father issues...

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**johnscott10**

Read edit in my above post.

**Goddard**

johnscott10 wrote:Read edit in my above post.

lol...damnit.

**remilia_scarlet**

Thank you everyone, it seems like thing will improve over time. And gain, thank you all for your support.

**ineptus astartes**

no problem, glad to hear that things are going OK.

**lord commissar klimino**

what ^ said.

**Troy**

remilia_scarlet wrote:^ Exalted
That's my response

Thats too easy. My caterpillar sense is tingling. Be careful.

**Goddard**

Any news?

**remilia_scarlet**

Yes, him and my mother will be coming to visit me in a few days, thank you for asking.

**Goddard**

remilia_scarlet wrote:Yes, him and my mother will be coming to visit me in a few days, thank you for asking.

You live in your own apartment? And/or house?

**Frazzled**

remilia_scarlet wrote:Yes, him and my mother will be coming to visit me in a few days, thank you for asking.

Watch your back jack.

**remilia_scarlet**

Goddard wrote:
remilia_scarlet wrote:Yes, him and my mother will be coming to visit me in a few days, thank you for asking.

You live in your own apartment? And/or house?

I live in a house, it's just a regular house.

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Frazzled wrote:Watch your back jack.

Will do, I'm going to keep my guard up.

**Shadowbrand**

I don't know you and don't have any valid advice for pleasing your old man then accepting his offers of Vodka.

I hope everything goes okay with you.

**remilia_scarlet**

Shadowbrand wrote:I don't know you and don't have any valid advice for pleasing your old man then accepting his offers of Vodka.

I hope everything goes okay with you.

Thank you, your advice is valid to me.

**Shadowbrand**

Sweet.

I have -distant- relatives that live in Norway. But their people who have no clue who I am and I will likely never meet. So it's entirely unlike your situation.

There is a Russian dude at the local shop I play at. He's pretty legit and knows how to handle a gun and his booze. He's a bro.

**remilia_scarlet**

Shadowbrand wrote:Sweet.

I have -distant- relatives that live in Norway. But their people who have no clue who I am and I will likely never meet. So it's entirely unlike your situation.

There is a Russian dude at the local shop I play at. He's pretty legit and knows how to handle a gun and his booze. He's a bro.

I know how you feel, I have a lot of family who doesn't know I exist, but, then again, all I need is my immediate family.

That russian guy sounds pretty cool, da?

**Shadowbrand**

He plays a mean game of 40k and gives me a run for my money in a drinking contest. And I have Russian -and- Scottish blood so I can stomach quite a bit.

I look like a fething dwarf to boot.

**remilia_scarlet**

There's nothing wrong with looking like a dwarf, I pick dwarves over elves in fantasy setting games.

**AvatarForm**

Daddy issues are hot...

Or, you could look at it from the Barney Stinson angle...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xC1a16sq2Ag

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VOFCPzyJKHA

**remilia_scarlet**

Those were funny.

**Lord Demon**

Remember one thing and one thing only. You do not need to live up to his expectations. If anything he need to prove himself to you. He removed himself from your live and now he wants back in. Let him prove why you should let him. Without his help you grew up to become you and if he has a problem with that then he should feth off. He did not want to be part of your life as you grew up to become who you are today. Wich means he does not have the right to judge you who you are today.

Anyway i hope he is just interrested in you and simply wants to know you. All i can say is be yourself and remember he might just be as worried about meeting expectations as you are.

**Ma55ter_fett**

Cheesecat wrote:
remilia_scarlet wrote:Thanks everyone, I was talking with him again earlier, he doesn't seem to mind too much, he's a little shocked, but, he understands why I am the way I am. He asked if my mother had spoiled the suprise, because she told me he's been trying to make things right, I can't forgive him, but, I still love him none the less. Hopefully, he'll be here in the next week, with my mother.

Oh my yes

**remilia_scarlet**

Thank you, you're absolutely right, I'm me and nothing else, if he doesn't approve, who needs him.

**Connor McKane**

remilia_scarlet wrote:Thank you, you're absolutely right, I'm me and nothing else, if he doesn't approve, who needs him.

QFT - If he really wants to be in your life, he has to be in the one you have.

him if he won't accept you. Hope it all works out in the end.

**remilia_scarlet**

Thank you, he's on his way, he'll be here tomorrow, I'm anxious and excited. If he turns out to be a jerk, then, who needs him, I'm just glad my mother is going with him to visit, the miss is not too happy about meeting her future in-laws.

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When I say tomorrow, I mean Tuesday, since it's technically Monday right now.

**chaos0xomega**

Just to clear it up, your grew up with your (biological) mother right? Only asking because you're saying your father will be visiting with her which suggests the two of them are still together?

Also, if you don't mind me asking, what were the circumstances of the separation? I see a lot of "You owe him nothing, he left you blah blah blah" from people that don't know you/your story. It seems kinda unfair to the man to assume that he 'abandoned' you, but I might have a different perspective on this given the circumstances of my own childhood and my sisters childhood (hint: its not always the fathers fault if the kids grow up without him).

**djphranq**

I'm excited for you Rem! I hope things turn out great!

**remilia_scarlet**

They're seperated, still, my mother just wants things to work out between me and my father, and it's an excuse to meet my fiancé.

I've asked him why he left, and he says it was because he was a fool, he says that he was already married to another woman when he was seeing my mother, my mother not knowing, so when she found out, he bailed on her. Like I've said, I love him, but, I'll never forgive him.

**Goddard**

remilia_scarlet wrote:They're seperated, still, my mother just wants things to work out between me and my father, and it's an excuse to meet my fiancé.

I've asked him why he left, and he says it was because he was a fool, he says that he was already married to another woman when he was seeing my mother, my mother not knowing, so when she found out, he bailed on her. Like I've said, I love him, but, I'll never forgive him.

I'm so nervous for you!

**remilia_scarlet**

Thanks Djphranq, I'm looking forward to it.

Don't be, goddard, I'm hoping things turn out well, I don't approve of what he did, but, we're all human after all.

**Kimzi Caky**

Scary! Good luck.