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Necros wrote:If you're a gamer nerd lucky enough to have a GF, and said GF says "I don't like porn, and I'd prefer you didn't watch it", and you continue to watch it, she's well within her right to dump you. If you wanna keep said GF, do what she asks and quit watching. Don't think you can get away with it and she'll never know, because eventually she'll find out and then you'll be all alone. There's a big difference between not watching because you know it offends her, and her trying to control ya. If you care about someone, you should be willing to make a compromise here and there for the greater good.


What you described is neither compromise nor for the greater good.

We don't know the context really of the situation which really makes it difficult to give out to much advice. Is it something he looks at on occasion or is he watching it 6 hours a day while she is sitting alone trying to watch TV/be sociable/plant petunias/everything?

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I'll just put this here...

http://leftake.com/diary/795/us-senators-chief-of-staff-pornography-makes-you-gay



 
   
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Necros wrote:If you're a gamer nerd lucky enough to have a GF,

Pfft.

I dunno. It really depends on how good the sex is, along with whether she's friendly / sociable outside of the sack. If she's absolutely incredible in the sack, the best lay you've ever had, then maybe she's worth keeping. But mediocre sex isn't worth being whipped over.

   
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Ahem... watch out for that banana cream pie... it will make you gay, just saying though.




 
   
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Ozymandias wrote:
Arctik_Firangi wrote:
Incidentally, here in Australia, 'hardcore' or 'X' rated pornography is absolutely illegal.


That totally explains why all Aussies are crazy.


Does it stop people? No. Will Kevin Rudd's Proposed mandatory Internet censorship stop people? No.

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Horse ****. What do you think one of our biggest industries is? Tourism. Why? Because we have an interesting history, interesting buildings, a big rock, big other assorted things (insert innuendo here)... Like sheep, pineapples, bananas etc, and the Great Barrier Reef.

Tauzor wrote:
JEB_Stuart wrote:Looking at porn suggests something that is unfulfilled or empty in your relationship. This of course signifies unhappiness or discontent with your girlfriend. Porn has ruined lives, and will continue to do so. She is perfectly within her rights to say you can't look at porn, cuz she doesn't have to date someone who isn't the man she wants, but that also goes vice versa. I agree with Luna on this one. If you can't give something like this up for the woman you supposedly love then maybe you should look for love elsewhere. Remember love is about sacrifice, and that goes both ways.


BOLLOX

I make porn with the wife & girlfriend.

People have alternative lifestyles you cannot enforce your moral standings on others, thats what results in wars and hate.


The wife AND the girlfriend? Nicely done

Wrexasaur wrote:


Ahem... watch out for that banana cream pie... it will make you gay, just saying though.




Okay, that is some funny ****!

As to the on topic: I can't say much that hasn't already been said. It actually reminds me of a thread on WAU about a guy who's pregnant wife wanted him to stop wargaming as it "would desensitize the child" and that thread devolved into "ditch the b!tch"

Personally? I think if you are watching porn instead of spending time with her? (i.e. watching it 6 hours a day) She has a reason to be upset. Otherwise, she is probably bein a control freak.

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Tauzor wrote:BOLLOX

I make porn with the wife & girlfriend.

People have alternative lifestyles you cannot enforce your moral standings on others, thats what results in wars and hate.
Overreaction much? I never said anything about moral standards. I was simply referring to the fact that viewing porn is an expression of something unfulfilled,
maybe fantasy or not, that you have in your life. Read the post before you decide to make an ignorant statement.

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Just like playing Warhammer is an expression of one's lack of freedom to run around shooting foreigners? Fantasy isn't all bad, and in many cases preferable to fulfillment, at least on a social level.
   
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I'm with JEB on this one. (the pic won me over)

I think you're a bit off the mark there Arctik_Firangi. That was not what JEB was trying to say. He was simply pointing out that if you are looking at porn, then you obviously don't think your girlfriend it good enough.

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Necros wrote:If you're a gamer nerd lucky enough to have a GF, and said GF says "I don't like porn, and I'd prefer you didn't watch it", and you continue to watch it, she's well within her right to dump you. If you wanna keep said GF, do what she asks and quit watching. Don't think you can get away with it and she'll never know, because eventually she'll find out and then you'll be all alone. There's a big difference between not watching because you know it offends her, and her trying to control ya. If you care about someone, you should be willing to make a compromise here and there for the greater good.


Heck no.

Aside from it being incredibly patronising (not just towards the op, but evreyone on this board) to suggest that because the OP is a gamer he should consider himself lucky to even have a GF, it is never a good thing to be a relationship with a control freak. It’s far far better to be single.

I accept compromise can be important. A fair compromise would be, for example, to only look at pron when the GF is not about and to delete the cache after a session. Saying not to look at it at all is not a compromise; it is an ultimatum, and an unreasonable one at that.

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Emperors Faithful wrote:I'm with JEB on this one. (the pic won me over)

I think you're a bit off the mark there Arctik_Firangi. That was not what JEB was trying to say. He was simply pointing out that if you are looking at porn, then you obviously don't think your girlfriend it good enough.


It depends what you mean by "good enough." Men aren't biologically wired to be monogamous, we can mate with many different females to spread our genes. From an instinctive perspective, no one woman is ever enough. Also, if you like variety in your life, no one woman can be everything that you can possibly want. So, porn is a good way of satisfying that demand, whether it be for another race, group sex, fetishes, etc.

I'd want to make it clear that just because a guy is looking at porn doesn't mean he's unsatisfied with his gf.
   
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Polonius wrote:
Emperors Faithful wrote:...if you are looking at porn, then you obviously don't think your girlfriend it good enough.

I'd want to make it clear that just because a guy is looking at porn doesn't mean he's unsatisfied with his gf.


Just a side note:
Humans aren't built monogamous worse yet, when faced with a perceived authority (see also the Milgram, and Stanford Prison experiments) mankind has the habit of compliance.

So, if its really the 'right' thing, how come some invisible sky wizard had to decree, and enforce it by word of mouth by some guy with a fancy robe and tall hat.

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Oldgrue wrote:
Polonius wrote:
Emperors Faithful wrote:...if you are looking at porn, then you obviously don't think your girlfriend it good enough.

I'd want to make it clear that just because a guy is looking at porn doesn't mean he's unsatisfied with his gf.


Just a side note:
Humans aren't built monogamous worse yet, when faced with a perceived authority (see also the Milgram, and Stanford Prison experiments) mankind has the habit of compliance.

So, if its really the 'right' thing, how come some invisible sky wizard had to decree, and enforce it by word of mouth by some guy with a fancy robe and tall hat.


Monogamy predates the fancy robe man. Part of why monogamy is so popular is that it gives structure. Polygamy provides fluidity sure, but most people tend to like structure.

edit: Not sure how this whole thing is now a discussion of p0rn as it relates to fidelity...

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youngblood wrote:
Monogamy predates the fancy robe man. Part of why monogamy is so popular is that it gives structure. Polygamy provides fluidity sure, but most people tend to like structure.


Fancy robe folks seem to crop up all along mankinds' history.
Although documents dating to 1000BC show glimpses monogamy in the Abrahammic faiths, sororate marriages still stood in the Zhou dynasty. Solomon had many wives. As much as humans like monogamy on a social level, it just doesn't seem to stick.

We seem to have missed the arguments for and against the exploitative function of pr0n on women still!

Back to the discussion at hand though -
Its nice she doesn't like porn. She doesn't have to look.
Edit: (nice of me to complete the thought. let me try that)

Pr0n is simply not the gateway to fidelity or lack thereof any more than a knife is a gateway to murder (dinner maybe, but murder is subjective).

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Or maybe Dryden, or Samuel Johnson.

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Oldgrue wrote:Pr0n is simply not the gateway to fidelity or lack thereof any more than a knife is a gateway to murder (dinner maybe, but murder is subjective).




 
   
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Ok, not be a bit contrarian but there have been studies showing a strong desensitization effect with PrOn. There's some really wacked out stuff no, especially on the intrawebs. I can see the GF/wife freaking out in many instances.

In addition it creates really false stereotype stuff (but thats for the topic more for youngins vs. married/GF stage).

Its another slippery slope issue on a personal scale. moderation boys and girls, its whats for breakfast.

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Kilkrazy wrote:Was it Pope who said that second marriages were a triumph of hope over experience?

Or maybe Dryden, or Samuel Johnson.

re-marriage (to previous partners), I believe. By Johnson.

Second marriages (to new partners) would be evidence of learning from experience.

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OK my 2 cents.

there are different kinds of porn.

IF for isntance you and the other half are watching a late night film with sex in it and it gets you two in the mood, then thats cool to me.

IF you both pop into Ann Summers and buy maybe a dvd or whatever together then thats cool

IF you start hiding your self away to look at porn then its wrong.

its a partner ship, do everything together..mkay


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Frazzled wrote:...moderation boys and girls, its whats for breakfast.


So, back to meat and tasty tasty murder?

Edit: left out requisite Chianti/Fava Bean reference.

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My GF and I watch pr0n together. Her mom is a MiLF.

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How did you make that jump right there?

Hanging out with the GF, watching porn you know... just chilling and snap. Then all of a sudden... wait... this is a family friendly forum.

And... that is kinda gross .


 
   
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EDIT: Sorry, I didn't see this thread already had four pages with several good answers.

Either way, I bet vegetarians watch porn, too. And I bet Morrissey watches porn of a kind that'd make some people here jump out of their windows

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JEB_Stuart wrote:Looking at porn suggests something that is unfulfilled or empty in your relationship. This of course signifies unhappiness or discontent with your girlfriend. Porn has ruined lives, and will continue to do so.

Nothing has to be empty. Porn (excluding the real sick stuff, for civility's sake) is entertainment for adults, and while it might still be a little taboo in some corners of the world, it is in essence nothing else than watching football matches or playing video games. It's a pastime, a way to occupy your fantasy. It is neither sent by Satan nor is everybody in the porn industry a ruthless would-be slaver. One could easily argument that watching porn (perhaps even together with your partner) can add new facets to your relationship. That doesn't mean it has had to be empty beforehands. One could also simply exchange "porn" with "wargaming" and argue that your life isn't that fulfilled when you have to play with toy soldiers as an adult - which is an opinion that everybody here knows and nobody here likes. With porn, it's just the same. In the end, it all boils down to whether people are tolerant and open-minded or not; porn and wargaming (for example) aren't inherently morally good or bad. And I think we all want people to be tolerant and open-minded, and I also think everyone should start with himself.

Either way, I second Clthomps and dogma.


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LunaHound wrote:Cheating mentally still count as cheating.


Gotta disagree with ya Luna. Just because a man in a relationship imagines, say sleeping with Beyonce, does not mean he well do anything.
And for that matter, just because a woman is in a relationship and thinks about sleeping with CLive Owen, does not mean she will.

Or for that matter that they will even have a snowball's chance in hell.

As for watching porn in a relationship, just don't scream out the pornstars name during sex. Especially if it's a dude.
   
 
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