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That is just how some people are thinking. Challenge their views.

 Ashiraya wrote:
A very sexually active man is successful, a very sexually active woman is slutty.

Like a wise meme once said:

"A key opens many locks; it is a master key. A lock opens with many keys; it is a terrible lock."

Okay, I'll go away now. Though in all seriousness, it's pretty bad. I'm not too sure, but if a man isn't uber-sexually active, isn't he considered a loser? Not too sure, but it certainly seems so in certain groups.

 thenoobbomb wrote:
I'm not too sure, but if a man isn't uber-sexually active, isn't he considered a loser? Not too sure, but it certainly seems so in certain groups.

Supposedly. But then again, it is also the case for a woman. Do not do it too much, do not do it to few.

 Ashiraya wrote:
A very sexually active man is successful, a very sexually active woman is slutty.

Does masturbating count as 'sexually active'? I want to be succesful too

 Iron_Captain wrote:

 Ashiraya wrote:
A very sexually active man is successful, a very sexually active woman is slutty.

Does masturbating count as 'sexually active'? I want to be succesful too

I dare say that means a very large portion of the male population would be a hero

I've always thought the tv show, 'Lost Girl' had a perfectly fair approach to the whole thing, seemed pretty fair to everyone.

 Ashiraya wrote:
A very sexually active man is successful, a very sexually active woman is slutty.

I have no problem with girls being sexually active, but then again I don't understand that mentality.

 thenoobbomb wrote:

 Iron_Captain wrote:

 Ashiraya wrote:
A very sexually active man is successful, a very sexually active woman is slutty.

Does masturbating count as 'sexually active'? I want to be succesful too

I dare say that means a very large portion of the male population would be a hero

It'd also mean that a very large proportion of the female population would be 'slutty'.

I don't understand the idea that a man who has loads of sexual partners is regarded well, but a woman who has loads of sexual partners is treated with scorn. I also don't understand why sexually inactive males are regarded as lesser, and females who haven't gotten married and/or started a family by X age are seen as having failed in life.

It's all completely nonsensical.

 Ashiraya wrote:
A very sexually active man is successful, a very sexually active woman is slutty.

1) You're 17 year old female posting things about sex in a thread full of men probably well over 20. Recipe for disaster.
2) How are you defining sexually active? Anyone with multiple ONSs or is a serial monogamist in under year long relationships is pretty slutty in my book, male or female. Men that complain about that are jealous of women for having easier access to sex, are frustrated/angry by their female partner being more sexually experienced or not that they aren't her first, or self hating virgins lashing out. I don't think anyone outside of extreme prudes cares if either gender is sexually active in a LTR or marriage.

 trexmeyer wrote:
1) You're 17 year old female posting things about sex in a thread full of men probably well over 20. Recipe for disaster.

What kind of disaster do you expect here?

...I kind of echo Hybrid Son here. This environment is completely different to any environment I usually discuss this kind of things in, so I am experimenting a little. I may be playing around a bit but then this thread never really was that super-srs.

The specific post you quoted was in response to something I saw IRL earlier, causing me to suffer -10 Faith In Humanity rating.

 Ashiraya wrote:
...I kind of echo Hybrid Son here. This environment is completely different to any environment I usually discuss this kind of things in, so I am experimenting a little. I may be playing around a bit but then this thread never really was that super-srs.

The specific post you quoted was in response to something I saw IRL earlier, causing me to suffer -10 Faith In Humanity rating.

Not all men are chauvinistic pigs that hate and/or use women.

 gorgon wrote:

 hotsauceman1 wrote:
This came from a friend. He said if I should buff, he aid even if I dont loose weight and just get some bigger arms and shave my head(Or keep it short) I will look ifnitly better like several of our friends.

You mean that shaved head, facial hair, cargo shorts/kilt look? Eh, I dunno.

No Facial Hair.
I cant grow facial hair

How old are you? You might be suffering from low test.

21. Ok, I can, but it it grows dark in several areas and clear in others.
So I would have ugly facial hair.

Oh, okay. Sorry. :( I have a couple of patchy spots so I can't grow the super thick epic beards that some lucky guys do.

 trexmeyer wrote:

 Ashiraya wrote:
A very sexually active man is successful, a very sexually active woman is slutty.

1) You're 17 year old female posting things about sex in a thread full of men probably well over 20. Recipe for disaster.

It's worth pointing out that the age of consent is 16 in most European countries, trex.

Saying that, I don't go any younger than 20 and even then, feels kind of weird.

Anyone else have a (non legally mandated) floor or ceiling, in terms of prospective matches? My girlfriend is 30, which seems to work well, though I usually prefer women around 25-26.


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I'm 32, btw.

 trexmeyer wrote:

 Ashiraya wrote:
...I kind of echo Hybrid Son here. This environment is completely different to any environment I usually discuss this kind of things in, so I am experimenting a little. I may be playing around a bit but then this thread never really was that super-srs.

The specific post you quoted was in response to something I saw IRL earlier, causing me to suffer -10 Faith In Humanity rating.

Not all men are chauvinistic pigs that hate and/or use women.

well that really depends on your point of view. According to some feminists:

http://witchwind.wordpress.com/2013/12/15/piv-is-always-rape-ok/

So never date a feminist, or if you do, get a written statement of consent from them first

sirlynchmob wrote:
According to some feminists:

According to a tiny and irrelevant minority of feminists that is only listened to when people are laughing at how stupid they are.

 Albatross wrote:


Anyone else have a (non legally mandated) floor or ceiling, in terms of prospective matches? My girlfriend is 30, which seems to work well, though I usually prefer women around 25-26.


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I'm 32, btw.

21 minimum if I'm not previously acquainted with them, I'll drop it to 20 if I know the girl.




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sirlynchmob wrote:

 trexmeyer wrote:

 Ashiraya wrote:
...I kind of echo Hybrid Son here. This environment is completely different to any environment I usually discuss this kind of things in, so I am experimenting a little. I may be playing around a bit but then this thread never really was that super-srs.

The specific post you quoted was in response to something I saw IRL earlier, causing me to suffer -10 Faith In Humanity rating.

Not all men are chauvinistic pigs that hate and/or use women.

well that really depends on your point of view. According to some feminists:

http://witchwind.wordpress.com/2013/12/15/piv-is-always-rape-ok/

So never date a feminist, or if you do, get a written statement of consent from them first

This is part of the reason I've only been involved with foreign nationals...that was possibly the craziest thing I've ever read.

I'm 30 but I'd date in the 24-31 range.

Also, another couple questions for the wise folks of dakka.

I had a really really successful date Friday night. Met on tinder, but this girl is every bit as awesome as I expected. Amazingly proper West Midlands accent, hot as hell, easy going, funny, independent, and educated. All big things for me. She's 27 by the way.

We ended up getting right smashed and went back to her place. In the cab we promised not to rush things so we were (relatively) well behaved when we arrived and made it through the night despite our intoxicated minds and bodies urging otherwise. Even insisted on making me eggs in the morning, which were awesome, and made me sit with my coffee while she prepared everything. Definitely going to see her again soon. I didn't ask her specifically what she's looking for, although she's hinted that she's looking for something steady. Which is good because that's what I'm looking for as well.

So, questions. How long should we wait? Is this something I should even be worrying about or just let it happen when it happens? Should we talk about what we're looking for? Or just let the pieces fall into place? How about the next date, how soon to make it?

I'm relatively new to the dating scene. Single about 8 months after many years with my ex. So, I'd be interested how you lot would handle things.

trexmeyer wrote:

 Ashiraya wrote:
...I kind of echo Hybrid Son here. This environment is completely different to any environment I usually discuss this kind of things in, so I am experimenting a little. I may be playing around a bit but then this thread never really was that super-srs.

The specific post you quoted was in response to something I saw IRL earlier, causing me to suffer -10 Faith In Humanity rating.

Not all men are chauvinistic pigs that hate and/or use women.

Indeed not.

Peregrine wrote:

sirlynchmob wrote:
According to some feminists:

According to a tiny and irrelevant minority of feminists that is only listened to when people are laughing at how stupid they are.

Yep. The feminism movement overall wants equality, not revenge. Sweeping generalisations due to extremists is bad, regardless of if it is feminism, islam, christianity, capitalism, liberalism...

Ftr, I consider the extremists so often complained about to be just as bad as the antifeminists. Reversing a problem won't make things better.

 Barksdale wrote:
I'm 30 but I'd date in the 24-31 range.

Also, another couple questions for the wise folks of dakka.

I had a really really successful date Friday night. Met on tinder, but this girl is every bit as awesome as I expected. Amazingly proper West Midlands accent, hot as hell, easy going, funny, independent, and educated. All big things for me. She's 27 by the way.

We ended up getting right smashed and went back to her place. In the cab we promised not to rush things so we were (relatively) well behaved when we arrived and made it through the night despite our intoxicated minds and bodies urging otherwise. Even insisted on making me eggs in the morning, which were awesome, and made me sit with my coffee while she prepared everything. Definitely going to see her again soon. I didn't ask her specifically what she's looking for, although she's hinted that she's looking for something steady. Which is good because that's what I'm looking for as well.

So, questions. How long should we wait? Is this something I should even be worrying about or just let it happen when it happens? Should we talk about what we're looking for? Or just let the pieces fall into place? How about the next date, how soon to make it?

I'm relatively new to the dating scene. Single about 8 months after many years with my ex. So, I'd be interested how you lot would handle things.

Woah, sounds almost exactly like my situation! We waited and lemme tell you, it was worth the wait. God damn.

When the time is right you'll know. That time is usually when you both can't wait any longer and must have each other. I'd forgotten what that felt like. It's incredible.

 Barksdale wrote:
I'm 30 but I'd date in the 24-31 range.

Also, another couple questions for the wise folks of dakka.

I had a really really successful date Friday night. Met on tinder, but this girl is every bit as awesome as I expected. Amazingly proper West Midlands accent, hot as hell, easy going, funny, independent, and educated. All big things for me. She's 27 by the way.

We ended up getting right smashed and went back to her place. In the cab we promised not to rush things so we were (relatively) well behaved when we arrived and made it through the night despite our intoxicated minds and bodies urging otherwise. Even insisted on making me eggs in the morning, which were awesome, and made me sit with my coffee while she prepared everything. Definitely going to see her again soon. I didn't ask her specifically what she's looking for, although she's hinted that she's looking for something steady. Which is good because that's what I'm looking for as well.

So, questions. How long should we wait? Is this something I should even be worrying about or just let it happen when it happens? Should we talk about what we're looking for? Or just let the pieces fall into place? How about the next date, how soon to make it?

I'm relatively new to the dating scene. Single about 8 months after many years with my ex. So, I'd be interested how you lot would handle things.

On the age bit, The Wife is a bit over 5 years older then I am. We started dating when I was 21. It seemed a bit of a stretch at the time, but as we get older, it fades.

Grats on the date! Definitely get a follow up date within a month, schedules permitting. I might aim for two weeks if you can. It might just be my hermit nature, but I find it’s important to maintain individual time and space, even in relationships. It’s easy to fall into being a couple, and loose who you are and doing what makes you happy. Some space also gives you time to digest what you learned about her, and anticipate the next meeting. YMMV.

I’d not pressure things. Let them unfold.

All you guys here are 30+ and I'm sitting here at 21 twiddling my thumbs.

 Avatar 720 wrote:
All you guys here are 30+ and I'm sitting here at 21 twiddling my thumbs.

As long as that's all you're 'twiddling'....

 Albatross wrote:

 Avatar 720 wrote:
All you guys here are 30+ and I'm sitting here at 21 twiddling my thumbs.

As long as that's all you're 'twiddling'....

Oooooh, matron!

That was actually my avatar for quite a while...

Albatross wrote:
Woah, sounds almost exactly like my situation! We waited and lemme tell you, it was worth the wait. God damn.

When the time is right you'll know. That time is usually when you both can't wait any longer and must have each other. I'd forgotten what that felt like. It's incredible.

Yeah this is what I was thinking. This girl is BOMB, and I don't want to jump the gun.

Nevelon wrote:

Grats on the date! Definitely get a follow up date within a month, schedules permitting. I might aim for two weeks if you can. It might just be my hermit nature, but I find it’s important to maintain individual time and space, even in relationships. It’s easy to fall into being a couple, and loose who you are and doing what makes you happy. Some space also gives you time to digest what you learned about her, and anticipate the next meeting. YMMV.

I’d not pressure things. Let them unfold.

Yeah, not sure if John Thomas can wait a month. Spoke earlier in the day, though. Neither of us can wait until the weekend, so we're going to go for a Wednesday date. Pretty excited!

So, Predictably, my cousin(More like m big over protective sister) finds out somehow. Now she is all sad I got rejected the first time I asked a girl out, how she is worried im scarred from the experiance.
I shutter to think of what she will do when i do get a girlfriend