Forum adverts like this one are shown to any user who is not logged in. Join us by filling out a tiny 3 field form and you will get your own, free, dakka user account which gives a good range of benefits to you: No adverts like this in the forums anymore. Times and dates in your local timezone. Full tracking of what you have read so you can skip to your first unread post, easily see what has changed since you last logged in, and easily see what is new at a glance. Email notifications for threads you want to watch closely. Being a part of the oldest wargaming community on the net. If you are already a member then feel free to login now.

What is a girlfriend?

ounumen wrote:My wife would never ask me to choose. After seeing my army she wants to buy me canvas and oil paints. i told ehr to buy me another deff dread.

Forgive me, since I'm kind of drunk right now, but I'd LOVE a canvas, especially over a Deff Dread. They cost about the same anyway. I don't know what's more outrageous. A 17*11" Canvas, or a Deff Dread.

Especially since you can make a Deff Dread out of the most random bits in the first place.

This is why I love you guys )

My girlfriend got me into 40K, so I doubt I will ever have that conversation with her.

We do sometimes have the same dilemma though - shoes or a new battleforce?

That depends on the shoes....

I have two problems with the OP's question:
1. I need to get a grilfriend/wife.
2. I'm indecisive, it would take me so long to decide that she'd get bored, walk out and I keep my 40K!!!

I hate it when you call me indecisive, well its not hate, its more of a feeling of mistrust or ........

The OC-D

I've had my wife say "Do you think maybe you're spending a little too much time with the 40k?"

And I totally was. It was when I first got into the hobby, and I was spending practically every weekend down at the LGS... She was well within her rights to point it out.

The GF in the OP was either not mature enough to have an actual conversation about the issue, or the 40k stuff was a composite for all the other problems in the relationship.

Women do not care what makes you happy.

Nothing makes women happy.

40k.

MorbidlyObeseMonkey wrote:I would pimpslap that girl so fast it's not even funny. Then I'd give her a choice: she could either make me a sandwich, or she goes back into her cage.

It's all about not letting your girl have ANY choice whatsoever in any situation.

No you wouldn't. I'm betting basement at mom's house right?
EDIT: Thats not an appropriate post is it. I should have said, get real and post like an adult, not a 15 year old basement dweller.

Immediately choose her. Then, starting with your lowest priority models, make a great show of messily and permananently destroying them. She should relent by the time you get around to anything you truly treasure, impressed by your loyalty and devotion to her.

The next day, bring home flowers and apologize for being such an insensitive such and such.

Within a week, you ought to have a wonderfully repaired relationship, and the go ahead to replace the models she was so silly to have insisted that you get rid of, as long as you don't bring it up.

Alternatively, you could simply keep your wife your number one priority and avoid these mind games.

Lets justs say... BLOOD FOR THE BLOOD GOD!!!

spamandchips wrote:Lets justs say... BLOOD FOR THE BLOOD GOD!!!

That could so be taken the wrong way.

Drop the b##ch

If she can't accept you for who you are, then she is not the right girl for you.

Women have asked me to change myself before, little things like shave my beard, get a haircut, sell my car to get something more quiet, and before I have complied with them for the sake of getting pink for it. Lately I have realized that things like this are the eventual downfall of poisonous relationships. Now I am who I am, and if my lady doesnt like it, she can GTFO.

and the odd thing is, I get MORE pink now than I used to.

Aftersong wrote:sex > little plastic men and standing in a poorly ventilated room with a bunch of dudes who likely haven't showered yet this week

that basically sums it up.

40k can be my secret mistress or something hehe

I think before anyone can answer this question they should have to answer whether or not a girl has willingly allowed them to touch her in a non PG rated way and did not immediately take out a restraining order on them. If the answer is no to any part of that then shut the hell up.

I honestly couldn't imagine my GF doing this,basicly her motto is "handle your business" wich basicly means so long as I'm taking care of priorities (bills & bedroom) she pretty much lets me do what I want to.

My gf would never give me an ultimatum. She is actually glad i paint figures because that means i am at home.
As for the money 40k costs, as long as i pay my bills she doesn't care it's my money after all.

Grtz
L.D.

Its a confidence/ self esteem/ self worth thing IMO. Letting a woman walk all over you and drop your hobbies just diminishes yourself and makes you appear weak-willed, standing up for yourself and not compromising your life for her seems to work much better for all parites involved. Of course this is assuming that you have spent a great deal of time, money, and effort into this hobby, and it is a big enough portion of your life to prose this as an actual question, and not needless trollbait.

LOL this page made my day

Demogerg wrote:Its a confidence/ self esteem/ self worth thing IMO. Letting a woman walk all over you and drop your hobbies just diminishes yourself and makes you appear weak-willed, standing up for yourself and not compromising your life for her seems to work much better for all parites involved. Of course this is assuming that you have spent a great deal of time, money, and effort into this hobby, and it is a big enough portion of your life to prose this as an actual question, and not needless trollbait.

You've obviously put a lot of thought into your answer, so I shall respond accordingly......

This is true but yet in every relationship there will be disagreements and fights, but you have to work through them with compromises and such. So if that means you have to let go of a few things to get the realtionship back on track then you should do it. It doesn't mean you're weak or anthing, your're just trying to solve a problem.

I sound like Dr. Phil....... damn

God there's a lot of misogyny in this thread.

Brother SRM wrote:God there's a lot of misogyny in this thread.

I'm not sexist - I hate equally!

Brother SRM wrote:God there's a lot of misogyny in this thread.

Hmmm playing games, childish behavior....nah, no correlation whatsoever.

Generally speaking, those posters that tend towards the "she's my , she can shut the hell up" are either under 18 or have never had a mature relationship.

My girlfriend doesn't mind, though she has stated she has no interest. She even got me into Star Trek a year and a half ago, which started me on my attempts to expand my nerd-ness in other directions (and how I came to 40k).

She likes the psyker minis though, as a Trek fan she's fascinated by the idea of Astropaths.

SideEffect46 wrote:

Demogerg wrote:Its a confidence/ self esteem/ self worth thing IMO. Letting a woman walk all over you and drop your hobbies just diminishes yourself and makes you appear weak-willed, standing up for yourself and not compromising your life for her seems to work much better for all parites involved. Of course this is assuming that you have spent a great deal of time, money, and effort into this hobby, and it is a big enough portion of your life to prose this as an actual question, and not needless trollbait.

You've obviously put a lot of thought into your answer, so I shall respond accordingly......

This is true but yet in every relationship there will be disagreements and fights, but you have to work through them with compromises and such. So if that means you have to let go of a few things to get the realtionship back on track then you should do it. It doesn't mean you're weak or anthing, your're just trying to solve a problem.

I sound like Dr. Phil....... damn

No you don't or this argument would be one-sided and egotistical - I honestly don't know what people see in that man. You on the other hand, make sense.

metallifan wrote:

Brother SRM wrote:God there's a lot of misogyny in this thread.

I'm not sexist - I hate equally!

EDIT: I am still surprised that it was said women should go back to their cages... but agnosto already made a solid point on that. Weird it doesn't go both ways, way more men hating women, then misandry. (yay for google)

I wasn't referring to general arguements and disagreements, those are natural and should be worked through with compromise and understanding. I was refering to changing who you are, your personal identity.

Warhammer is a part of my life, I have been playing GW games for over 2/3rds of my time here on earth. If anyone asked me to quit playing, they had better have good reason for it, and companionship/sex/marriage is not a good enough reason. There are people who exist who will at least tolerate, and most likely accept my hobbies as part of who I am.

binky wrote:

SideEffect46 wrote:

Demogerg wrote:Its a confidence/ self esteem/ self worth thing IMO. Letting a woman walk all over you and drop your hobbies just diminishes yourself and makes you appear weak-willed, standing up for yourself and not compromising your life for her seems to work much better for all parites involved. Of course this is assuming that you have spent a great deal of time, money, and effort into this hobby, and it is a big enough portion of your life to prose this as an actual question, and not needless trollbait.

You've obviously put a lot of thought into your answer, so I shall respond accordingly......

This is true but yet in every relationship there will be disagreements and fights, but you have to work through them with compromises and such. So if that means you have to let go of a few things to get the realtionship back on track then you should do it. It doesn't mean you're weak or anthing, your're just trying to solve a problem.

I sound like Dr. Phil....... damn

No you don't or this argument would be one-sided and egotistical - I honestly don't know what people see in that man. You on the other hand, make sense.

Must be his baldness that make people like him. If he was more like Maury then more people would watch his show "You are not the father!"

Argh!! so here i am typing out a post in response to binky post it and then find out she editted her post.....

Grtz
L.D.

agnosto wrote:

Brother SRM wrote:God there's a lot of misogyny in this thread.

Hmmm playing games, childish behavior....nah, no correlation whatsoever.

Generally speaking, those posters that tend towards the "she's my , she can shut the hell up" are either under 18 or have never had a mature relationship.

That, or there're some pretty serious issues there

As I said, I wouldn't give up my 40K unless keeping it meant poverty. But I wouldn't be a jerk about it either (Because -actually- calling her a Heretic would just make anyone look...yea ).

Being realistic this time, I would likely use something along the lines of "I'm sorry, but that's not going to happen. Trying to intimidate me just because you don't like my hobby doesn't mean I'm ditching it for you, the same as I wouldn't ask you to give up one of yours just because I dislike it. If you can't accept that, then you'll need to find someone else to try and use as a doormat."

Said in a calm voice, it's defiant yet polite. And it makes you look a lot more in-control of the discussion than "Shut the up woman!"

I was into wargaming long before I met my wife. And if she ever said that to me, my response would be along the lines of "then you don't get internet access to chat with your friends and mess with Facebook for 12 hours a day."

No, I do not have a happy, loving marriage.