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OP: her all the way, my wife is worth more than anything GW could ever give me, hands down.

I'd leave it all with a reliable friend so I could have it back when I inevitably broke up with a girl of that sort, but I'd continue to use her body to satisfy my carnal needs until then.

Of course, the gods have granted me the ever-elusive feth buddy, so I get the best of both worlds. Or something.

A man and his girlfriend fall on hard financial times, as many of us have recently. So his girlfriend tells him he has to stop spending so much money on beer. He reluctantly agrees because he understands the seriousness of the situation. Soon he finds out that she spent $65 dollars on makeup. So he confronts her.

"Why can't I buy beer if you're buying makeup?"

"But honey, I need the make up to look pretty for you."

"Well I though that's what the beer was for!"

She isn't coming back...

Wife No 1 stated War gaming and modelling/painting was a waste of time, money etc, and that time/money would be better spent on her, especially the money. Now ex-wife.

I remarried some year later to a beautiful woman who understands my gaming addiction, but even at the start of our relationship she appreciated the models and took an interest in my hobbies, even if she did not understand it. The cost of the hobby was an issue until I gave up smoking, her thoughts now are at least my money’s not going up in smoke.
The only issue I have now is she beats me on the gaming table regularly, hold on that got to be grounds for divorce.

I would state that its a matter of respect and understanding, we are expected to understand why they need more than one handbag, why we have to go shopping every weekend, why their clothes not only fill their wardrobes but have to be stored in ours, and why her friends take priority over ours, need I go on.

If my girl ever gave me an ultimatum of any kind, no matter what the subject matter... on sheer principal I'd tell her to pack her gak and get the feth out.

It sounds as though there are many women out there who tolerate war gaming. I can only pray that i find one of them someday.

However, any wife/GF that tells you to give up your hobby, so that she can buy more shoes, nick knacks, or just be unreasonable, etc... should be dealt with as a heretic and "enlightened" in the same manner as a commissar would "enlighten" a cowardly conscript.

Though my rant makes it sound as if i hate women, that couldn't be further from the truth. I just need to meet a good one who is tolerant of my hobby, and wont force an ultimatum like that on me.

She'd be declared Excommunicate Traitoris, called a Heretic, and sent on her way

Luckily, she loves her bright, colourful Chaos stuff. And even thinks some of it is 'cute'. Don't ask...


...Man I hope she doesn't read this when she comes online

EDIT:

Aftersong wrote:sex > little plastic men

Only if you're P-Whipped

oni wrote:If my girl ever gave me an ultimatum of any kind, no matter what the subject matter... on sheer principal I'd tell her to pack her gak and get the feth out.

Me too.

My fiancee saw my stuff and began looking through it, saw my nids which i never got around to painting and went omg cute little bugs......SHe took them painted them and then I began loosing reg. to purple nids with pink polkadots...........and I wouldn't have it any other way

If the girlfriend gave me that crap, I'd tell her to leave. Before my wife catches her

My wife wouldn't say anything. She tells me that compared to most Japanese men, I'm a champ (don't stay out all night drinking, don't smoke, I cook and clean, etc).

She came to me the other day and told me that I could play with my toys no matter what our household budget looks like because it's cheaper than all the things her friends' husbands/boyfriends are into.

loki old fart wrote:If the girlfriend gave me that crap, I'd tell her to leave. Before my wife catches her

Congrats. You made everyone at work look at me and wonder why the hell I just LOL'ed

Gornall wrote:

starbomber109 wrote:You will let plastic army men destroy our relationship?"

That could be said both ways.

And would be.

It depends on hwo much time and money you're spending on toy soldiers. Too much then they would have a point.

metallifan wrote:

...Man I hope she doesn't read this when she comes online

I hope you enjoy being by yourself if you ever pulled that on me

EDIT:

Aftersong wrote:sex > little plastic men

Nope it goes BATMAN > sex > little plastic men

Batman sex?


What the sweet 4chan did I miss here!?!

It's an inside joke, metalli can explain.

I demand answers!


It isn't furry right?

That's only because he's a dirty, Batman obsessed Frenchman

And because teasing Jibbs is always funny.

Back to topic, it's probly true that an ultimatum means that there is trouble with the relationship to begin with... and it's nice to hear some men would still take the women over the miniatures. At least some do Read some other posts and seriously some of the dudes are pretty cutthroat.

Quote from my wife Becky - "A smart wife would never ask that question."

I got a good joke XD.

Duck tape solves everything inculding wives.

But i won't dump my girlfriend even if i tried if i had one at this moment -.-. Usually they dump me.

Thats just a ridiculous thing to ask someone, specially over a hobby. Now if your hobby was snorting coke or something along those lines *heh get it?* then I could understand.

My wife plays 40k with me, and is going to be starting her own Tyranid army in a few months (yay!) so she would never ask me that one. Besides she knows how I feel about this hobby, and knows she would probably be sleeping on her moms couch that night.

At that point, you don't wonder what you would say about the matter, you wonder what the hell led you down to that ultimatum in the first place, because it sure as hell isn't going to be about the tiny toy soldiers.

I hate it when females try and make a guy choose between them and a hobby they love before they came in the picture. Even I wouldn't force a guy to make such a choice...

So does the question change from " If your gf/wife told you it was her or your 40k stuff what would you do?" to "who is the one with the serious issues in the relationship?" because it seems to me either the guy is a donkey cave who spends too much time with his toys and neglects his gf OR that his gf is a psychotic controlling *bleep* who really needs to take a step back and realize he had a life before he met her. /end rant. All that really matters in the scenario is who's the bad guy - wherein it becomes a grey area.

Fafnir and tigonesskay both made good points.

binky wrote:So does the question change from " If your gf/wife told you it was her or your 40k stuff what would you do?" to "who is the one with the serious issues in the relationship?" because it seems to me either the guy is a donkey cave who spends too much time with his toys and neglects his gf OR that his gf is a psychotic controlling *bleep* who really needs to take a step back and realize he had a life before he met her. /end rant. All that really matters in the scenario is who's the bad guy - wherein it becomes a grey area.

Fafnir and tigonesskay both made good points.

But then you also have the guys that take their hobbies too far (you know the types that end up on dr. phil). But wouldn't a person realize "something is not quite right..." Before they get to that point in their realationship??

My girlfriend has been enabling me for close to 2 years now, so thankfully this isn't a problem. Even so, if someone can't understand what makes you happy, they're not someone you should be wasting your time with.

Binky hit the nail on the head with that one. :thumsbup:

My wife would never ask me to choose. After seeing my army she wants to buy me canvas and oil paints. i told ehr to buy me another deff dread.

I would pimpslap that girl so fast it's not even funny. Then I'd give her a choice: she could either make me a sandwich, or she goes back into her cage.

It's all about not letting your girl have ANY choice whatsoever in any situation.