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Platuan4th wrote:
What about M/M/F? That still a libido killer or is it when purely males?

Not really sure I want to continue a conversation about the type of adult movies I like here, so this will be my last post on this topic:

For MMF videos, it depends.

Are the guys focused on the girl? Fine.

Is one or both of the guys bi? No interested.

But that's just videos. In real life, the introduction of a second guy to a M/F equation is a show stopper for me.

DukeBadham wrote:

kronk wrote:

Cannerus_The_Unbearable wrote:Okay, for everyone who isn't attracted to men, is the presence of another man a libido killer completely (leaving out any interaction), or is it more a person of that gender being the focus that clashes with your sense of "that's not right"-ness?

The presence of another man is a Libido killer for me. Nothing to do with "right or wrong".

Adult movies:
M/F = fine
F/F = fine
M/M = does nothing for me.

M/F/M =?
do you like a female sandwich

depends? female what? mouse? deer? pig? I am partial to pork sandwiches with a bit of mustard and relish myself. but don't go for the gherkin jar, I keep pickled remains of dissected animal killed by my dog in there.

(this coming from a vet student)

Cannerus_The_Unbearable wrote:Okay, for everyone who isn't attracted to men, is the presence of another man a libido killer completely (leaving out any interaction), or is it more a person of that gender being the focus that clashes with your sense of "that's not right"-ness?

I don't know. It's never happened to me. I've had friends who had sex while I was in the room, and it didn't necessarily bother me, but I wasn't really eager to join in. Pretty much, once again, indifferent. I was a little concerned I was 'interrupting' things, but apparently not enough.

ineptus astartes wrote:

DukeBadham wrote:

kronk wrote:

Cannerus_The_Unbearable wrote:Okay, for everyone who isn't attracted to men, is the presence of another man a libido killer completely (leaving out any interaction), or is it more a person of that gender being the focus that clashes with your sense of "that's not right"-ness?

The presence of another man is a Libido killer for me. Nothing to do with "right or wrong".

Adult movies:
M/F = fine
F/F = fine
M/M = does nothing for me.

M/F/M =?
do you like a female sandwich

depends? female what? mouse? deer? pig? I am partial to pork sandwiches with a bit of mustard and relish myself. but don't go for the gherkin jar, I keep pickled remains of dissected animal killed by my dog in there.

(this coming from a vet student)

since my post was on the topic adult movies, you asking whether the female is an animal makes me wonder what kind of porn were you watching

corpsesarefun wrote:However I personally see sexuality as a self imposed restriction.

Not really, sometimes being reserved prevents a person trying everything they would like, but you can't choose your orientation or in fact the things and activities you find stimulating. This is the issue I take with people who talk about 'choosing to be gay'. People can't choose the sex they are attracted towards and a straight person doesn't choose to like girls. The idea is absurd, yet some sorts, typically conservative christians, continue to push the idea of 'choice' in sexual orientation. Similarly there are certain sexual activities that revolt me, like scat play. This on no level does anything for me, it's not a self imposed restriction, I genuinely have no interest in it. But I've no issue with what others like to do, I won't pretend to understand the attraction to that sort of activity but I've no issues with it. I think this is a major problem with conservative sorts, they don't understand something, but rather than accept people are different and move on they think that there is something 'wrong' with them and that it needs to be prevented.

To address some points made by Cannerus. I'm heterosexual, my wife is bisexual. Sexuality does not define me. The one thing my wife comes across repeatedly is the idea that because she is married, she is no longer bisexual. This again, is ludicrous. Presumably because she is brunette people draw the conclusion that I cannot find blonds attractive

My idea of a good looking man is Gary Sinise, I don't knwo what that says about my 'taste' in men, it's probably not very good.

I think that homosexuality and bullying do go together, as bullying can take a homophobic angle. The victim need not actually be gay, but the torment of the bullying can destroy lives all the same - the fact that the rationale behind the bullying is flawed is cold comfort. The things that define sexual preferences in general are difficult to pin down, they are a combination of both genetic and environmental as are other aspects of personality.

I think a lot of people make too much of a fuss about it.
Personally, homosexuality is not for me.
However, people can do what they want (with another consenting adult) as long as they don't expect me to watch or join in.
What people do in the privacy of their own bedrooms is nobody elses business.

Sexuality is, in my book, physical or emotional love shared between two or more parties.

Male, female, transvestite, squirrel, whatever. If you love someone, or some people, and they love you back, I'm fine with that.

Hell, I might end up as a slightly less deviant Cannerus because of my views.

um...

*looks at 'white rabbit'*

you are never going to live that down, chowder.

I think that sexuality is a blend of gentic disposition and environmental/societal influences. There are people all around me that display different aspects of the spectrum and I've talked at length and have gotten to know each one.

All I know is that no matter what you prefer, as long as you're not hurting anyone its all good.

More love in the world can't be a bad thing.

Cannerus_The_Unbearable wrote:This thread can not help but begin with a massive disclaimer. Let's keep it clean and attempt to have a legitimate discussion about sexuality without it going anywhere un-Dakka-fied.

I'm assuming that the vast majority of users on this site identify as straight males, but regardless of orientation, how do you see sexuality? How significant is it to your daily life and do you feel it would be terribly different if you preferred another gender? Do you think people inherently have preferences or are they born out of environment and conditioning? We hear a lot about bullying as related to homosexuality and suicide; do you believe the two are related or is the sexual preference a side note?

I'll unashamedly peg myself knee-deep in psychosis, but I don't plan on changing it until I get bored or it starts to hurt someone. I know who I am and what I like but I don't believe I necessarily would have ended up with my particular set of likes and dislikes without certain environmental factors kicking in. I personally see some people who try to defend their preference so hard that you can't help but question whether they're trying to prove it to themselves as well. On the same level, I have always felt like I was repressing certain aspects of my personality (namely a fair amount of femininity) in the early years of my life. I have to default to the somewhat cliche stance that sexuality is fluid and evolves overtime for whatever reason, as nothing else makes sense to me. Anyone who's old have any wisdom to spread here?

Straight male, since I was born... I guess.

I had "puppy love" in elementary school with a girl in my class.

Never been attracted to the same sex. I believe people are born straight, gay or bi. There have been studies that strongly suggest external environments or preconditions can lead to a likelihood of a child being born gay.

For instance, it is believed the more boys a mother has the more likely the last boy would be born. If a mother gives birth to 5 boys, the 5th boy is more likely to be gay than the previous 4. If a mother give birth to 4 girls then 1 boy, that boy is less likely yo be gay than the boy in a family of 5 boys.

Women under constant stress, particularly in war time are likely to give birth to a gay child. I'll see if I can find the German study that found this data of women pregnant during the bombings of WWII.

There are a lot of studies out there where people get there fetishes from. Most conclude it comes growing, there was (maybe is still exists?) of a British gentlemen's magazine of women in gas masks in the 50s and 60s. The Fetish came from young boys being surrounded by women with gas masks during the war.

the intolerant behavior of people and various families have forced people in the closet and "try" to be straight.

I often here people say homosexuality is comparable to murder, which is absolutely disgusting. I have not always been accepting of gays. I grew up in a religious house hold and taught the homosexuality means sin, they are disgusting and immoral. In short, most of my family are homophobic.

Then I grew up, met many people, wish I can say I never lived in that shell, but I can't go back in time.

Not sure if you are looking for tastes, but I love women with accents, especially Southern, English, French, Irish, Scottish and Australian.

nothing turns me on more.


I am total perv but guess I can share how disgusting I really am?

You're born with a disposition towards having a certain orientation, I think. But wether or not you act on it is entirely your own choice.

I see myself as a staight woman, but my boyfriend is bisexual and I am completely fine with that. Why would I want to dislike someone for something they simply -are-? It's untrue that bisexuals would be less loyal, if anything, it made my boyfriend more thoughtful of sexuality and relationships... we trust each other 100%... and hey, it's fun talking about boys together

When it comes to the fetish aspect of sexuality... to each their own!! keep that in mind! No-one has the right to judge someone else just because they're into.. say.. feet, latex, bdsm, etc. Fetishes form based on early childhood experiences, and unless you've been through it yourself, you'll never fully understand it. As long as you learn to accept "different strokes for different folks", it'll be fine

I have but one thing to say:
"If its cute, legal and human, bang it."
EDIT: since I don't know why I am being called a sick man, lets play this safe.

DukeBadham wrote:I have but one thing to say:
"If its cute, bang it."

You are a sick man.

I think people are attracted to people. That means more than what parts you have. Social conventions determine what attractions people act on and in what ways they act on them.

Manchu wrote:I think people are attracted to people. That means more than what parts you have. Social conventions determine what attractions people act on and in what ways they act on them.

I also agree with this statement.

Piston Honda wrote:
I am total perv but guess I can share how disgusting I really am?

I'm wondering if anyone really is a perv or if most people just hide their tendencies better than others. There's probably just a healthy medium floating around somewhere that's ideal like everything else, but it's still interesting to think about.

corpsesarefun wrote:

DukeBadham wrote:I have but one thing to say:
"If its cute, bang it."

You are a sick man.

I can't see your pic
But yes I am, but probably not in the sense you're thinking of

what does that picture have to do with that statement? XD huh?

Cannerus_The_Unbearable wrote:I'm wondering if anyone really is a perv or if most people just hide their tendencies better than others.

For there to be perverts, there has to be something accepted as normal. Given what it turns out that people actually like sexually, regardless of what they are willing to talk about in public, I don't think we have an honest standard for normal. "Pervert" just ends up being a derogatory term. If you don't like a certain thing, you call people who do like it "perverts."

Ah just admit it. Everyone's a perv from time to time....

and that's coming from a woman...

A perv compared to what?

I was just joking really

I too think the word pervert is silly and derogatory... it's not fair because who decides what is "normal"?
In a joking context however, I just mean people sometimes tend to like things that usually lie outside their zone of preference.. incidental sexuality if you like. Nothing wrong with that, but that would make everyone a "perv" from time to time.

I think people would be more willing to try some things with some people and other things with other people.

Again, I think it comes down to people not parts.

It's interesting because people can even self-define as being perverted, which throws out using other people as a means of comparison. Stuff just that seems that way sometimes. Much to ponder.

And I agree completely if it weren't obvious that person to person many people would do different things they wouldn't have considered otherwise. Anecdotal evidence heavily supports this.

marv335 wrote:I think a lot of people make too much of a fuss about it.
Personally, homosexuality is not for me.
However, people can do what they want (with another consenting adult) as long as they don't expect me to watch or join in.
What people do in the privacy of their own bedrooms is nobody elses business.

I don't care either. Just stay the hell off my lawn.

How about them St. Louis Crdinals huh.....(MLB)

What sucks is that people make "rules" for themselves and then, when the opportunity presents itself, they feel all this guilt and hesitance because of that rule. But who made the rule in the first place? I think this is the cause of a lot of unnecessary self-loathing, regret, and anguish.

Of course. Every boyfriend for me was completely different..

But do you mean "I think it comes down to people not parts" as in bisexuality? I great support bisexuality, but I am straight myself and I know plenty of gay people. Only being attracted to one sex doesn't immediately make you close minded. I can find women attractive, yes.. beautiful, sexy.. but I only desire a relationship with a man, thus making me straight. I still remain open to the possiblity, but since I've never experienced it, I will still count myself as straight.
I don't think bisexuals are completely blind to gender either.. but the idea that one can love both sexes equally, is quite beautiful I must say
Still, doesn't make straights or gays any more close minded.

DukeBadham wrote:I have but one thing to say:
"If its cute, bang it."

I have one rule:
16-60, blind, crippled, or crazy, if she can't walk I'll drag her.

I don't think terms like "heterosexual" and "homosexual" and "bisexual" are too relevant to what people actually feel. I think these categories arise more for the sake of politics than trying to understand human sexuality.