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 the shrouded lord wrote:
here's something entertaining. There was this girl I used to flirt with constantly. I usually don't flirt, but this girl was so far out of my league it was hilarious. we were good friends. I knew the guy she liked and we were buddies too. anyway, I used to flirt with her, she would flirt with me too. to me, It was really just funny. she was like, way way way out of my league, like I had no chance. so I thought we did it for gaks and giggles.
turns out she actually wanted to go out with me and the reason she was always sad was because I never seemed to be really interested in her.
go figure.
In other, more good news, I've lost six kilos.

You just learnt why the "out of my league" stuff is complete crap. Try to not think that way ever again.

So, it's been 100 pages and almost a whole year since I started this thread!

What did we learn? How have our lives changed?

 Albatross wrote:
So, it's been 100 pages and almost a whole year since I started this thread!

What did we learn? How have our lives changed?

That women be cray cray. I've had two bad experiences with asking out women.

Trust the internet. Don't stick to crazy women.

 Hybrid Son Of Oxayotl wrote:

 daedalus wrote:

 Ashiraya wrote:
Wait, it's valentine's already?
Well, I still have WoW to hang out with, I guess.

I can't help but wonder if you're just not trying...

From what I understand, she is being picky and she really can afford to! She is in no rush. Am I right?

Indeed. I am looking, but I just haven't found anything worthwhile.

I'm not even looking, so there's that. Can't be bothered, really.

 thenoobbomb wrote:
I'm not even looking, so there's that. Can't be bothered, really.

Man Thats like the opposite of me. I am always interested, but the problem being, I don't know what to do. I don't even flirt I just talk and have fun.

 Asherian Command wrote:

 thenoobbomb wrote:
I'm not even looking, so there's that. Can't be bothered, really.

Man Thats like the opposite of me. I am always interested, but the problem being, I don't know what to do. I don't even flirt I just talk and have fun.

I mainly do the latter, too.

 Albatross wrote:
So, it's been 100 pages and almost a whole year since I started this thread!

What did we learn? How have our lives changed?

I've learned that I fething love English women. The South Yorkshire variety in particular!

This will be my first year single on valentines day in a while. I think I might treat myself to a bottle of wine, a box of chocolates, and lay on my bed rubbing hundred dollar bills on my naked, flabby, chest. I might put in a forgeworld order after that. Anyone have suggestions for what GW colour to use for that awesome shade of green the Sons of Horus have?


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 Barksdale wrote:

 Albatross wrote:
So, it's been 100 pages and almost a whole year since I started this thread!

What did we learn? How have our lives changed?

I've learned that I fething love English women. The South Yorkshire variety in particular!

I hear ya there. That accent just melts my heart. Unfortunately, we got duped at Yorktown. All you lobsterbacks took the hot-accented English chicks with you (or shipped them up to Igloo-land) and those lousy Crapauds didn't leave any hot french-accented chicks behind like they said they would!

Dastardly French! And all we did for ya'll in WWII!!!

 hotsauceman1 wrote:
Man, Now im scared jesus.
I have no idea what to do?

This is really easy. The number 1 thing I see guys do wrong is talk all about themselves. Newsflash.... no one cares! It makes you a boor and a bore.

Instead, you do the following:

1. Ask an open ended question
2. Actively listen to the answer
3. ASk a aclarifying questions about what they just said
4. Actively listen to the answer
5. Add a quick story about yourself that relates to what they just said. Make it quick
6. Follow-up with another open ended question
7. Repeat all the steps until the evening is over

Conversationalist Trophy Unlocked.

Since it sounds like you are having coffee or a meal, it is important to be able to have interesting conversation. No one is use to be listened too. We you ask an open ended question it can not have a yes/no answer. It is also really good to ask how they felt or thoguht about the topic of the discussion.

That is all it takes. Oh, and don;t act like a frat boy DB. Unless you are a frat boy DB, then be yourself.

 Easy E wrote:

 hotsauceman1 wrote:
Man, Now im scared jesus.
I have no idea what to do?

This is really easy. The number 1 thing I see guys do wrong is talk all about themselves. Newsflash.... no one cares! It makes you a boor and a bore.

Instead, you do the following:

1. Ask an open ended question
2. Actively listen to the answer
3. ASk a aclarifying questions about what they just said
4. Actively listen to the answer
5. Add a quick story about yourself that relates to what they just said. Make it quick
6. Follow-up with another open ended question
7. Repeat all the steps until the evening is over

Conversationalist Trophy Unlocked.

Since it sounds like you are having coffee or a meal, it is important to be able to have interesting conversation. No one is use to be listened too. We you ask an open ended question it can not have a yes/no answer. It is also really good to ask how they felt or thoguht about the topic of the discussion.

That is all it takes. Oh, and don;t act like a frat boy DB. Unless you are a frat boy DB, then be yourself.

Just to add to your list of things to do a bit, I learned a neat trick from a Kenyan friend who had another Kenyan friend who didn't speak very good English. When someone is babbling on about something you don't understand/or care to understand, you wait for them to pause for a second, then say "really?" Then they babble on for a second or two more and then you say "wow" at the next convenient break. Works 98.2% of the time.

Also, never ever tell her this trick. Women have moderate to good memories, and if she knows this trick, you'll be sunk. It is for this reason that I never ask Kenyan chicks out in case unbenownst to me she is this girl who told my friend this.

I did this to my ex once and it turned out unpleasantly. She was with me at the wedding reception where this story was told. Being a masculine manly man, I have a tolerable to barely sufficient memory. She was all like "babble babble blah blah," and I was like, "really?" And so she was like "babble babble chick at work I argue with incessantly in those hours I am at work and thus cannot argue incessantly with you babble babble blah blah", and I'm like, "wow." Then she gets all like, "I WAS AT THE WEDDING RECEPTION YOU %&%)^ _(&^ +&&* ^_(*^ %$(*^&^)!!!!!?!??!?!?" But it all turned out well, because earlier that day I had taken the .38 that usually sat on her nightstand and put it in a case or something.

 Easy E wrote:

 hotsauceman1 wrote:
Man, Now im scared jesus.
I have no idea what to do?

This is really easy. The number 1 thing I see guys do wrong is talk all about themselves. Newsflash.... no one cares! It makes you a boor and a bore.

Instead, you do the following:

1. Ask an open ended question
2. Actively listen to the answer
3. ASk a aclarifying questions about what they just said
4. Actively listen to the answer
5. Add a quick story about yourself that relates to what they just said. Make it quick
6. Follow-up with another open ended question
7. Repeat all the steps until the evening is over

Conversationalist Trophy Unlocked.

Since it sounds like you are having coffee or a meal, it is important to be able to have interesting conversation. No one is use to be listened too. We you ask an open ended question it can not have a yes/no answer. It is also really good to ask how they felt or thoguht about the topic of the discussion.

That is all it takes. Oh, and don;t act like a frat boy DB. Unless you are a frat boy DB, then be yourself.

Why are you so opposed to questions with yes or no answers?

 Cheesecat wrote:

Why are you so opposed to questions with yes or no answers?

They don’t work well for continuing a conversation. If you ask an open question, you get her answer, not just her choice from the binary options you offer. You can then take her answer and form another question from that, back and forth. It makes for better information flow, and investment into the conversation.

Which is a good thing, particularly when you are trying to get to know someone.

dethork wrote:
I did this to my ex once and it turned out unpleasantly. She was with me at the wedding reception where this story was told. Being a masculine manly man, I have a tolerable to barely sufficient memory. She was all like "babble babble blah blah," and I was like, "really?" And so she was like "babble babble chick at work I argue with incessantly in those hours I am at work and thus cannot argue incessantly with you babble babble blah blah", and I'm like, "wow." Then she gets all like, "I WAS AT THE WEDDING RECEPTION YOU %&%)^ _(&^ +&&* ^_(*^ %$(*^&^)!!!!!?!??!?!?" But it all turned out well, because earlier that day I had taken the .38 that usually sat on her nightstand and put it in a case or something.

Really?

 Nevelon wrote:

 Cheesecat wrote:

Why are you so opposed to questions with yes or no answers?

They don’t work well for continuing a conversation.

That's a good point thinking back on conversations I had I tend to not enjoy yes or no responses, makes it hard to branch off of.

 Cheesecat wrote:

 Nevelon wrote:

 Cheesecat wrote:

Why are you so opposed to questions with yes or no answers?

They don’t work well for continuing a conversation.

That's a good point thinking back on conversations I had I tend to not enjoy yes or no responses, makes it hard to branch off of.

Sounds familiar.

I usually am good with striking up conversations.

I learn't that i absolutely love being single and that i do not need anyone else in my life

I've more or less been brainwashed/lied to too think that i need a relationship with a female to make my life relevant

feth the world and the cruel unforgiving god that controls it.
I just found out she has a boyfriend.........I'm not sure why she said yes........

 hotsauceman1 wrote:
feth the world and the cruel unforgiving god that controls it.
I just found out she has a boyfriend.........I'm not sure why she said yes........

You can still be friends maybe she has a girlfriend or two that is single, as usually if you become friends with someone you become friends with their friends.

Maybe I'm lucky, maybe now I will know why I might get stood up.
what should I do, at friday class see if she still wants to get together?

 hotsauceman1 wrote:
Maybe I'm lucky, maybe now I will know why I might get stood up.
what should I do, at friday class see if she still wants to get together?

Question did she tell you?

Its not confirmed unless she tells you. IT isn't really confirmed unless its her bestfriend.

 hotsauceman1 wrote:
Maybe I'm lucky, maybe now I will know why I might get stood up.
what should I do, at friday class see if she still wants to get together?

Should probably stick with the plan and see where life takes you, like I said maybe she has a single girlfriend who's looking for someone to date.

 Cheesecat wrote:

 hotsauceman1 wrote:
Maybe I'm lucky, maybe now I will know why I might get stood up.
what should I do, at friday class see if she still wants to get together?

Should probably stick with the plan and see where life takes you, like I said maybe she has a single girlfriend who's looking for someone to date.

Now I hope I don't run into that situation...

Ugh hopefully I see her tomorrow.

I'll try, but I doupt

the hell is going on?
first I go out with someone, find out their friend likes me, than I break up with her and decide to avoid dating all of a sudden the firend, my old crush, a girl who once slept with her head against my shoulder and a friend of mine all like me.
also can't a guy just want to have his hair over one eye because HE likes it, not because he thinks it looks cool? My mother keeps giving me crap about my hair. we'll see her reaction when it's long enough for me to put it in a ponytail.

also can't a guy just want to have his hair over one eye because HE likes it, not because he thinks it looks cool? My mother keeps giving me crap about my hair. we'll see her reaction when it's long enough for me to put it in a ponytail.

I'm a month and a day away from being 22, and I still get crap from my family for having long(-er; it's been longer than this for a longer time before) hair. At first I grew it out because the 'scene' look for guys was 'in', and I ended up liking it, so kept it after it had more or less fallen 'out of fashion' with my year at school. I get it cut when it becomes annoying to wash and manage, but until such a time as I no longer like it, it's going to stay however the feth I want it, and that's generally all you can do in this situation. You're unlikely to convince anyone who wants you to change it that you actually like it, and the best solution--even if it isn't the easiest--is to "mm" and nod along at the lectures, and forget it all when you leave the room. One thing you shouldn't do, though, is try and provoke a reaction. If you want a ponytail, then fine, go nuts, but don't grow it to that length out of spite.

Long hair also considerably lengthens the time showers take, requires a hairdryer to dry in time for anything, and needs trimming every few months to avoid knots and split ends. I'm also not sure how the army would see it, seeing as you're interested in enlisting. It might not be worth trying to grow it out if you're going to have to chop it all off a short time later, but I'm not sure how near/far/in a motorcar away that time is for you.

 Avatar 720 wrote:
I'm not sure how near/far/in a motorcar away that time is for you.

Thanks, now I have Chitty Chitty Bang Bang stuck in my head...

On another note: get your hair cut ya hippes!! /joke

Yep didn't see her today *grumbles*

 Asherian Command wrote:
Yep didn't see her today *grumbles*

Well, come sat we can be miserable together.
the only thing I think is she just said yes, being nice. She seems like that kinda person. And out of habit it seems. Or she isn't understand what I was asking.
Ohwell, I gotta just continue going forward, right after I'm don't with these vodka gummy bears.

 Gogsnik wrote:

 Avatar 720 wrote:
I'm not sure how near/far/in a motorcar away that time is for you.

Thanks, now I have Chitty Chitty Bang Bang stuck in my head...

On another note: get your hair cut ya hippes!! /joke

I have Invisible Touch stuck in my head...

appropriate for my life actually lol