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 Albatross wrote:
The ladies love a pedant...

No they don't, they...

Oh. Nevermind.

They also love pendants ;P

Ladies, love also pendants. ;D

I have a pendant. It is a Faravahar, that some Iranian friend of mine gave me the first time I visited Iran, about 13 years ago. I have been wearing it since then. When the chain broke, that friend, who is living in France and finishing her PhD here, bought me a new chain for my birthday. I like it.

Most guys where i'm from wear a silver chain, i wear a one with St Christopher on it, i'm not religious but its more of a good luck charm since i have to travel often. Girls tell me its sexy and it shows something about your character i guess.

 tau tse tung wrote:
Most guys where i'm from wear a silver chain, i wear a one with St Christopher on it, i'm not religious but its more of a good luck charm since i have to travel often. Girls tell me its sexy and it shows something about your character i guess.

Now all you need is a big dragon tattoo on your neck.

 poppa G wrote:

 tau tse tung wrote:
Most guys where i'm from wear a silver chain, i wear a one with St Christopher on it, i'm not religious but its more of a good luck charm since i have to travel often. Girls tell me its sexy and it shows something about your character i guess.

Now all you need is a big dragon tattoo on your neck.

I'm more "badman" than you would expect...

My only accessories is a blue lace (a blue high quality American made shoelace) I wear wrapped around my left wrist, otherwise I keep it simple, let the clothes and shoes speak for themselves... I also have tattoos but I usually keep me covered up


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My only accessories is a blue lace (a blue high quality American made shoelace) I wear wrapped around my left wrist, otherwise I keep it simple, let the clothes and shoes speak for themselves... I also have tattoos but I usually keep me covered up

 tau tse tung wrote:

 poppa G wrote:

 tau tse tung wrote:
Most guys where i'm from wear a silver chain, i wear a one with St Christopher on it, i'm not religious but its more of a good luck charm since i have to travel often. Girls tell me its sexy and it shows something about your character i guess.

Now all you need is a big dragon tattoo on your neck.

I'm more "badman" than you would expect...

Well let's here about it.

 poppa G wrote:

 tau tse tung wrote:

 poppa G wrote:

 tau tse tung wrote:
Most guys where i'm from wear a silver chain, i wear a one with St Christopher on it, i'm not religious but its more of a good luck charm since i have to travel often. Girls tell me its sexy and it shows something about your character i guess.

Now all you need is a big dragon tattoo on your neck.

I'm more "badman" than you would expect...

Well let's here about it.

No one here is "badman"

Also, what's this obsession with confidence=getting girls? You can still be an un-confident guy and have dates.

 KalashnikovMarine wrote:
So my current relationship status is a little bit weird...

I'm currently in a polyamorous relationship with a girl I met at Adepticon. (She's a wargamer, a redhead and PhD candidate, check those boxes right off the goddess damn list!)

In the wings is a current Librarian with a paralegal degree, she's shy, Japanese-American and thinks I'm fantastic.

Now coming out of left field my buddy has set me up with a gorgeous English nuclear engineer, former cage fighter, nerd, thinks I'm handsome (so a little deluded, but what the hell right?)


So I suppose I need advice on where to get cheap plane tickets.

Are you sure you've never sat in a Hornet or a Rhino? This sounds like someone who's sat in a Hornet or a Rhino.

 WallofMeat wrote:

 poppa G wrote:

 tau tse tung wrote:

 poppa G wrote:

 tau tse tung wrote:
Most guys where i'm from wear a silver chain, i wear a one with St Christopher on it, i'm not religious but its more of a good luck charm since i have to travel often. Girls tell me its sexy and it shows something about your character i guess.

Now all you need is a big dragon tattoo on your neck.

I'm more "badman" than you would expect...

Well let's here about it.

No one here is "badman"

Also, what's this obsession with confidence=getting girls? You can still be an un-confident guy and have dates.

Pretty much this. I'm as unconfident as they come, and look at how many dates I've got:

I call shenanigans, Your Avatar clearly shows that you have monkey hands.
Unless you've shaved them for that pic?

 Seaward wrote:

 KalashnikovMarine wrote:
So my current relationship status is a little bit weird...

I'm currently in a polyamorous relationship with a girl I met at Adepticon. (She's a wargamer, a redhead and PhD candidate, check those boxes right off the goddess damn list!)

In the wings is a current Librarian with a paralegal degree, she's shy, Japanese-American and thinks I'm fantastic.

Now coming out of left field my buddy has set me up with a gorgeous English nuclear engineer, former cage fighter, nerd, thinks I'm handsome (so a little deluded, but what the hell right?)


So I suppose I need advice on where to get cheap plane tickets.

Are you sure you've never sat in a Hornet or a Rhino? This sounds like someone who's sat in a Hornet or a Rhino.

I have jumped in a Rhino just didn't get to go any where sadly. One of my bucket list events is to break the sound barrier. F-18 driver was my life goal till I got told "Nope, no flying with those eyes" so I enlisted to get PRK and a college degree so I could try again from within, but busted my legs up before I could get PRK or a degree. So critical failure on that plan.

 WallofMeat wrote:
Also, what's this obsession with confidence=getting girls? You can still be an un-confident guy and have dates.

Well, anecdotal evidence, but I know I am not confident and I am not getting girls .

 WallofMeat wrote:

Also, what's this obsession with confidence=getting girls? You can still be an un-confident guy and have dates.

You can be lots of things and have dates. Confidence is probably the aspect of attraction that is least dependend on the rest of your circumstances. Unemployed? Morbidly obese? If you're confident, you'll stay busy in the dating department.

But simply put, more than any other factor, confidence is what women find attrative. More than looks, more than money.

I think confidence is important in general like employers find it a good quality to have, I think most guys would probably like a girl who's confident as well I mean who really wants to date a nervous wreck.

I tried to get a girls phone number, but despite having girlfriends before I failed my morale test at the last second. It seems the failed relationships I had decrease my courage.

So, did you ask and she shot you down or you wanted to ask but were too afraid too?

From what he said, clearly the second.


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 Cheesecat wrote:
I think most guys would probably like a girl who's confident as well I mean who really wants to date a nervous wreck.

Well, if you help her become more confident and make her happy, that could be some very nice feeling, no ?

chaos0xomega wrote:
So, did you ask and she shot you down or you wanted to ask but were too afraid too?

Something on the lines of the second thing.

I can relate to that. Easily. Maybe too easily .

Try being subtle about it. For example, my friend digs this girl that works at a comic shop, but didn't know how to approach her without being 'that guy', so I told him the following: ask about some back issues you need that she would then have to spend some time searching for, tell her you can't stick around, leave your number with her so that the ball is in her court and see what happens.... So he did... she checked the shops inventory and they had it, but (predictably) she would have to do some looking for them because they were older and likely in the basement, my friend said 'thats fine, I have to go, but here's my number, if you find them feel free to call or text me and I'll swing by later.'

Sure enough she texted him, and they started a nice little back and forth. I dont know if it'll go anywhere, but its a nice way to go about it if you're not comfortable being more overt about it. Obviously that example is VERY situational, but if you're clever about it you can adapt a similar concept to just about anything.

(To me the impressive thing about this is that I can come up with ideas like this and help other people out along the path of getting dates... but I can't do it myself )

I dont know if I should find it funny or sad that I seek dating advice on a wargaming forum...

Well, think about it this way: at least you have been in a relationship already. That is more than I can tell. And I may very well be quite older than you.

I dont think any of us really came here seeking advice, at least I didn't... I came here for an interesting thread started by an interesting forum user. So far so good.

Actually, the thread was created specifically for us, so…

I have yet to meet again with the girl whose number I got at the esport bar. We were supposed to meet the next Saturday, but she later postponed by one week to last Saturday. I had to cancel on last Saturday, and now she went to South Korea. Hopefully we will meet when she comes back. I also gave her the contact information of a friend in Seoul, hopefully they will get along well together .

Soooooo...didn't think to post this tip here but after last night it definitely rings true: if you're having trouble meeting women, make gay male friends.

Last night a gay friend of mine introduced me to a very young faculty member at the local university. We're there at the restaurant all having drinks when he and everyone else decide to leave. She goes to the restroom before we leave and he goes, "you should definitely ask her to go somewhere else with you. Trust me...truuuuust me." I took her to a local dive bar to play darts til about 2 then back home to my place. Turns out she just got through a messy divorce, just added a bunch of sexy new ink, and wanted to show it off.

So yeah: gay friends. If you have them already, go out with them. If you don't have any already, go make them.



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Daemonhammer wrote:
I tried to get a girls phone number, but despite having girlfriends before I failed my morale test at the last second. It seems the failed relationships I had decrease my courage.

Honestly if you play your cards right, you shouldn't really ever get shot down asking for a number. There's no trick to it - just make yourself someone who is fun to be around and women will want to be around you. You aren't going to be having a fun conversation with a woman, flirty game of pool or darts or whatever, introducing her to friends and vice versa...and then not get her number at the end of the night. Usually if someone isn't interested you'll know within the first 5 minutes.

If it's just closing that is the problem, then lower your standards and try talking to (and getting numbers from) women you aren't really sexually interested in at all. Once you realize how easy it is, you'll be way more confident when it comes to women you are actually into.

I've never been turned down for a number. So here's my little 'trick' if you want to call it that.
So say you're in a bar setting, you're laughing and having fun with this person. You guys really click. So I'll just say hey I've had fun talking with you, I have to go but I wish to get to know you better, what's your number?
It's not clever in the slightest but because you've left a very good first impression on her instead of rushing this question earlier in the night there's no way she would say no to a second chance to hang with you.

 poppa G wrote:
I've never been turned down for a number. So here's my little 'trick' if you want to call it that.
So say you're in a bar setting, you're laughing and having fun with this person. You guys really click. So I'll just say hey I've had fun talking with you, I have to go but I wish to get to know you better, what's your number?
It's not clever in the slightest but because you've left a very good first impression on her instead of rushing this question earlier in the night there's no way she would say no to a second chance to hang with you.

This man speaks the truth.

When you "ask" for a number, you shouldn't really feel like you're asking...more like exchanging.