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Monster Rain wrote:

Vasarto wrote:My Friends like me and family likes me. I guess if I am able to make friends than maybe someday a girl...somewhere will eventually like me. feth the resta yall. I give up on this gak.

See, I think this is where your problem lies.

Meh, I don't give a feth what anyone else thinks and I've never been called creepy. Of course being blond, blue eyed, naturally good looking, wearing normal close, and being well spoken helps.

Amaya wrote:

Monster Rain wrote:

Vasarto wrote:My Friends like me and family likes me. I guess if I am able to make friends than maybe someday a girl...somewhere will eventually like me. feth the resta yall. I give up on this gak.

See, I think this is where your problem lies.

Meh, I don't give a feth what anyone else thinks and I've never been called creepy. Of course being blond, blue eyed, naturally good looking, wearing normal close, and being well spoken helps.

Vasarto wrote:feth it.

I could pick up a little more on hygiene but for everything else. Thats too much work to make it worth it. As sometimes I do tend to slack off there a bit but.

I am too lazy to keep doing a lot of the suggested crap.
I am too stubborn to give up the stuff I like to wear.

My Friends like me and family likes me. I guess if I am able to make friends than maybe someday a girl...somewhere will eventually like me. feth the resta yall. I give up on this gak.

Hmmm, then why did you start this thread if you knew you were unwilling to change?

Albatross wrote:Are you overly earnest? Most people like to keep conversation light and breezy, and if you try to get too deep it can come off as intense, which in turn can push many people's 'creepy' button.


Judging by your post, that would be my best guess. You don't know anyone here, yet your willing to bare your soul. If you extended that to your real life, and you were talking to me (for the sake of argument), I'd be like 'uh, why's this guy giving me his life story?'.

Just my opinion, feel free to disregard.

I don't know. He sounds like the typical emo teenager. Don't worry it gets better.*


*Actually thats a lie. It gets far far worse, but you didn't hear that from me.


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rubiksnoob wrote:Then replace the fedora with this. turned backwards of course, and your set:

Genghis Connie made me a tye dye baseball cap and T shirt. I love them, but because they are home made I never wear them. Frankly I typically have problems with what to wear on the weekend because I have to many school event, band event, or home made dad Tshirts that I can't wear because they are keepsakes. So I wear Hawaiian shirts.

Frazzled wrote:So I wear Hawaiian shirts.

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Vasarto wrote:feth it.

I could pick up a little more on hygiene but for everything else. Thats too much work to make it worth it. As sometimes I do tend to slack off there a bit but.

I am too lazy to keep doing a lot of the suggested crap.
I am too stubborn to give up the stuff I like to wear.

My Friends like me and family likes me. I guess if I am able to make friends than maybe someday a girl...somewhere will eventually like me. feth the resta yall. I give up on this gak.

It's hard to tell on the internet, but you sound a little depressed. If you are, you should talk to someone real. That could explain why basic upkeep seems like such a chore. Also, out of left field, but any chance you're gay?

Vladsimpaler wrote:U hav pics brah?

That'd be better to judge you by

:edit:
found pic of op lol

Anyway, I feel like a lot of the people on here are totally similar to you... So some of the advice they give is probably worthless. The only thing I can really recommend is that you just be yourself. Worst comes to worst, you aren't accepted and live the life of a hermit. Best case scenario, you find some guys to play fantasy football with and have a nice american life

I'll answer the OP the way I answer all questions tsarting with "Why?"


Because you touch yourself at night.

Try never wearing a trenchcoat again. Same with the fedora. Definitely don't wear both at the same time. Follows these tips to success and you can't fail!

chaplaingrabthar wrote:I'll answer the OP the way I answer all questions tsarting with "Why?"


Because you touch yourself at night.

*Double Face Palms*
*Throws Hands in the air to sides with angry mouth open*
*Points hand to ya*

....


No idea how to respond to that.

Vasarto wrote:

chaplaingrabthar wrote:I'll answer the OP the way I answer all questions tsarting with "Why?"


Because you touch yourself at night.

*Double Face Palms*
*Throws Hands in the air to sides with angry mouth open*
*Points hand to ya*

....


No idea how to respond to that.

Quite easy, " Well...Do you touch yourself at night?"

Well buddy, ignore their ribbing and internet jokes. Be yourself, stay upbeat, and maybe cool your jets a bit. Perhaps you're too outgoing in today's jaded society. I know I'm contradicting myself, but try being a little shy? No, that's horrible advice. Never mind. Be yourself. Get rid of any facial hair. Be yourself. Eventually you'll find other like minded people, or current people will get the message and accept you for who you are.

Monster Rain wrote:Also, don't drink too much and pass out at parties. This guy doesn't get laid.



I'm sorry, I found it and loled, I had to post it on here somewhere...

Mate, where did you get mattyrm's passport photo? And for the record, he gets TURBO-laid.

ShumaGorath wrote:Try never wearing a trenchcoat again. Same with the fedora. Definitely don't wear both at the same time. Follows these tips to success and you can't fail!

Trenchcoats are fine in the rain or foggy cold conditions.

Frazzled wrote:

ShumaGorath wrote:Try never wearing a trench coat again. Same with the fedora. Definitely don't wear both at the same time. Follows these tips to success and you can't fail!

Trench Coats are fine in the rain or foggy cold conditions.

...Or if you actually find yourself in a trench.

Frazzled wrote:

ShumaGorath wrote:Try never wearing a trenchcoat again. Same with the fedora. Definitely don't wear both at the same time. Follows these tips to success and you can't fail!

Trenchcoats are fine in the rain or foggy cold conditions.

Depends on the coat, the man, the location, and the weather. Mistcoats or penny coats are better alternatives for all but the worst conditions. Trenchcoats have a (deserved) bad reputation for being worn by social misfits.

Yeah, get a peacoat. They look kinda fancy but don't make the ladies wonder if you're about to flash them.

@OP: I completely sympathize with you! I really have a hard time not be earnest about everything, though I have gotten better at starting friendly conversations. I just get rid of the excess intensity in me by writing poems, which really helps BTW. Of course, it does NOT help when I am asked where I go to school, and I respond by saying I am homeschooled. Seriously, the conversation goes from going really well to me be treated like I am carrying the plague or something. Of course, I live in the heart of the mid-west, and people tend to be really intolerant...

_Tim?

Monster Rain wrote:Yeah, get a peacoat. They look kinda fancy but don't make the ladies wonder if you're about to flash them.

Or make the general populace look at you like you might have a bomb/guns under your coat.

Wear an outfit suitable for an 80s heavy metal band. Thatll at least get you attention. Women will be talking to you, just to figure out what the hell your angle is.

Kanluwen wrote:

Monster Rain wrote:Yeah, get a peacoat. They look kinda fancy but don't make the ladies wonder if you're about to flash them.

Or make the general populace look at you like you might have a bomb/guns under your coat.

Yeah, that too.

KingCracker wrote:Wear an outfit suitable for an 80s heavy metal band. Thatll at least get you attention. Women will be talking to you, just to figure out what the hell your angle is.

If I may make a suggestion...

Asking gamers how to not be "creepy" is like asking alcoholics how to not drink: not the best idea (especially on an internet forum which tends to bring out the self-titled comedians and internet cool guys) ever...

Seriously, I think your issue might be mild to moderate depression. Perhaps call a hotline or seek out a local therapist for advice.

CT GAMER wrote:Asking gamers how to not be "creepy" is like asking alcoholics how to not drink: not the best idea (especially on an internet forum which tends to bring out the self-titled comedians and internet cool guys) ever...

Seriously, I think your issue might be mild to moderate depression. Perhaps call a hotline or seek out a local therapist for advice.

This comment honestly makes me wonder,do "gamers" really have such a low opinion of their fellow "gamers"?
I'm honestly not attempting to troll here...I've pondered this for a few years and it still perplexes me when I see comments like "asking gamers for advice about women/not being creepy/any normal social activity/etc,is a waste of time."
Perhaps it has something to do with the fact I didn't discover "Wargames" until I was 30 that this viewpoint seems ...counterproductive to me...but I honestly don't get why the attitude that "gamer=socially incompetent goof" seems to be so strongly held by some "gamers".

FITZZ wrote:

CT GAMER wrote:Asking gamers how to not be "creepy" is like asking alcoholics how to not drink: not the best idea (especially on an internet forum which tends to bring out the self-titled comedians and internet cool guys) ever...

Seriously, I think your issue might be mild to moderate depression. Perhaps call a hotline or seek out a local therapist for advice.

This comment honestly makes me wonder,do "gamers" really have such a low opinion of their fellow "gamers"?
I'm honestly not attempting to troll here...I've pondered this for a few years and it still perplexes me when I see comments like "asking gamers for advice about women/not being creepy/any normal social activity/etc,is a waste of time."
Perhaps it has something to do with the fact I didn't discover "Wargames" until I was 30 that this viewpoint seems ...counterproductive to me...but I honestly don't get why attitude that "gamer=socially incompetent goof" seems to be so strongly held by some "gamers".

Thats probably because most gamers are socially incompetent goofs.

FITZZ wrote:

CT GAMER wrote:Asking gamers how to not be "creepy" is like asking alcoholics how to not drink: not the best idea (especially on an internet forum which tends to bring out the self-titled comedians and internet cool guys) ever...

Seriously, I think your issue might be mild to moderate depression. Perhaps call a hotline or seek out a local therapist for advice.

This comment honestly makes me wonder,do "gamers" really have such a low opinion of their fellow "gamers"?
I'm honestly not attempting to troll here...I've pondered this for a few years and it still perplexes me when I see comments like "asking gamers for advice about women/not being creepy/any normal social activity/etc,is a waste of time."
Perhaps it has something to do with the fact I didn't discover "Wargames" until I was 30 that this viewpoint seems ...counterproductive to me...but I honestly don't get why the attitude that "gamer=socially incompetent goof" seems to be so strongly held by some "gamers".

I completely agree with you, man.

I can't really think of anything else to say that wouldn't start a massive flame war. Just wanted you to know that I've notice it too.

FITZZ wrote:

CT GAMER wrote:Asking gamers how to not be "creepy" is like asking alcoholics how to not drink: not the best idea (especially on an internet forum which tends to bring out the self-titled comedians and internet cool guys) ever...

Seriously, I think your issue might be mild to moderate depression. Perhaps call a hotline or seek out a local therapist for advice.

This comment honestly makes me wonder,do "gamers" really have such a low opinion of their fellow "gamers"?
I'm honestly not attempting to troll here...I've pondered this for a few years and it still perplexes me when I see comments like "asking gamers for advice about women/not being creepy/any normal social activity/etc,is a waste of time."
Perhaps it has something to do with the fact I didn't discover "Wargames" until I was 30 that this viewpoint seems ...counterproductive to me...but I honestly don't get why the attitude that "gamer=socially incompetent goof" seems to be so strongly held by some "gamers".

You have a thread in which an individual exhibits and expresses some identifiable level of emtional distress and what is a pretty clear call for help and half the responses are lame jokes and jabs at his expense. Do the math.

IF this guy truely is bothered by events in his life and is experiencing some level of mental/emotional anguish as a result then yes he needs to seek the advice of qualified providers, not subject himself to the witticisms of internet cool guys that are having as much fun mocking and dismissing him as offering any sincere advice.

Shuma Gorath wrote:

FITZZ wrote:

CT GAMER wrote:Asking gamers how to not be "creepy" is like asking alcoholics how to not drink: not the best idea (especially on an internet forum which tends to bring out the self-titled comedians and internet cool guys) ever...

Seriously, I think your issue might be mild to moderate depression. Perhaps call a hotline or seek out a local therapist for advice.

This comment honestly makes me wonder,do "gamers" really have such a low opinion of their fellow "gamers"?
I'm honestly not attempting to troll here...I've pondered this for a few years and it still perplexes me when I see comments like "asking gamers for advice about women/not being creepy/any normal social activity/etc,is a waste of time."
Perhaps it has something to do with the fact I didn't discover "Wargames" until I was 30 that this viewpoint seems ...counterproductive to me...but I honestly don't get why attitude that "gamer=socially incompetent goof" seems to be so strongly held by some "gamers".

That's probably because most gamers are socially incompetent goofs.

Perhaps in some cases,but since I started gaming I've met a lot of perfectly "normal" individuals,they have girlfriends/wives,active social lives,work "normal" jobs,participate in sports,musical projects...what have you.
The only "strange" thing about them is they take time now and again to paint and game with little toy soldiers.

CT GAMER wrote:You have a thread in which an individual exhibits and expresses some identifiable level of emtional distress and what is a pretty clear call for help and half the responses are lame jokes and jabs at his expense. Do the math.

There's a lot of good advice in this thread. Did you actually read it?

Monster Rain wrote:

CT GAMER wrote:You have a thread in which an individual exhibits and expresses some identifiable level of emtional distress and what is a pretty clear call for help and half the responses are lame jokes and jabs at his expense. Do the math.

There's a lot of good advice in this thread. Did you actually read it?

Hence the "half"part. try to follow along...

CT GAMER wrote:

FITZZ wrote:

CT GAMER wrote:Asking gamers how to not be "creepy" is like asking alcoholics how to not drink: not the best idea (especially on an internet forum which tends to bring out the self-titled comedians and internet cool guys) ever...

Seriously, I think your issue might be mild to moderate depression. Perhaps call a hotline or seek out a local therapist for advice.

This comment honestly makes me wonder,do "gamers" really have such a low opinion of their fellow "gamers"?
I'm honestly not attempting to troll here...I've pondered this for a few years and it still perplexes me when I see comments like "asking gamers for advice about women/not being creepy/any normal social activity/etc,is a waste of time."
Perhaps it has something to do with the fact I didn't discover "Wargames" until I was 30 that this viewpoint seems ...counterproductive to me...but I honestly don't get why the attitude that "gamer=socially incompetent goof" seems to be so strongly held by some "gamers".

You have a thread in which an individual exhibits and expresses some identifiable level of emotional distress and what is a pretty clear call for help and half the responses are lame jokes and jabs at his expense. Do the math.

IF this guy truly is bothered by events in his life and is experiencing some level of mental/emotional anguish as a result then yes he needs to seek the advice of qualified providers, not subject himself to the witticisms of internet cool guys that are having as much fun mocking and dismissing him as offering any sincere advice.

True...but after receiving some,IMO,fairly sound advice,the OP went on to comment that he couldn't be bothered to change some of the habits he felt made other individuals view him as "creepy".
So...is it a genuine search for advice? or a "Hey..feel sorry for me" thing?

And...that is in a single thread,my overall point was that I've noticed a fair amount of " loathing of gamers by gamers" over many threads on many forums.

CT GAMER wrote:

Monster Rain wrote:

CT GAMER wrote:You have a thread in which an individual exhibits and expresses some identifiable level of emtional distress and what is a pretty clear call for help and half the responses are lame jokes and jabs at his expense. Do the math.

There's a lot of good advice in this thread. Did you actually read it?

Hence the "half"part. try to follow along...

As much fun as you seem to have being pedantic, let's get at the root intention of your original statement. You were saying that this forum isn't a good place to look for advice because people make "lame jokes" and whatnot. I'm saying that the OP got plenty of good advice and maybe a laugh or two out of the deal. The tie dye pajamas were hysterical.


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FITZZ wrote: And...that is in a single thread,my overall point was that I've noticed a fair amount of " loathing of gamers by gamers" over many threads on many forums.

Don't forget the projection of "gamer self-loathing" onto other gamers! That seems to come up pretty often as well.