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 nomsheep wrote:

chaos0xomega wrote:
I think sexy underwear is something that helps the ladies more than us guys... they have a lot more options to choose from in that department...

You say that, but men have plenty of choice.

Damn straight. I feel (and look) like a champ in my Polo or Hugo Boss boxer briefs. All I've worn for years.

 Albatross wrote:


Early signs are that she is a keeper though. Seriously this time.

Out of curiosity, what are the signs that you saw? Anything else that you'd look for in a "keeper"?

 Barksdale wrote:

 nomsheep wrote:

chaos0xomega wrote:
I think sexy underwear is something that helps the ladies more than us guys... they have a lot more options to choose from in that department...

You say that, but men have plenty of choice.

Damn straight. I feel (and look) like a champ in my Polo or Hugo Boss boxer briefs. All I've worn for years.

You wash them though, yeah?

 Albatross wrote:


Early signs are that she is a keeper though. Seriously this time.

Out of curiosity, what are the signs that you saw? Anything else that you'd look for in a "keeper"?

We just clicked instantly. At the risk of sounding mushy, the first time I saw her, I felt like the world stopped. She's funny, clever, kind (but not a pushover), feisty (but not a pain in the arse - in a cute way) and I find her absolutely gorgeous. She conducts herself with class, even when VERY drunk. I normally HATE drunk women, but I went to pick her up in town the other night when she was out with her girls when she'd had a bit too much to drink and I found her adorable, still very much a lady (in the street ) even after two bottles of wine...

Most importantly, we're both on exactly the same page in terms of how we feel about each other, what we want for the future etc. We both already have kids so she's not looking for any more and neither am I. Sounds like a small thing, but most women around my age are motivated by money and their uterus, sadly. That's why I usually date younger women.

Yeah, she's perfect. Really couldn't be happier. Sometimes you just know.



Right, normal service will now be resumed.

I'm not a fan of keepers. I like to keep my women Rent to Own.

 KalashnikovMarine wrote:
I'm not a fan of keepers. I like to keep my women Rent to Own.

 Compel wrote:

 winnertakesall wrote:


She then said to me 'well, you could always walk home with me?'

Didn't compute. 'Nah, I'll just get the bus, it's fine, don't worry about it'. And I crossed the road, and walked off.

This sounds surprisingly familiar. - Quite often I only figure something out, 6 months to a year after the last time I ever meet a girl.

It's... irritating.

Many guys have been there, especially in their youth. winnertakesall was lucky just because you don't often get a second chance after you blow it. The more experience you have with women, the better you'll understand their cues. And you'll never understand them as well as you do after you settle down with one.

This is why I say that if I could tell my 20-something self the stuff I know now, 20-something me would clean up. Clean. Up. And I mean that not just in a p-hound way, but in a general, positive relationship way too.

For the record, I think this phenomenon might indeed be evidence that God is a woman.

 KalashnikovMarine wrote:
I'm not a fan of keepers. I like to keep my women Rent to Own.

Meh, been there done that. This whole thing is about (eventually) finding the one, right?

 Albatross wrote:

 KalashnikovMarine wrote:
I'm not a fan of keepers. I like to keep my women Rent to Own.

Meh, been there done that. This whole thing is about (eventually) finding the one, right?

I don't think the one actually exists. There are hundreds, if not thousands, of potential mates that you could successfully manage to spend your life with, but there isn't one special person out there that you'll instantly connect with and the proceed to forge a perfect relationship with her or him. That's a movie romance.

Alby has kids ?? o.O

 trexmeyer wrote:

 Albatross wrote:

 KalashnikovMarine wrote:
I'm not a fan of keepers. I like to keep my women Rent to Own.

Meh, been there done that. This whole thing is about (eventually) finding the one, right?

I don't think the one actually exists. There are hundreds, if not thousands, of potential mates that you could successfully manage to spend your life with, but there isn't one special person out there that you'll instantly connect with and the proceed to forge a perfect relationship with her or him. That's a movie romance.

A matter of opinion is what it is. For me personally, it's more of an ideal than an actual thing. The reason I've been through so many girls recently is that I was looking for someone perfect for me. Whether or not this girl is that, only time will tell, but we certainly had an instant connection.

Men obsessing over their underwear really a thing? I generally wear loose black boxer shirts and don't think twice about it (if at all), I give slightly more thought towards my socks.

Socks like pants are a symbol of society keeping us down maaaaan.

 Cheesecat wrote:
Men obsessing over their underwear really a thing? I generally wear loose black boxer shirts and don't think twice about it (if at all), I give slightly more thought towards my socks.

Compression shorts all the way

Pfft, I go All Natural with my Kilt.

 Cheesecat wrote:
I generally wear loose black boxer shirts and don't think twice about it (if at all), I give slightly more thought towards my socks.

Yeah, I do usually wear those white random stuff that nobody is ever going to see anyway. Is it clean? Is it comfortable? If the answer to both question was yes, case solved.

 trexmeyer wrote:

 Cheesecat wrote:
Men obsessing over their underwear really a thing? I generally wear loose black boxer shirts and don't think twice about it (if at all), I give slightly more thought towards my socks.

Compression shorts all the way

Are they comfy at all?

Seriously lads, every man should have at least a few pairs of these in their sock-drawer:


It's no good having the attitude that 'no-one's gonna see them anyway' - you will know. Decent underwear is the bedrock upon which your whole sartorial game is based. This gak is important. Your body is like a house; if the paint is peeling, the lawn is unkempt and the place is generally a mess, it looks like you just don't care. And you might not, but you should, because she will. Little details count.

Think about it, you get into it with a girl, she gets undressed and she's wearing godawful granny underwear? Pretty big turn-off. The same rules apply to you, whether you care about it or not.


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 Cheesecat wrote:

 trexmeyer wrote:

 Cheesecat wrote:
Men obsessing over their underwear really a thing? I generally wear loose black boxer shirts and don't think twice about it (if at all), I give slightly more thought towards my socks.

Compression shorts all the way

Are they comfy at all?

They certainly don't look it, or good. That's just my opinion though, YMMV.

Those things look bloody repulsive to me, so I don't even think about buying them, never mind wearing them.

chaos0xomega wrote:
Alby has kids ?? o.O

Yep, I have an 11 year old boy:

He's the little one.


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 Avatar 720 wrote:
Those things look bloody repulsive to me, so I don't even think about buying them, never mind wearing them.

What, Calvs? They're super comfortable and chicks like them. End of.

 Albatross wrote:
It's no good having the attitude that 'no-one's gonna see them anyway' - you will know.

I will know… and not care.I mean, I get the rest, be it having nice visible clothes? Of course. Having a nice body? Yeah, sure. But the underwear? Why care about anything else than them being comfortable and clean?

 Albatross wrote:
Think about it, you get into it with a girl, she gets undressed and she's wearing godawful granny underwear? Pretty big turn-off.

Well, first I think if I find myself in such a situation, I would have had time to see it coming, and maybe started changing my underwear. Second, I am not sure how I would react but I am pretty sure looking at her underwear would not be my first priority .


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 Albatross wrote:
Seriously lads, every man should have at least a few pairs of these in their sock-drawer:

Spoiler:

I have one like that, I find it less comfortable than the usual ones, but that might just be a question of habits. I just cannot bring me to care about it, though.

"Excuse me? THAT bra with THOSE panties? Ugh!" *rezips*

Wow Alby, never woulda guessed you were a dad.




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oh right, before I forget:

!@$&&$&**%#!! She just moved to San Diego and is feelin homesick for Jersey -_- hence her reason for talkin to me *grumblegrumblegrumble*

 Hybrid Son Of Oxayotl wrote:

 Albatross wrote:
It's no good having the attitude that 'no-one's gonna see them anyway' - you will know.

I will know… and not care.I mean, I get the rest, be it having nice visible clothes? Of course. Having a nice body? Yeah, sure. But the underwear? Why care about anything else than them being comfortable and clean?

 Albatross wrote:
Think about it, you get into it with a girl, she gets undressed and she's wearing godawful granny underwear? Pretty big turn-off.

Well, first I think if I find myself in such a situation, I would have had time to see it coming, and maybe started changing my underwear. Second, I am not sure how I would react but I am pretty sure looking at her underwear would not be my first priority .


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 Albatross wrote:
Seriously lads, every man should have at least a few pairs of these in their sock-drawer:

Spoiler:

I have one like that, I find it less comfortable than the usual ones, but that might just be a question of habits. I just cannot bring me to care about it, though.

That's cool, man. I'm not trying to tell you how to run your life. Keep doing what you're doing and expect different results to just happen.

OR

Try something different, care about little details like underwear, cologne, grooming products, and see if you feel different.

Why I get ready to go out I put some good up-tempo music on (usually soul or hip-hop for some reason), put on some nice underwear, moisturise, quick spritz of Paul Smith for men (fresh and zingy!), put on some freshly-ironed clothes (usually skinny jeans and some sort of light blue shirt), another quick spritz then I slip on a pair of gleaming white pumps (I buy a new pair every fortnight, they're not very expensive), put my watch on and I'm good to go. I leave the house feeling like a million quid. I'm no Bradley Cooper, but I try to make the best of myself and that feeds into my psychology. If I feel totally fresh I walk taller and with more confidence. Ready to go out and smash it, basically.

A good sign for a keeper for me is when neither side wishes to murder the other side.

You only have to change little things to increase your confidence and if it doesn't work, you didn't really lose anything,

And there's always the 3-piece suit option to fall back on.

 Albatross wrote:
Try something different, care about little details like underwear, cologne, grooming products, and see if you feel different.

I understand cologne, I understand grooming products, but I do not understand underwear.
Trust me, I changed quite a bit and really improved my hygiene and care more for my looks. But people just will not see my underwear anyway, and even if they did, they seem all the same boring stuff to me.

 Hybrid Son Of Oxayotl wrote:

 Albatross wrote:
Try something different, care about little details like underwear, cologne, grooming products, and see if you feel different.

I understand cologne, I understand grooming products, but I do not understand underwear.
Trust me, I changed quite a bit and really improved my hygiene and care more for my looks. But people just will not see my underwear anyway, and even if they did, they seem all the same boring stuff to me.

THEY Don't have to see it for you to feel better about it. They aren't gonna see your abs if you work out either.

Having a sculpted figure seriously helps with the underwear. Beer belly doesn't quite pull it off.

 nomsheep wrote:
They aren't gonna see your abs if you work out either.

Not necessarily the first time, but they will. Likely way before they get to see your underwear. Especially if those abs are nice-looking . And you sadly cannot suddenly decide “From now on, I will have awesome abs”, while you can change your underwear at any moment.

 Hybrid Son Of Oxayotl wrote:

 nomsheep wrote:
They aren't gonna see your abs if you work out either.

Not necessarily the first time, but they will. Likely way before they get to see your underwear. Especially if those abs are nice-looking . And you sadly cannot suddenly decide “From now on, I will have awesome abs”, while you can change your underwear at any moment.

You say that.... but they do fake ab stickers

Yeah, but it sure is not the same thing. Those are not going to help you climb that very hard route, are they? And who would like to cuddle cheap plastic?

 Hybrid Son Of Oxayotl wrote:

 nomsheep wrote:
They aren't gonna see your abs if you work out either.

Not necessarily the first time, but they will. Likely way before they get to see your underwear. Especially if those abs are nice-looking . And you sadly cannot suddenly decide “From now on, I will have awesome abs”, while you can change your underwear at any moment.

Well, not on the bus... People might stare.