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2014/11/30 12:41:19
Subject: 'How to get a date' by Dakka
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Perfect Shot Dark Angels Predator Pilot
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Lol karma does not exist
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2014/11/30 12:48:06
Subject: Re:'How to get a date' by Dakka
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my dog's name is karma. my female dog. And i am not even joking.
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2014/11/30 17:42:10
Subject: 'How to get a date' by Dakka
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Hybrid Son Of Oxayotl wrote:
I thought it was clear from my previous sentenced and I already mentioned it before itt: no. That is precisely why I am asking the question. And also, I am 27.
So? Was it a rhetorical question?
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2014/12/01 14:19:43
Subject: 'How to get a date' by Dakka
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It's important because it feels good and helps create / strengthen an emotional connection. It's also an area where, if you're experienced, you can introduce the other person to new things. The whole "kill em with charm" doesn't really work...it's a lot more effective to "kill em in the bedroom." Kissing a girl's ass will likely get you nowhere, but if you've ever crept on a girl's private conversations with her friends, you'd see that orgasm currency will beat the dollar every time.
This may be a surprise to some of you guys, but women like (good) sex just as much as men, if not more. Importantly, it's not about doing the tongue tornado or whatever, but about making her comfortable enough to communicate to you what feels good to her in particular. The current GF likes to ride. The last GF liked to be on the bottom in a very particular position. Both things they discovered with me because I wouldn't take "no orgasm" for an answer, and we kept trying different things until we found one that worked....once you find it, they'll get off *most of the time*.
So you asked why sex is important - it basically encapsulates all of the important aspects of a relationship, like communication, teamwork, conscientiousness, etc., and it does so in a way that feels good. There are a bunch of neurobiological reasons why sex is very important as well.
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2014/12/01 18:40:49
Subject: 'How to get a date' by Dakka
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First of all, thank you for the answer.
What I find really strange about this classification is precisely that sex is put two level below “Love and belonging”. For me it seems like it should really belong to there, and from your answer, it seems to me you feel the same. But this chart puts it right with the physiological needs, and, even though I cannot currently think of any specific case, I have been given regularly the impression that this mindset is shared by more people that I would expect. Is it just me imagining things?
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2014/12/01 19:19:59
Subject: 'How to get a date' by Dakka
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Preacher of the Emperor
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A relationship without sex is little more then friendship, it is a keep connection, literally naked to eachother and discussing personal things.
One can get love and belonging elsewhere, sex too but it adds to the bond people share.
If I had a girlfriend/boyfriend I think I would feel closer to them then my friends at times because of that connection.
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2014/12/02 03:51:03
Subject: 'How to get a date' by Dakka
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Patience, if you don't get an answer right away you don't need to repost your question barely a day later.
And the answer is no, it was a legitimate question. There's a big difference in point of view between someone who has had sex and thinks it's overrated, and someone who hasn't and can only speculate about why it may be important. It's just one of those things you don't really understand until you've experienced it. You can duplicate some of the physical aspects, but the only way to understand the emotional/bonding/whatever aspect is to do it. For most people sex (for a very broad definition of the word, not just conventional "let's make some babies" sex) is an important part of a relationship, and if they don't have it they really miss it in the same way that a hungry person really wants food.
Hybrid Son Of Oxayotl wrote:But this chart puts it right with the physiological needs, and, even though I cannot currently think of any specific case, I have been given regularly the impression that this mindset is shared by more people that I would expect.
As I said previously, it's because that chart is an approximation at best, and not even one that all the relevant experts agree on. Human needs aren't neatly sorted into tiers, and you can't expect people to be perfectly precise about the difference between "I really want X and I'm not happy without it" and "I really want X and I'm not happy in a different way without it" and "I really want X and my survival might be in danger without it". For example, which tier of need does food go into? You can die without it, but you can also be hungry and very unhappy even if you have enough food that you're not in any danger of starvation.
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2014/12/02 03:56:59
Subject: 'How to get a date' by Dakka
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Member of the Ethereal Council
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So....My roommate and my friend talked, and said they are going to teach me how to talk to girls....The two just decided I needed to be taught.
Ignoring the fact I know how to talk to girls. I dont become tight lipped when im talking to them.
I am just weird when its talking to them about dates and stuff.
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2014/12/02 03:59:47
Subject: Re:'How to get a date' by Dakka
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well, girl number two now has a boyfriend so that's that question answered. and apparenly my girlfriend's exboyfriend, who ma or may not exist, has asked her to send him nude pictures of herself. ofcourse even if he does exist I can't do gak about it because he's in america, so.... *shrug*
oh yeah, And it's got nothing to do wih dating but I may have failed alll of my subjects at school meaning my entire life would be fethed over and I'm just enjoying the time until my reort card comes in and my parents (my mum anyway, My dad's to much of a donkey-cave to even care) burn all my possessions.
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2014/12/02 05:24:00
Subject: Re:'How to get a date' by Dakka
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the shrouded lord wrote:well, girl number two now has a boyfriend so that's that question answered. and apparenly my girlfriend's exboyfriend, who ma or may not exist, has asked her to send him nude pictures of herself. ofcourse even if he does exist I can't do gak about it because he's in america, so.... *shrug*
oh yeah, And it's got nothing to do wih dating but I may have failed alll of my subjects at school meaning my entire life would be fethed over and I'm just enjoying the time until my reort card comes in and my parents (my mum anyway, My dad's to much of a donkey-cave to even care) burn all my possessions.
So you've got a girlfriend that you aren't screwing, and aren't doing so hot in school...what exactly are you doing with all of your time?
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2014/12/02 17:40:17
Subject: 'How to get a date' by Dakka
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Peregrine wrote:It's just one of those things you don't really understand until you've experienced it.
Okay, so maybe I will understand later. Or maybe not.
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2014/12/03 06:22:57
Subject: 'How to get a date' by Dakka
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Yeah... don't wait for it. I was going to wait for marriage, ended up dating a swede.
I was gonna write I had my mind blown but, some smut demon poster will abuse the quote system concerning that and alter it. *
The asterisk notes this, might as well help them, they're going to do it anyways.
Ahem, anyways. Regardless, it's one of those things you must experience to understand like Peregrine said. It isn't just pumping it till you're done or whatever/babymaking. In a successful relationship it is a bonding experience and there is an intimacy that strengthens your bond to your partner and reveals them to another level, or a rather, a simpler and purer level, not to get too deep into this discussion. * For instance now that I've experienced it on a regular basis for a good two years, I would say it is apart of my routine now, I don't see how I can live without it.
Anyways, as far as... dating. Just wait and be yourself. Don't get tight lipped and if you do feth up, there will be another. I thought no one would ever be interested in me even though I'm definitely not unattractive (I'm just a short person, 5'6,*) and I went from getting no flirtations or dates to a steady stream once I reached a certain age and point in my life. It sounds cheesy but, you never know when you'll find love.
I put this here because relevant.
NuggzTheNinja wrote: the shrouded lord wrote:well, girl number two now has a boyfriend so that's that question answered. and apparenly my girlfriend's exboyfriend, who ma or may not exist, has asked her to send him nude pictures of herself. ofcourse even if he does exist I can't do gak about it because he's in america, so.... *shrug*
oh yeah, And it's got nothing to do wih dating but I may have failed alll of my subjects at school meaning my entire life would be fethed over and I'm just enjoying the time until my reort card comes in and my parents (my mum anyway, My dad's to much of a donkey-cave to even care) burn all my possessions.
So you've got a girlfriend that you aren't screwing, and aren't doing so hot in school...what exactly are you doing with all of your time?
Uh, posting on Dakka. Duh, toy soldiers, much wow, very plastic, imposing restic.
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2014/12/03 06:31:16
Subject: 'How to get a date' by Dakka
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Decrepit Dakkanaut
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Can rutabagas consent to dating?
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2014/12/03 06:34:00
Subject: 'How to get a date' by Dakka
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Im not sure whether I should get mad at my friend, just offering to teach me how to pick up girls....
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2014/12/03 12:28:07
Subject: 'How to get a date' by Dakka
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Glorious Lord of Chaos
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How important is height, btw? I am 5'9"-10" ish.
And I am 18 since a few weeks back, so I know I am a bit above average for my age.
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2014/12/03 13:16:58
Subject: Re:'How to get a date' by Dakka
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Holy gak my female dogs name is karma as well except its spelt just kama or as i like to call her kama-bear
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2014/12/03 13:19:08
Subject: Re:'How to get a date' by Dakka
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that's awesome.
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2014/12/03 15:27:53
Subject: 'How to get a date' by Dakka
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hotsauceman1 wrote:Im not sure whether I should get mad at my friend, just offering to teach me how to pick up girls....
Don't get mad. At least they care enough about you to try to help, even if it is a bit insulting.
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2014/12/03 15:57:25
Subject: 'How to get a date' by Dakka
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Ashiraya wrote:How important is height, btw? I am 5'9"-10" ish.
And I am 18 since a few weeks back, so I know I am a bit above average for my age.
ehh, height matters little really, don't worry about it.
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2014/12/03 17:16:51
Subject: 'How to get a date' by Dakka
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Ashiraya wrote:How important is height, btw? I am 5'9"-10" ish.
And I am 18 since a few weeks back, so I know I am a bit above average for my age.
Some men claim to hate dating women taller than they are, but at 5'9-5'10 it shouldn't matter too much. At 6'+ you might have some trouble, but not from anyone who's worth dating.
It also affects men a little, too, in that some women hate dating men shorter than they are.
In general, though, it shouldn't matter too much.
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Mandorallen turned back toward the insolently sneering baron. 'My Lord,' The great knight said distantly, 'I find thy face apelike and thy form misshapen. Thy beard, moreover, is an offence against decency, resembling more closely the scabrous fur which doth decorate the hinder portion of a mongrel dog than a proper adornment for a human face. Is it possibly that thy mother, seized by some wild lechery, did dally at some time past with a randy goat?' - Mimbrate Knight Protector Mandorallen.
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2014/12/03 17:52:55
Subject: 'How to get a date' by Dakka
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It doesn't really matter, but at times it can be embarrassing to be the short guy. Speaking as a vertically challenged person.
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2014/12/03 19:08:57
Subject: 'How to get a date' by Dakka
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Yeah... vertically challenged is a good way to put it.
For years I felt bad about it, and ended up working out to try and compensate. Then I realized it doesn't matter, and just sorta accepted my stature.
Ashiraya wrote:How important is height, btw? I am 5'9"-10" ish.
And I am 18 since a few weeks back, so I know I am a bit above average for my age.
Well, some guys like being eye level with their SO? I guess it is a difference between face to face and face to breast in my experience. Which for some people I guess that is just a plus. (I'm not saying this to be smutty either, it's just the truth honestly.) I prefer to look people in the eyes, I don't like having to strain my neck to look at a woman who is 6'1 or taller.
I don't know. Does a woodchuck chuck wood?
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2014/12/03 20:28:59
Subject: 'How to get a date' by Dakka
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I should clarify a bit that a very small number of people are just asexual or near-asexual, and genuinely don't care about sex no matter how much they've tried it. It's possible you're one of them, but more likely (based on probability) that you're just inexperienced and will understand once you get into a successful relationship. But if you're very confident that you're not interested, instead of merely wondering why you should be, then you shouldn't feel obligated to do something that doesn't appeal to you or disappointed that you don't.
Not very. Obviously people have preferences (some prefer taller, some prefer shorter) or consider height as part of your overall body shape and whether it's attractive, but I don't think very many people have such a strong height preference that it would outweigh all the other factors. Sure, there are the people who will demand a shorter woman because "the man should always be taller", but you're not losing much if you get rejected by someone like that.
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2014/12/03 21:03:07
Subject: Re:'How to get a date' by Dakka
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I'm 5ft 6in (shorter than the average Canadian male which is 5ft 9in), I don't care for body height in women but I'm sure for plenty of them my height would be a concern.
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2014/12/03 21:47:48
Subject: 'How to get a date' by Dakka
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Can you control your height?
Don't worry about height. Worry about getting in fornt of peopel you could date instead.
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2014/12/03 22:01:44
Subject: 'How to get a date' by Dakka
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hotsauceman1 wrote: Ashiraya wrote:How important is height, btw? I am 5'9"-10" ish.
And I am 18 since a few weeks back, so I know I am a bit above average for my age.
ehh, height matters little really, don't worry about it.
Incorrect. I've yet to meet a woman that preferred shorter men. I'm gonna go out on a limb and state for the record my belief that roughly 99% of women would rather date someone taller than them, given the choice. It shallow? Of course.
It is still a thing though. Automatically Appended Next Post: That's not to say that women wouldn't date someone who was shorter, but it is nevertheless a factor, definitely.
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Cheesecat wrote:
I almost always agree with Albatross, I can't see why anyone wouldn't.
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2014/12/03 22:15:50
Subject: 'How to get a date' by Dakka
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Albatross wrote: hotsauceman1 wrote: Ashiraya wrote:How important is height, btw? I am 5'9"-10" ish. And I am 18 since a few weeks back, so I know I am a bit above average for my age.
ehh, height matters little really, don't worry about it.
Incorrect. I've yet to meet a woman that preferred shorter men. I'm gonna go out on a limb and state for the record my belief that roughly 99% of women would rather date someone taller than them, given the choice. It shallow? Of course. It is still a thing though. Automatically Appended Next Post: That's not to say that women wouldn't date someone who was shorter, but it is nevertheless a factor, definitely. My anecdotal experiences on Tinder and suchlike agree that it's definitely a factor, and one that some women seem to base entire relationships on. Whilst bios that stated things like "swipe left if you're under 6 foot"--usually in varying degrees of politeness ranging from a relatively innocuous request to stuff like 'don't bother swiping right if you're not 6'+'--weren't exactly common, they were hardly rare, either. I'm not entirely sure how it works in reverse--I've not seen enough male profiles to see how often "no women over 5'8" or similar comes up--but I imagine it exists there, too.
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Mandorallen turned back toward the insolently sneering baron. 'My Lord,' The great knight said distantly, 'I find thy face apelike and thy form misshapen. Thy beard, moreover, is an offence against decency, resembling more closely the scabrous fur which doth decorate the hinder portion of a mongrel dog than a proper adornment for a human face. Is it possibly that thy mother, seized by some wild lechery, did dally at some time past with a randy goat?' - Mimbrate Knight Protector Mandorallen.
Excerpt from "Seeress of Kell", Book Five of The Malloreon series by David Eddings.
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2014/12/03 22:35:54
Subject: 'How to get a date' by Dakka
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Albatross wrote: hotsauceman1 wrote: Ashiraya wrote:How important is height, btw? I am 5'9"-10" ish.
And I am 18 since a few weeks back, so I know I am a bit above average for my age.
ehh, height matters little really, don't worry about it.
Incorrect. I've yet to meet a woman that preferred shorter men. I'm gonna go out on a limb and state for the record my belief that roughly 99% of women would rather date someone taller than them, given the choice. It shallow? Of course.
It is still a thing though.
Automatically Appended Next Post:
That's not to say that women wouldn't date someone who was shorter, but it is nevertheless a factor, definitely.
It's definitely a factor that has been a problem with my dating. I'm not ugly by no means but, being under 5'8 is a major "no," with most women I've ever met. It isn't a big deal to my girlfriend since she's roughly 5'8 to maybe 5'10. The only reason it isn't a factor with us is that she doesn't care about height, and I was interesting to her from the start.
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2014/12/03 22:46:15
Subject: 'How to get a date' by Dakka
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Albatross wrote: hotsauceman1 wrote: Ashiraya wrote:How important is height, btw? I am 5'9"-10" ish.
And I am 18 since a few weeks back, so I know I am a bit above average for my age.
ehh, height matters little really, don't worry about it.
Incorrect. I've yet to meet a woman that preferred shorter men. I'm gonna go out on a limb and state for the record my belief that roughly 99% of women would rather date someone taller than them, given the choice. It shallow? Of course.
It is still a thing though.
Automatically Appended Next Post:
That's not to say that women wouldn't date someone who was shorter, but it is nevertheless a factor, definitely.
Well as Ashiraya is a woman i'd imagine she was meaning if it mattered to men if she was fairly tall. I'm just a smidge over 6', I wouldn't be bothered about height as a man. In fact if I found somebody taller than me that I wanted to date I'd go for it. I guess it's really down to her if she wants to date somebody shorter. Might depend on the height of heels she wares, if any.
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2014/12/04 00:02:45
Subject: 'How to get a date' by Dakka
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Glorious Lord of Chaos
The burning pits of Hades, also known as Sweden in summer
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Medium of Death wrote:
Well as Ashiraya is a woman i'd imagine she was meaning if it mattered to men if she was fairly tall. I'm just a smidge over 6', I wouldn't be bothered about height as a man. In fact if I found somebody taller than me that I wanted to date I'd go for it. I guess it's really down to her if she wants to date somebody shorter. Might depend on the height of heels she wares, if any.
Yes, it was indeed what I meant. Thank you.
I am 5'9"-10" ish outside of high heels, but I rarely wear any.
Thanks for your answers, guys. It seems I had been misled into believing it was more important than I thought. The average Swedish woman is 5'5"-6" ish, so while I am not a behemoth I do stand a couple of inches above most other women.
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