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Have you ever run across a situation where someone assumed you either did, or do, like a thing but in reality you do not? Mind you this isn't about things one doesn't like alone, but things people think you would like but do not.

For example I have been told on several occasions I should watch The Big Bang Theory and that I would like but I have seen it and I do not like it. At all. I've seen some over the top hate for it online but that is sort of par for the course with online discussions. I just didn't find it all that funny or engaging.

Another is Star Trek: The Next Generation. I don't hate it by any stretch but I don't really enjoy it all that much but since I liked TOS and DS9 it seems assumed I must love all things Trek when I really do not. The only Star Trek media I own is The Wrath of Khan and have little interest in the owning anything else. To be fair I like the cast and there were interesting ideas occasionally but overall it just never clicked with me. I watched it once and haven't felt the need to go back to it.

What about you? Anything people have assumed you like that in all reality isn't your cup of tea?

I’m a Nerd.

People assume I’m into Anime.

But, it leaves me cold. Sure, I get the appeal, but it’s just not for me.

People assume because I like Anime I would like JRPGs, I do not, I hate grinding.

People seem to assume that all people who work in IT love Star Wars, Star Trek, and LOTR. I'm not really into any of those things. I'm passingly familiar with all of those IPs but definitely not a big fan of any of them.

I also don't think I've really seen any anime I've liked very much yet.

I've also had people tell me I'd like Big Bang Theory, and while it can make me chuckle, I've never really sat down to watch it on my own cause I'm just not interested. It's a show about a bunch of stereotypes made for people who aren't that stereotype. I've met few people who self identify as nerds who like it.

Another thing is Critical Roll. I have watched it and I just find watching other people play DnD to be dull. I can watch people play a sport, or a video game. It's a visual medium after all. Watching a bunch of people's faces as they play a mostly headspace game just isn't fun to me.

I've found Harmonquest to be very good, but they take some pretty significant pains to make the viewing audience the target of the story, not the players. They also eliminate almost all of the mechanics in favor of storytelling.

Big Bang is the big one for me for sure. Most the rest don't count because I like enough geeky things that I'm usually a fan of whatever I'm accused of being a fan of.

AD&D.

It......it’s not a very good roleplay system.

I got started on World of Darkness, which I feel is the better system. Clear combat rules, story driven.

AD&D is just ‘roll a D20’. It’s not my bag.

 Mad Doc Grotsnik wrote:
AD&D.

It......it’s not a very good roleplay system.

I got started on World of Darkness, which I feel is the better system. Clear combat rules, story driven.

AD&D is just ‘roll a D20’. It’s not my bag.

the rules are nothing, the will to tell the tale is everything...

 Mad Doc Grotsnik wrote:

I got started on World of Darkness

Good lad.

Erm, a girl I very much fancied in my late teens was convinced I liked guys - if that counts?

People assume I am a right winger. This leads to interesting conversations people with me thinking I am a fellow rabid supporter when I am not.

 Frazzled wrote:
People assume I am a right winger. This leads to interesting conversations people with me thinking I am a fellow rabid supporter when I am not.

Ahhhh, fellow advocati diaboli or just looks according to the stereotype?
Also i know that situation having the dialect of a chronic political stereotyped Region.

People assume I'd be into superhero movies because I'm a Star Wars fan but I have a bit of an aversion to them. On the other hand I love the 40k background, but like SW it's something I came upon as a kid, so all of the suspension of disbelief happened when I was young

People assume because I work for the NHS I'd be left wing and a remainer

 Mad Doc Grotsnik wrote:
AD&D.

It......it’s not a very good roleplay system.

I got started on World of Darkness, which I feel is the better system. Clear combat rules, story driven.

AD&D is just ‘roll a D20’. It’s not my bag.

Nonsense. It'd be just as easy to say WoD is 'roll a bunch of d10s'. WoD combat rules are anything but clear (and mechanically they're a mess with multiple failure points) and 'story' depends on the people involved in both systems. I've done dungeon crawls in WoD, and intrigue in D&D.

That all said, its also worth noting that AD&D has been dead and gone for two decades now...

I definitely have a very shallow list of people whose opinions I trust on things like music, movies, videos, comedy, etc. If the suggestion does not originate from one of them, I'm unlikely to try it.

My father is a modeler/hobbyist so thankfully he knows that if it's a geek/gaming gift he checks with me about scale/game/etc. He knows how pointless it is to gift a gamer something for a game/army they don't collect, etc.

I'm a gamer and role-player but I did not cut my teeth on D&D and people assume I know all about it. I've played a handful of times and I find it decidedly mediocre. I think it's kind of the 40K of role-playing games. You know you'll find people who play it locally with enough ease. I grew up on worse games though.

People assume that once I say that I like playing video games that I'm into the esports scene or more specifically, League of Legends and CoD/Battlefield. It's a little annoying to have to restate that I'm more into indies or narrative driven games, like LoU and Witcher 3 and get blank stares from self proclaimed "fellow gamers".

I’m pretty open about trying new things, just for the sake of trying something new. So if someone suggests I should try something, I usually will give it a try.

I’m also very direct, and mostly open about my likes and dislikes, so people seldom assume about me... they either ask or I’ve told them already.

I have one story, though, that stands out. I come from small town Ontario. I didn’t stand in the Ocean until I was about 24. In college, a friend-of-a-friend met me for the first time. I was wearing (denim) shorts and a Hawaiian shirt... might have been part of a Halloween costume, maybe? Anyhow, they assumed I liked surfing... somehow pulled that together out of what, I don’t know, but this person assumed that hefty me, with my Hawaiian Shirt, must like surfing. We’re friends still, but I remember being dumbstruck when she told me / us (my wife). I had no idea what to say.

A lot of people keep telling me to watch Black Mirror because I like the Twilight Zone, anthologies, and sci fi. I tried three episodes, and each one was a horribly depressing evening-killer. I don’t need that in my life.

 Grimskul wrote:
People assume that once I say that I like playing video games that I'm into the esports scene or more specifically, League of Legends and CoD/Battlefield. It's a little annoying to have to restate that I'm more into indies or narrative driven games, like LoU and Witcher 3 and get blank stares from self proclaimed "fellow gamers".

What's LoU?

People tend to be shocked when they try to talk to me about Game of Thrones as I'm generally geeky and into fantasy so they assume I watch it. I watched the first series as it had Sean Bean in it, but didn't feel any particular want to continue to the next series. My sister is still trying to get me into it as she dislikes nearly all fantasy but loves GoT and can't understand why it didn't click with me.

I love Star Trek, but the series I love are TNG and Voyager. People are usually very surprised that I didn't think much of the original series or DS9, and even moreso that I rank Babylon 5 above DS9.

I've had people be surprised I don't watch current Doctor Who, as I watched it religiously through Ecclestone/Tennant/Smith. But I found Matt Smith's last series underwhelming, so stopped watching when he left as it felt a good time to stop.

I love Harry Potter, so people assume I love Fantastic Beasts but I'm actually indifferent to those films.

And as others have mentioned more personal/less geeky things, I'll add I've had people confused as depending who I'm dating I'm assumed to be either straight or gay, when actually I'm bi and my partner doesn't define my sexuality, and my sexuality doesn't define how I look or act.

Voss wrote:

 Grimskul wrote:
People assume that once I say that I like playing video games that I'm into the esports scene or more specifically, League of Legends and CoD/Battlefield. It's a little annoying to have to restate that I'm more into indies or narrative driven games, like LoU and Witcher 3 and get blank stares from self proclaimed "fellow gamers".

What's LoU?

Last of Us.

Voss wrote:

 Mad Doc Grotsnik wrote:
AD&D.

It......it’s not a very good roleplay system.

I got started on World of Darkness, which I feel is the better system. Clear combat rules, story driven.

AD&D is just ‘roll a D20’. It’s not my bag.

Nonsense. It'd be just as easy to say WoD is 'roll a bunch of d10s'. WoD combat rules are anything but clear (and mechanically they're a mess with multiple failure points) and 'story' depends on the people involved in both systems. I've done dungeon crawls in WoD, and intrigue in D&D.

That all said, its also worth noting that AD&D has been dead and gone for two decades now...

You're both right... and you're both wrong at the same time.

In the end, the system is less important than having the players and GM in sync and looking for the same thing in their game.

Game of Thrones.
It is fantasy, so I must like it. Nope. Not enough to sit through a whole episode, anyway.

Firefly, everyone looks at me funny when I say I not a fan

 BobtheInquisitor wrote:
A lot of people keep telling me to watch Black Mirror because I like the Twilight Zone, anthologies, and sci fi. I tried three episodes, and each one was a horribly depressing evening-killer. I don’t need that in my life.

I'd suggest maybe trying a few of the newer ones as going global has caused the endearing British misanthropy to get dialled down a smidge, heck San Junipero might even have a happy ending

my persnal grump being a nerd-gamer is the GW assumption from normies (cos apparently theres only GW or histroics)

Because I wear 3-piece suits a lot, people think I must be in to Peaky Blinders (I appreciate this isn't geek media but it's the only thing I can think of).

In actual fact I find any drama shows or movies about crime a massive turn-off and have never watched a single minute.

Im into metal/rock music. Therefore I should like Ska/Nu-metal/Punk.

Nope.

As a nerdy looking gentleman, everyone assumes I am into video games.....I am not.

At my old workplace, every meeting started with people talking about running and doing marathons. At least they didn't assume I was into it.... LOL

I like fantasy, so people assume I like Harry Potter. I loath Harry Potter as much as anybody can hate a work of fiction.

 timetowaste85 wrote:
I like fantasy, so people assume I like Harry Potter. I loath Harry Potter as much as anybody can hate a work of fiction.

THIS. The number of people who have gawked at me like a mad man for not having read Harry Potter is more than I can count. It's little more than a wish fulfillment bildungsroman story to me, and not a particularly great one at that and which actively gets worse as Rowling doubles down on being woke and retcons things into absurdity. If I want magic in my story, I'd prefer LoTR or Warhammer, none of this magic school stuff.