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My GF has no interest in the game and just lets me go about my business! Sad really seeing that she likes to paint! I've asked her if she wanted to help paint up a few and I got a solid NO! :(

chromedog wrote:

KamikazeCanuck wrote:One of them derisively calls them "dollies".

Hell, I call them my warbarbies, wardollies and man-barbies. Take their wounding words and use them as armour. Yes, the principle IS the same one used by Afro-american youth taking back the 'n' word and using it amongst each other. You can't take the piss from something even I don't take that seriously.

@Augustus: When we met, she knew I was a gamer (we met through mutual friends who were SF fans and/or gamers) and that it would not be changing. She agrees that it is necessary for even close partners to have time apart with hobbies. Besides, her family all collect something, from trains to airplanes, to radios, stamps, model cars (mustangs only), etc so I'm the 'normal' one who plays with his toys.

War-barbies, War-Dollies or Man-Barbies. I can't decide.

Rurouni Benshin wrote:

Beer_&_Bolters wrote: " You spent $300.00 dollars on WHAT?!"

I usually come up with things to the effect of "Whatever I've spent on my hobby doesn't come NEARLY as close as to how much you've spent on shoes and purses. When was the last time you wore all of your shoes in a single month? At least I use everything I've spent my money on."

I WOULD LIKE TO EXPRESS MY INCREDULITY AT YOUR STATEMENT, AND MY BELIEF THAT SOME OF THE MONEY SPENT BY HER IS TO YOUR BENEFIT.

Personal comments redacted by the Modquistion. There is no good reason to go making generalizations or insulting suppositions about other people's marriages. -The Mgmt.

I'm lucky to have an understanding GF who realizes that spending money on a hobby that is actually a creative one is better than hopping on my "Harley" and raising hell with my Biker buddies.

Speeding tickets are getting expensive these days.

My wife calls them my Little Men. She is tolerant. My two year old son already knows what each one is called and what gun it is carrying. got to start them young.

My fiance said she was ok with me persuing this hobby as long as we had all of our financial obligations taken care of ... i think she's opened the flood gates...

Lol. My Fiancée can not say anything about me spending money, because I Earn 90% of our household income

My GF doesn't really care that I play. Sometimes she finds it rather endearing. She gets me models and the like for gifts and gives me my game night. She does like to pick about it and ask me if I am going to go play space barbies with my friends! Needless to say she has no interest herself, but gaming is MY time so I like that she is not interested in it.

My fiancée encourages me, both to play and to buy stuff. I'm hopeless at spending money on myself so she almost nags me to buy the odd figure / box. That being said she's a semi-ex-gamer herself with a history of RP, Dark Future and Necromunda so she understands.

Off Topic junk argumentative posts deleted.

Please refrain from petty arguing.

Please also refrain from making generalizations about one gender or another like "all women own way too much clothing." It's dumb, and it makes you look bad.

My current girlfriend laughed, said, "Aw, that's cute", then giggled for two hours after. My ex burst into laughter, and said "YOU STILL PLAY WITH TOY SOLDIERS!!" After she'd finished, she told me it wasn't too bad, as her brother in law played a similar game.

My two year old son already knows what each one is called and what gun it is carrying. got to start them young.
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Our three year old mostly knows about orks. He likes them, and goes around saying "Bwwaaah!"

At times, she tolerates it, and then i go out to the Shop to actually play a game... 3 hrs later, in the middle of my 4th shooting phase, i get a phone call : Hunny, are you EVER Coming home?

poontangler wrote:Lol. My Fiancée can not say anything about me spending money, because I Earn 90% of our household income

Wait until you're married and watch the dynamics about 'whose money it is' change

Aurelia wrote:
...I need the room for MY Dark Eldar and darn it I reserve some room for my future chaos SoBs!!!

Hmm, ponders if he should mention the Slaanesh Daemons army he has floating in his head since he saw those spider/Daemonette 'Fiend' conversions on Cool mini.

Probably better I just slip on out.



But yeah, she answered this thread for me.

I find it works better when I ambush my better half with my 40k buys

DakkaDakka wrote:

My girl thinks its nice that I have a hobby. She has sat through a couple of games, working on her own stuff and occasionally taking an interest in what the boys and me are so excited about. She even painted a few swooping hawks for fun (They are well done, but totally not in my color scheme, but I can't repaint them now because that's what relationships are about or something ) Beyond that she has very little interest in it. Then again I barely ever spend any money on it other than gas to get to the game. I don't need any more figs to play my one army of choice, don't need any more paint or supplies, and even the other army's codex my cheapskate ass just finds on .pdf if I need one. So she doesn't really care. I guess its better than having a hobby that requires continuous spending.

poontangler wrote:I find it works better when I ambush my better half with my 40k buys

I did this for a while,but that often led to.."problems",not if I simply walked in with a Rhino or something,but if I walked in with a huge lot..."$300 Dollars!..for WHAT!"
I find it much easier now to simply say " Hey! Honey..check this out." show her a picture/add/ etc..for something I want and then "we" decide if it's "doable"...I get what I want about half the time...not to shabby.

After three or four years of on and off bickering about money and purchases of models, comics, and movies, we simply started a separate bank account where a certain amount of my bi-weekly check goes. This changed the conversation from "you haven't finished your CSM, you can't buy anything else", to "hey, is this check going towards comics or models, because I'll go to the mall if your buying comics..." etc.

My wife has slowly come to know the general fluff of 40k, and knows what armies I play and the basic units in those armies. I work second shift, and she works first, so on nights when I'm home she'll ask about my day and if I worked on minis she is always happy to look.

Other than the money issue, which has been resolved, she has always been supportive.

My Fiancee is actually quite knowledgeable with my Tau army. To the point, she can tell you the history of them, as well as explain the war gear. She does make fun of me, but she does ask questions, and help me paint.

Now when tournament time comes around it is a different story. She comes from a very competitive family, so when I go to the shop to sign up for a tournament she gets all excited like i'm going to play foot ball or something.

She actually got kicked out for screaming "Kick his ass baby!" during one of my matches. I was so proud.

My wife is very supportive of the hobby. She's not interested in it herself but she has occasionally bought me 40k models and she always encourages me to invite my friends over to play games.

Its viewed as better than if I were hanging out in a bar. Weiner Dog command however loves it as they love the taste of the paint.

My girlfriend is very supportive, she bought me loads of Dark Elves for xmas this year, I even managed to get her to paint up a Moria Goblin, which is a lot better than my first ever model was a lot better than mine was! She's very supportive in general and will be coming to GD '11 too!

My ex wife was very supportive. Perhaps too much so. She got a kick out of feeding other peoples addictions. She actually would start me out on new armies and such. One Christmas I opened a large box and found a Tomb Kings Army Box stuffed will additional Tomb Kings. And a full SIsters army stuffed in as well.

My girlfriend is also supportive. She calls me Alpha Geek. I don't really know why; I'm not THAT great a gamer. SHE is the one who worked in Tech Support, lol. But she puts together models sometimes, finds it therapeutic.

Strangely it was one of my other half's friends that got me interested 10 years ago, now we have painting time together, she builds her own models (mostly), reads the black library books and incredibly she's encouraging me to start a dark elf army

BTW she has Tau, Eldar, Grey Knight and High Elf forces, and the beginnings of a Hordes force.

So, yep she's supportive and I wouldn't have it any other way.

Don't want to be in a relationship, but my niece who is younger than 5 laughs at the Orks with topknots and calls them monkeys

My wife sees it as a necessary evil with a side of amusement.

Modeling and painting is what I do for stress relief and is my hobby. Money not spent on 40K or Garage Kits would just get spent in some other leisure fashion.

She runs away when I say "Nurgle", because she is terrified of some CSM pictures.

...Yeah.

not surprising... Nurgle units arent exactly the most eye pleasing