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just a guess, but i would say that shes one of many lol

Wow may Jebus help that man

I would bet that he's already been given the "Don't let the door hit your ass on the way out" speech and is sitting in a roach-infested craphole apartment that used to be a basement of a run down house wondering what he did wrong. I've seen it happen to friends of mine, and it only gets worse from there.

Bizarrely one sided.

I mean, we are fairly sad in what we do, but if the letter is to be believed, she just sits at home waiting for him....

Mad Doc Grotsnik wrote:Bizarrely one sided.

I mean, we are fairly sad in what we do, but if the letter is to be believed, she just sits at home waiting for him....

That's because she would rather sit around and build up her hatred than be happy. She will break him down one nagging at a time until finally he is such a drone that he willingly follows her to bed, bath and beyond, antique shopping on Sunday instead of watching football. The Horror!

Guy played the game well. Gotta love it when you have a girl who's hopelessly attached to you. Do whatever you want and she'll stay around.

Damn warpcrafter. That sounds decidedly like the voice of experience talking. Pray I'm wrong?

You know, I just realized (after 15 years as a gamer and 10 years with my wife between dating and marriage) my wife is the only girl in my life I have ever shared my wargaming with. And she enables the hell out of my habit. I guess that that makes me a really lucky gamer, since I've never had to deal with the Anti-Gaming Psycho.

Maybe he wants her to join him? Cause all that time, I think he might be trying to get her to spend time with him, but he doesn't want to ask her.

Oh, and I should add...woman talk to me like that, I'd be all like....

'HEY! You stop, dressing me up like a Mailman, and making be dance for you, whilst you go, and smoke crack, with some guy I don't know, in my Dads room'

Yeah, that'll learn her.

Uneccesary accusations that have nothing to do with anything solve everything (ain't life funny).

Wifey: I want you to game a little less.

You: Oh yeah well, was that another woman I saw you making out with on the balcony last Thursday?

Wifey: lolwut...

You: That's right.

Now, I might well be a deviant, so that taken into account, your problem with the above situation would be what, precisely?

grizgrin wrote:Damn warpcrafter. That sounds decidedly like the voice of experience talking. Pray I'm wrong?

You know, I just realized (after 15 years as a gamer and 10 years with my wife between dating and marriage) my wife is the only girl in my life I have ever shared my wargaming with. And she enables the hell out of my habit. I guess that that makes me a really lucky gamer, since I've never had to deal with the Anti-Gaming Psycho.

It wasn't gaming, it was a band that me and my friends were starting. The ridiculous thing about the whole situation is that the ultimatum was delivered on our third date, and when I chose the band, the bitch stabbed me. She's still on the loose, wish I had a picture so I could warn people. Ironically enough, it was a few weeks after than when I broke two fingers in my left hand, which ended my days as a budding musician.

Mate of mine was a Drummer. Accident at work reduced the skin on his hand to a glove.

He's still drumming!

Come on Warpy...surely you can get back to where you are with a little dedication to the cause.

Grots: I wouldn't see that as a PROBLEM, per say, but merely a possibility of leverage. Say she has a very conservative family, they'd be MORTIFIED to find out the darling daughter was, shall we say, ambiguous in her sexual preferances...

Warpcrafter: Dude, you KNOW how to pick 'em. So do the single guys a favor and keep pickin the psychos so they won't have to drive into those particular potholes?

grizgrin wrote:Grots: I wouldn't see that as a PROBLEM, per say, but merely a possibility of leverage. Say she has a very conservative family, they'd be MORTIFIED to find out the darling daughter was, shall we say, ambiguous in her sexual preferances...

Warpcrafter: Dude, you KNOW how to pick 'em. So do the single guys a favor and keep pickin the psychos so they won't have to drive into those particular potholes?

It's a family trait. She was the last one, though. I handed off the job of bitch-magnet to my brother. Since '87 he's been married six times, each worse off then the last. I haven't talked to him in twelve years, since he's only nice to people he can borrow money from.

MDG: The other guys in the band that never was are either dead, in prison or married to their own personal torturer from whom they have no chance of escape. These days I'm satisfied just listening.

Mad Doc Grotsnik wrote:Mate of mine was a Drummer. Accident at work reduced the skin on his hand to a glove.

He's still drumming!

Come on Warpy...surely you can get back to where you are with a little dedication to the cause.

The drummer from Def Leppard only had one arm but made a professional career out of it. At the end of the day it's only drumming, guitar is a little different.

thats weird, the gaming group i once upon a time got involved with had a guy in it that had basicly the same problem...only difference was his crazy bird kept threatning to kill his dog if he didnt spend more time with her. call me sick but i couldn't give him advice for laughing so hard. you gotta be wrong in the head not to kick someone like that out of your life toot sweet.

sebster wrote:

Mad Doc Grotsnik wrote:Mate of mine was a Drummer. Accident at work reduced the skin on his hand to a glove.

He's still drumming!

Come on Warpy...surely you can get back to where you are with a little dedication to the cause.

The drummer from Def Leppard only had one arm but made a professional career out of it. At the end of the day it's only drumming, guitar is a little different.

Erk! Didn't mean to berate the guy, more try to encourage.

Sorry if I gave the wrong end of that stick!

Tbh I'm more impressed by the lady writing the 'agony aunt pages' response.
Usually when you see someone raise the 'he's a gamer, I'm not getting enough time with him' the response is usually 'kick that little boy to the curb and find yourself a real man!'

She also seemed to know what the heck she was talking about as well, so I'd give her bonus marks.

As to the guy/girl involved, sounds odd, even as a gamer in my early twenties I was lucky to game more than twice a week.
If hes doing the band thing and gaming 2 nights to three nights week, (so is off 5 nights regulary) I actually (and don't throw fruit at me here folks) think she has a point.

But maybe thats just me.

I think that many nights gaming and spending so much you can't insure your car is irresponsible, and the woman in question has a reason to be worried. The fact that she asked an agony aunt what to do is what baffles me.

She doesn't have a reason to be worried as far as the guy is concerned. Her worries would stem from what she finds when she asks herself why she's still with someone who is not what she needs/wants. Despite the title I gave the thread (tongue, meet cheek), the guy is over the top interested in other things besides her, and she's a wastoid for still being there. This guy is not for her. Admittedly, the article is all we have to go on, but going on what we have you have to wonder what kind of insecurities (or, consider the possibility, realities of being a fething troll herself) keep her with her Knight-In-gakky-Armour.

Mad Doc Grotsnik wrote:Erk! Didn't mean to berate the guy, more try to encourage.

Sorry if I gave the wrong end of that stick!

Yeah, I didn't mean to imply otherwise. I was really just trying to make fun of drummers. We bass players need all the morale boosts we can get.

she just has to deal with the fact that miniatures are more important to him than she is. Maybe their is a reason for that?

thedarkside69 wrote:she just has to deal with the fact that miniatures are more important to him than she is. Maybe their is a reason for that?

Uh, I think what you're implying is pretty off base. Some kind of claim that if the girl was more interesting he wouldn't be gaming is a really bad way of looking at the relationship. A partner shouldn't compete for time over hobbies, if there comes a point where one person in the relationship is deciding between a fourth night of gaming or spending one night with their SO... then the relationship is pretty dysfunctional one way or another.

If you find your partner so uninteresting that you never see them in order to game, you should do the right thing and end the relationship. He didn't, probably because she was a nice security blanket as the advice columnist suggested.

warpcrafter wrote:She will break him down one nagging at a time until finally he is such a drone that he willingly follows her to bed, bath and beyond, antique shopping on Sunday instead of watching football. The Horror!

That sounds like a better use of a Sunday than sitting around watching football(unless you're talking about what we Americans wrongfully call Soccer). Then again, I generally despise sports.

I'll agree with the assessment that, if what she says is true (esp. putting money into game instead of real life), yeah, he's in trouble and she needs to bail. Quick.

Almost as quick as he needs to get perspective.

What's that book again? "He's just not that into you"?