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Today me and my fiancée were talking about my 40k army; by talking of course, she was making fun of my tau forces that stood in defense of my dinner table.

She calls them my "Gnomes" and often makes wise cracks and rolls her eyes when I go off to play or play at my home.

So I pose this question to my fellow gamers: What does your other half(If that applies, as some of us are lucky enough to be single) about your hobby?

Single, but the girl I'm interested in likes painting them so I'm fairly set if we do get together. She thinks its odd but is fine with the small power armored and bearded horde making appearances on occasion.

I actually suggested to my husband that we get involved in the hobby together. He played in college, and had fallen out of it. I was looking for something interesting to do, and thought it would bring us closer together in the process. So about eight months ago, we took our state tax refund and sunk it into starting armies.

The last girl I had over that saw the game room reacted only with, "Oh God, Brad, what have you done?"

Probably something I will take with me to the grave.

My girl gets me Warhammer stuff for Christmas and the like, and we paint together. She has no interest in the game, but she likes painting goblins, and she's actually pretty good at it. I play with tiny plastic spacemen, she does roller derby, it's all good.

My Missus is pretty supportive,often purchasing minis for me on Birthday/Christmas.
Since our Son has become interested (and started his own army) she now views it as "Business as usual" around the house.
About the only time she fusses about it is if I loose track of time while painting,I've heard " Are you coming to bed or staying up to play with your little men?!" at least once a week for years.

Lol. I like the supportive wife.

Mine just enjoys teasing me about it, but she does help me pain from time to time.

daedalus wrote:The last girl I had over that saw the game room reacted only with, "Oh God, Brad, what have you done?"

Probably something I will take with me to the grave.

LOL thats pretty funny. I'd probably get the same reaction. Thats why she aint allowed into the stores.

I've got a very supportive wife, who cross-stiches chaos stars for me, and knits me dice bags.



She's into various crafts, and is a gamer too, so she gets it...

I intend to get my daughter into this hobby when she comes of proper gaming age.

Any girl I've ever told said something along the lines of either:

"Oh, that's . . .um. . . cool"

Or alternatively

"Mhmmph, mhpmhph!!! mphmhpmhphm!"

I try not to tell gals now till they're in for the long haul.

VikingScott wrote:Any girl I've ever told said something along the lines of either:

"Oh, that's . . .um. . . cool"

Or alternatively

"Mhmmph, mhpmhph!!! mphmhpmhphm!"

I try not to tell gals now till they're in for the long haul.

haha. I am of the mind if a girl does not like you for you, then she does not deserve you.

Single, but my last Girl would joke about it and call it nerd time, but accepted it as my time away from her.

Now finding women who are cool with it, and will even participare? i need to find me one of those!

Mrs Flashman is fairly tolerant of it, but won't have it on display when we have guests

poontangler wrote:So I pose this question to my fellow gamers: What does your other half(If that applies, as some of us are lucky enough to be single) about your hobby?

She doesn't "get it" but she likes that it's a creative hobby (she paints and does crafts) and that it's pretty tame having a night out with the guys in someone's living room every couple weeks vs. going bar hopping or such regularly. So I don't get any complaints.

My fiance always goes with me to our local shop to watch the games. She has gotten more and more interested over time. She has planed out a Blood Angels army that she wished to play, of course she insists they be purple and pink, which I completely agree with. Don't worry. I will post pics.

My gf (wife essentially) views it with a mix of confusion and tolerence. Except when i tell her that i want to buy something new, then she just loathes it.

Beer_&_Bolters wrote:My gf (wife essentially) views it with a mix of confusion and tolerence. Except when i tell her that i want to buy something new, then she just loathes it.

Yes,the expenses of the hobby can also lead to some pretty good arguments at times.

" You spent $300.00 dollars on WHAT?!"

My accepts that from time to time, I want to go dork out. Since my other friends tended to spend all their money in strip clubs, my wife has accepted this as a better source of bonding.

She doesn't get it at all, has no interest in the game, but is ok with my wasting time and money on it.

Like most things, balance is the key. Some weekends I'll game, some weekends we do stuff together.



-Matt

My wife doesnt get it at all.

I have started to buy collections to resell so I can somehow make it seem like its at least profitable so so she wont make me quit.

I don't blame her, we do have 4 kids, but the inner nerd in me will never be slain.

I am going to get my older son into the game soon, maybe over the holiday break. He just turned 13, so hes close to being able to really strategize and stuff, and I just got enough for a 2nd competitive army.

I will post a battle report if it does go down.

my girlfriend supports it until it is time to cuddle, cook/eat dinner, spend time w/ her, etc.

My girlfriend thinks its "cute". She just thinks its good that I have a constructive hobby.

My girlfriend doesnt mind it at all she buys me warhammer for my birthday and X mass. The only thing that she doesnt like is going into GW stores by her self she says it freaks her out although she has gotten use to the one close to our house. Im trying to get her into the hobby but its proving difficult.....

Sometimes my wife supports it (i.e buying me the new dark eldar line for my B. Day or not complaining when I have my weekly game night with a buddy). She has (on 3 seperate occasions) seemed to get really excited about it and want to start an army, but then we buy a started box of whatever she wants, and then it sits and collects dust until I finlly just sell it or paint it myself.

When she isnt supportive of it, she spends her time telling me to grow up lol....

My wife does not care for 40k.

Fantasy on the other hand, she quite likes.

Except when my night gobbos chase her dragon mage off the board

My wife is quite supportive. She doesn't play, but likes to paint and my kids are getting into painting and setting up all the figures.

Wife doesn't like it at all. However, she tolerates well the gaming, painting/modeling and the money spent.

A few times I've been able to get inside what her real reservations are. The most telling was hearing "I don't like associating my husband with that", shortly after taking her briefly inside the Chicago Games Workshop Battle bunker where there was a kid in a cape and fatigue hat who clearly thought he was from tanith....

Can you blame her? I don't want to be associated with that.

On the other hand she has expressed approval with how "normal" most of my current gaming buddies are, so progress is being made.

This Christmas I have spent over 1500$ on gifts for my step daughter, my real daughter, my fiancee's nephew, and other children who are not my own.

Mrs. Poontangler: Babe, I'm so happy, you really made Christmas this year! The best part, you did not get anything for your self..

Me: *Reading his new Dark Eldar Codex* Im sorry, what were you saying.

Her: That book...it looks like your Tau book..but its not...oh dear god... YOU DID NOT

Me: *smiling brightly* I so did. $300 on some Dark Eldar! They will be arriving with in the week!

My wife supports my hobby completely, she rarely complains about the time I spend painting or being at the club. She thinks it's good that I have something to do by myself. She has painted some things and sometimes surprises me with a random miniature. As she is the artist in the family I use her quite often for critique and suggestions on colors etc.
I'm a firm believer in that if the girl/boy doesn't accept you and your hobbies they can sod off.

Of course this does not stop her for making fun of me

My wife has less than zero interest in the hobby.

However, she's fine with me going out for game night once a week or so. She just kinda sees it like a poker night or bowling night. And she's just glad it's a safe, harmless hobby.

Personally, I think it works better that she ISN'T into the hobby. Couples need separate interests IMO, and that's one of mine.

When dating it wasn't something I brought up right away. For one thing, yes, it might scare someone away who doesn't know you well yet. For another, it's just a hobby of mine and there's a whole lot of other "get to know you" things to talk about that don't involve gaming. Then again, I never chased "gamer girls" since "normal girls" seemed like a vastly larger and deeper pool...