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Well, the bad news: my religious, rather conservative in-laws found out that their 17 (almost 18) year-old single daughter is pregnant.
The worse news: My wife suggested to her (and she agreed) that she'd like to have a lifecasting done when she is big enough.
I definitely have the skills and material to make a cast of a person, then fill the mold with fiberglass. While I am rather conservative, I'm also not exactly a prude. However, when doing projects like this there is a level of "personal space invasion" that is necessary. Quite frankly making a body-cast of my wife's sister would be awkward enough, but since she'll only be 18 (I'm 32) it makes me a tad uncomfortable. This is a "hands-on" project, if you get my drift. Even though my wife brought this up, I have a sneaking suspicion that she'll be watching me with a critical eye.
What do you all think, should I try to get out of this, or man-up and do it.
This clearly crosses some boundaries for you, and that is perfectly fine. Do you think if you sat your wife down and explained the process of life casting, and what you would have to do with her sister, that she would understand your concerns?
This clearly crosses some boundaries for you, and that is perfectly fine. Do you think if you sat your wife down and explained the process of life casting, and what you would have to do with her sister, that she would understand your concerns?
My wife actually knows what lifecasting involves, as I casted her while pregnant too. I guess I could always just use a repeating internal monolog of "Not seeing boob, not seeing boob", lol.
Agreeing with DarkTraveler here. It sounds like you are uncomfortable with this, so you just need to say that to her and help her find someone else to do it.
I'd just be honest with your wife and say you don't feel comfortable laying hands on her sister.
Sorry to ask an indelicate question, but is this a money issue on your wife'/sister-in-law's part? Would the sister be unable to pay for a life cast unless you do it? If that is the real reason your wife is adamant about you doing this perhaps you could offer to pay for the service to be done by someone else.
DarkTraveler777 wrote: I'd just be honest with your wife and say you don't feel comfortable laying hands on her sister.
Sorry to ask an indelicate question, but is this a money issue on your wife'/sister-in-law's part? Would the sister be unable to pay for a life cast unless you do it? If that is the real reason your wife is adamant about you doing this perhaps you could offer to pay for the service to be done by someone else.
Actually, it's more of a comfort issue with my sister-in-law, as ironic as that seems. Although the thought of me doing it isn't exactly something she's 100% comfortable with herself, I'm the only one she'd be comfortable with at all. I've know her for a decade, and I'm in the "brother zone" to her so she trusts me to be completely professional about it.
That, and to be honest, I've accidentally seen her naked twice all ready. (I show up to in-laws, she thinks she's home alone, walking from shower to bedroom without a towel), so nothing I haven't all ready seen, but still awkward.
1.) If you feel totally uncomfortable, you should not do it. If she is uncomfortable, you should not do it.
2.) If you're the only person who can do it, and you're the difference between her getting it at all, and her not getting it, and it's important to her - important enough for you and her both to to overcome #1, you should do it. This would be art, not porn, and I imagine your eye would be more surgical that prurient.
If your wife brought it up, then clearly she's OK with it and wants you to do it, because if she didn't want you to, she would have never asked at all. You did it for her, she knows what it entails, and she still asked.
In your situation, I'd probably just do it (with my wife present and assisting). Life is short and it would be a nice memento.
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1) If either of you are uncomfortable and you feel like it crosses some serious boundaries, then don't do it.
2) If you are okay with it, for whatever reason, then go ahead and do it.
2.5) If you do it, have her sister in the room to assist. If for no other reason than to provide some assurance and comfort to you both and make it less awkward.
Thanks Ouze,
I think I'll just man-up and do it then. Although I might just need to have my wife in the next room, not helping. Close enough to know I'm not inappropriate, but far enough away to not make me completely nervous.
When I did a couple of these back in college I was focused so hard on keeping a schedule that I didn't really even have time to notice the woman in front of me.
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insaniak wrote: Every time someone threatens violence over the internet as a result of someone's hypothetical actions at the gaming table, the earth shakes infinitisemally in its orbit as millions of eyeballs behind millions of monitors all roll simultaneously.
Basically, think of what it takes to make molds of something when you want to make a resin cast of it. Then do that with a living person. Basically, I'd use a rubber/plaster covering of a person (in this case a torso), then use that as a mold for a fiberglass casting.
It recreates the shape of the pregnant woman as a momento.
This clearly crosses some boundaries for you, and that is perfectly fine. Do you think if you sat your wife down and explained the process of life casting, and what you would have to do with her sister, that she would understand your concerns?
My wife actually knows what lifecasting involves, as I casted her while pregnant too. I guess I could always just use a repeating internal monolog of "Not seeing boob, not seeing boob", lol.
Grow a pair and just say "no way thats ultra pervy! Now get me a beer woman."
-"Wait a minute.....who is that Frazz is talking to in the gallery? Hmmm something is going on here.....Oh.... it seems there is some dispute over video taping of some sort......Frazz is really upset now..........wait a minute......whats he go there.......is it? Can it be?....Frazz has just unleashed his hidden weiner dog from his mini bag, while quoting shakespeares "Let slip the dogs the war!!" GG
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hotsauceman1 wrote: Followed by a sleeping outside and having a horrible case of blueballs
Alternatively "yes I've been looking forward to getting my hands on her for so long er, doing this body sculpture thing."
Seriously, stand up and say it would be just too weird for you., because that does sounds messed up.
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-"Wait a minute.....who is that Frazz is talking to in the gallery? Hmmm something is going on here.....Oh.... it seems there is some dispute over video taping of some sort......Frazz is really upset now..........wait a minute......whats he go there.......is it? Can it be?....Frazz has just unleashed his hidden weiner dog from his mini bag, while quoting shakespeares "Let slip the dogs the war!!" GG
-"Don't mind Frazzled. He's just Dakka's crazy old dude locked in the attic. He's harmless. Mostly."
-TBone the Magnificent 1999-2014, Long Live the King!
hotsauceman1 wrote: Seriously, How have you remained married this entire time?
Because people understand humor?
There is no such thing as a hobby without politics. "Leave politics at the door" is itself a political statement, an endorsement of the status quo and an attempt to silence dissenting voices.
Vash108 wrote: If you are both secure adults there should be no problem. If not get someone else to do it. Its sounding like the latter may be better.
Implying someone not willing to touch his naked 18 year old sister-in-law isn't a "secure" adult. The internet is a funny place. At least elsewhere people actually troll instead of making serious posts that amount to nothing more than bait.
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While nudity is a normal part of the job in this business, and you should be considered a dispassionate professional, you are also entitled to refuse on the basis of familial intimacy as a doctor might.
I suggest you have your wife in the room throughout the job to act as a chaperone, for everyone's peace of mind. Chaperoning is common in other professions involving intimate contact, such as medicine.
In this case where the subject is under age I think it is doubly appropriate.
trexmeyer wrote: Implying someone not willing to touch his naked 18 year old sister-in-law isn't a "secure" adult. .
Honestly, it kind of is insecurity if it's all about trust issues (the comment about his wife "watching him with a critical eye"). If she can't trust him to be professional about it if he agrees to do it then that's a problem.
There is no such thing as a hobby without politics. "Leave politics at the door" is itself a political statement, an endorsement of the status quo and an attempt to silence dissenting voices.
On the other hand... if you tell them that it makes you feel uncomfortable, that might arose suspicions that were never there in the first place. You might get hit back with "Why would it be weird? OMG! are you attracted to my pregnant sister!!!?" . I'm not personally a fan of talking things through like adults, and cards on the table etc... Remember: no good deed ever goes unpunished! I prefer "some things are better left unsaid" and "plausible deniability".
I think there are three options here:
1: You secretly want to touch up your wife's sister. In which case, go ahead! Just don't tell anyone you're recording it.
2: You're not interested, and don't mind doing it. In which case, you can go about it with a clear conscious. If anyone says anything, you can just flip it round and say it is them that has a dirty mind. (and you'd be right).
3: You know that midway through the process you'll be unable to resist yanking down your pants and fapping furiously in front of your wife an inlaws, (and some girl scouts who stopped around to sell cookies), how embarrassing. This would obviously have life altering repercussions. If this is the case then: for god sake don't tell anyone! Just make an excuse like you don't have enough time, or "Yeah I got this plaster real cheap after the batch was recalled. Apparently a bunch of babies were born with no head LOL".
If you do decided to go ahead, then I recommend confronting it with confidence an humour. If you act uncomfortable and weird, then it will make everyone else feel uncomfortable and weird. If you act comfortable and at ease then I'm sure your wife and sister will feel at ease too.
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Smacks wrote: You might get hit back with "Why would it be weird? OMG! are you attracted to my pregnant sister!!!?" .
And that's when you get a divorce. Why would anyone want to spend the rest of their life with someone that paranoid and jealous?
There is no such thing as a hobby without politics. "Leave politics at the door" is itself a political statement, an endorsement of the status quo and an attempt to silence dissenting voices.
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