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2011/02/06 18:14:20
Subject: Things you don't understand about the Opposite Gender
Cannerus_The_Unbearable wrote:It's not the doing it. You misunderstand No, you're never supposed to admit to any sort of "obsessive" behavior, especially when it only relates to vaguely knowing someone who looks attractive and makes you extremely excited. Simply said, knowing someone who is attractive shouldn't make you that happy, as it shows that you either never talk to girls or purposely talk to ugly ones.
Well, she was ugly last time I talked to her..... I'm honestly just surprised she turned out looking... like that. Also, jotted down in my mental "Notebook", thanks Cannerus
I've never feared Death or Dying. I've only feared never Trying.
2011/02/06 20:45:05
Subject: Things you don't understand about the Opposite Gender
Cannerus_The_Unbearable wrote:It's not the doing it. You misunderstand No, you're never supposed to admit to any sort of "obsessive" behavior, especially when it only relates to vaguely knowing someone who looks attractive and makes you extremely excited. Simply said, knowing someone who is attractive shouldn't make you that happy, as it shows that you either never talk to girls or purposely talk to ugly ones.
Well, she was ugly last time I talked to her..... I'm honestly just surprised she turned out looking... like that. Also, jotted down in my mental "Notebook", thanks Cannerus
Yeah has happened to some of my good friends like i didn't see a girl in like 5 years. its been 5 years and I saw here and my jaw dropped. I asked "God damn i thought puberty would suck for everyone, apparently you proved me wrong." I love being proved wrong by a girl, in a nonstupid way.
Lets see weirdest dream i have ever had. Oh yes it went like this. I was walking down this alley way and then came out of nowhere came the people from inception and then they told me I was stuck in a dream, I basically said back. "Yes I know i am in a dream because i was in a dream that i was dreaming about a dream. But how stupid do you think i am?"
The incepetion people then got into a gun fight and such which was fun because the chinese dude got shot and then this weird freight train came out of nowhere. Then my best friend came out of nowhere with a RPG and killed Chuck Norris. Then out of nowhere came the Cat emperor of Cat kind and he killed the Troll Queen. Then out of nowhere came the Battle Suit that had the emperor and all his primarchs using as a giant robot and beat the living snot out of the incepetion people then came optimius prime who then exploded randomly. Then a helicopter flew over and crashed into the freight train. Then my best friend starts laughing at the incepetion people then my friend Gabs came out of nowhere with two dual magnums and unloaded them into justin bieber and Batman. Then Creed came in with a titan legion and outflanked abbaddons forces. Then the prime minister of Great Britian announced He lost the game. Then he took a gun out and started drinking vodka. Then came this really cool ship that looked kinda like the hyperion from starcraft then came the storm raven and painted all over it were hot flames and the word awesome written all over it and a giant minigun that had 20 melta guns tied to it and it fire destroying the hyperion in one shot. Then next second I noticed i was a space marine with a light saber and I thought to myself. "Holy gaking mother of gak this has to be the coolest dream ever." Then michael j. caboose came out of nowhere with shelia the tank and blew me up. And i hear "YOU GAKING TEAM KILLER!" Then I woke up.
Yep that was my dream true story. I wrote it down i thought it was the most badass dream ever. but apparently its just one gaked up piece of work.
From whom are unforgiven we bring the mercy of war.
2011/02/06 23:31:46
Subject: Things you don't understand about the Opposite Gender
Cannerus_The_Unbearable wrote:It's not the doing it. You misunderstand No, you're never supposed to admit to any sort of "obsessive" behavior, especially when it only relates to vaguely knowing someone who looks attractive and makes you extremely excited. Simply said, knowing someone who is attractive shouldn't make you that happy, as it shows that you either never talk to girls or purposely talk to ugly ones.
Well, she was ugly last time I talked to her..... I'm honestly just surprised she turned out looking... like that. Also, jotted down in my mental "Notebook", thanks Cannerus
Np In many cases, especially relating to women, the less you say, the better off you are. Let her talk, learn tons about her but make sure she doesn't know everything about you. You want that little element of mystery while remaining trustworthy.
Worship me.
2011/02/06 23:35:27
Subject: Things you don't understand about the Opposite Gender
Is probably the worst place you can possibly be when your interested in a girl. Your best course of action is to abort mission and find another quarry.
2011/02/06 23:41:13
Subject: Things you don't understand about the Opposite Gender
The "friend zone" isn't always a bad place to be,from there you can meet lots of "her" friends opening up all sorts of opportunities.
Plus there is always the chance of the friendship moving into the "friends with benefits" zone.
I am both selfish and chaotic. I value self-gratification and control; I want to have things my way, preferably now. At best, I'm entertaining and surprising; at worst, I'm hedonistic and violent.
2011/02/07 00:05:59
Subject: Things you don't understand about the Opposite Gender
FITZZ wrote: The "friend zone" isn't always a bad place to be,from there you can meet lots of "her" friends opening up all sorts of opportunities.
Plus there is always the chance of the friendship moving into the "friends with benefits" zone.
Not in my experience. "Friends with benefits" is actually not a "friend" area at all, but one where she is interested on a lesser scale. The sex side and the friendship side of that kind of relationship are two completely different things. For example, when I broke up with one ex we continued to hook up. She didn't want me as a friend at that point, but wanted me physically. Given time it's shifted focus to being on the friend side and the thought of physicality would be a very touchy issue indeed.
Worship me.
2011/02/07 00:19:33
Subject: Things you don't understand about the Opposite Gender
FITZZ wrote: The "friend zone" isn't always a bad place to be,from there you can meet lots of "her" friends opening up all sorts of opportunities.
Plus there is always the chance of the friendship moving into the "friends with benefits" zone.
Not in my experience. "Friends with benefits" is actually not a "friend" area at all, but one where she is interested on a lesser scale. The sex side and the friendship side of that kind of relationship are two completely different things. For example, when I broke up with one ex we continued to hook up. She didn't want me as a friend at that point, but wanted me physically. Given time it's shifted focus to being on the friend side and the thought of physicality would be a very touchy issue indeed.
I don't know Cannerus,I've had a few female friends with whom I've been "intimate" with,but was not dating and freely saw other people on both sides,we were in all cases "friends" in that we hung out from time to time,went to movies,concerts,clubs and such together...but in no case with any were we ever "dating" or a "couple"....so..."Friends with benefits" is about the only descriptive term I can think of.
I am both selfish and chaotic. I value self-gratification and control; I want to have things my way, preferably now. At best, I'm entertaining and surprising; at worst, I'm hedonistic and violent.
2011/02/07 00:21:35
Subject: Things you don't understand about the Opposite Gender
FITZZ wrote: The "friend zone" isn't always a bad place to be,from there you can meet lots of "her" friends opening up all sorts of opportunities.
Plus there is always the chance of the friendship moving into the "friends with benefits" zone.
Not in my experience. "Friends with benefits" is actually not a "friend" area at all, but one where she is interested on a lesser scale. The sex side and the friendship side of that kind of relationship are two completely different things. For example, when I broke up with one ex we continued to hook up. She didn't want me as a friend at that point, but wanted me physically. Given time it's shifted focus to being on the friend side and the thought of physicality would be a very touchy issue indeed.
I don't know Cannerus,I've had a few female friends with whom I've been "intimate" with,but was not dating and freely saw other people on both sides,we were in all cases "friends" in that we hung out from time to time,went to movies,concerts,clubs and such together...but in no case with any were we ever "dating" or a "couple"....so..."Friends with benefits" is about the only descriptive term I can think of.
This intrigues me. Did you come on to them or the other way around? What prompted the arrangements or when did it become clear exactly what was going on? There had to have been at least a little gray area in there.
Worship me.
2011/02/07 00:34:56
Subject: Things you don't understand about the Opposite Gender
FITZZ wrote: The "friend zone" isn't always a bad place to be,from there you can meet lots of "her" friends opening up all sorts of opportunities.
Plus there is always the chance of the friendship moving into the "friends with benefits" zone.
Not in my experience. "Friends with benefits" is actually not a "friend" area at all, but one where she is interested on a lesser scale. The sex side and the friendship side of that kind of relationship are two completely different things. For example, when I broke up with one ex we continued to hook up. She didn't want me as a friend at that point, but wanted me physically. Given time it's shifted focus to being on the friend side and the thought of physicality would be a very touchy issue indeed.
I don't know Cannerus,I've had a few female friends with whom I've been "intimate" with,but was not dating and freely saw other people on both sides,we were in all cases "friends" in that we hung out from time to time,went to movies,concerts,clubs and such together...but in no case with any were we ever "dating" or a "couple"....so..."Friends with benefits" is about the only descriptive term I can think of.
This intrigues me. Did you come on to them or the other way around? What prompted the arrangements or when did it become clear exactly what was going on? There had to have been at least a little gray area in there.
In most cases it was sort of a mutual " I don't want to be in a relationship or tied down" sort of thing,I did what I wanted,they did what they wanted ,but there was always in all cases a friendship there,if I got a call asking if I was busy and if not did I want to go to a club or something,I'd often accept the invite...but never expect anything one way or another,sometimes we'd hook up...sometimes I would leave with someone else/or they would...no big deal.
I believe that the common thread was a general desire to avoid "commitment" but to still have the opportunity to "hang out" when it suited them/me.
I am both selfish and chaotic. I value self-gratification and control; I want to have things my way, preferably now. At best, I'm entertaining and surprising; at worst, I'm hedonistic and violent.
2011/02/07 00:52:01
Subject: Things you don't understand about the Opposite Gender
It will probably come off as semantics, but I've found that what is called friends with benefits is often really just a very non-committal open relationship. I tend to view fwb in a very singular fashion, as someone to call when I want favors, though we may hang out sometime or have some activity in common. It gets sticky, especially if uncontrolled, but what doesn't?
Worship me.
2011/02/07 01:46:37
Subject: Things you don't understand about the Opposite Gender
Cannerus_The_Unbearable wrote:Yup. "Next"ing is usually the best option.
And to add to that, make sure you avoid paying any direct attention to her.
I can fully concur to this one! One-sided affection is never a pleasant thing, and one is more likely to resort to feelings of hatred, due to being unable to live out ones affection.
- i personally believe, that a person uncapable of loving is also uncapable of hating. On the contrary, one able to feel love is also able to hate. It's all a matter of whether or not life presents room to show it. Live it out. Alternatively, i believe that those feelings may turn and provide the breeding ground for hatred.
An old saying goes: "The worst way to miss someone is to be sitting right beside them knowing you can't have them.". I think that anyone, that's ever found them in a one-sided love affair can relate.
:: I'm not suffering from insanity; I'm enjoying every minute of it! ::
2011/02/07 02:05:12
Subject: Things you don't understand about the Opposite Gender
Billinator wrote:
An old saying goes: "The worst way to miss someone is to be sitting right beside them knowing you can't have them.". I think that anyone, that's ever found them in a one-sided love affair can relate.
Yup
I was doing a good job at denial until I read this little bit....
So, I was in this place people call the mall a while back. And I had the urge to expel some bad spirits. As I went into the bathroom, I chose the urinal closes to the corner so I could have some privacy. So I whip out Lord Pevincy and let him loose the bad spirits. Well, I was looking at the wall as the Lord was expelling the spirits and I seemed to have gotten distracted. Turns out, I missed a little.
SO I'm sitting at my computer right, and I have a Coke, Bottled mind you. But it got warm, so I got a Coffie cup and I filled it with the coke and some Ice and I sipped as I did my internet stuff. So like and hour passed and I hadn't sipped any of it. and when I go to sip it, I notice that something solid is in it. So I'm like, "No, why would there be something solid in my coke?" SO I pull these solid THINGS off my tongue and guess what they are? F ING ANTS! I was like WTF!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
And so I ran into the Kitchen coughing and what not and I threw those little bastards down the drain with a flood of hate and cold water.......those bastards are lucky I don't have my Nucians yet!!!
2011/02/07 02:07:26
Subject: Things you don't understand about the Opposite Gender
Billinator wrote:
An old saying goes: "The worst way to miss someone is to be sitting right beside them knowing you can't have them.". I think that anyone, that's ever found them in a one-sided love affair can relate.
Indeed I can; wish I couldn't.
Mandorallen turned back toward the insolently sneering baron. 'My Lord,' The great knight said distantly, 'I find thy face apelike and thy form misshapen. Thy beard, moreover, is an offence against decency, resembling more closely the scabrous fur which doth decorate the hinder portion of a mongrel dog than a proper adornment for a human face. Is it possibly that thy mother, seized by some wild lechery, did dally at some time past with a randy goat?' - Mimbrate Knight Protector Mandorallen.
Excerpt from "Seeress of Kell", Book Five of The Malloreon series by David Eddings.
"You need not fear us, unless you are a dark heart, a vile one who preys on the innocent; I promise, you can’t hide forever in the empty darkness, for we will hunt you down like the animals you are, and pull you into the very bowels of hell." Iron - Within Temptation
2011/02/07 02:29:11
Subject: Things you don't understand about the Opposite Gender
In danish, we've got a saying. It's hard to translate directly though.
But it goes something like this: "An experience can be either good or bad. But the knowledge (expereince) gained can always be turned into good."
- The best way to look at it, is by knowing, that every agonizing experience we live through makes us - not just stronger - but also able to better understand other people. It is basically the difference between empathy and sympathy.
- Empathy is the ability to recognize other peoples emotions.
- Sympathy is the ability to SHARE those emotions.
By experiencing, we gain knowledge. And by that knowledge, we can fully learn to - not just empathize - but to sympathise with other people.
Also, by thinking of what we've experienced, we learn to recognize patterns, and by that prevent the same mistakes from happening over again.
To find a healthy balance, however, is the tricky part. Feeling are hardly ever logical. But they tend to carry a heavy influence.
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2011/02/07 02:41:36
Subject: Re:Things you don't understand about the Opposite Gender
@Slarg
The actual direct translation is actually "An experience can be either good or bad. But an experience can always be turned into something good.". It doesn't really translate that well, as the danish language got different wordings from "experience-that-happens" (active) and "experience-in-the-memory-banks" (passive)
I'm not sure i totally agree with the French saying. I find it a little male chauvinistic to just blame it all on women. It DOES hold true to some extend. But a man or woman is always able to choose for themselves.
- But OTOH, ones present, logical, experiences is often in conflict with one's emotions, and hence makes it tough to "keep ones cool".
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2011/02/07 03:13:58
Subject: Things you don't understand about the Opposite Gender
Billinator wrote:I'm not sure i totally agree with the French saying. I find it a little male chauvinistic to just blame it all on women. It DOES hold true to some extend. But a man or woman is always able to choose for themselves.
- But OTOH, ones present, logical, experiences is often in conflict with one's emotions, and hence makes it tough to "keep ones cool".
It all depends on how you mean it. When I go the Chauvinistic route, it's usually just to pull some girls pigtails. And I do it in a voice that they realize I am joking.
I've never feared Death or Dying. I've only feared never Trying.
2011/02/07 03:24:20
Subject: Things you don't understand about the Opposite Gender
Well, yes of course. And i was being too literal, as you can see - Jokes aside, yeah, i tend to take the provokative approach myself... I seems much more alluring for both parts.
EDIT: Turbo-typo
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2011/02/07 03:29:54
Subject: Things you don't understand about the Opposite Gender
Grr. My kitty seriously needs to unlearn this habit he has of biting my knuckles while I type.
The people in the past who convinced themselves to do unspeakable things were no less human than you or I. They made their decisions; the only thing that prevents history from repeating itself is making different ones.
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2011/02/07 03:47:12
Subject: Things you don't understand about the Opposite Gender
I am both selfish and chaotic. I value self-gratification and control; I want to have things my way, preferably now. At best, I'm entertaining and surprising; at worst, I'm hedonistic and violent.
2011/02/07 03:50:11
Subject: Things you don't understand about the Opposite Gender
No, you're never supposed to admit to any sort of "obsessive" behavior, especially when it only relates to vaguely knowing someone who looks attractive and makes you extremely excited. Simply said, knowing someone who is attractive shouldn't make you that happy, as it shows that you either never talk to girls or purposely talk to ugly ones.
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