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I genuinely do wonder about online dating sites.

I see quite a lot of girls on the ones I'm on (okcupid and plentyoffish), who put up messages attempting to dissuade assorted creepy nudez-please / weirdo messages.

It really does make me wonder what the ratio of.

1) Scary / Weird
is to
2) Guys they're not interested in
to
3) Guys they'd reply to
to
4) Guys they'd message first.

I've actually heard good things about match.com, from a few buddies that have used it.

I was on match.com for about 6 months. It was hell to cancel it (and they've been on the 'Watchdog' complaints TV show at least twice because of it), plus I think about 10 girls actually looked at my profile the whole time.

It's not much good in the UK.

Compel, there have been studies done.

http://jonmillward.com/blog/attraction-dating/cupid-on-trial-a-4-month-online-dating-experiment/



Long story short, online dating is heavily stacked in favor of women. My opinion: who cares. It's not about how many times you swing the bat, it's about how many times you hit the ball.

 NuggzTheNinja wrote:
Compel, there have been studies done.

http://jonmillward.com/blog/attraction-dating/cupid-on-trial-a-4-month-online-dating-experiment/



Long story short, online dating is heavily stacked in favor of women. My opinion: who cares. It's not about how many times you swing the bat, it's about how many times you hit the ball.

hahah damn.

Tinder is the way forward, gents. It's awesome, free, and girls actually use it. Plus, if you live in a big city like I do, you really can clean up.

Like I do.

I'm literally talking to about 5 girls at the moment. It's great. Super-easy to use. The best thing about it is you can only talk to people who have indicated that they're attracted to you, which is good because it saves loads of time and awkwardness. You can just crack straight on with winning her over with some sparkling repartee!

Honestly, this thread should be half a page long and filled with me posting 'GET ON TINDER' over and over again. It's foolproof.

What's roughly the average age for people on Tinder?

 Cheesecat wrote:
What's roughly the average age for people on Tinder?

16 lol

The youngest it goes is 18. Trust me, I've tried.


/yewtree

 Albatross wrote:
The youngest it goes is 18. Trust me, I've tried.


/yewtree

But is that like the target audience or is it more popular with other ages?

 Albatross wrote:
The youngest it goes is 18. Trust me, I've tried.


/yewtree

Well, then it's mostly 18 year olds hahah

 Cheesecat wrote:

 Albatross wrote:
The youngest it goes is 18. Trust me, I've tried.


/yewtree

But is that like the target audience or is it more popular with other ages?

Nah, there's loads of girls in the age-range I'm looking for i.e. 22-35. It's a real mix. It's honestly cool as feth, you should give it a whirl, mate. I've met some interesting girls on there. It's even got me laid a few times.

Thanks alby I'll give it a try.

 NuggzTheNinja wrote:
PS: Funny story...last night I took home a Tinder girl. 100% Obama-loving liberal hippie girl...peace corps activist, spent time volunteering to help people in Africa and South America...total moonbat liberal. I keep an AR15 rifle next to my bed. Through all of the events of last night and this morning, she didn't even notice it there. Some women are completely oblivious.

Well, was she from the U.S. ? That whole hysteria about weapons is really something very, very special to the U.S., as far as I can tell. There are a few debates in Switzerland about people keeping their military weapons at home because, well… they are military-grade weapons, and this concern a LOT of people, but really, it does not even come close to the mass hysteria there is in the U.S. . The fact the Swiss actually trust their democracy and do not to face any significant amount of insecurity compared to the U.S. surely helps but still.

 Albatross wrote:
Tinder is the way forward, gents. It's awesome, free, and girls actually use it.

And if you do not have a smartphone ?

 Albatross wrote:
Plus, if you live in a big city like I do, you really can clean up.

I do not understand what you mean.

 Albatross wrote:
The best thing about it is you can only talk to people who have indicated that they're attracted to you, which is good because it saves loads of time and awkwardness.

It is good… if you find some .

 poppa G wrote:
Gentleman! Guess who just got that kiss!(And lots more)
I initiated the cuddle, she followed suit. As we were leaving for Thai food I stopped her on the stairs. Debated in my mind just to go for it or say something stupid. I said: "What would you do if I kissed you right now?" She replied with "kiss back" So I went for it and boom. Her parents love me already. I could see myself getting in a relationship with her.
*leans back in chair* Walking on air boys, walking on air.

Jealous!

PS: Funny story...last night I took home a Tinder girl. 100% Obama-loving liberal hippie girl...peace corps activist, spent time volunteering to help people in Africa and South America...total moonbat liberal. I keep an AR15 rifle next to my bed. Through all of the events of last night and this morning, she didn't even notice it there. Some women are completely oblivious.

See above!

Re: Tinder, its really only as good as your photos. So, if you're not the kind to socialize with people that photo-document EVERYTHING, or if you're not a photogenic type in general, then you might be SOL on that front. Same is true of any e-dating site really.

 Compel wrote:
I genuinely do wonder about online dating sites.

I see quite a lot of girls on the ones I'm on (okcupid and plentyoffish), who put up messages attempting to dissuade assorted creepy nudez-please / weirdo messages.

It really does make me wonder what the ratio of.

1) Scary / Weird
is to
2) Guys they're not interested in
to
3) Guys they'd reply to
to
4) Guys they'd message first.

Women get flooded with messages from creepy guys. There have been documented studies where people create the worst possible profile of a woman, put a pretty picutre on it, and are deluged with messages, often creepy.

 Albatross wrote:
Tinder is the way forward, gents. It's awesome, free, and girls actually use it. Plus, if you live in a big city like I do, you really can clean up.

Like I do.

I'm literally talking to about 5 girls at the moment. It's great. Super-easy to use. The best thing about it is you can only talk to people who have indicated that they're attracted to you, which is good because it saves loads of time and awkwardness. You can just crack straight on with winning her over with some sparkling repartee!

Honestly, this thread should be half a page long and filled with me posting 'GET ON TINDER' over and over again. It's foolproof.

Are you a paid spokesperson infiltarting our community?

I heard that Tinder was just valued at $1 Billion (Maybe it was $10 Billion) by the finacial industry. They seem to agree that it is the way of the future.

 Easy E wrote:

 Albatross wrote:
Tinder is the way forward, gents. It's awesome, free, and girls actually use it. Plus, if you live in a big city like I do, you really can clean up.

Like I do.

I'm literally talking to about 5 girls at the moment. It's great. Super-easy to use. The best thing about it is you can only talk to people who have indicated that they're attracted to you, which is good because it saves loads of time and awkwardness. You can just crack straight on with winning her over with some sparkling repartee!

Honestly, this thread should be half a page long and filled with me posting 'GET ON TINDER' over and over again. It's foolproof.

Are you a paid spokesperson infiltarting our community?

I heard that Tinder was just valued at $1 Billion (Maybe it was $10 Billion) by the finacial industry. They seem to agree that it is the way of the future.

I have wondered if Tinder is more effective than MeetMe.

 Easy E wrote:

 Albatross wrote:
Tinder is the way forward, gents. It's awesome, free, and girls actually use it. Plus, if you live in a big city like I do, you really can clean up.

Like I do.

I'm literally talking to about 5 girls at the moment. It's great. Super-easy to use. The best thing about it is you can only talk to people who have indicated that they're attracted to you, which is good because it saves loads of time and awkwardness. You can just crack straight on with winning her over with some sparkling repartee!

Honestly, this thread should be half a page long and filled with me posting 'GET ON TINDER' over and over again. It's foolproof.

Are you a paid spokesperson infiltarting our community?

I heard that Tinder was just valued at $1 Billion (Maybe it was $10 Billion) by the finacial industry. They seem to agree that it is the way of the future.

I'll be getting on that. It's going to make dating sites obsolete within the next couple of years. Already big, gonna be friggin' HUGE.

And no, I don't bloody work for them!

 Albatross wrote:

 Easy E wrote:

 Albatross wrote:
Tinder is the way forward, gents. It's awesome, free, and girls actually use it. Plus, if you live in a big city like I do, you really can clean up.

Like I do.

I'm literally talking to about 5 girls at the moment. It's great. Super-easy to use. The best thing about it is you can only talk to people who have indicated that they're attracted to you, which is good because it saves loads of time and awkwardness. You can just crack straight on with winning her over with some sparkling repartee!

Honestly, this thread should be half a page long and filled with me posting 'GET ON TINDER' over and over again. It's foolproof.

Are you a paid spokesperson infiltarting our community?

I heard that Tinder was just valued at $1 Billion (Maybe it was $10 Billion) by the finacial industry. They seem to agree that it is the way of the future.

I'll be getting on that. It's going to make dating sites obsolete within the next couple of years. Already big, gonna be friggin' HUGE.

And no, I don't bloody work for them!

Seriously though; it works!

I'd avoid Tender if you are wanting to get a relationship. The women that use that application are likely going to give you dick rot. It's explicitly for hooking up. If you just need a confidence boost, by all means.

Btw.. If you want to know which of your friends on facebook use tinder, it's able to be looked up by anyone. So unless you want your relatives knowing, I'd advise setting up a second account.

How do you look it up?

And if you're looking for a confidence boost... tinder ain't it, got no confidence boost whatsoever, just spammed by bots :(

Son of a-
The girl I liked..only wants action. She has shown no sign of wanting anything romantic. Then again this is the first introvert I've dated. Maybe I'm reading things wrong...

What happened?And why are you complaining?

chaos0xomega wrote:
And why are you complaining?

I can answer that: because he wanted a romantic relationship. At least that seems the obvious answer.

My advice: never go after a romantic relationship when she's not interested. State your interest, sure, but if she says no, walk away.

I've lost months of my life chasing women that simply didn't want me to catch them.

 Polonius wrote:
My advice: never go after a romantic relationship when she's not interested. State your interest, sure, but if she says no, walk away.

I've lost months of my life chasing women that simply didn't want me to catch them.

It's not bad advice, but in this case I'm not sure that it's worth walking away already.

Poppa, my advice would be to have some fun and see what happens. It sounds like you've only had a few dates, so it might be a little soon for the relationship anyway. I've definitely dated women who stood firm about not getting too serious...until they suddenly flipped and decided that they wanted to be serious. Note that in those cases I wasn't chasing them around like a puppy dog...I simply kept a nice, easygoing attitude -- and my options open -- and let life come to me.

In the meantime, when someone else comes along, explore that option. Use the confidence you gained from this experience and apply it to HER. You're still a success story!

 gorgon wrote:

 Polonius wrote:
My advice: never go after a romantic relationship when she's not interested. State your interest, sure, but if she says no, walk away.

I've lost months of my life chasing women that simply didn't want me to catch them.

It's not bad advice, but in this case I'm not sure that it's worth walking away already.

Poppa, my advice would be to have some fun and see what happens. It sounds like you've only had a few dates, so it might be a little soon for the relationship anyway. I've definitely dated women who stood firm about not getting too serious...until they suddenly flipped and decided that they wanted to be serious. Note that in those cases I wasn't chasing them around like a puppy dog...I simply kept a nice, easygoing attitude -- and my options open -- and let life come to me.

In the meantime, when someone else comes along, explore that option. Use the confidence you gained from this experience and apply it to HER. You're still a success story!

It would be silly to walk so suddenly. And my experience is skewed. I work way too fast, according to others anyways. Today was different though. So I guess she just doesn't like texting? But when we were hanging out today there was a different look in her eye. And after kissing she would smile and get all giddy. I have hope again, fellas.
Maybe I'll be her third relationship. This girl is insanely picky when it comes to her men.

 Hybrid Son Of Oxayotl wrote:

chaos0xomega wrote:
And why are you complaining?

I can answer that: because he wanted a romantic relationship. At least that seems the obvious answer.

Twas a joke!

My advice: never go after a romantic relationship when she's not interested. State your interest, sure, but if she says no, walk away.

I've lost months of my life chasing women that simply didn't want me to catch them.

Agreed. It hurts, but you'll end up hurting more if you keep pursuing/force/convince her into a romantic entanglement that she doesn't really want a part of.

Poppa, my advice would be to have some fun and see what happens. It sounds like you've only had a few dates, so it might be a little soon for the relationship anyway. I've definitely dated women who stood firm about not getting too serious...until they suddenly flipped and decided that they wanted to be serious. Note that in those cases I wasn't chasing them around like a puppy dog...I simply kept a nice, easygoing attitude -- and my options open -- and let life come to me.

Agreed. One of the most solid relationships amongst my friends started out as a fling, neither party wanted anything more out of it than just an easy lay, 3 years later and they're living together and contemplating marriage....

Conversely, I have another set of friends that started the same way (not wanting anything out of it), then she wanted something out of it, he didn't, they broke it off, then he realized he wanted something out of it, they started it up again, she decided she wanted none of it, they broke it off and now they're kinda just long-distance booty calls (she moved up to Toronto).

It would be silly to walk so suddenly. And my experience is skewed. I work way too fast, according to others anyways. Today was different though. So I guess she just doesn't like texting? But when we were hanging out today there was a different look in her eye. And after kissing she would smile and get all giddy. I have hope again, fellas.
Maybe I'll be her third relationship. This girl is insanely picky when it comes to her men.

How about you tell us what the situation is?? From what little you've told us, it seems that you're freaking out because she didn't reply to your texts... don't get clingy man!

Part of the art is letting them know you are interested, but they aren;t the center of your world. At least, at first....