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And yet, he somehow manged to solve his problem.

So his friend is back to war gaming, he is being less of a dick to other and they are still friends.

Major victory?

 Primark G wrote:
This whole thread is weird. I see no reason to trust the OP. He comes across as extremely high and mighty.

Pot, this is kettle. I say again, pot- this is kettle. Am I copying your last correctly?

 Primark G wrote:
You should have confronted him pretty from the beginning but instead you let it fester into this situation. I feel like this thread is to appease your conscious.

For your reference, pot- this was directed at kettle previously and I'm wanting confirmation. How copy, over?

 Jidmah wrote:
And yet, he somehow manged to solve his problem.

So his friend is back to war gaming, he is being less of a dick to other and they are still friends.

Major victory?

Yes. I think it just took some time, and I also think he was having some issues with his lady that had an affect on his attitude. I can honestly say, I've been in a relationship where certain things were going on behind the scenes with me and the gal, and it made my ego bruised just a bit.

We're going to REALLY need everyone - and I do mean EVERYONE - to follow RULE #1 in this thread.

(And yes, everywhere on Dakka Dakka.)

Hopefully that's clear enough, and no one will have to be warned or suspended going forward?

 Marmatag wrote:

 supreme overlord wrote:
let me wager a guess as to his army: ulramarines and girlyman, bringing the big G with him to every game. my course of action would be a little different. I'd tailor a list to annihilate him, completely dust him off the table the entire time acting the way he does when playing (mirror image) then at the end ask him if it was a fun experience for him? did he enjoy it? was he having fun with his models? if he says no to any/all of the above he now knows what it's like to play against him.

Sounds like you have the same ego problems as the guy in the discussion to be honest. You're boiling big social problems down to just winning and losing, and also tying emotional responses to the results of a wargame. Or, in other words, "look at this nice fire. The best solution to beat it is MOAR FIER."

I mean, sometimes you use a second, controlled fire to deny oxygen to a worse fire.

 Alpharius wrote:

(And yes, everywhere on Dakka Dakka.)

I heard there's a secret thread on Dakka Dakka where you can be a jerk to everyone, post pictures of your belly, and share the dankest of memes.

Confirm or Deny?

But to your point, I'm doing my absolute best. Trying to come off 'firm', but not so much like a snarky jerk.

 Captain Joystick wrote:
If I'm reading the part about him advising new people on what to get and effectively tailoring their lists so he can beat them then I'd frankly cut the line right there if I was in your position. I may not like it when people whine about the list they just lost to being 'cheap' or 'unfluffy' but the moment you shark a newbie like that, you're basically stealing from them.

No patience for that gak at all.

This!

Super glad to hear this was resolved in the way it was. Congratulations mate!

 Wibe wrote:

 Captain Joystick wrote:
If I'm reading the part about him advising new people on what to get and effectively tailoring their lists so he can beat them then I'd frankly cut the line right there if I was in your position. I may not like it when people whine about the list they just lost to being 'cheap' or 'unfluffy' but the moment you shark a newbie like that, you're basically stealing from them.
No patience for that gak at all.

This!

This is behavior that is VERY hard to forgive.
It is taking advantage in the worst possible way.
I am happy the guy throttled back a bit but I am afraid that as the backlash has ended he will get "comfortable" and be back to his old tricks.
I would not mind being wrong.

Seems to me that this issue is in the process of fixing itself. If he keeps up this dickery he won't be welcome in a lot of the places he can do the most damage. Like that escalation he screwed up. Bet the organizer knows to keep him well clear of the next one. Eventually, he won't have anyone to play with and won't be welcome to events. At that point, he either quits or finds a similarly toxic group of castouts he can be an A-hole with. Either way, he's out of your hair. Frankly, I wouldn't have even bothered to try to change his behavior. Unsolicited advice or criticism almost never does anything but make people defensive.

Glad to hear things are getting better with your friend.

I didn't want to read through all 5 pages, so can anyone tell me what the "Primary Army" was?

Rocmistro wrote:
I didn't want to read through all 5 pages, so can anyone tell me what the "Primary Army" was?

Squats + Sisters of Battle w/ allied detachment of Pariahs

Rocmistro wrote:
I didn't want to read through all 5 pages, so can anyone tell me what the "Primary Army" was?

He changed to one of the most powerful armies last edition, and it is still performing really well in this one... No one knows what it is.. Its Eldar.

I'm very glad to hear this had a good resolution.
My girlfriend is going through some parallels to this with one of her friends right now. I hope her situation gets resolved as cleanly.