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There is no friend zone. The "friend zone" is just a way of saying that a girl/guy is being polite and the guy/girl can't take a hint. You can't be "friends" if you are only accepting it as a compromise.

 poppa G wrote:
I've come back from the depths of a week ban to say one thing...
I'm a taken man, as of April 21st. I did it, guys. And it's going great so far! 5 years I have merely dreamed of this.

Taken does that mean married or instead you've been incarcerated and your cell mate thinks you're real purty? Oh wait that could be the same thing.

To be honest, I'm pretty sure I've 'friend-zoned' a girl or two in my life. Not always intentionally, more often due to cluelessness.

Well, actually, it wasn't friendzoning... It was worse, I think. I sisterzoned her.

Long story short, I'm an only child but I pretty much grew up with this girl, even to teenagers. However, I was rather preoccupied with toy soldiers and the whole not-sucking-at-school thing.

Basically, all that time, she had had a massive crush on me. In fact, she even gave me my first kiss. Me? I dunno if I'd call it clueless, or massive denial. But basically, I had pretty much always seen her as my almost sister rather than anything else.

It wasn't until many years later when I actually looked back at things and went 'oooh.'

In fact, one of my major skills when it comes to dating, is realising a girl is attracted me 6 months to a year after events occur when I'm never going to see them again (for various reasons).

I don't have girls I've friend zoned. I have girls I haven't fethed yet.

^ Manly.

 kronk wrote:
I don't have girls I've friend zoned. I have girls I haven't fethed yet.

This. Every bi/heterosexual woman in your life (excluding relatives) is a possibility, just not all at the same point in time. That is the literal truth.


Incidentally, my date went ok. We agreed to meet for lunch the next day, which was enough for me to make up my mind that I wasn't really interested in pursuing it further, despite the fact we kissed. Back to the drawing-board. Ho-hum.

 KalashnikovMarine wrote:


As to "leagues" I always swing for the fences. My league is what I say it is based on a wide variety of factors, not just physical attractiveness.

Which is actually what I meant by a 'league' rather than what everybody assumed I meant. I didn't just mean physical attractiveness but stuff like looks, brains, being a good person, being skilled and various other traits. Yes everybody has different tastes and that's a factor too as would liking a girl with interests that guys normally have or one that girls normally have. If you go somewhere where there's like 50 guys and one girl chances are unless you're super spectacular and what she's looking for she has a million other guys on line pursuing her and that's probably a huge waste of time this is also provided she's a normally decent pick.

Yes people have different interests but I figure realizing your skills and what you bring to the table should be considered. Don't be super arrogant thinking you're super special and if they're super good in every category they might just be out of your league unless you're really lucky.

The girls I mentioned were all ok looking excepting the waitress and the gamer girl and the reason why I didn't play against this gamer girl already was because there were various reasons (she plays 40k only and I currently play fantasy only and have for years, she supposedly plays infrequently, I have transportation issues). All that said I didn't want to come off too strong by just throwing down a game immediately though since the group disbanded we never got a chance to really play and out of boredom and lack of a romantic partner it would help. She was also taken back then I think. So yeah maybe I'm expecting way too much of this but i'll just play a game with her and see where it goes. I'd rather be in a relationship with somebody I have similar interests in and just totally click with.

So I dunno I'm probably looking for too much with this girl in particular and maybe I should check out some of these choices. I never said they love me so much that each might like me. There's nothing wrong with dating many people as long as you stick with only one once you're in an actual relationship with them (Unless you're into multiple partners which is ok if they're allowed multiple partners too. I dunno that it's my thing.). I'd figure a relationship needs some specific rules laid out on the table so that misunderstandings aren't had.

 Albatross wrote:

 kronk wrote:
I don't have girls I've friend zoned. I have girls I haven't fethed yet.

This. Every bi/heterosexual woman in your life (excluding relatives) is a possibility, just not all at the same point in time. That is the literal truth.


Incidentally, my date went ok. We agreed to meet for lunch the next day, which was enough for me to make up my mind that I wasn't really interested in pursuing it further, despite the fact we kissed. Back to the drawing-board. Ho-hum.

I don't think I understand. You mean somebody old enough to be my mom with kids my age that feels completely motherly to me would be a choice. That's just creepy. She's not attractive either so it'd be doubly weird.

@Kronk: Kronk you are the ultimate man. Don't let anybody tell you otherwise.

 flamingkillamajig wrote:

 Albatross wrote:

 kronk wrote:
I don't have girls I've friend zoned. I have girls I haven't fethed yet.

This. Every bi/heterosexual woman in your life (excluding relatives) is a possibility, just not all at the same point in time. That is the literal truth.


Incidentally, my date went ok. We agreed to meet for lunch the next day, which was enough for me to make up my mind that I wasn't really interested in pursuing it further, despite the fact we kissed. Back to the drawing-board. Ho-hum.

I don't think I understand. You mean somebody old enough to be my mom with kids my age that feels completely motherly to me would be a choice. That's just creepy. She's not attractive either so it'd be doubly weird.

I said possibility. Do you deny that it's a possibility, however remote?

 Albatross wrote:

 kronk wrote:
I don't have girls I've friend zoned. I have girls I haven't fethed yet.

This. Every bi/heterosexual woman in your life (excluding relatives) is a possibility, just not all at the same point in time. That is the literal truth.


Incidentally, my date went ok. We agreed to meet for lunch the next day, which was enough for me to make up my mind that I wasn't really interested in pursuing it further, despite the fact we kissed. Back to the drawing-board. Ho-hum.

Been there, something of putting when interest is mutual lol

 Lint wrote:
I will never forget meeting a girl and 10 minutes later fething her.

Aw straight from a romance novel....like 50 shades of grey or twilight .

 Frazzled wrote:

 poppa G wrote:
I've come back from the depths of a week ban to say one thing...
I'm a taken man, as of April 21st. I did it, guys. And it's going great so far! 5 years I have merely dreamed of this.

Taken does that mean married or instead you've been incarcerated and your cell mate thinks you're real purty? Oh wait that could be the same thing.

Oh trust me, all dah boys in here think I'm purty. They pass me along the cell block like a peace pipe, if ya know what I mean.
And just in case you aren't kidding, were 'together', she's my girlfriend. Ya...

Is this the part where we start taking bets on how long they last? ;P

That would not be nice.

We gave him good advice to help him get a relationship, we were nice enough already!!

There is no such thing as “too nice” .

chaos0xomega wrote:
Is this the part where we start taking bets on how long they last? ;P

Take the bets. I'll deliver via paypal.

 poppa G wrote:

 Frazzled wrote:

 poppa G wrote:
I've come back from the depths of a week ban to say one thing...
I'm a taken man, as of April 21st. I did it, guys. And it's going great so far! 5 years I have merely dreamed of this.

Taken does that mean married or instead you've been incarcerated and your cell mate thinks you're real purty? Oh wait that could be the same thing.

Oh trust me, all dah boys in here think I'm purty. They pass me along the cell block like a peace pipe, if ya know what I mean.
And just in case you aren't kidding, were 'together', she's my girlfriend. Ya...

Wait, so Dakka actually helped you get a girlfriend?

Well I'll be damned....

Thread 2: "How to get Crabs" by Dakka.

 kronk wrote:
Thread 2: "How to get Crabs" by Dakka.

"'Why does it burn when I pee?' And other stories."

 Albatross wrote:

 kronk wrote:
I don't have girls I've friend zoned. I have girls I haven't fethed yet.

This. Every bi/heterosexual woman in your life (excluding relatives) is a possibility, just not all at the same point in time. That is the literal truth.

As a non Caucasian man who has lived in 5 different countries and speaks 2 languages your statement is false. Not every woman in your life is a possibility. This is the truth.

Just because racism is frowned upon here in the west, doesn't mean it's frowned on in other places in the world....
So don't go around getting people's hopes up.

EVERY woman in your life is a possibility, just not necessarily at every point in time. Even ones who might be against it on racial reasons, even if they are militant in their beliefs, could at some point in time become open to the possibility.

 kronk wrote:
Thread 2: "How to get Crabs" by Dakka.

"if they're bigger than the crabs in skyrim can I name them?"

chaos0xomega wrote:
EVERY woman in your life is a possibility, just not necessarily at every point in time. Even ones who might be against it on racial reasons, even if they are militant in their beliefs, could at some point in time become open to the possibility.

While I do not doubt the good intention behind your logic, all I ask is that you "live in" and not visit several countries around the world. You will quickly learn that in some places the people aren't even open to the possibility of what your saying.

I will admit I don't know who you are and for all I know you could have lived and worked in several countries like I have and may have seen different things.

With that out of the way don't lump me in with the average gamer who can't get a chick, I can, I'm just pointing out some common logical fallacies, I run into traveling the world.

I'm so handsome, I transcend racial, religious, and ethnic divides.

I call it "Bridging the Gap."

 Gitsmasher wrote:

chaos0xomega wrote:
EVERY woman in your life is a possibility, just not necessarily at every point in time. Even ones who might be against it on racial reasons, even if they are militant in their beliefs, could at some point in time become open to the possibility.

While I do not doubt the good intention behind your logic, all I ask is that you "live in" and not visit several countries around the world. You will quickly learn that in some places the people aren't even open to the possibility of what your saying.

I will admit I don't know who you are and for all I know you could have lived and worked in several countries like I have and may have seen different things.

With that out of the way don't lump me in with the average gamer who can't get a chick, I can, I'm just pointing out some common logical fallacies, I run into traveling the world.

Everyone can be persuaded to a different point of view at some point in their lives, not everyone will be, and not everyone is capable of persuading them, and just as importantly, not everyone meets the right person at the right point in their life in order to be able to persuade them, but everyone can be persuaded. There is no such thing as someone who is 'hardcoded' into a certain way of thinking and absolutely cannot be changed.

 Gitsmasher wrote:

 Albatross wrote:
This. Every bi/heterosexual woman in your life (excluding relatives) is a possibility, just not all at the same point in time. That is the literal truth.

As a non Caucasian man who has lived in 5 different countries and speaks 2 languages your statement is false. Not every woman in your life is a possibility. This is the truth.

Just because racism is frowned upon here in the west, doesn't mean it's frowned on in other places in the world....

So, this guy is basically saying that this 98 years old lady with Alzheimer disease is “a possibility”, and your answer is “but racism” ?
Well, maybe racism too, who know…

chaos0xomega wrote:

 Gitsmasher wrote:

chaos0xomega wrote:
EVERY woman in your life is a possibility, just not necessarily at every point in time. Even ones who might be against it on racial reasons, even if they are militant in their beliefs, could at some point in time become open to the possibility.

While I do not doubt the good intention behind your logic, all I ask is that you "live in" and not visit several countries around the world. You will quickly learn that in some places the people aren't even open to the possibility of what your saying.

I will admit I don't know who you are and for all I know you could have lived and worked in several countries like I have and may have seen different things.

With that out of the way don't lump me in with the average gamer who can't get a chick, I can, I'm just pointing out some common logical fallacies, I run into traveling the world.

There is no such thing as someone who is 'hardcoded' into a certain way of thinking and absolutely cannot be changed.

You have never been to Afghanistan have you?

There's your problem! You're trying to date people your country is bombing. That's harder than pulling that red head away from her pack of 4 on ladies night when she was the designated driver.

 Gitsmasher wrote:

chaos0xomega wrote:

 Gitsmasher wrote:

chaos0xomega wrote:
EVERY woman in your life is a possibility, just not necessarily at every point in time. Even ones who might be against it on racial reasons, even if they are militant in their beliefs, could at some point in time become open to the possibility.

While I do not doubt the good intention behind your logic, all I ask is that you "live in" and not visit several countries around the world. You will quickly learn that in some places the people aren't even open to the possibility of what your saying.

I will admit I don't know who you are and for all I know you could have lived and worked in several countries like I have and may have seen different things.

With that out of the way don't lump me in with the average gamer who can't get a chick, I can, I'm just pointing out some common logical fallacies, I run into traveling the world.

There is no such thing as someone who is 'hardcoded' into a certain way of thinking and absolutely cannot be changed.

You have never been to Afghanistan have you?

"Afghanistan" didn't stop a couple people I know from 'dating' some locals...

The ladies love a pedant...