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Alright, so I have been with my girlfriend for two years now, and she has pleasantly accepted my gaming. She actually got to witness a game for the first time just this month, when I was playing a campaign battle on a Sunday evening. She strolled out of bed at about 6 PM (she has narcolepsy and sleeps on and off all the time) and took a look at the board, and said,

"Why are you guys rolling dice and using tape measures?"

Me- "Because there are rules and measurements attributed to all the different models."

Her- "Oh, I thought you guys just set up and played war."

So... for the past two years, she thought all I did was set up army men and then make pew-pew noises at the other army men. And she apparently thought that groups of guys travel to conventions in far away cities specifically to play pew-pew army men against other guys.

How does my spouse react to my gaming? With indifference and apathy, largely....

Don't forget occasional derision. That's for when you have spent too much on new toys.

My wife thinks it looks like the most boring game ever. She wishes I would put all my warhammer stuff in a cupboard or better - a bin!
She refuses to even watch me play a game.
But most of the time she just lets me get on with it.

She's good! She does a little painting but is more into RPGs and board games than tabletop wargames.

She can see the artistic merit in it and the modelling aspects (her brother plays with trains - although several of his ARE ride-ons, so a little larger than the usual HO scale) but there was nothing but acceptance of it.

She knows it's about measuring and dice rolling. It's my hobby and she leaves me to it.

My wife likes me gaming and painting, she has started painting her self and is really into the fantasy High Elves. Got us Island of Blood for xmas so will see how she gets on gaming

I wish mine would get involved but she will not.

Don't have a wife or girl friend, to my dismay. But my parents hate it, they think its too juvineil



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My wife ignores it and I'm pretty sure she thinks a 32 year old man shouldn't be messing about with plastic little dudes.

My 3 year old really digs it though. He likes 'painting'. I'm sure he'll play it when he's older.

Mrs. Snurl likes it because she says it keeps me out of trouble. She's after me every few weeks to paint seasonal characters on her fingernails.

My wife tolerates it. She knows it keeps me sane....kinda. Doesn't help that I got her brother-in-law-to-be completely hooked on awhile back.

She's trying it this coming weekend. I'll let you know how it turns out!

My wife collects Eldar and Dark Eldar.

She's more into the collecting/painting end that the playing, as she doesn't like to lose. I play at a 500 pt handicap against her, as I play biweekly and she plays about bimonthly. It gives me a challenge and makes sure she has a decent chance of beating me hollow

She's starting to get back into the playing side, is a far better painter than i am, and is more rabidly into Pathfinder (d and d) than I am.

How did your spouse react to your gaming?

Same way she reacts to me naked. Lots of giggling.

All important rule #1 in both matters:

Laugh if you want to, but don't point

Lady Thorne is much like Chromedog's wife in that she acknowledges that it keeps me busy, makes pretty things, but also makes a mess and detracts from the time I could spend paying homage to her.

Kronk, is that the :good: giggling or the :funny: giggling? It's important that there's a distinction...

mine has asked me to set up a displaycaes for my finished modlels. she enjoys the detail in them and knows that its the one hobby i wont part with. when i head out for a gamenight she says" have a goodnight with your girfriend, ill see you in the morning".

My girlfriend thinks its cool. She tells me she wants to try it out

My wife scrapbooks so we both have our crafty hobby. I always get a kick out of 'you already have dozens of men and a couple tanks, why do you need more? Can't you play with the one you already have?"

She watched one game at my local shop but was terrified by the D&D people and has never returned. After she witnessed D&D, she let me get further into warhammer 'because at least the other players shave'.

While no current misses at the moment (ish)... i know a longer gamer with a beard... (ish)... anyway :3 i always make sure they know i do it, i wont change, but im not obsessive and it doesnt rule my life (once (mostly) or twice (rarely) a week ill go to my mates for painting/game for a few hours), ive yet to find one that hates it, yet ive had one or three that were actually willing to help me paint them :3 yet to find a gamer misses, but they all knew i do it to keep my frustrations to a minimum and it helps keep my from getting into trouble. >=D

@gunslingerpro: If your avatar is your other half, it's gonna turn out reeeealllly good.

Indifference.

Oaka wrote:So... for the past two years, she thought all I did was set up army men and then make pew-pew noises at the other army men. And she apparently thought that groups of guys travel to conventions in far away cities specifically to play pew-pew army men against other guys.

Heh.

My wife tolerates it, but doesn't think much of the game. She doesn't really care one way or the other, honestly.

My girlfriend is starting a Tau army, but I'm sort of afraid it's going to lead to me sleeping on the couch after a particularly heated match. It'll be nice to be able to just throw down a game whenever we have an evening together though.

Play for favours..

works best if one of you runs Slaaneshi or Dark Eldar...


Nothing better than some hot Wych on Fire-warrior action


Seriously though, make sure the couch is comfortable or play at a handicap. A happy GF is a generous GF





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Oaka wrote:
So... for the past two years, she thought all I did was set up army men and then make pew-pew noises at the other army men. And she apparently thought that groups of guys travel to conventions in far away cities specifically to play pew-pew army men against other guys.

Heh heh, she must be a great women for staying with a guy she thought went "pew pew" with army men lol

If her reaction had been too negative, she wouldn't have gotten the position, would she?

Aphrodite took a few months trying to figure it out from the outside, then decided she would have to try it herself to understand it. Once she did (it was mostly D&D at the time, WFB was waiting for a time when I had more cash to spend), she was really bitten with the gaming bug. For more than a decade we were a happy gaming couple.

The past couple years she's kind of fallen out of it, but since she spent many a night at my side she understands the nature of the beast. So long as I don't blow the grocery money on plastic crack, all is fine.

I just had my girlfriend read it and she said "well that is basically what you do". She might have a point....


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She apologizes for bursting your bubble.

When I found my wife, she was quite indifferent to it, didn't really see the point to it. Then when I made the pilgrimage to GW HQ, she converted immediately.