Teachers bullying children

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**Dreadwinter**

My name is Stuart Chaifetz, and my son, Akian, is a ten-year old boy who has Autism. Akian has always been a sweet and non-violent child, and that is why it was so distressing when notes started coming home from his school, Horace Mann Elementary in Cherry Hill, New Jersey, saying that he was having violent outbursts, including him hitting his teacher and aide.

I could not understand why this was happening. I had never witnessed Akian hit anyone, nor could I dream of him lashing out as had been described to me. In October, I had a meeting with the IEP team (the teacher, school social worker, occupational therapist and speech teacher) to try to figure out what was going on. From that meeting, a behaviorist was called in who wrote a report. I sat down with the behaviorist on February 8, 2012 to review the findings.

It was pointless; even though the behaviorist was in the classroom a number of times, not only had he never witnessed any violent event, but when he tried to create a scenario that would cause one to happen, he failed.

Something was terribly wrong. I felt I was beginning to lose my son -- that these outbursts were changing his very nature. The teacher and school social worker tried to downplay it, to the point of almost mocking me for my concern. But I knew my son. I knew this wasn't him. And I knew I had to find out what was happening in his class that was having such a dramatic impact on him.

On the morning of Friday, February 17, 2012, I wired my son and sent him to school. That night, when I listened to the audio my life forever changed, for I heard my son being bullied by his teacher and aide.

Not being a parent myself, I have only been through the school system and I never ran in to anything like this.

Curious of what other parents on Dakkadakka take from this and if those parents had run in to any sort of trouble with teachers in this way. How do you feel about the public school system?

**Bromsy**

But, we let women teach our kids cause of their motherly instincts. So, this video is lies!

**dogma**

"You would never get away with talking about your alcohol abuse the night before, if this was a mainstream class."

Yes, yes you would.

That said, my aunt, my cousin, and a good friend are all special ed instructors (the friend is actually a speech pathologist), and they all gak themselves with rage after I sent this to them a few days ago.

**Bromsy**

obviously someone doesn't watch Cameron Diaz movies.

**dogma**

There's a White Castle in Cherry Hill.

**Frazzled**

Dreadwinter wrote:

My name is Stuart Chaifetz, and my son, Akian, is a ten-year old boy who has Autism. Akian has always been a sweet and non-violent child, and that is why it was so distressing when notes started coming home from his school, Horace Mann Elementary in Cherry Hill, New Jersey, saying that he was having violent outbursts, including him hitting his teacher and aide.

I could not understand why this was happening. I had never witnessed Akian hit anyone, nor could I dream of him lashing out as had been described to me. In October, I had a meeting with the IEP team (the teacher, school social worker, occupational therapist and speech teacher) to try to figure out what was going on. From that meeting, a behaviorist was called in who wrote a report. I sat down with the behaviorist on February 8, 2012 to review the findings.

It was pointless; even though the behaviorist was in the classroom a number of times, not only had he never witnessed any violent event, but when he tried to create a scenario that would cause one to happen, he failed.

Something was terribly wrong. I felt I was beginning to lose my son -- that these outbursts were changing his very nature. The teacher and school social worker tried to downplay it, to the point of almost mocking me for my concern. But I knew my son. I knew this wasn't him. And I knew I had to find out what was happening in his class that was having such a dramatic impact on him.

On the morning of Friday, February 17, 2012, I wired my son and sent him to school. That night, when I listened to the audio my life forever changed, for I heard my son being bullied by his teacher and aide.

Not being a parent myself, I have only been through the school system and I never ran in to anything like this.

Curious of what other parents on Dakkadakka take from this and if those parents had run in to any sort of trouble with teachers in this way. How do you feel about the public school system?

Oh jeez another whiny helicopter parent.
If you don't like it, quit your belly aching and take care of your own kid, and quit making me pay for it and wasting the valuable time and incredibly expensive resources on your mouthbreathing waste of skin (after all he's related to you). Loser.

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Bromsy wrote:obviously someone doesn't watch Cameron Diaz movies.

99% of my teachers were like Cameron Diaz, except they were old and much more mean. I never developed the love of teachers professed by others accordingly. I can count on two fingers the teachers I thought were even merely half decent.

With the kids I found about half are decent. Of that half maybe 10% are excellent. The other half should be fired immediately. Mind you this is one of the top school districts in the nation (and best in state in freaking band booya!)

I remember getting into an argument with an English teacher because she couldn't spell gnat.

**AlmightyWalrus**

Frazzled wrote:
Oh jeez another whiny helicopter parent.
If you don't like it, quit your belly aching and take care of your own kid, and quit making me pay for it and wasting the valuable time and incredibly expensive resources on your mouthbreathing waste of skin (after all he's related to you). Loser.

...are you for real?

**Frazzled**

AlmightyWalrus wrote:
Frazzled wrote:
Oh jeez another whiny helicopter parent.
If you don't like it, quit your belly aching and take care of your own kid, and quit making me pay for it and wasting the valuable time and incredibly expensive resources on your mouthbreathing waste of skin (after all he's related to you). Loser.

...are you for real?

Someone has to counterbalance all the hippy free love on this board. That would be me, or alternatively, someone else.

**Dark**

Frazzled wrote:
AlmightyWalrus wrote:
Frazzled wrote:
Oh jeez another whiny helicopter parent.
If you don't like it, quit your belly aching and take care of your own kid, and quit making me pay for it and wasting the valuable time and incredibly expensive resources on your mouthbreathing waste of skin (after all he's related to you). Loser.

...are you for real?

Someone has to counterbalance all the hippy free love on this board. That would be me, or alternatively, someone else.

Of course, you can be on the kid's side and not be a hippy~ "Burn the teacher and the aide."

**Khornholio**

A lot of teachers don't realize that it ('it' being education) isn't about them, but about their students.

**Archaeo**

Not taking sides but many kids act very different between home and school also. Just because a child acts one way at home doesn't mean he/she is a saint at school. Some parents just do not see their kids as the heretics they really are and can't be persuaded even when there is proof. May not be the case here though so .....

**Joey**

Bromsy wrote:But, we let women teach our kids cause of their motherly instincts. So, this video is lies!

Women are more likely to abuse children than men, so yeah.

**biccat**

Frazzled wrote:
AlmightyWalrus wrote:
Frazzled wrote:
Oh jeez another whiny helicopter parent.
If you don't like it, quit your belly aching and take care of your own kid, and quit making me pay for it and wasting the valuable time and incredibly expensive resources on your mouthbreathing waste of skin (after all he's related to you). Loser.

...are you for real?

Someone has to counterbalance all the hippy free love on this board. That would be me, or alternatively, someone else.

If he didn't want to get bullied, he shouldn't have been autistic. Jerk.

[/blamethevictim]

edit: On a (slightly) more serious note, I find it hard to feel sympathetic for the father. He gave his kid a stupid name. The kid is going to have enough problems without being shackled with a name like Akian.

Pround members of People Against Parents Naming Their Kids Stupid Names (PAPNTKSN).

**Frazzled**

Thats why I named my kids Heyyou! and Gimmeabeer!

**KingCracker**

I pretty much have named my kids shitbasket and ugly. They both know who I mean when I call em. Shitbasket is my daughter, as she had REALLY bad diapers as a babeh. And ugly is my son.....which kindda back fires a bit because he looks quite a bit like me. So I personally think I insult myself more then him

**Frazzled**

KingCracker wrote:I pretty much have named my kids shitbasket and ugly. They both know who I mean when I call em. Shitbasket is my daughter, as she had REALLY bad diapers as a babeh. And ugly is my son.....which kindda back fires a bit because he looks quite a bit like me. So I personally think I insult myself more then him

See thats just wrong. It should be Ugly Jr. then.

**KingCracker**

Yea, thats true, but its too late, hes 7, the mental conditioning phase is pretty much over

**Frazzled**

KingCracker wrote:Yea, thats true, but its too late, hes 7, the mental conditioning phase is pretty much over

He's seven? Why is he not making money for you at the coal mine? What are you doing over there? He's slacking off, you're going to make him a hippy!

**CptJake**

Interesting, Shitbasket makes it through the automatic filter.

**Chowderhead**

It's not like other sites, where the swear filter is so intense that it censors assessment.

If you use a compound word that isn't commonly associated with a swear (Like gakstorm (Intentionally censored)) the filter won't catch it.

Mods, however, don't like it if a swear shows up. They might edit it, or PM you to edit it.

Just a heads up, Jake and KC.

**MrDwhitey**

I feel KC should be banned for this. It's only fair.

CptJake can stay though.

Also if teachers can't bully kids, what fun do we have?

**Chowderhead**

MrDwhitey wrote:Also if teachers can't bully kids, what fun do we have?

Well, Da Boss has no fun, so maybe we could get him to call a student a bastard!

Of course, he would end up a corpse, but he would get his revenge!

**Frazzled**

Frankly we need a lot more bullying. Back when bullying was a time honored tradition we ruled the world, like the Brits did before they wussed. If it was good enough for the Mongols its good enough for me.

Near here's an example of proper schooling. Notice the low teacher to student ratio. The rigorous mental and physical exercise, and hands on approach by staff. You don't get this kind of education with new math!

**MrDwhitey**

This is why I only pick on the students who can't defend themselves.

**mattyrm**

Frazzled wrote:
AlmightyWalrus wrote:
Frazzled wrote:
Oh jeez another whiny helicopter parent.
If you don't like it, quit your belly aching and take care of your own kid, and quit making me pay for it and wasting the valuable time and incredibly expensive resources on your mouthbreathing waste of skin (after all he's related to you). Loser.

...are you for real?

Someone has to counterbalance all the hippy free love on this board. That would be me, or alternatively, someone else.

Hey Ill have a go!

This case the guy has a point, but 99% of the time its "Oh my lovely little child would NEVER be as bad as the teacher said" and the horrible little gak is!

Basically, spineless parents spoil their kids rotten, their tiny mouse like hearts so bursting with love for their ugly fethed up offspring due to our biological programming that they cannot bring themselves to properly discipline them. They act up in class, and then they blame the teacher for it.

Cry me a river. If it was down to me teacher would still be able to beat the kids, and if my son came home from school and said "The teacher hit me" I would give the little gak a slap as well. But 90% of parents arent like me, and that's why the whole world is fethed up anyway.

How was that?

**Frazzled**

Works for me!

**Joey**

mattyrm wrote:
Frazzled wrote:
AlmightyWalrus wrote:
Frazzled wrote:
Oh jeez another whiny helicopter parent.
If you don't like it, quit your belly aching and take care of your own kid, and quit making me pay for it and wasting the valuable time and incredibly expensive resources on your mouthbreathing waste of skin (after all he's related to you). Loser.

...are you for real?

Someone has to counterbalance all the hippy free love on this board. That would be me, or alternatively, someone else.

Hey Ill have a go!

This case the guy has a point, but 99% of the time its "Oh my lovely little child would NEVER be as bad as the teacher said" and the horrible little gak is!

Basically, spineless parents spoil their kids rotten, their tiny mouse like hearts so bursting with love for their ugly fethed up offspring due to our biological programming that they cannot bring themselves to properly discipline them. They act up in class, and then they blame the teacher for it.

Cry me a river. If it was down to me teacher would still be able to beat the kids, and if my son came home from school and said "The teacher hit me" I would give the little gak a slap as well. But 90% of parents arent like me, and that's why the whole world is fethed up anyway.

How was that?

You mean allowing your children to do whatever the feth they want their entire lives leads to them growing up into psychopathic monsters?
Surely not...

**mattyrm**

I just sat through the entire video by the way... watched it with the missus.

For those that cant be fethed, it is far less "violent and cruel" than you might expect. The teachers are unprofessional and I would certainly discipline one of them, but feth me. The guy is such a professional victim.

Whine whine whine.. we both laughed out loud when he said "The teacher stabbed him with words!"

Sadly his channel is moderated so I couldn't troll him. But I typed a well punctuated "stop making a mountain out of a mole hill you big girls blouse.. oh and give the poor kid a normal name like Alan or Gary or something. He has enough to deal with being Autistic without you laying the boot in"

So hopefully Ill make the page anyway and will in turn be heavily trolled by his legions of soya milk drinking, tie-dye shirt wearing, holistic-healing, feng-shui practicing supporters.

**CptJake**

That is okay. Daddy will get his when he is the latest and most popular fish in the state pen once he is brought up on charges and convicted for illegally recording the conversations he did.

What a great parent he'll be too, when his son is brought up in a single parent household and has to explain where his daddy is to his classmates.

**dogma**

Frazzled wrote:Frankly we need a lot more bullying. Back when bullying was a time honored tradition we ruled the world, like the Brits did before they wussed. If it was good enough for the Mongols its good enough for me.

The Mongols also made a habit of raping little girls.

Is that good enough for you?