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So I had a somewhat weird but awesome experience today.
So I work on this golf course and there's this hot blonde girl who plays every week. Stops to say hi every so often and let's me past if I'm on a mower or something.
Anyway I'm on my mower cutting around one of the bunkers and she starts teeing off, so I just pull to the side, turn the engine off to let her play through. But about a second later I hear a bit of a shout, so Iook up and WHAM! Her ball smacks into my shoulder and next thing I know is she's running over to me. Probably thinking she'd killed me or something.
Anyway we ended up getting talking, slight bit of mocking each other and I thought "feth it, I'm going for it"

So yeah I got a date after getting brained with a golf ball.
Fun times

Good job on your date, Sierra. Watch out for any flying golf balls..

I asked the girl I'm interested in out on a date. She said she didn't date (the last person she went on a date with died). Recovering quickly, I asked what her alternative to a date is, but before she responded another friend showed up and the conversation moved on.
I'm still struggling to work out an alternative to a date. I know she hasn't see the Wolf of Wall Street, and it's quite high on her 'to do' list. I've not seen it either, so perhapse a movie night at mine might be a called for?

Cheers Zambro, movie night could work or maybe hook up at a party?

 hotsauceman1 wrote:
I agree. It kinda is weird. But Ashiraya, some advice, it is likely someone is interested in you, they are just scared, break conventions and ask then out

So much this.

So I am now in a "relationship" with a girl I met while locked up in a psychiatric care facility...

Isnt crazy sex the best sex?

That is actually true.

Aslong as sharp objects
Side note, Its kinda funny, be everyone thinks im insane at work now, because I kept commenting on the knifes what have and what they are good for and how I want one of them

Guys, a hypothetical question. How do you know if a guy is interested in you?

I'd prefer not asking outright 'Are you interested in me?' as that could get really awkward really fast. But for some reason, in this entirely hypothetical situation, it's just something about the hypothetical guy that raises the suspicion.

Are there any secret signs I should look for?

All completely hypothetical of course.

 Ashiraya wrote:
Guys, a question. How do you know if a guy is interested in you?

I'd prefer not asking outright 'Are you interested in me?' as that could get really awkward really fast. But for some reason, it's just something about him that raises the suspicion.

Are there any secret signs I should look for?

Ouch, that's a pretty tough question.. I don't think there's an "universal" way of "recognizing" that. Probably if said person acts a bit 'different' around you,


...yeah, I'm probably pretty horrible at giving advice, but that's the most obvious thing I can think of.

 Ashiraya wrote:
Guys, a hypothetical question. How do you know if a guy is interested in you?

I'd prefer not asking outright 'Are you interested in me?' as that could get really awkward really fast. But for some reason, in this entirely hypothetical situation, it's just something about the hypothetical guy that raises the suspicion.

Are there any secret signs I should look for?

All completely hypothetical of course.

I think this thread might help with that question, specifically: http://www.dakkadakka.com/dakkaforum/posts/list/582154.page

 daedalus wrote:

 Ashiraya wrote:
Guys, a hypothetical question. How do you know if a guy is interested in you?

I'd prefer not asking outright 'Are you interested in me?' as that could get really awkward really fast. But for some reason, in this entirely hypothetical situation, it's just something about the hypothetical guy that raises the suspicion.

Are there any secret signs I should look for?

All completely hypothetical of course.

I think this thread might help with that question, specifically: http://www.dakkadakka.com/dakkaforum/posts/list/582154.page

Well, we're kind of in that thread

 thenoobbomb wrote:

Well, we're kind of in that thread

THAT'S THE JOKE.

Fine. If you're asking here about someone specific, instead, just fething ask him if he wants to do something. Hell, call it a date. If he was interested, he'll tell you. If he wasn't then you don't have to wonder.

Generally speaking, if he's a straight single guy who spends more time with you than most other girls, he's probably interested, but just chickenshit.

 Ashiraya wrote:
Guys, a hypothetical question. How do you know if a guy is interested in you?

I'd prefer not asking outright 'Are you interested in me?' as that could get really awkward really fast. But for some reason, in this entirely hypothetical situation, it's just something about the hypothetical guy that raises the suspicion.

Are there any secret signs I should look for?

All completely hypothetical of course.

Aside from what daedalus said, just try to kiss him, see what happens lol.

But seriously if hes either excessively nice towards you or teases you a lot hes prolly interested, hell if youre at all halfway decent friends hes prolly into you.

chaos0xomega wrote:

But seriously if hes either excessively nice towards you or teases you a lot hes prolly interested, hell if youre at all halfway decent friends hes prolly into you.

Ah, the "pulling the pigtails" thing. Good point.

Guys are... well, we don't really stop aging after somewhere between 8-14, we just pretend we do. With that in mind, if you're honestly not sure, think like you're about half your age.

 Ashiraya wrote:
Guys, a hypothetical question. How do you know if a guy is interested in you?

I'd prefer not asking outright 'Are you interested in me?' as that could get really awkward really fast. But for some reason, in this entirely hypothetical situation, it's just something about the hypothetical guy that raises the suspicion.

Are there any secret signs I should look for?

All completely hypothetical of course.

He looks for excuses to frequently be around you. Always tries to be physically close to you. Touches you, brushes against, you, etc. Constantly smiles in your presence. Focuses on you and not others in group scenarios.

 Ashiraya wrote:
Are there any secret signs I should look for?

Outside from the fact he seems very willing to spend time with you?

 trexmeyer wrote:
Always tries to be physically close to you. Touches you, brushes against, you, etc.

I do not do that. I am not really the most representative sample though .

According to this thread, a sign I guy is into you is when he acts like an idiot around you.

Depends on the guy.

 Easy E wrote:
According to this thread, a sign I guy is into you is when he acts like an idiot around you.

What's a "sign I guy"?

Most guys don't hang around women they have absolutely no interest in. At least voluntarily.

well, the plot thickens.
yesterday, i was talking to a friend of mine, who i hang out with a bit. she asked me if i lke the girl i posted about before, and i said that i wasn't sure. a few minutes later, i found out that this friend of mine has a crush on me. that, my friends, is what we call unexpected.

 Ashiraya wrote:
Guys, a hypothetical question. How do you know if a guy is interested in you?

I'd prefer not asking outright 'Are you interested in me?' as that could get really awkward really fast. But for some reason, in this entirely hypothetical situation, it's just something about the hypothetical guy that raises the suspicion.

Are there any secret signs I should look for?

All completely hypothetical of course.

Well, according to Cracked men prefer obvious hints that you're into them and women prefer more subtle ones.

 Ashiraya wrote:
Guys, a hypothetical question. How do you know if a guy is interested in you?

Besides asking them? The most obvious sign is if they act differently around you and there's no other obvious reason why (you're their only friend in a group, etc). There's no single clue because everyone is different. They might be acting flirty, but that might just be how they act all the time and it wouldn't suggest any particular interest. Or the guy that always seems to fumble his words when you're around might just be stuck in the "OMG GIRLS ARE SCARY" phase of social awkwardness, especially given how young you and (presumably) the hypothetical guy are. So you have to compare their behavior to how they treat everyone else. If they act the same all the time then there's probably not much conscious interest. If joining a conversation with them suddenly flips a switch in their behavior then there might be something.

And of course you also have to think about what kind of person they are. If they're a confident and extroverted person and they're interested they'll probably go for the direct approach and make a clear first move, so if you're stuck looking for subtle signs it probably means you're reading too much into the situation and they aren't very interested. If they're a typical awkward teenage gamer then yeah, pay attention to the signs because there's a pretty good chance they're intimidated and reluctant to say anything openly.

I'd prefer not asking outright 'Are you interested in me?' as that could get really awkward really fast.

Depends on the situation, really. If you're actually interested in them and getting any realistic sign that the attraction might be mutual then go for it. I'm not sure I'd put it in those words, but giving a sign of your own to test their reaction probably won't hurt. If you're not interested and just want to defuse an awkward situation then ignoring it is probably the best response, bringing it out in the open just to reject them is probably going to be embarrassing for everyone involved. If you're not interested and they're making you uncomfortable then it's probably good to say "sorry, I don't like you as more than a friend" or whatever to put that boundary back in place.


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 Bromsy wrote:
Most guys don't hang around women they have absolutely no interest in. At least voluntarily.

I guess this "friends" concept doesn't exist in their world?

 Peregrine wrote:



Automatically Appended Next Post:

 Bromsy wrote:
Most guys don't hang around women they have absolutely no interest in. At least voluntarily.

I guess this "friends" concept doesn't exist in their world?

Friends are people you like, and like being around. That is an interest. Do you really hang around with and consider friends women who you, under absolutely no circumstances you would have any interest in dating?

 Bromsy wrote:

 Peregrine wrote:



Automatically Appended Next Post:

 Bromsy wrote:
Most guys don't hang around women they have absolutely no interest in. At least voluntarily.

I guess this "friends" concept doesn't exist in their world?

Friends are people you like, and like being around. That is an interest. Do you really hang around with and consider friends women who you, under absolutely no circumstances you would have any interest in dating?

At the risk of sounding like a complete ass, I have fat female friends. I would never date someone overweight. I have a female friend that is wheelchair bound. Would not date. I have female friends I find unattractive, would not date. I have female friends 10+ years older than me. I would not date them.

Isn't it typical to be more selective with your romantic couplings than with friends?

 trexmeyer wrote:

 Bromsy wrote:

 Peregrine wrote:



Automatically Appended Next Post:

 Bromsy wrote:
Most guys don't hang around women they have absolutely no interest in. At least voluntarily.

I guess this "friends" concept doesn't exist in their world?

Friends are people you like, and like being around. That is an interest. Do you really hang around with and consider friends women who you, under absolutely no circumstances you would have any interest in dating?

At the risk of sounding like a complete ass, I have fat female friends. I would never date someone overweight. I have a female friend that is wheelchair bound. Would not date. I have female friends I find unattractive, would not date. I have female friends 10+ years older than me. I would not date them.

Isn't it typical to be more selective with your romantic couplings than with friends?

Those sound awfully like circumstances. Bolded the relevant part of my statement.

 Bromsy wrote:
Friends are people you like, and like being around. That is an interest. Do you really hang around with and consider friends women who you, under absolutely no circumstances you would have any interest in dating?

Yes.

 Bromsy wrote:
Those sound awfully like circumstances. Bolded the relevant part of my statement.

But "absolutely no circumstances" is a useless standard. By that standard every person you ever spend any time with is someone you have at least some interest in dating*. If you want to have any useful discussion of the subject you need to use a standard that actually divides people into "would date" and "would not date". For example, we might talk about whether or not you have any interest in dating a given person in any likely circumstances.


*Even if the circumstances in question are "I just turned gay, we're both single and desperate, we got really drunk, and the world is probably going to end tomorrow so we might as well enjoy our last moments".

Thank you, Peregrine. This should make the (hypothetical) situation easier to deal with.

 Ashiraya wrote:
Guys, a hypothetical question. How do you know if a guy is interested in you?

I'd prefer not asking outright 'Are you interested in me?' as that could get really awkward really fast. But for some reason, in this entirely hypothetical situation, it's just something about the hypothetical guy that raises the suspicion.

Are there any secret signs I should look for?

All completely hypothetical of course.

I'd second the act like an idiot thing. If I'm strongly attracted to someone I get a severe attack of the stupids, it's a family trait ...Yay genes.