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So dakkadakka.
My current gf and I had gotten into a pretty big fight and she blow up big time. she went to my work desk where i paint and assemble my models well i had just finished painting my blood angels. She walks over to the desk and flips it(glass table top) and breaks and bends about 600 dollars worth of spacemarine models counting some vehicals. Has this happened to anyone else what does one do i told her she needs to pay me back for costs and time spent on models as well as replacing my work desk. How would you guys/girls deal with such a problem.

What happened there is not okay on any level, time for a new girlfriend. Seriously, it's not worth the trouble, flipping a table is not a valid reaction to an arguement (assuming you did not strike her.)

Unreal. I don't think she realized just how expensive those models are, most people don't. You should get your money back for sure, then go throw her makeup in the trash and she how she reacts.

Break up.
File a claim for damages in small claims court.

Violent tempers aren't to be messed with.

If my gf does anything like that she is gonna get ripped by the chainsword and I am deadly serious!

100% agree with the break up. That is straight up unacceptable behavior. My fiancee' and I argue and fight but never has she threw/stomped/flipped my models in a fit of rage. Doesn't matter what the fight was about it is unacceptable. You should also demand that she pay you for broken models.

Time for a new gf and now a small claims case which has been said. Forget throwing the makeup into the trash, just throw the (hopefully now) ex-gf into the trash and get yourself a new model. (both army and gf)

If she is as crazy as she seems I would forgo attempts to get money back to have her out of my life forever! I have tried to collect money from crazy. You end up with crazy².

My advice to you, dump her... Quick.

What I would actually do if it was my girl, wait for her to apologize, accept her apology, and then wait patiently for her to do it again. However, my girl has lot's of redeeming features that make it well worth it, so that might enter into your decision as well.

Did you just sit back and watch this happen? It would take some time to go through $600 worth of stuff and destroy it. All that aside, no, I've never had something like that happen. Good luck getting the money out of her though...hell hath no fury like a woman scorned.

stileprojekt wrote: She walks over to the desk and flips it(glass table top) and breaks and bends about 600 dollars worth of spacemarine models counting some vehicals.

I would think the models are sort of an incidental issue, here... If she's getting carried away enough to be throwing furniture around, she needs some help with anger management.

Whether it's worthy of a break-up rather than trying to resolve the issue would depend on just how serious the relationship is.

What was the cause of your fight?

If it was those miniatures, that might explain her reaction (not that it is ok, however). Sometimes anger make us do things we wouldn't do otherwise, it's up to you to choose if you want to forgive her, or not. But if you do, make it clear that there's a line not to cross, and that damaging things out of frustration isn't something she'll get away twice.


If it was completely unrelated, her destroying those was an act of cruelty, she wanted to really hurt you, so you might want to break up. And preemptively change any of your passwords she know about, better safe than sorry.

First, your Girlfriend has issues. Break up with her as flipping a glass table is not a proper outlet for her anger. It will only get worse. She doesn't sound like much of keeper anyhow.

Second, you need to verify the cost of the damage. Whatever cannot be fixed or salvaged needs to be priced out. Tell her she owes you for damages. Take pictures of the damaged goods as evidence. If she does not pay it's small claims court time.

Third don't make excuses for her. Get your money and move on. She intentionally targeted your stuff, it was not spur of the moment she knew that destroying these models would hurt you both financially and personally due to the time you invested in them.

If the actually model loss is relatively small (as opposed to time loss), you'll probably be better off psychologically just breaking up and walking away.

Every guy pays the crazy tax at some point.

Out of curiosity how big was this glass table she flipped? Just kinda wondering just how beasty is this girl?

Polonius wrote:If the actually model loss is relatively small (as opposed to time loss), you'll probably be better off psychologically just breaking up and walking away.

Every guy pays the crazy tax at some point.

Never really heard of it being referred to as the crazy tax, but your right, we have all paid it at some point.

Yeah breaking up with sounds the best option here.

She be crazy. :/

Polonius wrote:Break up.
File a claim for damages in small claims court.

Violent tempers aren't to be messed with.

This, assuming stuff is in fact irreparably damaged. I'm guessing you should be able to glue most of it back together into a good as new state. Your paintjob might need a touchup here and there, and its going to take time. If the desk is damaged though, I would definitely pursue damages for that.

To anwser a few questions, the fight was a about our car being broken down for a few days. with very little money to fix it at the current time. it was in a safe place were it would not be towed and had people looking over it.
when the fist started i had told her i was taking everything that was in my name ouf of the house b/c this is uncalled for. i was taking the computer i got her everything i had bought was coming with me. i was packing stuff up in a fit of rage and she walks to my desk throws a box fan and then rips the top of my desk of smashing my models.

the dmg cost for models i have ran up 2 new baal preds
the chasis is bent. marines about i have 60 jump pack marines id say 25 with special weapons can not be fixed.

my vanguard vets which were the metal figs i have 10 of them i have broken legs and arms and power fists were snapped in half.

my metal librarian was dmged both arms bent.
my stormravems 2x have been crushed and bent.

2x ven dreads bent and cracked
2x furioso dreads bent andc racked

chipped paint and cosmeic dmg done to everything.

I'd lose the GF, but honestly i wouldn't bother with small claims court stuff. I'd jus trepair stuff and paint over. maybe in vehicles if plastic is cracked a little green suff?glue and call it good enough. probably not worth seeing ms. crazy pants agian over

Commisar Wolfie wrote:Out of curiosity how big was this glass table she flipped? Just kinda wondering just how beasty is this girl?

2 feet by 4 feet.it was a thin piece of glass that was the top part of desk on a metal frame. very lite.

1. What did you do before that reaction.

2. What happend that you cant just fix them. I know nothing without chemicals that can ,,break" 40k models.

Dark Scipio wrote:1. What did you do before that reaction.

2. What happend that you cant just fix them. I know nothing without chemicals that can ,,break" 40k models.

1.before the reaction i was packing everything i had bought in the house i collected most of the stuff and was getting boxes to pack them away in my truck and get to a friends house.

2. cracks in big chuncks of plastic, snaped in half arms metal figures bent to the point if you bend back they will break apart. about 21 pots of paint spilled on the floor.

Drop the Crazy, take your stuff and get outta there. Anyone who flips out and breaks stuff (hulks out) needs a diferent place to live.

If she's hot I'd let it pass.

You know the OP's rank is perfect. Annoyed Devastator rofl.
Anyway she is a lunatic. get rid of her.

I don't care how hot the chick is, if she can go that crazy and start hulking out on the furniture it's only a matter of time until she hulks out and does bodily harm. Get a more stable model is my advice.

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With that said:

That sounds like an interesting situation stileprojekt. I would recommend seeing a therapist in person. That way a professional can diagnose your situation as they can fully understand it when meeting with you. Couples therapy helps a lot of people, and even though not all the couples that go to therapy stay together, they are able to make an informed decision as to what to do with their lives, be that apart or together.

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I mean she has never done this and id figure someone who is a nurse and cares for people and all do something like this just erks me. and she hands are messed up from doing what she did. she slammed her hands on the desk. i mean im not giving her all the blame i was a factor in this but it should not have gone this far.

I don't really know where the question even lies. Sounds like you were headed on down the road anyway. Take the goods and hit the highway brother!

That's my initial assessment, and there's lots of factors that play into a situation like this. I don't know every detail of your personal and romantic life, but this chick sounds nuts. Like, Amy Fisher/Brynn Omdahl nuts. Walk out before they carry you out in a box.