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I agree with everyone who pointed out that if you take this laying down *hehehehe* there will be worse to come. (so many puns so little time) I don't understand anyone who would feel that porn is a threat. If my boyfriend told me not to watch porn anymore he'd be out on his ear quicker then it took me to open my web browser believe me.
I love ya babe but take ya control freak of a self else where.
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quote=Horst]well no sane woman will let you crap on her chest, or suck off a donkey for you, and sometimes you just need to watch gak like that done by professionals.
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KingCracker wrote:
On a funny note tho, a family friend calls women like that rib poppers. Ya just slide it in until they start popping, then you know your there
Arctik_Firangi wrote:Never been a fan of disproportionate W's anyway.
Dude, they have porn these days for whatEVER you are in to.
JEB_Stuart wrote:Looking at porn suggests something that is unfulfilled or empty in your relationship.
What it also suggests is that the man likes looking at nekkid women.
Yup & yup. I'm a guy, and I *like* looking at nekkid women. As far as I know, this is "normal".
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Kilkrazy wrote:Fwooooooaaaarrrrrgh!!!
Would you let your GF stop you playing wargames?
If I gave in to all my wife’s demands I would spend my entire leisure time waiting around in shoe shops.
What's bizzare is that somebody, somewhere is getting off to that one-celled reproduction diagram...
Oh, no, let that "Fwoo.." thing not have been you... TMI!
Watch out, if she's going after your pr0n, she'll eventually go after your gaming. Women *hate* that you enjoy going out gaming instead of sitting about, listening to their stories...
If I gave into all of my wife's demands, -shudder- ... There's a reason why ", NO!" exists as an answer. Use it once in a while. ____
Wolfstan wrote:You can't tell me that that women who went for the world record of having sex with the most men was right in the head?
I don't know how many of the posters here have a daughter who is 17+ or would be old enough to off had a daughter of that age, but how would you feel if you found out your daughter was doing this?
The "record" woman did it purely for the money, because she knew she'd make a bundle for gutting it out. In many ways, mentally, it's the same as in many of these "reality" shows.
No daughter, but if she's a consenting adult with a hot body, I don't see the inherent problem. On the SoCal beaches, I've seen some seriously hot girls in seriously hot swimsuits. I'm pretty sure they're not being exploited when they go to hang out at the beach in those suits... ____
BrookM wrote:What if it goes the other way round? Hmm? I knew my relationship was over when she started openly browsing watersports and auto-asphyxiation sites looking for ideas.
I wouldn't be afraid to pee on my wife - hell, my kid even got her several times during diaper changes...
OTOH, if she's thinking to choke me, no, that's not good. David Carradine died that way, and it's not a cool way to go out.
I think one factor that has been overlooked is boredom. Just general boredom. People sitting in front of computer often will just randomly browse if they have nothing to do, instead of turning it off and doing something else. Eventually pron happens. It is inevitable. It is your destiny.
Amidst the mists and coldest frosts he thrusts his fists against the posts and still insists he sees the ghosts.
Your g/f should like Pr0n because it keeps men in shape sexually and makes us healthy; routinely doing the nasty fends off life threatening circumstances such as prostate cancer.
Many times in a relationship a woman will try to push your buttons to see how much 'power' she has over you; the more you give in the less attracted she usually becomes and you'll be tossed aside for a more interesting and 'manly' prospect.
One of the biggest mistakes both men and women make in relationships is that they assume that "all men/women are the same", and so miss out on the huge difference between people in their wants, desires, kinks, interests, and level of interest. If your gf was with a guy that liked to get off twice a week, and used porn for that instead of her, she might be analogizing. Now, if you enjoy it twice a day, and use porn only when she's not around, she might not make that connection that your different. More than anything, women need to understand that not all men like the same amount of sex. In my expereince, when two people have synced up sex drives, it goes a long way making everybody happy. It's not everything, but let's just say you're a little more willing to compromise when you're... satisfied.
And for guys, female body issues can be extremely complicated. It's not always women wishing they looked like the skinny porn stars. I dated a girl who got the gastric bypass, and while she liked the way she looked, she had more body issues during sex afterwards than before. She was very confident before the surgery, but afterwards she had a different body that didn't act the way she wanted. She also was afraid that I liked her before, and not after. I tried to tell her that I liked both, but we eventually broke over that and a bunch of other issues.
No. She doesn't have the right to demand what you think about. Ever. Nor do you have the right to demand activities from her.
If you're having nineteen hour telethons downing similac, creatine, and powdered protein to keep your strength up or have a $100 standing order for tissue and lotion there's a problem.
Expecting total fulfillment of a partner's needs desires and fantasies is outside the scope of mortal humans. Finding that happy medium is a matter of communication, exploration, and trust. Trying to fill the shoes of a fantasy, or perceptions of a previous partner is only going to lead to disappointment.
Fantasy is *not* cheating. Acting on it is. I submit that a person that equates thinking about a deed to the deed itself likely has issues with self confidence and self control.
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Because in America, it's alright to have blood and guts and curse words in prime time TV, but we can't see a phallus!
The OP can either comply with his significant other's wishes, or not. And if she packs up and leaves, he shouldn't be shocked.
OT - anyone seen "Who's Nailin' Palyn?" (or however Larry Flynt mis-spelled it). I don't think the 'star' is all that, but I have to give Mr. Flynt credit for 'sticking it to the man'. In some ways, he's a filthy degenerate, and in other ways, he's what's best about America. Anyway, if I bought a movie this year, that'd be the one, just because I think the title and subject is hilarious.
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I say you sit down and have a serious conversation about it. Talking rarely hurts any situation. She gets the opportunity to explain her reasons and you get a chance to explain why you "need" to look at it. Personally I think you're better without it, but I don't know you (values, background, etc...) so I have zero room to instruct you on how to live your life.
Ultimately relationships come down to compromising (make your own?). This is an important issue that you two need to get past. If she thinks that you're hiding something from her, then she's not going to trust you. If she can't trust you (or you her) then there will be doubt and yada, yada.
I quit chewing tobacco about 4 months ago because I got busted by the wife (in a poorly constructed lie btw) for the second time. She asked me not to do it the first time, but I thought I knew better than her. The second time it came around I knew that I needed to get my act together or the argument that we had that night was going to continue on and on.
Point I'm trying to make is that you are doing something she doesn't agree with. I'm not arguing the right/wrong of Pr0n, what I'm arguing is that you have a wedge in your relationship that you can both recognize, evaluate, and act upon.
Good luck in your situation and hope you can do the right thing.
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My girlfriend seems to be ok with it most of the time. Sometimes she's not, but it's pretty rare. It's not like we live together or hook up constantly either. A bit off topic, but I now can't believe some of the lies a Christian private schooling tried to pass to me about masturbation. Things like "if you masturbate, you won't get pleasure form real sex" or that if you have sex with a female who is in her early 20s or younger, that she'll become "an emotional time bomb" and explode when she hits 30. I'm not kidding. I now encourage the younger guys that if they have an urge, they shouldn't feel guilty relieving it.
a girl i saw for a while use to ask my opinion of the softcore stuff she did online, which was both odd and awesome.....to bad the photographer had crap skills
JEB_Stuart wrote:Looking at porn suggests something that is unfulfilled or empty in your relationship. This of course signifies unhappiness or discontent with your girlfriend. Porn has ruined lives, and will continue to do so. She is perfectly within her rights to say you can't look at porn, cuz she doesn't have to date someone who isn't the man she wants, but that also goes vice versa. I agree with Luna on this one. If you can't give something like this up for the woman you supposedly love then maybe you should look for love elsewhere. Remember love is about sacrifice, and that goes both ways.
People have alternative lifestyles you cannot enforce your moral standings on others, thats what results in wars and hate.
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If you're a gamer nerd lucky enough to have a GF, and said GF says "I don't like porn, and I'd prefer you didn't watch it", and you continue to watch it, she's well within her right to dump you. If you wanna keep said GF, do what she asks and quit watching. Don't think you can get away with it and she'll never know, because eventually she'll find out and then you'll be all alone. There's a big difference between not watching because you know it offends her, and her trying to control ya. If you care about someone, you should be willing to make a compromise here and there for the greater good.
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