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I'm just going to interpret that as being 100% uninterested though.

As long as i didn't know you for a long time and there was no interest being thrown out from both parties like the last girl i really liked then i'm totally ok if things just get dropped.

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My main issue is i normally want a gamer girlfriend but every time i feel like it's an uphill battle. Perhaps i should try getting interested in things more girls than guys like. I mean when i took that psychology class there was like a 3 to 1 girl to guy ratio and some women seemed to enjoy me being in the class. Man i need to go back to school. The sooner i do the sooner i can get this whole relationship thing set.

 flamingkillamajig wrote:
Offensive quote removed.

This is incredibly offensive. Please remove this post and put some serious thought into why you feel that saying things like that is appropriate.

Ok fine i don't want to offend. I'm just not into those types of people. They're not bad people i'm just not into them. It's like forcing somebody to give somebody a chance because they're a gender they aren't attracted to. It just doesn't do it for me but i'll drop it.

 flamingkillamajig wrote:
I'm just going to interpret that as being 100% uninterested though.

As long as i didn't know you for a long time and there was no interest being thrown out from both parties like the last girl i really liked then i'm totally ok if things just get dropped.

Yeh I've been in a relationship with my girlfriend for about a year and a half now.

As for the gamer thing, I suppose it's nice but that's more or less one aspect of a person. If you can find more you can probably share interests and get a bit involved in each other's hobbies. Like can look at it a bit more broadly that way.

 n0t_u wrote:

 flamingkillamajig wrote:
I'm just going to interpret that as being 100% uninterested though.

As long as i didn't know you for a long time and there was no interest being thrown out from both parties like the last girl i really liked then i'm totally ok if things just get dropped.

Yeh I've been in a relationship with my girlfriend for about a year and a half now.

As for the gamer thing, I suppose it's nice but that's more or less one aspect of a person. If you can find more you can probably share interests and get a bit involved in each other's hobbies.

And you're also a girl right? Hmm well i won't elaborate. I never did get the whole interest with guys liking girls that just like other girls. I mean it's asking somebody to be interested in something they aren't interested in. I suppose i'm totally ok with being friends with a girl if she is just straight up only into women. That actually seemed kind of common on another wargaming forum i used to be on.

 flamingkillamajig wrote:

 n0t_u wrote:

 flamingkillamajig wrote:
I'm just going to interpret that as being 100% uninterested though.

As long as i didn't know you for a long time and there was no interest being thrown out from both parties like the last girl i really liked then i'm totally ok if things just get dropped.

Yeh I've been in a relationship with my girlfriend for about a year and a half now.

As for the gamer thing, I suppose it's nice but that's more or less one aspect of a person. If you can find more you can probably share interests and get a bit involved in each other's hobbies.

And you're also a girl right? Hmm well i won't elaborate. I never did get the whole interest with guys liking girls that just like other girls. I mean it's asking somebody to be interested in something they aren't interested in. I suppose i'm totally ok with being friends with a girl if she is just straight up only into women. That actually seemed kind of common on another wargaming forum i used to be on.

Honestly the whole "challenge accepted" approach to it is annoying and insulting. Sadly not that rare either. -.-

 flamingkillamajig wrote:
My main issue is i normally want a gamer girlfriend but every time i feel like it's an uphill battle.

Why do you want a gamer girl so badly? Truly you have enough varied interests that you can connect with people on other subjects and activities.

 Cheesecat wrote:

 flamingkillamajig wrote:
My main issue is i normally want a gamer girlfriend but every time i feel like it's an uphill battle.

Why do you want a gamer girl so badly? Truly you have enough varied interests that you can connect with people on other subjects and activities.

Gaming is my biggest one. Sometimes i like philosophy and science and aim to be a scientist some time. That said gaming whether with video games or war-gaming with models tends to be my biggest interest by far.

You are right though i'm sure. Perhaps i should branch out a bit. I just love gaming a lot.

I'm still alive, in case anyone was wondering. Other than bizarre texts on strange numbers, she's made no further attempt to... contact me.

 flamingkillamajig wrote:
I'm just going to interpret that as being 100% uninterested though.

As long as i didn't know you for a long time and there was no interest being thrown out from both parties like the last girl i really liked then i'm totally ok if things just get dropped.

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My main issue is i normally want a gamer girlfriend but every time i feel like it's an uphill battle. Perhaps i should try getting interested in things more girls than guys like. I mean when i took that psychology class there was like a 3 to 1 girl to guy ratio and some women seemed to enjoy me being in the class. Man i need to go back to school. The sooner i do the sooner i can get this whole relationship thing set.

Saying that you want a gamer girlfriend is just making it hard for yourself. There are girls that are into gaming and even wargaming, but trying to pick girls up at cons, tournaments and FLGS is a horrible, horrible idea.

When I was a single teenage nerd I wish that there was something like Dr. Nerdlove. This site is full of great advice about dating and meeting girls. I figured most of this stuff out myself, but when I read it I find myself nodding in agreement. You should especially read this article: http://www.doctornerdlove.com/2011/09/dont-date-geek-girls/all/1/

First night at the bars and I fall for the " got to use the bathroom" line. And loose my group. Man hook get up at a are is hard

 n0t_u wrote:

 flamingkillamajig wrote:

 n0t_u wrote:

 flamingkillamajig wrote:
I'm just going to interpret that as being 100% uninterested though.

As long as i didn't know you for a long time and there was no interest being thrown out from both parties like the last girl i really liked then i'm totally ok if things just get dropped.

Yeh I've been in a relationship with my girlfriend for about a year and a half now.

As for the gamer thing, I suppose it's nice but that's more or less one aspect of a person. If you can find more you can probably share interests and get a bit involved in each other's hobbies.

And you're also a girl right? Hmm well i won't elaborate. I never did get the whole interest with guys liking girls that just like other girls. I mean it's asking somebody to be interested in something they aren't interested in. I suppose i'm totally ok with being friends with a girl if she is just straight up only into women. That actually seemed kind of common on another wargaming forum i used to be on.

Honestly the whole "challenge accepted" approach to it is annoying and insulting. Sadly not that rare either. -.-

To be fair some girls have this weird phase where they think they're into girls and they date one girl or something and then totally realize it wasn't for them. There are plenty of girls who really are into other women though.

I might joke that some girls try to be like a secret agent into the lesbian community by doing it just one time. I'd say something else but i feel like some people would complain. It isn't really bad but some people are just easily offended. Sheesh some people just have to take everything seriously.

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@jorny: I didn't read the whole article but the issue was i actually did meet a girl that checked a lot of the boxes and many in which made me feel she was out of my league though she said otherwise. That said she seemed like a bit of an attention wh*re and was so in a sexual way which she shouldn't have done while in a relationship and she drank more frequently than i wished she did (esp. considering she was under-age when doing so). I guess it's not that abnormal but i've seen too many people wreck their life with drugs and alcohol to see somebody i really like do the same. She wasn't perfect but in a sense i guess i built her up to be. She liked everything i liked pretty much including 'command and conquer' and some other stuff. I dunno i guess it felt like we clicked because for a time at least she did like me though maybe it was just me that felt that way whereas she was only mildly interested.

Perhaps my friends tried to tell me she probably wasn't that great of a person and that i was just blinded by everything else about her to see it. I'm not sure. It was probably a little of everything. I suppose i'd prefer to just get a girl that's a bit of a gamer rather than one that knows every nerd reference and is extremely attractive. Perhaps a girl fairly decent would be better for me. I'd be less nervous trying not to mess up if the girl isn't perfect in every way.

Also part of why i wanted a gamer girl is because i did want something in common. Some friends just got for cute girls for sex and that's their relationship. I kind of want there to be more to it than that or at least for the more serious ones. I suppose my point being if i want to just get it on then i wouldn't get a girlfriend only for that.

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If i could get a girlfriend i just feel like i need something in common. Maybe she wouldn't be smart but not totally dumb. Perhaps if she was a bit of a tom boy but dresses like a girl normally would that would be good. Average looks are fine enough. It'd just be nice if i could find a girl that likes some types of games at least. Oh and holy crap she should have a sense of humor or at least not take everything so seriously all the time.

Perhaps i'm just falling back into the same trap again here :(.

Maybe i should just talk to some girls here and there and just figure who i like and if something clicks. Perhaps that's the best outcome.

You’d be surprised what you can have in common with another person, even if your life revolves around gaming. Try not to limit yourself exclusively to gamer girls. While we can try to be inclusive, lets be honest, there is not an equal representation of the sexes in our hobby. But that does not mean that there aren’t a lot of hobby-adjacent women. My first college girlfriend has previously dated someone who gamed, so while she didn’t get all the details, she understood the fundamentals of the hobby, and was accepting. The Wife is the sister of one of the guys I game with. She had gamed previously, dragged into it by my brother-in-law, but never really got into it. She does have an artistic side, so even though she doesn’t paint minis, she can relate, critique, and be supportive.

Don’t put up barriers and limit your self more then you can help. There might be someone out there who doesn’t have a specific box checked off you list, but is otherwise perfect. Relax, keep an open mind, and see what happens.

You don't need to have anything in common with someone to talk to them. I know nothing about long boarding, but i carried on a conversation about it with a girl last night

 hotsauceman1 wrote:
You don't need to have anything in common with someone to talk to them. I know nothing about long boarding, but i carried on a conversation about it with a girl last night

One of my high school teachers once said to us “The advantage of a liberal arts education is the ability to have an intelligent conversation on any topic for 15 minutes at a cocktail party”

Of course, he also proposed that one of the main reasons to learn integral calculus was to find the volume of martini glasses, so take that with a grain of salt.

Ok...More advice. Dont drink more then the equivalent then two beers.
I found a pic of this girl, and it was me and her sitting arms wrapped, I look stupid TBH and I thought it looked good.
Beer isnt always good, sometimes it makes you an idiot.

 hotsauceman1 wrote:
Ok...More advice. Dont drink more then the equivalent then two beers.
I found a pic of this girl, and it was me and her sitting arms wrapped, I look stupid TBH and I thought it looked good.
Beer isnt always good, sometimes it makes you an idiot.

And you have to be careful how potent the beer is these days. I always used the "1 beer=1 glass of wine=1 shot, and your body can process 1 drink and hour” rule of thumb. But beers these days have a wide range of alcohol content.

 flamingkillamajig wrote:

 n0t_u wrote:

 flamingkillamajig wrote:

 n0t_u wrote:

 flamingkillamajig wrote:
I'm just going to interpret that as being 100% uninterested though.

As long as i didn't know you for a long time and there was no interest being thrown out from both parties like the last girl i really liked then i'm totally ok if things just get dropped.

Yeh I've been in a relationship with my girlfriend for about a year and a half now.

As for the gamer thing, I suppose it's nice but that's more or less one aspect of a person. If you can find more you can probably share interests and get a bit involved in each other's hobbies.

And you're also a girl right? Hmm well i won't elaborate. I never did get the whole interest with guys liking girls that just like other girls. I mean it's asking somebody to be interested in something they aren't interested in. I suppose i'm totally ok with being friends with a girl if she is just straight up only into women. That actually seemed kind of common on another wargaming forum i used to be on.

Honestly the whole "challenge accepted" approach to it is annoying and insulting. Sadly not that rare either. -.-

To be fair some girls have this weird phase where they think they're into girls and they date one girl or something and then totally realize it wasn't for them. There are plenty of girls who really are into other women though.

I might joke that some girls try to be like a secret agent into the lesbian community by doing it just one time. I'd say something else but i feel like some people would complain. It isn't really bad but some people are just easily offended. Sheesh some people just have to take everything seriously.

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@jorny: I didn't read the whole article but the issue was i actually did meet a girl that checked a lot of the boxes and many in which made me feel she was out of my league though she said otherwise. That said she seemed like a bit of an attention wh*re and was so in a sexual way which she shouldn't have done while in a relationship and she drank more frequently than i wished she did (esp. considering she was under-age when doing so). I guess it's not that abnormal but i've seen too many people wreck their life with drugs and alcohol to see somebody i really like do the same. She wasn't perfect but in a sense i guess i built her up to be. She liked everything i liked pretty much including 'command and conquer' and some other stuff. I dunno i guess it felt like we clicked because for a time at least she did like me though maybe it was just me that felt that way whereas she was only mildly interested.

Perhaps my friends tried to tell me she probably wasn't that great of a person and that i was just blinded by everything else about her to see it. I'm not sure. It was probably a little of everything. I suppose i'd prefer to just get a girl that's a bit of a gamer rather than one that knows every nerd reference and is extremely attractive. Perhaps a girl fairly decent would be better for me. I'd be less nervous trying not to mess up if the girl isn't perfect in every way.

Also part of why i wanted a gamer girl is because i did want something in common. Some friends just got for cute girls for sex and that's their relationship. I kind of want there to be more to it than that or at least for the more serious ones. I suppose my point being if i want to just get it on then i wouldn't get a girlfriend only for that.

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If i could get a girlfriend i just feel like i need something in common. Maybe she wouldn't be smart but not totally dumb. Perhaps if she was a bit of a tom boy but dresses like a girl normally would that would be good. Average looks are fine enough. It'd just be nice if i could find a girl that likes some types of games at least. Oh and holy crap she should have a sense of humor or at least not take everything so seriously all the time.

Perhaps i'm just falling back into the same trap again here :(.

Maybe i should just talk to some girls here and there and just figure who i like and if something clicks. Perhaps that's the best outcome.

Seriously. Go back to Dr. Nerdlove and read the articles there. They are really good. You met one girl. And now you are saying that because of her behaving like a teenager you want a gamer girl. You should really try to be more open minded and stop trying to define beforehand how your perfect girlfriend should be.

 hotsauceman1 wrote:
Ok...More advice. Dont drink more then the equivalent then two beers.
I found a pic of this girl, and it was me and her sitting arms wrapped, I look stupid TBH and I thought it looked good.
Beer isnt always good, sometimes it makes you an idiot.

exalted for great truth(that fether of my friend still has my new years gaffe recorded.... )
Also, how did it went with the girl? did you guys exchanged phone numbers or something? (don't wanna sound like putting my nose in wrong place....)

@jorny: Ok man i'll try. Sometimes i just get a little carried away with it.

ThatSwellFella wrote:

 hotsauceman1 wrote:
Ok...More advice. Dont drink more then the equivalent then two beers.
I found a pic of this girl, and it was me and her sitting arms wrapped, I look stupid TBH and I thought it looked good.
Beer isnt always good, sometimes it makes you an idiot.

exalted for great truth(that fether of my friend still has my new years gaffe recorded.... )
Also, how did it went with the girl? did you guys exchanged phone numbers or something? (don't wanna sound like putting my nose in wrong place....)

I was talking to one girl, she left and me and my friend sat down and just drank a little beer. He and one of her friends come back the first one "This is X, He is nice" and she took a pic with me(the really bad one) and text it to me, anonomously BTW. and we talked for a bit, mostly about alchohol.
Then she went to the bathroom and I waited, she didnt come come back for a bit, I went to the bathroom, Came back said hi, they didnt talk to me, I took the hint and left the bar. Not out of defeat Mind you, my group left a while ago and I was tired.
A bit of advice though to some guys, because I was told this by several girls, they loved how casual I was, all my friends where in dress shirts, I was in a flanel shirt at the club. They said quite a few looked like fakers or something. It also is better is you are bigger, because it makes you look presentable.
Another advice to big guys, have a clean well shaven face, and hair taken care of. You look alot better even if you are heavy set.
And to the first part, I know what you mean, my friend has a video of me getting a male member drawn on me, and plastered it over facebook. But we were not drunk

Really? I hear from plenty of people i actually would look best with a goatee. Guess sometimes facial hair works for some people.

Clean Shaven I guess means something different here. It means well groomed, not raggedy.

Well i'm a skinny guy and not a big guy so i dunno if it still applies. Also we're both from the usa unless it's just a different state sort of thing. When i moved to michigan everybody had the most annoying habit of calling 'soda' by the word 'pop'. I hate it so much. I hear no other state does that.

Thanks for the advice about fakers, should give it to friend who constantly embarrasses me in the night club with Budapest triatlon- drinking,, ing, throwing up, he thinks that T-shirt is funny, and when in it not a SINGLE girl showed interest in him preffering to talk to me instead..
Who am i kidding, no chance in HELL i am telling him that

 flamingkillamajig wrote:
When i moved to michigan everybody had the most annoying habit of calling 'soda' by the word 'pop'. I hate it so much. I hear no other state does that.

Of course they call it pop, that is the true and proper term; fizzy pop if you want to get it spot on!!!


I read that Dr Nerdlove article and I definitely think that people should watch Weird Science - "Lisa is everything I wanted in a girl before I knew what I wanted" 80's teen movie wisdom at its best

Well, this thread took an interesting turn.

 hotsauceman1 wrote:
Clean Shaven I guess means something different here. It means well groomed, not raggedy.

It depends on how it looks on them and the girl really. Pretty sure they can have facial hair but have it well groomed too, its the raggedy unshaven look that usually doesn't work.

You should NEVER try to grow a beard if you can't get a nice full beard. Goatees are seldom successfull in my opinion.

 jorny wrote:
You should NEVER try to grow a beard if you can't get a nice full beard. Goatees are seldom successfull in my opinion.

This is one of many things that does differ from country to country, place to place, and even then is not something that is a 100% no-go. For example (purely example), I cannot grow anything near a full beard (mine more resembles a Van Dyke at the best of times), but I've had far more interest from women when there's actually been some shape to it than when I'm fully clean-shaven.

There's also the fact that if you don't want a full beard, but you want some sort of facial hair, then to hell with whether or not it'll help pick up partners, your own happiness comes first; everything else can be moulded around it.