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Every 2nd and 4th sunday of the month i go to my local wargaming club for some gaming. I have been attending for some years now but unfortunately for me, some of the kids there are imperium freindly and so almost every time i go there now, my army (I play chaos) and i get called gay, some other names! and boring. One time this got so bad that when we started playing a game, the two i was playing against (there are four in total) said this sucks put away their miniatures and walked off for lunch, to add insult to injury when i asked for a chance to put my chaos terminators in the other two's game i got called gay some more times and practically shooed from the table.

I tried finding another wargaming club but since i live in a small town, there is only one other and that goes only once a month.

So in the end what should i do? Should i go back and stand up for myself or just leave and never go back.

I don't believe you should ever be in a situation like that if you're doing this for 'fun'.
Clearly these people are immature and are certainly not the kind of people you want to be playing games with and spending time with.

Hang out somewhere else. If there isn't a somewhere else - MAKE a somewhere else.

~Ghost

Yes, I agree. Get some friends and play at someones house, even if you have to use cereal boxes and cups as terrain on a kitchen table. Way better then playing with those guys. Getting called "gay" for playing as Chaos is just plain stupid. Half expected you to say they called Chaos OP too. Not to mention that saying "gay" is derogatory.

I would have a hard time not hitting them in the face. Things like that get me frustrated/mad pretty quickly.

You have nothing to be ashamed of mate, there is NOTHING wrong with playing a different army. I personally dont like Eldar, but I'm not immature enough to call the player gay, or otherwise.

Common courtesy is one of the few things that keep us human. I would either A) Go back and stand up for yourself, because quite honestly, Chaos kicks ass. Field an army, destroy theirs, and then dont be a jerk. Shake their hand, and say "Good Game". B) Find another club, or take GhostxHeart's advice and make a table and play from home. or C) Channel that Chaos fury, and unleash the Warp, brother.

We all have people like that in our lives. There are even some on the forums here. But as long as you never back down, and do what's right, you're a good person who deserves to be treated correctly.

Its up to you mate, there are always choices in life.
And Good luck!

EDIT: On a side note, Chaos is brilliant, and it is a good army. If anything, you have more rights to insult them because they're following in the footsteps of every freaking person ever hahahaha

Don't play against them. Play against other people in the club and let everyone else see how the kids react.

The kids are just trying to get a rise out of you. The best way to counter it is when they start making fun of you, give them a big old smile, and shrug, followed by "Haters gonna hate." and make themselves look like asses and get kicked out because of it.

Don't insult them back. Don't lose your cool. Just don't care. Be there to have a good time with the other cub Members.

Now if other people have seen this and still play against this group of kids (or if you are the only 5 members) then I would look at the other club.


Quality games with good people> Quantity games with stupid kids.

That sounds like a very special circle of hell. Ignore the kids, they'll hopefully grow up someday and stop being idiots. Find some friends and play with them instead. This bunch of phobes sounds like they're not worth anyone's time, especially yours.

Thanks for the words of encouragement i think i know what i am going to do.

1) go back there and play a game against the adults in the club
2) Play game against the kids, if the teasing does not stop i will check out the other club.
3) If the other club is not so good, will look at playing games with my friends in the club facilities

Wish me luck the next meeting is on the 27th.

Oh wow I am anti IoM but only as a joke I would never go out of my way to harass someone over the army they choose to play.

Maybe you should avoid playing kids they never really know the rules anyway and tbh its creepy if your over 20 and trying to get a game in with some snotty nosed brat.

Or do what I have done and just play at home its fairly cheap to make terrain and boards and the its much nicer to be able to have a beer and just play your game at your own pace.

Also if you do go the home route you will end up with a little mini club of sorts anyway as you slowly "recruit" more gamers into your little coven.

Reach across... crack him one on the nose and simply say "grow up".

I don't get it. If you really like the Imperium, and you play an Imperial factor, why would you be hostile to playing against the Imperium's enemies? Surely that's what you want to do?

I just don't get it. Idiot kids.

Wow - they sound like total tools. I would look for someone else to play against in the club, or bring someone with me to play.

Failing that I would see about talking to the club organiser about their behaviour.

Ridiculous. Now, my immediate group of gamers makes fun of me because I play Dark Angels because (in their words) I am playing "chaos lite". But the ribbing is all in good fun. These kids are just morons. Find a new group and move on, maybe you'll see them in a tournament one day, beat them, and respond "gaaaaaaaay" to them!

What age are they? 10?

Summon slanesh and see how 'gay' they are ....

I don't like other armies, but I just show that by displaying their heads in my trophy case (I'm making one) but seriously gay? I'm going to say if their only 10, they are still tools but probably have no knowledge of what the word means.

They sound like compete idiots. I'd have to leave in order to restrain myself from punching them in the face for continually using the word 'gay' in that manner.

Aren't there adults at this thing to play with?

Heh, what town are you from? I remember going on holyday last year and there was nobody to play 40k with for miles.

On topic...
They just sound like a pain in the behind to me. Maybe they're just sad because you always beet them. heh heh heh

I think its important that when dealing with kids that you try and behave like a mentor towards them therefor becomeing a kind of goto guy on anything about 40k they dont know. Give rulings in situations that they can't understand.

Oh and ask they why your armys gay. thats always a good one. and jont forget, they wership a dead god, its you that should be laughing at them!

This is weird behaviour cos everyone knows that the gays only like to play Tau?

In all seriousness the club if it deserves that name reall should have a bit more oversight on the youngsters. Members behaviour is their responsibility after all. No one likes silly kids around war-games it reminds too many people that it isn't actually "serioz biznuss". Have a word with the organisers and ask them to monitor it, they should behave themselves after that or get kicked to the curb.

That said I'd just chin the first one to open his mouth then sleep with his mum.

As has been said, find someone to play who has a mental age in double figures.

Well it sounds like you're playing with some real morons.

Personally I wouldn't see being called gay as an insult.
But yes I would have a word with the organisers, or find others in the group to play.

Or next time they call your Chaos gay you could reply with, "your views really do reflect that your totalitarian Imperium is is a corrupt, prejudiced regime cowering like children under the lifeless shadow of a false god-emperor. Blood for the Blood God, a-holes!"

Well, I must say that just to be on the safe side, that there could be certain conversions done to a Slaanesh themed chaos army that could make them 'gay' more than likely your army does not qualify for that.

A good way of dealing with the issue in an adult way would be to stonily glare at them and then ask 'what, are you eight years old?'

when i asked for a chance to put my chaos terminators in the other two's game i got called gay some more times and practically shooed from the table.

wtf? Oo

You get up to somebody having a game and asking them, to have your terminators participate?

Are you certain that you're not leaving out a little detail about the interaction between your group and you?

Are you entirely sure, that not even a small part of the problem here lies with your attitude?

Sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hut me. Some people really need to learn this adage.

You're insulted by the word "gay?" Are you insulted by the word "heterosexual" as well?
Sorry, while I must say that the people you are playing with are definitely immature, it also seems like that's not the only problem at hand.

Kouzuki wrote:You're insulted by the word "gay?" Are you insulted by the word "heterosexual" as well?

Let's not kill the messenger here.
Everyone has a right to play whatever army they want without having their sexuality brought into it or questioned in any manner.

To the OP. It's time to find different opponents. Whether it's older folks at the club or friends from elsewhere, these kids aren't worth your time.

See, I hate the eldar about as much as those kids at your store hate Chaos.

Still, all that means is that I'll play you as often as possible, as that guarantees more dead eldar

And while I may not call you "gay" during the game, I'll be sure to utter catch phrases such as, "Die Xenos!" during the game. Seems kind of immature to refuse to play you, or to attack you personally for your army choice.

You know, I just dont get their behavior. But then I was the BA player who had 20 khorne berzerkers in jumppacks for my assault squad BA. Screw it, find another place to play, other peple to play in the same place, or a different past time. Or defend yourself and prepare to get your head handed to you if there are that many of them. Kids are ridiculous sometimes.



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You know, if you opt for a change of venue in your decision, you might try Vassal, even just in addition to your table top 40k. Look it up and give it a shot.

blood reaper wrote:I don't like other armies, but I just show that by displaying their heads in my trophy case (I'm making one) but seriously gay? I'm going to say if their only 10, they are still tools but probably have no knowledge of what the word means.

I would like to see that trophy case it sounds interesting...

Howard A Treesong wrote:They sound like compete idiots. I'd have to leave in order to restrain myself from punching them in the face for continually using the word 'gay' in that manner.

Aren't there adults at this thing to play with?

There are adults but they are of to one side of the room and always have organized games.

Ledabot wrote:Heh, what town are you from? I remember going on holyday last year and there was nobody to play 40k with for miles.

I live in Hawkes bay so we only have one place to buy hobby things and two wargames clubs.

archont wrote:

when i asked for a chance to put my chaos terminators in the other two's game i got called gay some more times and practically shooed from the table.

wtf? Oo

You get up to somebody having a game and asking them, to have your terminators participate?

Are you certain that you're not leaving out a little detail about the interaction between your group and you?

Are you entirely sure, that not even a small part of the problem here lies with your attitude?

I am especially sure. every single time they have a game and someone misses out on one they make an exeption for them and include them coming in on a special turn with a small force of their choosing.

Feth them.


Go find yourself a better crew to play with. These tools are not worth your time if they make you feel like that.

You don't have the time or inclination to put up with that situation.

GhostxHeart wrote:I don't believe you should ever be in a situation like that if you're doing this for 'fun'.
Clearly these people are immature and are certainly not the kind of people you want to be playing games with and spending time with.

Hang out somewhere else. If there isn't a somewhere else - MAKE a somewhere else.

~Ghost

Like the 'make a somewhere else' idea, you could start your own club

forruner_mercy wrote:Yes, I agree. Get some friends and play at someones house, even if you have to use cereal boxes and cups as terrain on a kitchen table. Way better then playing with those guys. Getting called "gay" for playing as Chaos is just plain stupid. Half expected you to say they called Chaos OP too. Not to mention that saying "gay" is derogatory.

I would have a hard time not hitting them in the face. Things like that get me frustrated/mad pretty quickly.

Whilst I would not normally condone violence, also a big fan of the 'hitting them in the face' idea, they sound like they could do with it - just be discreet if you choose this path.

1. You challenge them on it. You act like you have a pair and tell them to knock it off.

2. You tell the store manager/owner what's going (calmly) and tell him he's going to lose your business if he doesn't do something about it.

3. If 1 and 2 don't fix it, invite people to play at your own home. I have played in a store only twice. The rest has been at my home or other homes. I love it.

crudcakes wrote:There are adults but they are of to one side of the room and always have organized games.

So organize a game with them. (How old are you, btw?)