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 Albatross wrote:
I don't particularly like piercings but that's kind of a strong reaction, dude.

yes, a bit strong altough the fact i was really smashed up didn't help either...

ThatSwellFella wrote:

 Albatross wrote:
I don't particularly like piercings but that's kind of a strong reaction, dude.

yes, a bit strong altough the fact i was really smashed up didn't help either...

I remember hearing a chris rock joke that goes something like "If you meet a woman with her tongue pierced she'll suck your d*ck. If you meet a man with his tongue pierced he'll suck your d*ck."

 Zambro wrote:

 Avatar 720 wrote:
I can't understand people who are into that, but different strokes for different folks, I guess.

I'll take staying in with a book and a cup of tea over a night on the town any day.

I agree with both of those statements. Definately not for everyone, and I'd rather a night in than out.

Although, from experiance and general concensus (probably), going to clubs to meet women will only get you sex. Not a date.

dunno about you, but i met my(now ex) GF in that same club... But yeah, what you said is mostly true, altough there is definitely a possibility...

ThatSwellFella wrote:

 Zambro wrote:

 Avatar 720 wrote:
I can't understand people who are into that, but different strokes for different folks, I guess.

I'll take staying in with a book and a cup of tea over a night on the town any day.

I agree with both of those statements. Definately not for everyone, and I'd rather a night in than out.

Although, from experiance and general concensus (probably), going to clubs to meet women will only get you sex. Not a date.

dunno about you, but i met my(now ex) GF in that same club... But yeah, what you said is mostly true, altough there is definitely a possibility...

Could her being your ex be a good reason for that being a bad place to find a stable relationship?

 flamingkillamajig wrote:

ThatSwellFella wrote:

 Zambro wrote:

 Avatar 720 wrote:
I can't understand people who are into that, but different strokes for different folks, I guess.

I'll take staying in with a book and a cup of tea over a night on the town any day.

I agree with both of those statements. Definately not for everyone, and I'd rather a night in than out.

Although, from experiance and general concensus (probably), going to clubs to meet women will only get you sex. Not a date.

dunno about you, but i met my(now ex) GF in that same club... But yeah, what you said is mostly true, altough there is definitely a possibility...

Could her being your ex be a good reason for that being a bad place to find a stable relationship?

not really, it was me who fethed up lol

Just show it is a bad place for stable relationships regardless of if you are male or female !
(Just kidding, no offense intended )

 flamingkillamajig wrote:

ThatSwellFella wrote:

 Albatross wrote:
I don't particularly like piercings but that's kind of a strong reaction, dude.

yes, a bit strong altough the fact i was really smashed up didn't help either...

I remember hearing a chris rock joke that goes something like "If you meet a woman with her tongue pierced she'll suck your d*ck. If you meet a man with his tongue pierced he'll suck your d*ck."

that's true...

 Hybrid Son Of Oxayotl wrote:
Just show it is a bad place for stable relationships regardless of if you are male or female !
(Just kidding, no offense intended )

I would dare to say it was pretty stable relationship, until i cheated on her and she of course found out, meaning it was MINE FAULT ONLY.(but yeah, in clubs you are MOSTLY gonna get laid for a night and forget everything the morning after, but there is always a chance )
@Rainbow dash: OK, good to know, but still... NOPE (atleast not for now)

ThatSwellFella wrote:

 Hybrid Son Of Oxayotl wrote:
Just show it is a bad place for stable relationships regardless of if you are male or female !
(Just kidding, no offense intended )

I would dare to say it was pretty stable relationship, until i cheated on her and she of course found out, meaning it was MINE FAULT ONLY.(but yeah, in clubs you are MOSTLY gonna get laid for a night and forget everything the morning after, but there is always a chance )
@Rainbow dash: OK, good to know, but still... NOPE (atleast not for now)

Men are far easier to... get with... but are much more aggressive, I don't like that... I want to be like talked to nicely and such.
They ought to at least pretend they care about me or ask my name.
God

 Rainbow Dash wrote:
They ought to at least pretend they care about me or ask my name.

 Hybrid Son Of Oxayotl wrote:

 Rainbow Dash wrote:
They ought to at least pretend they care about me or ask my name.

They're only looking for sex, which is fine, but I am not and it's clearly indicated on the profile I was not...
I mean, gay or straight, men seem to do that...I donno, men are still men lol.

I mean I'm a man, not much of one but still lol

Turnso out all my friends advice have been just for hookups and gak like that. He keeps saying that what he wants me to get is booty, not anything like a girlfriend because according to him those are no fun

 hotsauceman1 wrote:
Turnso out all my friends advice have been just for hookups and gak like that. He keeps saying that what he wants me to get is booty, not anything like a girlfriend because according to him those are no fun

I'd disagree, but you're, what, 21? 22? You have some time to feth around, man. LIVE A LITTLE.

I'm not sure that is me. But I decided not to rush and join the flats because of that (and the acceptance stuff is happening this weekend and I have to be out of town for stuff)

 Rainbow Dash wrote:
I mean, gay or straight, men seem to do that...I donno, men are still men lol.

Meh. Currently talking with a Mexican woman on OkCupid where it seems to be the opposite. Not “I do not want to know your name”-level, of course, but according to her answers on the OkCupid matching system, she is looking for sex more than a relationship.
Examples:



And the funny thing is, in all those questions, my answers are colored orange, meaning it was not one of the answer she would accept . But so far we had a nice discussion.

 daedalus wrote:

 hotsauceman1 wrote:
Turnso out all my friends advice have been just for hookups and gak like that. He keeps saying that what he wants me to get is booty, not anything like a girlfriend because according to him those are no fun

I'd disagree, but you're, what, 21? 22? You have some time to feth around, man. LIVE A LITTLE.

I know, right? Jesus fething Christ, some of you people sound as though you've given up on life or something! Talking about how clubs aren't the sort of places to meet someone and settle down and gak. Hoo boy.


KNOCK THAT OFF RIGHT NOW. Do not make the goal of dating 'to find a stable relationship'. I don't know where that stuff comes from, but I reckon it's from one of two places, either:

You have heard a lot of women say it on TV and in bad films and gone 'well, if that's what women are looking for, that's what I'll do - I'll be what every women is looking for: Stability.'

Wrong! You lose! Women just say that gak. What most women actually want is what most people want, and that's stability, yes, but punctuated by periods of excitement. The tricky part is that some people like differing amounts of excitement, and people have differing ideas about what is exciting. So basically you can't really predict what a woman will want romantically until you get to know them, so stop trying.

So, yeah, it's that or:

Dear god, I'm so alone. Please let just one woman find me attractive or interesting. Just one. I'll never let that person go. I'll do whatever it takes to keep them.

Woah there. Just... Woah. Another person is not the answer to whatever is troubling you.

I debated whether or not to post this, actually. It comes off a little mean, but that's not my intention. I'm not even saying that you all (young inexperienced men looking for stable relationships) consciously think this, but I think deep down, that's the primary driver behind wanting a stable relationship. It always seems (and this is just anecdotal) to be guys who have difficulty meeting people who say that's what they're looking for. Guys who have a bit more experience in that field usually say something like 'I'm looking to meet someone and just see where it goes.' That's healthy, and is the answer least likely to freak out a prospective date. You won't be alone forever if you just relax. It's just a matter of time and leaving your comfort zone gradually, trying new things and enjoying the process.

Guys, seriously. Get out there and have some fun. You don't want to go out to bar full of douches (like me)? Cool, whatever, go to a rock club with some mates. Go to a gig. Have a few drinks, make some mistakes. Chat up some girls. Rip the piss out of each other when you get shot down in flames by one of them. Laugh.



Live.

The mexican lady asked me if I wanted to meet her for a coffee in Paris. You bet I want .

 Albatross wrote:
You don't want to go out to bar full of douches (like me)?

Do not get me wrong, the problem with clubs is not the people in them. The problem is mainly music too loud to hear each other, and that I do not like dancing. That is just my personal taste, no judgment involved. I have no problems with bars though.

 Hybrid Son Of Oxayotl wrote:
The mexican lady asked me if I wanted to meet her for a coffee in Paris. You bet I want .

You mean...



You got a date.

Yeah, exactly .
(Two actually, I have another with the statistician on the 20th )

I decided against using 'the other one'.

 Albatross wrote:

 daedalus wrote:

 hotsauceman1 wrote:
Turnso out all my friends advice have been just for hookups and gak like that. He keeps saying that what he wants me to get is booty, not anything like a girlfriend because according to him those are no fun

I'd disagree, but you're, what, 21? 22? You have some time to feth around, man. LIVE A LITTLE.

I know, right? Jesus fething Christ, some of you people sound as though you've given up on life or something! Talking about how clubs aren't the sort of places to meet someone and settle down and gak. Hoo boy.


KNOCK THAT OFF RIGHT NOW. Do not make the goal of dating 'to find a stable relationship'. I don't know where that stuff comes from, but I reckon it's from one of two places, either:

You have heard a lot of women say it on TV and in bad films and gone 'well, if that's what women are looking for, that's what I'll do - I'll be what every women is looking for: Stability.'

Wrong! You lose! Women just say that gak. What most women actually want is what most people want, and that's stability, yes, but punctuated by periods of excitement. The tricky part is that some people like differing amounts of excitement, and people have differing ideas about what is exciting. So basically you can't really predict what a woman will want romantically until you get to know them, so stop trying.

So, yeah, it's that or:

Dear god, I'm so alone. Please let just one woman find me attractive or interesting. Just one. I'll never let that person go. I'll do whatever it takes to keep them.

Woah there. Just... Woah. Another person is not the answer to whatever is troubling you.

I debated whether or not to post this, actually. It comes off a little mean, but that's not my intention. I'm not even saying that you all (young inexperienced men looking for stable relationships) consciously think this, but I think deep down, that's the primary driver behind wanting a stable relationship. It always seems (and this is just anecdotal) to be guys who have difficulty meeting people who say that's what they're looking for. Guys who have a bit more experience in that field usually say something like 'I'm looking to meet someone and just see where it goes.' That's healthy, and is the answer least likely to freak out a prospective date. You won't be alone forever if you just relax. It's just a matter of time and leaving your comfort zone gradually, trying new things and enjoying the process.

Guys, seriously. Get out there and have some fun. You don't want to go out to bar full of douches (like me)? Cool, whatever, go to a rock club with some mates. Go to a gig. Have a few drinks, make some mistakes. Chat up some girls. Rip the piss out of each other when you get shot down in flames by one of them. Laugh.



Live.

I guess that is true.
Maybe I should go out more I guess. I mean I do alot, but sometimes it i with the ame group of people.
But that is not to say I dont go out and do things, I just dont have friends that want to go do things with me often. And If I go by myself, the worst part is i jut stop talking and just dance on the floor all night

 Albatross wrote:

 daedalus wrote:

 hotsauceman1 wrote:
Turnso out all my friends advice have been just for hookups and gak like that. He keeps saying that what he wants me to get is booty, not anything like a girlfriend because according to him those are no fun

I'd disagree, but you're, what, 21? 22? You have some time to feth around, man. LIVE A LITTLE.

I know, right? Jesus fething Christ, some of you people sound as though you've given up on life or something! Talking about how clubs aren't the sort of places to meet someone and settle down and gak. Hoo boy.


KNOCK THAT OFF RIGHT NOW. Do not make the goal of dating 'to find a stable relationship'. I don't know where that stuff comes from, but I reckon it's from one of two places, either:

You have heard a lot of women say it on TV and in bad films and gone 'well, if that's what women are looking for, that's what I'll do - I'll be what every women is looking for: Stability.'

Wrong! You lose! Women just say that gak. What most women actually want is what most people want, and that's stability, yes, but punctuated by periods of excitement. The tricky part is that some people like differing amounts of excitement, and people have differing ideas about what is exciting. So basically you can't really predict what a woman will want romantically until you get to know them, so stop trying.

So, yeah, it's that or:

Dear god, I'm so alone. Please let just one woman find me attractive or interesting. Just one. I'll never let that person go. I'll do whatever it takes to keep them.

Woah there. Just... Woah. Another person is not the answer to whatever is troubling you.

I debated whether or not to post this, actually. It comes off a little mean, but that's not my intention. I'm not even saying that you all (young inexperienced men looking for stable relationships) consciously think this, but I think deep down, that's the primary driver behind wanting a stable relationship. It always seems (and this is just anecdotal) to be guys who have difficulty meeting people who say that's what they're looking for. Guys who have a bit more experience in that field usually say something like 'I'm looking to meet someone and just see where it goes.' That's healthy, and is the answer least likely to freak out a prospective date. You won't be alone forever if you just relax. It's just a matter of time and leaving your comfort zone gradually, trying new things and enjoying the process.

Guys, seriously. Get out there and have some fun. You don't want to go out to bar full of douches (like me)? Cool, whatever, go to a rock club with some mates. Go to a gig. Have a few drinks, make some mistakes. Chat up some girls. Rip the piss out of each other when you get shot down in flames by one of them. Laugh.



Live.

have an exalt, you couldn't be more right, i don't get what is so scary if a girl feths you off in a rock club? Say to yourself: she will get drunk amd forget about me, then You simply start a chat with another. And stop forcing dates, it will just piss you off because it doesn't work. Dont know how to approach? Use some typical openers, like got(insertsomethinghere) maybe? Then introduce yourself, shake hands and see where it goes. I would like to mention the Tricky part? I have noticed, unless i aproach a girl in a few seconds time after she notices me, you lose surely
@hotsauceman1: wow... perhaps your friends think you are a little odd, having in mind they don't want to go too often with you for weekends?
Talk to them, ask them to go out in some club/bar, or get new friends, since they aren't real friends if they feth you off when you invite them out?
Think of this idea:if you dislike going alone out(i can understand that) and if there is some guy from your FLGS you enjoy playing with get his phone number, call him for a game, after the game, ask himis he in the mood to go out in the night club. If he agrees, join a group of girls, relax and don't force anything. You will find a girl which will likeyou sooner or later. How will you notice does a girl like you? Can't give you a better answer other than trust your instinct, but she will laugh and keep talking if she likes you(if she is not interested, she will probably: tell you to GTFO/keep playing on the cellphone/acting(and failing) like she is interested. If that is the case, go look for another girl

I guess for me that is the hard part. I mean Im learning....I think.

 Albatross wrote:

 daedalus wrote:

 hotsauceman1 wrote:
Turnso out all my friends advice have been just for hookups and gak like that. He keeps saying that what he wants me to get is booty, not anything like a girlfriend because according to him those are no fun

I'd disagree, but you're, what, 21? 22? You have some time to feth around, man. LIVE A LITTLE.

I know, right? Jesus fething Christ, some of you people sound as though you've given up on life or something! Talking about how clubs aren't the sort of places to meet someone and settle down and gak. Hoo boy.


KNOCK THAT OFF RIGHT NOW. Do not make the goal of dating 'to find a stable relationship'. I don't know where that stuff comes from, but I reckon it's from one of two places, either:

You have heard a lot of women say it on TV and in bad films and gone 'well, if that's what women are looking for, that's what I'll do - I'll be what every women is looking for: Stability.'

Wrong! You lose! Women just say that gak. What most women actually want is what most people want, and that's stability, yes, but punctuated by periods of excitement. The tricky part is that some people like differing amounts of excitement, and people have differing ideas about what is exciting. So basically you can't really predict what a woman will want romantically until you get to know them, so stop trying.

So, yeah, it's that or:

Dear god, I'm so alone. Please let just one woman find me attractive or interesting. Just one. I'll never let that person go. I'll do whatever it takes to keep them.

Woah there. Just... Woah. Another person is not the answer to whatever is troubling you.

I debated whether or not to post this, actually. It comes off a little mean, but that's not my intention. I'm not even saying that you all (young inexperienced men looking for stable relationships) consciously think this, but I think deep down, that's the primary driver behind wanting a stable relationship. It always seems (and this is just anecdotal) to be guys who have difficulty meeting people who say that's what they're looking for. Guys who have a bit more experience in that field usually say something like 'I'm looking to meet someone and just see where it goes.' That's healthy, and is the answer least likely to freak out a prospective date. You won't be alone forever if you just relax. It's just a matter of time and leaving your comfort zone gradually, trying new things and enjoying the process.

Guys, seriously. Get out there and have some fun. You don't want to go out to bar full of douches (like me)? Cool, whatever, go to a rock club with some mates. Go to a gig. Have a few drinks, make some mistakes. Chat up some girls. Rip the piss out of each other when you get shot down in flames by one of them. Laugh.



Live.

Yes and no. You see i had the most unfortunate happening of meeting a girl i really, really liked. She had everything i ever wanted in a woman. An attractive woman with features, perverted, a nerd, a gamer, enjoyed humor and played even the same faction in warhammer 40k as me. She even mentioned she liked me and i might have a chance with her. I knew her about a year then i screwed up and she stopped talking to me for good. There are some fantastic women out there guys. Sadly for me it didn't work out. Maybe she was just out of my league (as much as people say they don't exist). There's just too many guys that were like her whereas not many girls. Oh and she liked to have fun too. H*ll she was probably right up your alley too albatross. I think she liked parties from time to time and got drunk about one day out of the weekend.

So yeah it sucks when you find somebody that feels perfect and you just lose them. I'd be lying though if i said you were totally wrong though. I am a sad lonely nerd and to an extent have bought into some of what people imagine women want. That said i'm more into not being super good to women i want. I just be myself and if that doesn't work they probably weren't for me. Hopefully there's another perfect girl for me out there but hopefully not so out of reach like the last one.

 hotsauceman1 wrote:
I guess for me that is the hard part. I mean Im learning....I think.

big deal man, the hardest thing is the start, look the above post, i gave you some tips that i find very effective.
good luck on future dates

Next time im out, I will. I dont know why they dont invite me or tell me when something is happening. They call to chill all the time in his room. But never a party. Its mostly because they go to their frat parties and if you arent a brother, you are not invited. And I thinks it because i get annoyed with the constant ribbing they do.

 hotsauceman1 wrote:
Next time im out, I will. I dont know why they dont invite me or tell me when something is happening. They call to chill all the time in his room. But never a party. Its mostly because they go to their frat parties and if you arent a brother, you are not invited.
Oh well.

if you don't enjoy that kind of parties you are not missing a thing, trust me.

I hate Frat Boys, So yeah.

Surely there's various geekery related societies at college? (my university had a science fiction society, for example. And a gaming one, and a roleplaying one and an anime one (not that I went to that) ). - They had pretty high membership too. The science fiction one and, presumably the anime one had a rather impressively high ratio of female members.