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My wife likes my "dolls". it keeps me out of strip clubs. GW is also a cheap hobby.

skkipper wrote:My wife likes my "dolls". it keeps me out of strip clubs. GW is also a cheap hobby.

I suppose comparatively cheap to some other hobbies, but I've never heard the hobby described as 'cheap.'

Talarn Blackshard wrote:My wife is ok with it, but I sense she may be building up for a "time to give up your hobby" battle line ... which I will counter with "time for a divorce, told you i was not going to give up my hobby you borderline cat lady" battle line...

its on.

Epic defensive position.

gunslingerpro wrote:

skkipper wrote:My wife likes my "dolls". it keeps me out of strip clubs. GW is also a cheap hobby.

I suppose comparatively cheap to some other hobbies, but I've never heard the hobby described as 'cheap.'

Certainly not cheap, though when you compare it to other "traditional male hobbies" like Golfing, Boating, Cigar Smoking or Gun Collecting, it's not so bad.

I always just tell her I can start drinking and smoking heavily; she's all about tiny plastic soldiers when I bring this up.

Haha right..

At first my fiancé's comment was 'you child', and just completely uncomprehending. However, having seen me painting and converting stuff she has since warmed to it somewhat, to the point now where she can understand its merits.

Mine went out and spent $500 on me when I stated I wanted to collect it. She had a game with me last night and generally watches me paint / model while playing the computer.

Got her to play a game yesterday, but she found it boring until she added alcohol.

It IS boring until you add alcohol.

Your SO is right in that regard.

Like so many other pasttimes. Like baseball (nobody would watch it if it wasn't for beer) - or cricket (shame you can only get light beer AT the venues, though).


Beer makes EVERYTHING better.

My wife "tolerates" it. She likes it when I go out on Saturdays to "geek out" at my local shop, giving her some "quiet time" without me there. She hates it when I dont pick up all my stuff from the desk. My boys, 5 and 3, on the other hand, love it. They like my (IG) "armors" and my tanks and jet. They dont really like to leave my stuff be.

My wife is ok with it. She calls the miniatures I paint "little dudes".

Oaka wrote:Alright, so I have been with my girlfriend for two years now, and she has pleasantly accepted my gaming. She actually got to witness a game for the first time just this month, when I was playing a campaign battle on a Sunday evening. She strolled out of bed at about 6 PM (she has narcolepsy and sleeps on and off all the time) and took a look at the board, and said,

"Why are you guys rolling dice and using tape measures?"

Me- "Because there are rules and measurements attributed to all the different models."

Her- "Oh, I thought you guys just set up and played war."

So... for the past two years, she thought all I did was set up army men and then make pew-pew noises at the other army men. And she apparently thought that groups of guys travel to conventions in far away cities specifically to play pew-pew army men against other guys.

Oh my God, that's hilarious!! Pew-pew sounds! Dude, you got it easy, my wife and I are divorcing because of my hobby. Long story short, she has a personality disorder that prevents her from being around other people except me, so she has no friends and can't cope with me being around others. This leads to HUGE fights and I'm the bad guy for having a fun hobby that I enjoy. Essentially, I am walking away after 23 years and plan to play 'til I'm dead. Folks, let my example be a beacon for all, if you have a girlfriend or wife that is understanding or God forbid, even plays the game count yourself as the luckiest guy on the planet cause some of us have spouses or girlfriends that aren't as understanding and make life difficult almost everyday. Communication is also the key, talk to each other about what she wants and what you want, get everything out in the open and hopefully they are understanding enough and don't let them change you 'cause you will only resent it and might even lead to my situation down the road because of the resentment. Be happy, include her in everything, and most of all TALK IT OVER. I just wish I could have taken my own advice years ago, but I can't change the past I just am looking forward to the future. Thanks for listening. PEACE!!

My wife showed no interest in wargaming what so ever untill i took her with me to pick up a order from my local games workshop store.
They started asking her the same questions they fire at any one new in store i.e "want a free painting lesson?" and "how about a quick game?".
To my shock she agreed and had a game and is now hooked!.

My wife has a small 1000pt Chaos Daemon Army and paints more than plays.
She's more of D&D girl. She GMs a game and plays in the one I run.
So, that said, I think she's good with it.
=)
Reading about all the GFs and wives who, "hate it", "Think it's childish", etc. really could use a little perspective.
Growing up where I did, the accepted behavior of a married adult male was drinking, drugs, whoring, and/or abusing of the spouse and children.
Alternately, It was drinking, laying on the "Lazy boy" and watching televised sports and ignoring the spouse and children.

In my opinion, they need to get a grip and accept that a man who plays with toys is probably one of the best kind of man one could have.

My wife has no problem at all with it - it keeps me out of trouble. She does call me a geek from time to time, just to let me know she's aware that it's not seen as a cool thing to do. But then I bring up her Farmville addiction and the Status Quo is resumed.

ColdSadHungry wrote:But then I bring up her Farmville addiction and the Status Quo is resumed.

Fighting fire with fire eh? I like it!

My right hand is totally cool with it. In fact, it painted all of my army!


Jokes aside, I've suffered quite a bit for not liking sports, booze and mechanical stuff. That I'm pretty much the typical example of an introvert, combined with the fact that all persons of the opposite sex that I talk with end up as friends (not that friends are bad, but...), doesn't exactly help boost my confidence...

I'm ranting and getting off-topic now, though. TL;DR: Woe is me!

My wife has no problem with my hobby. When I did play games I practically lived at my bud's hobby shop. When her friends would say something about it she would remark that "he's not in a bar or chasing hookers", that usually shuts them up. Now I'm starting to just build and she is as supportive as ever. Her involvement extends only to knowing what army I played and built. I've seen her argue with a shop clerk that what he was trying to sell her would not work in my collection 28mm is not the same as 1/35 scale and she knows the difference.

She's happy I'm not drinking/partying/hanging out with other girls

She basically can keep track of me

Recently my better half has been commenting that I do not game enough, even going so far as suggesting I buy more models.

I am not sure which of us that says more about.

"Honey, you need to get out more" is what I am hearing, but I am pretty sure "No worries; do what you like, and I know you enjoy this" is what was meant.

heh

kirsanth wrote:Recently my better half has been commenting that I do not game enough, even going so far as suggesting I buy more models.

I am not sure which of us that says more about.

"Honey, you need to get out more" is what I am hearing, but I am pretty sure "No worries; do what you like, and I know you enjoy this" is what was meant.

heh

Whenever I start to seem glum the Mistress says the same thing "Why don't you go up to area 51 for a while? I'll even drop you off if you just want to be there a while." Love that one

It was either mini wargaming or guns... fortunately she ended up being cool with both!

My wife is actually interested in the hobby. But in typical female fashion her approach sometimes borders on the incomprehensible. For example she refuses to play unless she can freely mix factions and ignore the FOC.

You can't use those slugga boyz with marines
Why not? They're friends.
Because . . . well the rules . . .
Boring. Its more fun if they're friends. Hurry up and setup.

She has a pretty good grasp of tactics, but our homebrew games would make most fluff bunnies (me included) cry tears of blood.

rabidaskal wrote:You can't use those slugga boyz with marines
Why not? They're friends.

Lol, that sir is adorable and priceless.

Piz wrote:

rabidaskal wrote:You can't use those slugga boyz with marines
Why not? They're friends.

Lol, that sir is adorable and priceless.

Agreed. But, having a gamer wife myself, I *think* she at least understands the concept of the various factions in 40k, but we'll find out somewhat soon.