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Fateweaver wrote:She did only giggle.

She could have puked or something. LOL.

I can picture Lazarus' response to her vomiting now...

"OH MY GOD, YOU ARE MY WOMAN!!"

Manchu wrote:The best situation would be some wargamer dating Luna and sweating over how to "break the news" to her.

So go on Luna, has this ever happened?

I wouldent portray myself as a 'NERD' i mean yes i do enjoy modelling and painting warhammer 40k , i dont play at the minute but i also do other things in my life i.e play football and , watch movies like other normal people. If there is a girl i like first i would ask her if she has any hobbies and if yes i respond by immediatly supporting her choices in hobbies. Then most likley than not she will ask you if you have any hobbys so you return not only with ' Yes i play warhammer' but ' yeahi like football ive been painting and modelling for a while now i also like movies and boxing or whatever. Just be chilled

~UnDeAd~

Show her the pretty things youve painted and put together. Thats what usually works first anyways. If you get a "oh wow thats pretty cool" your in the bag. But this only works if your at least half way decent at painting/assembly. Because if they look like melted crayons, itll backfire

Only hide stuff from her if your just trying to get carnal with her.

Marshal2Crusaders wrote:Only hide stuff from her if your just trying to get carnal with her.

Or don't hide stuff, and go for it anyway. You know, like you've got confidence

metallifan wrote:

Marshal2Crusaders wrote:Only hide stuff from her if your just trying to get carnal with her.

Or don't hide stuff, and go for it anyway. You know, like you've got confidence

I agree, if she stops to ask what the little guys are all about when the gettins good, your doing it wrong

King, there isn't enough emphasis on the "Doing it Wrong" part. I demand you post a witty picture like this from now on:




That's right. From now on.

Manchu wrote:The best situation would be some wargamer dating Luna and sweating over how to "break the news" to her.

Sigged.

But dude, seriously, be honest and tell ehr right out the gate and say

"I'm a bit of a nerd. As long as you don't mind seeing me doing nerdy/odd things or hearing odd/nergy things then this'll be a great relationship. Otherwise, don't let the door hit you on the way out."

metallifan wrote:

Marshal2Crusaders wrote:Only hide stuff from her if your just trying to get carnal with her.

Or don't hide stuff, and go for it anyway. You know, like you've got confidence

Confidence or not, if your just looking to 'go for it', you should be talking about things you have never tried in bed, and not hobbies....

Yeah, sex always makes for a great chat up . . . ugh.

It does with bar sluts and teenage girls.

I'm too old for the latter and the former just don't do it for me.

Marshal2Crusaders wrote:

metallifan wrote:

Marshal2Crusaders wrote:Only hide stuff from her if your just trying to get carnal with her.

Or don't hide stuff, and go for it anyway. You know, like you've got confidence

Confidence or not, if your just looking to 'go for it', you should be talking about things you have never tried in bed, and not hobbies....

Tell me how that goes... For me, the latter worked just fine.

Don't let it be an issue, display your painted minis with pride and dont ferret away your painting station when she comes to your house, curiosity will get the beter of her and she will ask about them, then just tell her. Either that or drop it into casual conversation, that you are meeting up with mates for a game or are going into your local store to pick something up. If she turns out to be so shallow that playing with toy soldiers is a deal breaker then feth her you can do better.

Just saying. You know what your good at. If you think telling her would drive her off dont do it. Do what you think is right.

Yeah, sex always makes for a great chat up . . . ugh.

Keep the snide condescending bs to yourself.

Tell me how that goes... For me, the latter worked just fine.

Then whats the problem?

I never hid it, and I get my bones jumped a plenty But maybe that's because I'm just a prime example of a beautiful man.... I'll hide in the corner now.

40k is just part of our nerd charm, without it we wouldn't be the people we are today, and hey if she's interested in you then some of that nerd charm must be working! everything we do or love in this life makes us who we are as people, even if it is playing with 'toys' don't stop for anyone, actually my partner gave me a combat squad for my first birthday we were together and my best mate described it perfectly (she did what! omg she loves you MORE than she hates 40k!) we're still together and she knows it's who I am, she even makes sausage rolls for when the boys come over! :-)

I eased my g/f and now wife into it by building model tanks and rockets. Over time I let that fall away a bit and worked on my 40k stuff more and more. My advise would be to ease her into it.

Or just slap her in the face with it and say "woman, I'm a nerd who plays with these little plastic men. If you don't like it there is the door."

That works too.

Marshal2Crusaders wrote:

Yeah, sex always makes for a great chat up . . . ugh.

Keep the snide condescending bs to yourself.

No. Idiotic ideas will get shot down. Your idea of chatting up a girl with pervy come ons is Zap-Brannigan-style stupid ("I've always found the sexiest part of a woman's body is the booby.") and thus merits negative comment. --Let me interrupt myself here to reteitate to OP to NOT take M2C's advice.-- So, I could say "keep your slowed bs to yourself" but that's not in the spirit of OT. You can say whatever slowed bs you want to, short of a personal attack, but you ought to be prepared for this: someone might disagree and express as much with sarcasm. Just a head's up.

Fateweaver wrote:Or just slap her in the face with it and say "woman, I'm a nerd who plays with these little plastic men. If you don't like it there is the door."

That works too.

This.

Just hope she is into that sort of thing

The little plastic people that is, not the slapping...

@Marshall2Crusaders - I think Manchu has a point. This:

Confidence or not, if your just looking to 'go for it', you should be talking about things you have never tried in bed, and not hobbies....

...is the sort of thing a virgin would say/post. Anyone who's actually spent a lot of time amongst women should be aware that if she doesn't know you well enough to know what your hobbies are, she sure as gak doesn't want to know about the weird stuff you like to do in the bedroom. Plus, as an opening gambit it's just made of raw, uncooked failure.

Now snideness, on the other hand.... well, that loosens a woman's inhibitions like 3 shots of tequila!

corpsesarefun wrote:

Fateweaver wrote:Or just slap her in the face with it and say "woman, I'm a nerd who plays with these little plastic men. If you don't like it there is the door."

That works too.

This.

Just hope she is into that sort of thing

The little plastic people that is, not the slapping...

I didn't mean literally slap. I meant just come right out and say it. Say it with firmness and authority. Don't stumble, don't try to make it complicated. With most women, they want a guy who is confident in EVERYTHING he does. If she catches you crying during a movie don't say "I wasn't crying over the movie" and try to look all macho. Say "you damn right I cried. They edited out her topless shot." LOL. If you want to spend Sunday indoors watching sports say "Woman, this is my day for sports. We'll do something tomorrow night." She might get upset for a few hours but if you always give into her she'll dump you faster than an ore truck dumping a load of ore at a refinery.

Confidence will keep your girl. Although if you are only HS or even early college (18-20) most girls at that age don't really know what they want so will probably dump you for something lame anyway.

Agree w/Fateweaver on the analysis of 18-20 y.o.'s--at least if they haven't changed in the last few years. Truth be told, you should act the same way if you are in this age bracket. No need to be tied down to some girl at least until after college. Anyway, point of thread is the "getting to know each other" stage--right?--rather than "settling into a stable relationship" stage.


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Albatross wrote:Now snideness, on the other hand.... well, that loosens a woman's inhibitions like 3 shots of tequila!

Weird how this is true. Guess they mistake it for being witty? Some people claim you have to insult a girl a little to keep her from thinking she is or deserves to be on a pedestal. Frankly, thinking that hard never got me anywhere as a teen. Simply "being myself" (however hackneyed it sounds), by contrast, reaped many seemingly incidental rewards with the fairer sex.

Its all good guys, you dont know me, so feel free to keep inventing facts about me. Have a good day in your world, where you live, and Ill live in mine. I am happy with my life, and I certainly dont need to be talked down to by some guy on the internet.

I'd like to reiterate MY point, that I know what works and has worked for me, and the types of girls it works on, the girls you hang out with are certainly different from the girls I hang out with, so too each there own.

Marshal2Crusaders wrote:I'd like to reiterate MY point, that I know what works and has worked for me, and the types of girls it works on, the girls you hang out with are certainly different from the girls I hang out with, so too each there own.

Without trying to be at all condescending, I would like to hear more about these girls. Maybe they are the same type that OP is dealing with and so your advice will be of use. Maybe they are the type (although I doubt Albatross and I are really dealing with the same type from all the way across the Atlantic) that we're hanging out with and so that advice will be counterproductive.

No ones insulting you but spouting out, what is going to be nonsense more times than not, comments like "tell her what turns you on in bed" is going to freak out most girls/women and probably result in not even getting to first base.

The op wanted to know how to get a girl he is casually seeing/is friends with to like what he likes. He is NOT looking to become considered a weirdo/pervert or to receive a kick in the balls.

For some girls talking that way might turn them on. For most it will scare them away faster than discussing your love for little plastic men. If the girls you "date" are turned on by you discussing your sexual fantasies than more power to them.

You need to chill M2C.

I just told you talking about sex positions on the night I met her (at a party) worked, I can guarantee she wasnt the kind of girl the OP is dealing with. My first post was in jest and the second was sarcastic. And I paid for her affections with time, money, and heartbreak. Thus teaching me several valuable lessons.


-Party Hookups arnt relationships
-She can buy her own damn clothes
-Calls at 2 am crying are indicators to GTFO

Marshal2Crusaders wrote:-Party Hookups arnt relationships
-She can buy her own damn clothes
-Calls at 2 am crying are indicators to GTFO

Now all of these points are VERY GOOD ADVICE. Sorry about the earlier misunderstanding, M2C.

My this thread has certainly "traveled" alot.
The thing I've noted is that the OP has yet to respond to any of the "advice" posted and "we" still have only the vaugest idea as to the nature/seriousness of the OPs "relationship" situation.