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Shadowsword8 wrote:What was the cause of your fight?

If it was those miniatures, that might explain her reaction (not that it is ok, however). Sometimes anger make us do things we wouldn't do otherwise, it's up to you to choose if you want to forgive her, or not. But if you do, make it clear that there's a line not to cross, and that damaging things out of frustration isn't something she'll get away twice.


If it was completely unrelated, her destroying those was an act of cruelty, she wanted to really hurt you, so you might want to break up. And preemptively change any of your passwords she know about, better safe than sorry.

I agree 100% with this post.

I am glad you made your armor save, but I still don't know why you didn't retaliate with 'BLOOD FOR THE BLOOD GOD!" I think that might have gotten your feelings across. In all seriousness I hope you move on. No one deserves to be in a bad relationship. (except you slanneshians, you like that stuff)

Polonius wrote:If the actually model loss is relatively small (as opposed to time loss), you'll probably be better off psychologically just breaking up and walking away.

Every guy pays the crazy tax at some point.

QFT - Yeah seriously. The trick is to not end up too high on the lethality scale.

Seriously: The Lethality Scale is a scale used to determine risk of danger in a relationship.

It rates risk like this:

1.Throwing things, punching the wall

2. Pushing, shoving, grabbing, throwing things at you

3. Slapping with an open hand

4. Kicking, biting

5. Hitting with closed fists

6. Attempted strangulation

7. Beating up, pinning to the wall or floor, repeated kicks and punches

8.Threatening with a weapon

9. Assault with a weapon

10. Attempted or Successful murder.

Your girl is at a 2. Once someone gets to 5, there is a very high probability of a rapid, or instant increase to level 10. That is why crisis counselors advise that once someone starts throwing things (Level 1) seek help... she is at 2 bro, you are quickly running out of time. Get her some help, or GTFO.

Don't be a statistic. It sucks, but seriously do something soon.

I would definately get my own place. If you want to still see her, fine, but put some space between you two for now. If she is still crazy just cut it off. Get help, see someone, document everything.

My 2 cents.

First of all, seek a lawyer or paralegal. Get pictures of the models post trauma. Don't repair the models until you do so. Try and also get counseling if you are going to choose to stay together. Her throwing stuff at you, should not be a valid reaction to anything in an arguement.

Second. Change your passwords to everything, don't leave any passwords lying around, withdraw anything in a joint account thats yours if you share it with her. Keep your stuff in your own room and keep her out of the room, lock with a padlock.

Thirdly, don't taunt with models. What I mean by that is try and spend time with her, or other friends more. If she's relaliated against your models, she knows they will hurt you.

Beachez be crazy.

Shoulda had a heavier desk.

Time to get all commisar on her....

Break up, she is a person that doesnt want you to have a life/hobby. She wants that she gets all your attention, fancy mirrors and shiny fings, she wants that you give her stuff, and that you dont buy things for yourself. Ofcourse, I can be wrong, but its obvious that she wants that 6000 dollar bag instead of you collecting toy soldiers As I already said, I can be wrong, but thats how many woman are, mostly caring about themselfs. Not all of them are like that, but many are. She was (in her anger) clearly intend on breaking your models (toy soldiers). If she was out on destruction, she would merely threw off the curtains, slam the tv etc. No, she doesnt seem very nice in that ffew sentences about her. Albeit you dont think it, she was guilty. Even if you are mad, you know that when you slam things, it breaks, falls or more things like that. You also know that things that are on it will break, fall, etc. Allright, she is a nurse. However, it can be a very frustrating job ecause you have all those people that you need to help and so on. Especially some irretating elderly people who scream every 10 seconds 'NURSE!' because their water isnt tasty enough (its water after all). No, she doesnt seem very nice to me, but ask her how she feels about it. Indeed, the best she can do is buy all your Scions of Sanguinius back for you. Hope it might help, it proboably wont, its me, but good luck with it anyways.
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Dr. Thenoobbomb

Get a place of your own, get her to pay you back for the minis, keep seeing her but at her place, learn MMA, keep an eye out for weapons.

Crazy sex is often very good, after all.

stileprojekt wrote:
To anwser a few questions, the fight was a about our car being broken down for a few days. with very little money to fix it at the current time. it was in a safe place were it would not be towed and had people looking over it.
when the fist started i had told her i was taking everything that was in my name ouf of the house b/c this is uncalled for. i was taking the computer i got her everything i had bought was coming with me. i was packing stuff up in a fit of rage and she walks to my desk throws a box fan and then rips the top of my desk of smashing my models.

Smashing your stuff up is uncool, if she is any kind of girlfriend she would know how much time and effort you put into the hobby and respect that, but it sounds like you were acting like a bit of a tit as well. What was the fight over exactly as you don't say what actually caused it, just that it was about your car being off the road?

If you spent the 600 Dollars on your stupid plastic men, as my girlfriends calls them, rather than getting the car fixed then sorry buddy, I have no sympathy for you. When you are in a relationship it's all about prioritizing. If you need the car for the school or shopping run, then you get the car fixed.

If you don't fight a lot then there might be something else that she's concerned about underneath that, generally with my misses if we have a benny there is a catalyst that starts it off, but with her being upset about other things thats she's scared or worried about.

Pilau Rice wrote:Smashing your stuff up is uncool, if she is any kind of girlfriend she would know how much time and effort you put into the hobby and respect that, but it sounds like you were acting like a bit of a tit as well. What was the fight over exactly as you don't say what actually caused it, just that it was about your car being off the road?

If you spent the 600 Dollars on your stupid plastic men, as my girlfriends calls them, rather than getting the car fixed then sorry buddy, I have no sympathy for you. When you are in a relationship it's all about prioritizing. If you need the car for the school or shopping run, then you get the car fixed.

If you don't fight a lot then there might be something else that she's concerned about underneath that, generally with my misses if we have a benny there is a catalyst that starts it off, but with her being upset about other things thats she's scared or worried about.

I had a lot of this with my ex-wife.
Since I said ex, take my comments with a pinch of salt, but if there's stuff getting smashed, there's probably something else wrong that might not get brought up.
We got sent to councelling, and it helped to find the main problem. Whether it helps, that's up to you two.

Financial issues always cause trouble, which often just gets in the way of any other issues. A bill to fix the car might not be that big, but we found it might just be too much.

Its your own fault for having a glass table. Glass goes in windows, it belongs nowhere else.

Skinnereal wrote:
I had a lot of this with my ex-wife.
Since I said ex, take my comments with a pinch of salt, but if there's stuff getting smashed, there's probably something else wrong that might not get brought up.
We got sent to councelling, and it helped to find the main problem. Whether it helps, that's up to you two.

Financial issues always cause trouble, which often just gets in the way of any other issues. A bill to fix the car might not be that big, but we found it might just be too much.

Are you directing this too me or are you reiterating my post, as you've pretty much said exactly what I have, minus the counseling part, but quoted me

Pilau Rice wrote:Are you directing this too me or are you reiterating my post, as you've pretty much said exactly what I have, minus the counseling part, but quoted me

I was pointing out that I seemed to have had similar to what you'd said.

I should maybe have quoted you and posted "This.", but I got carried away.

My fiance threw my drop pod like a football against a wall. She almost put John Elway to shame.

Did you roll on the deepstrike mishap table?

@OP - for sensible advice I'd go with the majority of posters and say 'run away'. But, as some of these wise internet gurus have mentioned, if your GF is hot and you get some angry and/or makeup sex (particularly the really naughty kind!) then you might want to roll with it a little longer.

I second the call for pics! (wrecked models, GF, random funny stuff - whatever you like!).

Mr. DK wrote:Beachez be crazy.

Ugh.

I know the thread's practically asking for misogynistic comments like this and that dumb image macro above it, but come on...

Apparently all girlfriends who break up with guys are crazy, and you should only ever listen to his point of view, because hers isn't important.

thenoobbomb wrote: Ofcourse, I can be wrong, but its obvious that she wants that 6000 dollar bag instead of you collecting toy soldiers As I already said, I can be wrong, but thats how many woman are, mostly caring about themselfs. Not all of them are like that, but many are.

That's not just women, that's people in general. The comment on the 6000 dollar bag is kinda sexist, as is your whole post.

Toastedandy wrote:Its your own fault for having a glass table. Glass goes in windows, it belongs nowhere else.

Crazy girlfriend in question spotted.

Like what's already been said, get outta dodge. Pack up, move out, dump her now. Or if you own the place, throw her out. Though I don't think it's worth the headache of trying to get money out of her for what she broke. Just ditch her now. When the dust settles, go over your broke models and see what you can fix, whatever is beyond repair can become terrain pieces or dead-marine objective markers

ok, not that I would have a lot of experience in the matter, but I know for a fact that talking always helps. I wouldn't suggest immediately breaking up, but have you talked with your gf every since the fight? If you could, then find out exactly WHY she did what she did. That way you can see what the problem is and find a better solution. Maybe she felt you were spending too much time on the models when you should have tried to get your car fixed etc. Of course if you do break up, you should try to get your money back, but I don't really recommend going legal about it. People who don't play Warhammer (or collect models) would just see your damaged stuff as mere 'toys' and not worth that much trouble.

Melissia wrote:

Mr. DK wrote:Beachez be crazy.

Ugh.

I know the thread's practically asking for misogynistic comments like this and that dumb image macro above it, but come on...

Apparently all girlfriends who break up with guys are crazy, and you should only ever listen to his point of view, because hers isn't important.

Hey, it's only because the girls who never break up with guys are dating donkey-caves.

This is simple. You were already packing to get out of there. So follow your plan get out and get away.

Don't go after damages. It isn't worth the legal hassle. Consider that you have to find a lawyer, go through all the time and money up front to follow the case through and have no guarantee(sp?) of getting $1 back.

If your Space Marines are too fethed up, then convert them to Orks!!

Crazy escalates. Keep safe.

Melissia wrote:

Mr. DK wrote:Beachez be crazy.

Ugh.

I know the thread's practically asking for misogynistic comments like this and that dumb image macro above it, but come on...

Apparently all girlfriends who break up with guys are crazy, and you should only ever listen to his point of view, because hers isn't important.

Sorry Melissia, but you're a bit off on this one.

If she had thrown something like a glass or a single tank, then I'd agree with you that it was frustration and not crazy. That's a reasonable response with anger.

She freaking FLIPPED A TABLE.

That's not a reasonable response(for either sex) and is indicative of deeper issues, either psychologically or in how she views the relationship.

stileprojekt wrote:
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So has this happened to anyone else in the dakkaverse?

My answer to this is no. My wife is an enabling sex-pot. I don't have enough time to paint because of it, but she doesn't hesitate to buy me models. Hooray!

Polonius wrote:Break up.
File a claim for damages in small claims court.

Violent tempers aren't to be messed with.

This man.. Id be super pissed!

If my missus smashed my models up during an argument, its breakupville baby!

My advice:

1) Break up with her.

2) Have a police escort with you when you go get your stuff.

3) Accept the fact that you will never see the money for those models. You may try and recover it, but it most likely won't go well.

4) Embrace the opportunity to start an army other than Blood Angels.

Well.. In my opinion (and i'm warning you know it's not always right nor good) then you should seek counseling, talk to her find out why she freaks this much out, just make sure not to raise your voice too much and remember the golden rule: Never EVER EVER hit a woman, because woman beaters deserve everything that come at them.

All this above is my opinion and point of view.

Platuan4th wrote:

Melissia wrote:

Mr. DK wrote:Beachez be crazy.

Ugh.

I know the thread's practically asking for misogynistic comments like this and that dumb image macro above it, but come on...

Apparently all girlfriends who break up with guys are crazy, and you should only ever listen to his point of view, because hers isn't important.

Sorry Melissia, but you're a bit off on this one.

If she had thrown something like a glass or a single tank, then I'd agree with you that it was frustration and not crazy. That's a reasonable response with anger.

She freaking FLIPPED A TABLE.

That's not a reasonable response(for either sex) and is indicative of deeper issues, either psychologically or in how she views the relationship.

If this was a girl talking about a guy flipping out and smashing her stuff the advice would be the same. Leave this person immediately.

The kneejerk cries of misogyny are laughable.

Polonius wrote:Break up.
File a claim for damages in small claims court.

Violent tempers aren't to be messed with.

Polonius is wise in the ways of the...whatever.

Step 1: Break up.

Step 2: Small claims court.

Step 3: Start wearing a cup if you know she'll be near.

Monster Rain wrote:If this was a girl talking about a guy flipping out and smashing her stuff the advice would be the same. Leave this person immediately.

The kneejerk cries of misogyny are laughable.

In fairness, I think she was talking about the very few generalist comments deriding women as a whole that have popped up over the course of the thread, rather than the specific case outlined by the OP. Of course, there's never an excuse for wanton destruction of property. The overall response should be measured against the seriousness of the relationship. If it's a relationship the OP really wants to salvage, some form of counselling is a must - as others have said, erratic tempers are dismissed lightly at one's peril. If the OP does not consider it a relationship worth salvaging, the sensible option is to leave her and file a small claims suit.

Yeah, never hit a woman... well, anyone if you can help it.

Seriously, while it may seem wimpy, the biggest reality check a woman (or anyone for that matter...) can get is to be called to account legally for a temper tantrum or outburst. If you respond in kind, all you do is justify their anger.

Sure, it'll be the end of your relationship, but it's better to end the relationship than to have that kind of thing hanging over your head. That kind of aggressiveness has an underlying cause you might not want to face in a few years. Especially if her response was out of proportion to the cause.

Besides, think of it this way, while you might be out $600 bucks, you have saved yourself a lot of trouble should she decide later on to try and up the ante. In addition, if the reality check works, you may have saved another guy from falling into the same trap.

You'll both have learned something.

I was in a similar situation a few years back with a "former" gf that decided my 3 month old Ducati 1098 was a Pinata. There were signs for a while that she had anger issues. Had I nipped the relationship in the bud earlier I could have saved myself a lot of unnecessary heartache.