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Dislikes it immensely, borderline hate.

That being said, she doesn't really give me any issues about it, but I still know she dislikes it. She just can't believe how much it costs, which is her main gripe.

Man, most of you guys are really lucky. Mrs Sarpedons HATES it. She tolerates it because she loves me, i think that's why anyway....

Most of the time I'm a furtive painter. If I do any at all, it's secretly and I clean up afterwards... It's a little like watching naughty stuff online actually......

My ex was indifferent.

And since she's now my ex, her opinion doesn't really matter anymore.

My little sweet potato doesn't mind particularly my 40K addiction. Got into it when my boy was about 11 and they were demo'ing at the game store where he got his Pokemon cards. He got into it for awhile til he hit high school. I ended up running a weekly 40K game night at a local hobby shop. I get a fat discount, so cost isn't too much of an issue. She does refer to them as army dolls. A few years back she wanted me to paint up a Sisters army - "the space bitches" - for her. Did a couple of test troopers, but she wanted a more carnival paint job. That project faded and she brought it up once in the intervening 6 years. Usually I can disappear to the basement to paint when Dancing With The Stars comes on... She doesn't understand my battle reports, which is a bummer.

The gf doesnt luke the hobby, and thinks its childish and i should 'grow up and stop playing with little models'

But she tolerates it nonetheless, keeps me out of trouble

We got Assault on Black Reach as a wedding gift (I have awesome family members) and life has been great. Sadly, she is more into the hobby part of minis than the game part, but she's really into Pathfinder and RPGs in general so I guess that levels things out.

Oaka wrote:

So... for the past two years, she thought all I did was set up army men and then make pew-pew noises at the other army men. And she apparently thought that groups of guys travel to conventions in far away cities specifically to play pew-pew army men against other guys.

We do, rulers and dice don't make it anymore manly

My wife just thinks I'm weird. I still can't get her to understand that all the models are not the same. I hear "You already have a million army men".

Maybe I should use a spice rack reference...

I'd normally point her in the direction of the thread and let her respond when it comes up, as she posts here as Aurelia, but shes unlikely to get on Dakka for a week or two.

So long story short, met her at a RPG club, been gaming with her since 97, married since 2002, she pretty much plays all the same games I do including some console ones, and we both play wargames.

She has Dark Eldar, Haqqislam, a Beastman Mordheim band atm. She also waiting for new SoB, new Blood Bowl teams if it is released next year (as par rumours on Dakka) and we will be starting two new armies based on the 40K 6th box next year as well.

We also have three kiddies, of which the eldest two are now starting to get 40K stuff for the first time as well.

Oaka wrote:Alright, so I have been with my girlfriend for two years now, and she has pleasantly accepted my gaming. She actually got to witness a game for the first time just this month, when I was playing a campaign battle on a Sunday evening. She strolled out of bed at about 6 PM (she has narcolepsy and sleeps on and off all the time) and took a look at the board, and said,

"Why are you guys rolling dice and using tape measures?"

Me- "Because there are rules and measurements attributed to all the different models."

Her- "Oh, I thought you guys just set up and played war."

So... for the past two years, she thought all I did was set up army men and then make pew-pew noises at the other army men. And she apparently thought that groups of guys travel to conventions in far away cities specifically to play pew-pew army men against other guys.

Seriously?! She thought you did that, for two years, and stayed with you? Dude... This one's a keeper!

Morathi's Darkest Sin wrote:We also have three kiddies, of which the eldest two are now starting to get 40K stuff for the first time as well.

I've hear of introducing new people to the hobby but this goes above and beyond....!

On a more serious note, congratulations and happy xmas to all!

she refers to it as my 'geek stuff'. She has always known that I am into this sort of thing and although she is never happy if she loses out to a night geeking it up with the lads she does not mind most of the time. She likes to see the finished results when I have been painting though

I would never want her to get into it though, sharing and having common interests is great but you have to have your own things as well, this is mine, along with cooking, rugby, photography, computers, golf, kayaking, badminton. I am a bit of a hobby man!!

Depending on the game in question either disdain, annoyance or gleeful joy.

I talked about quitting the hobby and my spouse told me that if I sold my models, she'd tie me to the bed, cut open my stomach, bathe in my blood and perform a daemonic rite to bring the gods of chaos into our bedroom. Then things would REALLY start to get kinky

Also, no spouse-totally made up. But that would be the perfect woman, no?

When we moved in together I introduced my partner to 40K and she loved the idea of painting up an army so that we had a hobby to do together. She chose SOB which GW promptly cancelled after I spent a small fortune collecting the models for her.

I don't take her gaming anymore due to two kids in two years and the fact that she cheers my opposition in a gleefully malicious way.

In hindsight I think I should have bought her a chaos daemons army.

My wife refers to it as "dorking." She actually likes it a lot. She loves the models, and enjoys watching me paint. That is the only odd part.. I hate doing it, perhaps she secretly enjoys the my personal hatred of it, guess that comes with marriage.

She likes to hear me talk about fluff with gaming guys. In the past she's referred to the Emperor as "a punk who sounds like he tried to play god." She things Thrakka has "the best name for his model." And insists "for the prices GW should make models that not only make the suitable noises, but also fire plastic missiles." I think she's onto something there. She likes fantasy models better then 40k. She also things chaos demon princes are "the coolest." Lastly I can buy whatever I want that's Skaven "because the army is like real mice with a rat wheel."

She picks my colors schemes as i'm somewhat color blind from an eye injury as a teenager. She even goes as far as defending it to my non-tabletop gaming friends. We were at a friends wedding, where a friend was being a jackass. She rebuttled with "so let me get this straight, he's married, has a stable job, finds time to game AND keep me happy... your single, miserable, and your suit doesn't match.. whose the dork?" While I'll admit, it was a little harsh.. it was pretty darn funny to watch.

Happy, real happy. He got me into 40k but I do more gaming than he does (unless you count computer games but my PC just won't run most of 'em).

We met gaming so I guess he was never gonna have a problem with it.

My wife doesn't really care, though she knows how peacefull I get when modelling/painting, so she actually reminds me to do it from time to time.

We both have an "allowance" of money to sprnd on whatever we want after bills and rent is payed, and the months grovery money hidden away, and some saving... So money isn't a problem. Though she actually preffers me spending it on toys, as oposed to beet, cigarettes and pub nights.

Since our son was born 29th of september this year, we've had an inoficial deal that a couple of times each week, I eatch the kid for an hour and a half, so she can bathe, she does the same afterwards so I can paint/model.

She will pick things up for me at the gaming store if I ask her, though she loathes setting foot in there. I understand that, and only ask when I'm ill or too busy. Some of the people who hang out in our GW are downright creepy. And the MTG crowd at the LGS usually leaves me wanting to scrub myself in the bath for a couple of hours. Which is daying alot as I work at a shelter, for homeless, addicts and the mentally ill, and I'll usually settle with a shower after my shift there....

/Calle

My girlfriend says she's interested and wants to play 40k but freaks out any time I try to bring it up or say anything about it. I haven't played a game of it yet because I'm still putting together models and she wants me to tell her how to play because she won't read the book at all.
Of course by tell her how to play I mean play for her, I have given up since I don't know how to teach her a game I don't know how to play . She leaves me alone if I put them together or paint when she's not there and I can play all the Hordes I want again if she's not there.

Jag_Calle wrote:My wife doesn't really care, though she knows how peacefull I get when modelling/painting, so she actually reminds me to do it from time to time.

We both have an "allowance" of money to sprnd on whatever we want after bills and rent is payed, and the months grovery money hidden away, and some saving... So money isn't a problem. Though she actually preffers me spending it on toys, as oposed to beet, cigarettes and pub nights.

Since our son was born 29th of september this year, we've had an inoficial deal that a couple of times each week, I eatch the kid for an hour and a half, so she can bathe, she does the same afterwards so I can paint/model.

She will pick things up for me at the gaming store if I ask her, though she loathes setting foot in there. I understand that, and only ask when I'm ill or too busy. Some of the people who hang out in our GW are downright creepy. And the MTG crowd at the LGS usually leaves me wanting to scrub myself in the bath for a couple of hours. Which is daying alot as I work at a shelter, for homeless, addicts and the mentally ill, and I'll usually settle with a shower after my shift there....

/Calle

It does get easier to find the time to paint and model. I have a one year old and a two year old and most nights we can persuade them to go to bed around 7 O'Clock. Some nights however one or other of them will have better ideas.

Update: played a game of WM/H with the spouse this weekend. She loves the models, enjoys that I painted a battlegroup for her (but wants to paint her own!), and thought the rules were decent enough (was convinced Stealth was cheating).

She was so excited when she was winning (Khador vs. my Cryx), but got mad when she lost (kind of our relationship haha. Very competitive).

All in all, she thinks I'm nerdy, but she's glad I settled down to play with pretty little models rather than bar hopping.

No reaction because I don't have one.

My GF is very supportive - she doesn't play WH40k but she does play board games like Talisman or even Twilight Imperium. She likes to watch me paint and sometimes steals some minis to paint herself. Recently she helped me and my friend with building, detailing and painting a Warhound Titan. She complain about prices of things I buy for my hobby (GW ) but she even bought be an airbrush so I think that's just for sports. Anyway I keep her

My wife is ok with it, but I sense she may be building up for a "time to give up your hobby" battle line ... which I will counter with "time for a divorce, told you i was not going to give up my hobby you borderline cat lady" battle line...

its on.

njpc wrote:She picks my colors schemes as i'm somewhat color blind from an eye injury as a teenager. She even goes as far as defending it to my non-tabletop gaming friends. We were at a friends wedding, where a friend was being a jackass. She rebuttled with "so let me get this straight, he's married, has a stable job, finds time to game AND keep me happy... your single, miserable, and your suit doesn't match.. whose the dork?" While I'll admit, it was a little harsh.. it was pretty darn funny to watch.

Loyalwatcher wrote:

njpc wrote:She picks my colors schemes as i'm somewhat color blind from an eye injury as a teenager. She even goes as far as defending it to my non-tabletop gaming friends. We were at a friends wedding, where a friend was being a jackass. She rebuttled with "so let me get this straight, he's married, has a stable job, finds time to game AND keep me happy... your single, miserable, and your suit doesn't match.. whose the dork?" While I'll admit, it was a little harsh.. it was pretty darn funny to watch.

I've lost most of my faith in humanity, but every so often dakka spews forth a truth so profound that it restores a little bit of it. This my good fellow is one of them

I started 40k when we were dating. She prefers me having a hobby rather than going out to bars and such.

Last year for my birthday she bought me a stormlord and basically ran a black ops campaign to get it through a friend without me knowing.

She enjoys seeing my work when I paint and knows it makes me happy and tries to convinve me to get more of my friends involved so I will continue for a long time.

She does enjoy convincing the cat to attack the models. Sometimes I agree its entertaining to see a space marine carried off by a cat but at the same time I get annoyed because of the work I've put into them.

rogueeyes wrote:I started 40k when we were dating. She prefers me having a hobby rather than going out to bars and such.

She enjoys seeing my work when I paint and knows it makes me happy and tries to convinve me to get more of my friends involved so I will continue for a long time.

Other than when I started(way before I even met my wife), mine's exactly the same way. She even defended it when my parents(who think it should have been a teenage phase) tried to convince her to convince me to quit years ago.

I played D&D, BattleTech, etc. when we started dating in High School. She somehow thinks it's cute when I nerd-out. 16 years and 11 years of marriage later, she's still fine with me leaving the house for most of the day to do nerd-out.

She doesn't really seem to mind it. I think she wants me to play just so she can keep calling me a dork.

Then again I do joke with her about not making me choose since I've know GW longer...

My wife loves it, as I build and paint rather than play MMO's. When we have people over, she actually brings them to my office to show off my models which IMO is pretty cool! She won't play, and has watched me game before and just finds it too in depth for her to get into. It's nice to have her full support