should be.

No ultimatums, no choices!

is my DE's came to life and asked me to choose i think id leave them both! i'd obviously be going crackalackers and i would blame it on the stress of no cartoons *giggle*.

Be happy when your models ask you to leave your GF/BF it could be worse....

...so long as they dont start telling you to KILL your BF/GF I think you're still in the green.

MagickalMemories wrote:Aw, Jesus.
I knew it was just a matter of time before someone started hitting on the ladies in the thread.

Classy.

Eric

You didn't notice the winkie eye come on notice the winkie eye.
I can,t afford to support my self let alone a gf or a wife them wimins costs money that I spends on gw stuff.
Hec she didn't even comment on it and new it was a joke.
*goes and sulks in a corner*

Don't scare off the ladies by treating them as such.

You're better off not even acknowledging their Gender and simply considering them another dakka member.

I suspect that they would appreciate that....after all they're coming here to simply be "one of the guys". They dont come here to flirt. Less chance of driving them off if you avoid this sort of "Humor". I'm sure everyone here can appreciate the benefits of having them stick around. Lets try not to drive them off.

If you wouldnt make the same joke to any of the regular "Guys" around here...its probablly not a good idea to hit up Roze or Slannesh with the comment. (or any other ladies that I've missed....like Frazzled)

If a person can't take a joke they are on the wrong planet where nature or god put a duck bill on a platypus and she did get the joke look at my profile.

Deadshane1 wrote:

Sidstyler wrote:

Anyone who throws out such an ultimatum deserves to be dumped anyway.

Exactly, I'd dump her ass. No one gives me a god-damned ultimatum.

$10 says you looked over your shoulder after you typed that.

You would've lost $10.

To be fair though, I don't really have a wife or even a girlfriend. I can't even get by financially as it is. And the one girl I am interested in right now doesn't really care about my hobby anyway, so it's not even really an issue for me. But still, I'm a very firm believer in that, if your girlfriend/boyfriend throws an ultimatum out there they obviously don't really give a gak about you in the first place. I might be able to understand if you were doing some hardcore drugs or something equally dangerous/illegal, I wouldn't want anything to do with that either, but as far as a harmless hobby goes? Demanding your GF/BF drop it simply because it's too "geeky" for them? feth that, they simply aren't worth being with.

Unless you genuinely are ignoring her for the sake of the figures

Well yeah, if it's an all out obsession and you don't spend any time at all with her, but I've never heard of an actual sensible case like that, most of the time it's just girlfriends getting stupid because they don't want you doing it at all or because you actually spend time NOT showering her with attention/money, whether it's models or some other hobby.

Don't scare off the ladies by treating them as such.

You're better off not even acknowledging their Gender and simply considering them another dakka member.

Indeed.

sonofruss wrote: If a person can't take a joke they are on the wrong planet where nature or god put a duck bill on a platypus and she did get the joke look at my profile.

Justify it however you like.

Keep "joking" and expect more comments regarding how "classy" you are....or arent.

...you've been warned.

The real question is: If you were dating models, would you go for the models or the models? Though it doesn't matter cuz we warhamsters are nerdszz so the issue would never come up.

tallmantim wrote:OK, so what I'm taking out of this is that your advice is to have a gay marriage with a gamer.

As Bill Engvall would say, "If it wasn't for the sex, I could be gay. Then you're just hanging out with your buddies all the time."

Ha ha you guys are funny!
i didnt comment because i knew it was a joke i don't wanna be one of the "guys" i lack the necessary appendage, and on theme i wish to change my statement and introudce the talking models to the BF i'm sure he would go running then i wouldn't feel bad chosing either

stonefox wrote:The real question is: If you were dating models, would you go for the models or the models? Though it doesn't matter cuz we warhamsters are nerdszz so the issue would never come up.

Speak for yourself. I'm a superstud!

While we are on the subject of marriage guidance...

Something that occurred to me a few years back is that a lot of my painting time is sometimes "cave-time" (read "Men are from Mars, women are from Venus" if you want to understand what that means).

After a build up of hassle at work and elsewhere, from time to time I have need of sitting on my own for a couple of hours, doing something interesting but not too demanding and not interacting with the rest of the family. Not every day, but perhaps once or twice a fortnight. Its one of those vital necessities that help make me a human being worth living with, and not a psychotic mess.

Most of the time, my wife spots the signs and has the grace to stand back until I'm feeling more human again.

Most, nearly all of the time, I'm a loving generous dad and husband, or try my best to be. Sometimes though I just need to hide in a quiet room with my little toy soldiers and sob inside until my ability to exert control over my life and not feel like a piece of rubbish dumped on by the world has been re-established!

In between times, I am happy to let her have as much girly "well-time" with her friends as she needs.

Its when her need for well-time coincides with my need for cave-time coincide, and she inflicts her day's woes on me when I'm trying to shuck my own that we have problems.... By hey! That's why God invented forgiveness right?!

Deadshane1 wrote:

stonefox wrote:The real question is: If you were dating models, would you go for the models or the models? Though it doesn't matter cuz we warhamsters are nerdszz so the issue would never come up.

Speak for yourself. I'm a superstud!

Nope. We're all warhamsters who are ugly, have no self-confidence, drink mt. dew and eat cheetos all the time. We don't do anything physically active. We go out on friday nights to bars in an attempt to woo the ladies but in reality we all fail so horribly that we just get lucky sometimes and the hot girl's ugly friend pities us.

This is why we all post during the weekend.

stonefox wrote:

Deadshane1 wrote:

stonefox wrote:The real question is: If you were dating models, would you go for the models or the models? Though it doesn't matter cuz we warhamsters are nerdszz so the issue would never come up.

Speak for yourself. I'm a superstud!

Nope. We're all warhamsters who are ugly, have no self-confidence, drink mt. dew and eat cheetos all the time. We don't do anything physically active. We go out on friday nights to bars in an attempt to woo the ladies but in reality we all fail so horribly that we just get lucky sometimes and the hot girl's ugly friend pities us.

This is why we all post during the weekend.

To quote Vork from the Guild "Women: Can't live with them, they won't go out with me."

Osbad wrote:While we are on the subject of marriage guidance...

Something that occurred to me a few years back is that a lot of my painting time is sometimes "cave-time" (read "Men are from Mars, women are from Venus" if you want to understand what that means).

Oh smite! Smite!

(Yeah, I use the book to defend my cave-time, too, but still!)

Deadshane1 wrote:Do you put down your paintbrush to help her pack.....

....or do you tell her she's blocking the lightsource and you're trying to get the purity seals right?

Naw, just switch to painting her instead.