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My wife bought me $500 worth of 40k new necrons for xmas.... I in turn bought her 2 coach purses. It's a good thing I don't buy this much product on a regular basis.. She is interesead in wood elves so we may have to see if she wants to try assembling and painting some or even try using some of my armies to play a little bit.

Mrs Stompa owns about 2k of tyranids she is painting and putting together. (and given these are her first models, I'm astounded by how good they've turned out, I think she has a real talent!)

She is wary of the actual game, talking herself out of trying as 'too complicated' and I'm continuing to try and gently introduce her to the playing side of things. She really likes the fluff.



She don't like no space marines though...

MeanGreenStompa wrote:Mrs Stompa owns about 2k of tyranids she is painting and putting together. (and given these are her first models, I'm astounded by how good they've turned out, I think she has a real talent!)

She is wary of the actual game, talking herself out of trying as 'too complicated' and I'm continuing to try and gently introduce her to the playing side of things. She really likes the fluff.



She don't like no space marines though...

The longer I play the less I like space marines... I think that's because I am tired of saying a sea of space marines all the time.

Sonophos wrote:When we moved in together I introduced my partner to 40K and she loved the idea of painting up an army so that we had a hobby to do together. She chose SOB which GW promptly cancelled after I spent a small fortune collecting the models for her.

...GW still 'supports' SoB... Poorly, perhaps even 'half-hinder' but they do, technically, sell and support them. I mean, sure, it's kind of like when a parent forces a little kid to brush his teeth and the kid drags his feet then finally squirts three molecules of toothpaste on a brush and sticks it in his mouth once, but that counts, right? Right?

My girlfriend accepts it and doesn't mind it at all. She can see the artistic aspect of it, doesn't understand the game at all. Sorta like the OP, until she saw me packing my dice and measuring tape she thought it was more or less "playing war" but she knew there were some rules to it (since shes seen the rulebook) but didn't know how it worked, so I've explained it.

I think her dad has more interest than anything, every time he stops by to visit he always wants to see my cabinet that i keep my 3 armies in and asks whats new. He's always been big into models so its nice to be able to share.

she finds it amusing when i'm painting my plastic fantasy barabrian type things, then she goes on the PS3 and kills loads of barbarian type things.

Chicks think it's cool, until we move up to my room, and there's piles of GW boxes on the walls, a painting table that looks like it's been through a hellish monster's rampage, a nightmarish ensemble of lights, shelves full of boxes with spikes coming off of them and walls plastered with WD pictures

"Yeah, I paint models. Check em out. These are terminators, cool right?"

Haven't had too many long term girlfriends, but I can guess that I wouldn't pick them unless they understood how much the hobby means to me.

njpc wrote:

She picks my colors schemes as i'm somewhat color blind from an eye injury as a teenager. She even goes as far as defending it to my non-tabletop gaming friends. We were at a friends wedding, where a friend was being a jackass. She rebuttled with "so let me get this straight, he's married, has a stable job, finds time to game AND keep me happy... your single, miserable, and your suit doesn't match.. whose the dork?" While I'll admit, it was a little harsh.. it was pretty darn funny to watch.

I like this woman. She has spirit. You got a keeper there, boy.
Even my wife agrees.

I'd argue that my hobby keeps me out of bars - but we play in a licensed club with beer available, so that's not exactly accurate.
It does keep me out of the strip clubs, though.

My wife "hates" my playing 40k.. yet she is a big time nerd, and "revels" in her nerdiness quite often. I *really* started 40k after my second tour in Iraq, and the hobby side of it really helped with PTSD type symptoms, so she was "OK" with that (I also build scale models of ACTUAL things, recently completed an F4U-1/D Corsair and a Spitfire Mk. I)

When I got to Germany with her, we found out one of my buddies played 40k, but even better for her loved to run DnD games.. We had made a deal (mostly to get me to stop poking fun at her), that if I played a game of DnD with her, she would try A game of 40k. So far, I have held up my end of the bargain, and even paint all of our dnd minis for our games...But she refuses to play 40k still.

Ensis Ferrae wrote: So far, I have held up my end of the bargain, and even paint all of our dnd minis for our games...But she refuses to play 40k still.

Bad sign dude.

Ohh, its OK.. because I can still blackmail her on her lack of upholding her end of the bargain... She thinks that by watching some of my games, it is good enough to count.

Plus, it just gives me more excuses for buying minis, and painting a wider range of stuff up.

My wife seemed to generally tolerate and slightly support my playing 40K for a long time. Then last November she got *really* pissy about it and swore I was spending too much money on models (I worked 3 jobs at the time) . It seemed really strange as she is into all sorts of geeky things. hell, we met at a game release party.

Then Christmas rolls around and she hands me a small, light box all wrapped up with a card on top. I opened the card and it was a hand written letter that basically said she was extremely happy that I am in the hobby and thinks it's cool as hell. She went on to say that she would never, ever want me to stop taking part in a hobby I love. I opened the box and it contained a shiny new Forgeworld Black Templar Venerable Dred!


She actually played the uncool wife routine so that I wouldn't see it coming. Frankly, I was impressed.


*I think I'll keep her.......like forever*

Sweety has been very supportive of my hobby. She even helps me create and paint my terrain and terrain table skins. A wonderful, and kind woman and I am so lucky to have her.

My wife would tosh some gas on my all of my mini and throw a match without shreading a tear. That how much she hates any mini games. Plus she doesn't even buy me anything that relates to 40k or Warmachine on Christmas or my Bday.

Elindiel wrote:My wife seemed to generally tolerate and slightly support my playing 40K for a long time. Then last November she got *really* pissy about it and swore I was spending too much money on models (I worked 3 jobs at the time) . It seemed really strange as she is into all sorts of geeky things. hell, we met at a game release party.

Then Christmas rolls around and she hands me a small, light box all wrapped up with a card on top. I opened the card and it was a hand written letter that basically said she was extremely happy that I am in the hobby and thinks it's cool as hell. She went on to say that she would never, ever want me to stop taking part in a hobby I love. I opened the box and it contained a shiny new Forgeworld Black Templar Venerable Dred!


She actually played the uncool wife routine so that I wouldn't see it coming. Frankly, I was impressed.


*I think I'll keep her.......like forever*

That's a pretty awesome wife!

filbert wrote:How does my spouse react to my gaming? With indifference and apathy, largely....

Dito. However, my mistress is sometimes asking.

Mine complains that she can't get me gaming stuff as presents because when there's something I want/need I just go out and buy it.

She's also just built her first few models and tried her hand at painting as well but is convincing herself that the game will be too complicated.

My wife likes it and is enthusiastic. She has played games, and typically buys me forgeworld as gifts.

Plus, she combines it with her own geeky hobbies, she's cross-stitched chaos symbols for my display boards.

My wife is cool with the whole hobby thing. While deployed, she even went out and got the Throne of Chaos book for me, and mailed to Afghan.
Plus she thinks it's better than the strip club, and I've shown her it's cheaper than me going out drinking (I can drink a full army in a weekend).

When my girlfriend first saw my gaming stuff she was actually relieved that she didn't have to hide her marvel comic habit from me. Now she is lightly interested, having read her way through half my black library collection, always asks to see my latest painting work & loves looking at all the artwork in the books.

Women are a difficult thing when it comes to this stuff.
My girlfriend of two years changed her mind on how she felt
about it a good few times. at first she loved how creative i was it it made me look artistic. then as she came around more she grew to hate it cause i was spending alot of time with my group of friends to do it. Now she has accepted it and plays d and d with us now. feth YEH FOR HOT NERD GIRLS!

Sgnt Rosco wrote:Women are a difficult thing when it comes to this stuff......

I think that you are understating it mate, they're difficult when it comes to everything!

I knew mine would be okay when she puts up with my rugby activities I.e. going out at 11am on a Saturday and falling through the door at 3am with no clear idea of where I have been. If they tolerate that a few toy soldiers is nothing!

Mine is certainly an enabler. She'll buy me models on occasion and actually plays and enjoys Malifaux. My favorite part was her statement, upon telling her I needed another Battlefoam Bag: "Well, if it'll keep your gak more organized, order it. Order it now."

She will not, however, step foot inside an LGS on a Friday Night.

So ya I have to agree that in reality we basically are going "pew pew" (or "twang twang" for WHFB) with our little army men - there's just rules to our Pew Pewing.

My ex wife hated it. She thought it was immature and childish and even though I fully disclosed my hobby when I met her when I was 23, she said she thought I'd grow out of it. I'm 32 (31 when we were estranged) and now I make sure people know this is my hobby, it's what I do and compared to the other guys in my peer group in this region (Many of whom are drunks, rednecks who disappear for weeks during hunting season or just losers who still live with mommy) most girls I meet prefer the hobby to the alternative.

That said I did date a girl who, after a few months, started to lose her tolerance for the hobby (but I do paint a lot in front of the TV... idk...)

End result: I will not date a girl who was not at the very least accepting of my hobby if not interested in participating.

Some very interesting replies in this thread all around. I am also glad to see how many married military men play the game, as I had my suspicions it was quite a few. At the last tournament I was at, the guy who won first place looks like he could have bench-pressed all of the tables and terrain stacked together. That group helps to alleviate the pasty nerd image that tabletop wargamers seem to have.

Oaka wrote:Some very interesting replies in this thread all around. I am also glad to see how many married military men play the game, as I had my suspicions it was quite a few. At the last tournament I was at, the guy who won first place looks like he could have bench-pressed all of the tables and terrain stacked together. That group helps to alleviate the pasty nerd image that tabletop wargamers seem to have.

A ton of military guys in Ohio play for sure. Bookery in Fairborne (near Dayton) has a huge patron population from Wright Patterson AFB.

Interestingly, a lot of my wife's friends (anywhere from 22-30) typically agree that the hobby is a bit dorky, but are fascinated and impressed by the amount of detail put into something so small. Now, if only that were the case with all small things

My wife would tolerate as long as I kept within budget and we worked out before I paint (I dont play). She was a personal trainer and we met at the gym. Now with baby its generally the same rules, but less paint time. She doesnt really like the hobby but considers it better than playstation (which I dont own) or fantasy football (40k for sports fans). I dont know how she would take it if I ever played, doubt if I will ever have the time.

My girlfriend of 18 months was fine with it until i took her in to our local GW after which she was "scarred for life" from the nerdness. She is very accepting of it though.

That was your mistake.

My wife refuses to step inside the local GW.
It smells bad enough in winter. In summer, it is so much worse.
Also full of screeching children.

She's been into a couple of other games stores with me, and was fine with them. The owners of those stores had wives who had them put in seats and upgraded airconditioning, so that the WAGs could relax while their men frolicked amongst the mandollies.

She's okay with it, although she's not sure if some of my armies need to be so large.

Bit of an enabler really, 5 years ago she wanted a new sewing machine. I bought the $700 model she wanted, I got a new airbrush set up and about half of the SoBs I have.

4 years ago, she wanted a serger, another 7 bills, I ended up starting (and finishing)the White Scars army I always wanted...about triple the intended size too.

The missus has her own little hobbies, so she leaves me to mine. Better than some of the trouble I could be getting into.