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 Peregrine wrote:
The first of the four is clearly the best, no weird expressions and the technical quality is the best (nice clean background, everything in focus, etc). See if you can duplicate it if you're concerned about the age.

Well, it was done by some professional when I entered my school, actually. That is why it is so much better than the others!
I do not even have a working camera at the moment, so no better pictures for a while.

 Hybrid Son Of Oxayotl wrote:

 Albatross wrote:
Have you considered maybe speaking to a professional? By which I mean a counsellor, not a sex-worker!

Never seriously. Usually I go very bad and then I go better, so I stop thinking about it. Currently I feel better.

Then seek some help now. Once you've got your foot in the door on this issue, you should be seeing someone--GP or mental health professional--regularly enough that not only will you be seeing someone during the worst times, when you might not have had the motivation or energy to even begin the process beforehand, but whoever you're seeing will have been able to monitor the decline and subsequent recovery, and will be in a better position to try and help.

As someone who's struggled--and is still struggling--with mental health problems, and has seen what some of worse MH conditions do to people, I can't in all good conscience not advise going to see your doctor, even if you currently feel fine.

if we're sharing pictures of ourselves, my facebook profile pic lol:

 Avatar 720 wrote:
Then seek some help now. Once you've got your foot in the door on this issue, you should be seeing someone--GP or mental health professional--regularly enough that not only will you be seeing someone during the worst times, when you might not have had the motivation or energy to even begin the process beforehand, but whoever you're seeing will have been able to monitor the decline and subsequent recovery, and will be in a better position to try and help.

GP?
I have no idea, who do I look for? Psychiatrist, psychologist, psychoanalyst? And what would I tell him/her?

Hybrid, you really are quite handsome (this is coming from a heterosexual male), I think you can do a lot better with women than you give yourself credit for.

I'd echo Peregrine on the first picture. You look really, really good there.

I'd share my picture, but I'm not sure if it's worth the risk. By putting pictures on the internet, anyone anywhere can do anything with them. For the same reason I don't really use Facebook.

Plus, I have a bit of a manface... v.v

Only pictures of myself I seem to own I am dressed in some crazy Elton John looking stuff (started with a pair of my friends like girly cosplay/whatever sunglasses and snowballed from things I found and no one stopped me).

shrouded - youre like 16/17? You got nothin to worry about but youre going to want better pics if youre doin the edating thing.

ashiraya - I cant be the only one whos curious what you look like lol Personally, the whole paranoia thing regarding misuse of your persona strikes me as just that - paranoia. Unless you want a career in politics or espionage there really isnt a lot to worry about IMO.

I'm fifteen, I look older? cool.

Maybe? I suck at judging age lol

chaos0xomega wrote:
Hybrid, you really are quite handsome (this is coming from a heterosexual male), I think you can do a lot better with women than you give yourself credit for.

Thanks. I would have to deal with crippling insecurities first, or something, I guess.

 Ashiraya wrote:
I'd echo Peregrine on the first picture. You look really, really good there.

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I was only two year older than you are now on that picture .

chaos0xomega wrote:
ashiraya - I cant be the only one whos curious what you look like lol

No, but asking for pictures would be awkward .

chaos0xomega wrote:
Personally, the whole paranoia thing regarding misuse of your persona strikes me as just that - paranoia. Unless you want a career in politics or espionage there really isnt a lot to worry about IMO.

I think you are lucky and have never encountered those really, really hateful persons that one sometime stumble upon on the internet. Some people might actually want to stalk you in real life, and there having pictures of you make a big difference!




There is one girl flirting me on OkCupid (she told me twice how she cannot believe how I am still single now, so I guess it is safe to say she is flirting me), awesome tastes on music and movie, geeky, super sweet, nice pictures… and she lives in Brussels, not Paris .

 Hybrid Son Of Oxayotl wrote:

 Avatar 720 wrote:
Then seek some help now. Once you've got your foot in the door on this issue, you should be seeing someone--GP or mental health professional--regularly enough that not only will you be seeing someone during the worst times, when you might not have had the motivation or energy to even begin the process beforehand, but whoever you're seeing will have been able to monitor the decline and subsequent recovery, and will be in a better position to try and help.

GP?
I have no idea, who do I look for? Psychiatrist, psychologist, psychoanalyst? And what would I tell him/her?

General Practitioner. I have to admit I'm not sure how the French healthcare system works, but general practitioners in healthcare systems tend to be the ones you go to first, who then refer you on to specialists if need be. In the UK, psychiatrists are usually only for people with disorders such as Schizophrenia, and all my dealings (depression and anxiety) have been with psychologists. If you have any sort of front-line general-issue doctors over there, then they'll be able to refer you to the most suitable specialist.

 Hybrid Son Of Oxayotl wrote:

chaos0xomega wrote:
Hybrid, you really are quite handsome (this is coming from a heterosexual male), I think you can do a lot better with women than you give yourself credit for.

Thanks. I would have to deal with crippling insecurities first, or something, I guess.

 Ashiraya wrote:
I'd echo Peregrine on the first picture. You look really, really good there.

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I was only two year older than you are now on that picture .

chaos0xomega wrote:
ashiraya - I cant be the only one whos curious what you look like lol

No, but asking for pictures would be awkward .

chaos0xomega wrote:
Personally, the whole paranoia thing regarding misuse of your persona strikes me as just that - paranoia. Unless you want a career in politics or espionage there really isnt a lot to worry about IMO.

I think you are lucky and have never encountered those really, really hateful persons that one sometime stumble upon on the internet. Some people might actually want to stalk you in real life, and there having pictures of you make a big difference!




There is one girl flirting me on OkCupid (she told me twice how she cannot believe how I am still single now, so I guess it is safe to say she is flirting me), awesome tastes on music and movie, geeky, super sweet, nice pictures… and she lives in Brussels, not Paris .

how far away are the two?

 Rainbow Dash wrote:
how far away are the two?

305km According to Google Maps. Just over 3 and a half hours of travel w/o taking traffic into account.

If the internet is any indication, people in Europe seem far nicer then people in Canada or the US...just my opinion (and I live in Canada lol)

 Avatar 720 wrote:
If you have any sort of front-line general-issue doctors over there, then they'll be able to refer you to the most suitable specialist.

What the hell do I tell him? “Hello doctor, I feel very sad sometime and I do not show it to other, can you send me to a psychologist ?”

 Avatar 720 wrote:
Just over 3 and a half hours of travel w/o taking traffic into account.

I have no car though, and no driving license yet.
You got me to check, I could go there and back by train for about 100€ in good circumstances.


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 Rainbow Dash wrote:
If the internet is any indication, people in Europe seem far nicer then people in Canada or the US...just my opinion (and I live in Canada lol)

Let me introduce you to the city I live in. We even have a whole Wikipedia article on how people go nuts when it so, so far from their expectations .
Here, if you want to read it:
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Paris_syndrome
Parisians do not have a reputation for being well-mannered, or nice. Never had too much trouble personally, quite the contrary, but their reputation in France is not good.

chaos0xomega wrote:
Personally, the whole paranoia thing regarding misuse of your persona strikes me as just that - paranoia. Unless you want a career in politics or espionage there really isnt a lot to worry about IMO.

Well, a guy on my server had his facebook pictures vandalised and spread on the realm forum. The culprits were banned, of course, but it was still a highly uncomfortable event for him.

here it's just snow/cold that tries to get you lol

but yeah that's just people not understanding what places are like, it can go the opposite way with Japan, a lot of anime dorks thinking Japan is some sort of haven when...it's just a city, with people.
And people are jerks.
(Not to mention they're less tolerant of anime loving weirdo's then the west but that's another story all together).

My friends who were into anime, but where also reasonable persons, where happy enough in Japan, if I recall correctly. But yeah, they were reasonable persons . Why where you talking about Europeans being supposedly nicer, by the way?

 Hybrid Son Of Oxayotl wrote:
My friends who were into anime, but where also reasonable persons, where happy enough in Japan, if I recall correctly. But yeah, they were reasonable persons . Why where you talking about Europeans being supposedly nicer, by the way?

Just something I observed talking to them...Maybe I was just lucky, I donno.

 Hybrid Son Of Oxayotl wrote:

 Avatar 720 wrote:
If you have any sort of front-line general-issue doctors over there, then they'll be able to refer you to the most suitable specialist.

What the hell do I tell him? “Hello doctor, I feel very sad sometime and I do not show it to other, can you send me to a psychologist ?”

You tell him how you feel during your lowest times, how it impacts on your life during those times, and explain to him the fluctuating nature of what you're going through, including the fact that you currently feel well enough to seek help about it. As much as it might seem fruitless or difficult to explain exactly 'feeling very sad sometimes' means, you're not going to be doing yourself any good if you play it all down, or generalise. If you've been low enough to contemplate suicide, for example, then you must mention it, regardless of whether it was a fleeting half-second thought, or one that persisted, along with the frequency of them and your honest opinion about how you cope with them. Obviously I'm not saying that you've felt like that, but what I am saying is that any detail, however short-lived or seemingly irrelevant, matters, and should be mentioned.

It'll then be his job to decide what to do, although you can probably request a therapist. If you have a general idea of when you start deteriorating (E.G. Every X weeks or so you hit a low point for Y weeks, and then you're fine again for another X weeks), then mention it and see if you can work out an appointment schedule that'll include appointments during those times, as well as times when you're feeling well. If you don't want to try medication (which, contrary to popular belief, is far from mandatory) then say so, and you might be more likely to get a therapist referral, especially if you mention wanting to wait and see how such a thing would go before deciding on meds.

Essentially, go in there and be as honest as humanly possible about both the very low periods, and the periods of wellness.

 Ashiraya wrote:

chaos0xomega wrote:
Personally, the whole paranoia thing regarding misuse of your persona strikes me as just that - paranoia. Unless you want a career in politics or espionage there really isnt a lot to worry about IMO.

Well, a guy on my server had his facebook pictures vandalised and spread on the realm forum. The culprits were banned, of course, but it was still a highly uncomfortable event for him.

I had a guy on a certain news site who got upset with my stance on a certain political issue stalk me once, he found my facebook account (it wasnt hard to since I used facebook to log in for commenting, I thought I had disabled the linkback feature but evidently I hadnt) and threatened me with it (my accounts privacy settings meant he actuqlly had zero real info other than a fuzzy picture and the name of the university I graduated from)... I just laughed and told him that I was honored that he thought I was worth the time and effort. He responded with "youre not" and didnt bother me again

A photo can only be used against you if it compromises your character (i.e. nudes etc), otherwise its just childs play, but thats my opinion, if you dont want to share yours then by all means you have every right to refuse, no pressure or expectation on my end.

A kid in the US pretended to be me, using screenshots of my YT videos as photos on the fake FB account, and apparently harassing girls and user groups in person and on the internet under my name. Some of his classmates tracked me down and alerted me to it, and even though the guy admitted to doing it in FB chat, FB themselves said that he wasn't pretending to be me, and refused to take the account down when I reported him for it.

It took me reporting a wall post where he was openly selling weed for action to be taken, and the original report to be reconsidered and accepted.

People are weird, but luckily I don't really have any compromising information anywhere. I don't dabble in highly illegal activity or take a bunch of nude selfies or harbour extremely bigoted views, so I don't much care; anything I post online is something I'm generally fine with people seeing.

Ehh, Sometimes I worry about google stuff, which is why i compulsivly google both my name & my online handle.
Sometimes I worry though that an employer will find my online hand, look it up and see all my dakka posts and then go to good image and see all the ponies

You know what, feth it. Here is a picture of me.



It's a huge picture, but then, the camera was some serious hardware. Probably a good idea to open it in a new tab.

 Ashiraya wrote:
You know what, feth it. Here is a picture of me.

Spoiler:

It's a pretty big picture, the camera was some serious hardware.

Objective complete. Thread can be closed now.

Since we're all sharing, me during a work photo-shoot. My smile has never looked so awkward and forced before:

 Ashiraya wrote:
You know what, feth it. Here is a picture of me.

Spoiler:

It's a huge picture, but then, the camera was some serious hardware. Probably a good idea to open it in a new tab.

Not sure if serious, looks like a model or a celebrity, but I have no idea who...

 Ashiraya wrote:
You know what, feth it. Here is a picture of me.

Spoiler:

It's a huge picture, but then, the camera was some serious hardware. Probably a good idea to open it in a new tab.

You do look nice, but the whole black-and-white and super-serious face make it look like terrible things have happened. It almost looks like a drawing .
Not sure what makes you think you have a manface. If it is the jaw, I do like your jaw.

Avatar 720, I did read your message and I am just not answering right now because I want to take some time to think before answering .

Yeah, it does have a sort of hand drawn quality to it. If it really is you, well feth, you shouldn't have any issues getting a date at all. I mean, I'd take you out to a nice dinner, i'd even call you again for a second date. Hell, I'd even bring you flowers.

fowers from a wargamer = gak just got serious.