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hotsauceman1 wrote: I asked and the general consensus seemed to be "To Risky and will make thinks awkward no matter how it goes"
Never listen to a general consensus. General consensus always ends up with the safest, lamest path. That's how we ended up with the current Hollywood style of film making. You need to be bold, not safe.
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"The dog is just happy to be alive, well-fed and taken care of; not all mopey cause it's missing a leg. Unlike Louie, who knows he's only got a month left with Amia and has to make the best of it, but instead wastes time questioning if it'd be worth it. The lesson is to be happy for what you have rather than unhappy for what you don't."
Manchu - "But so what? The Bible also says the flood destroyed the world. You only need an allegorical boat to tackle an allegorical flood."
Shespits "Anything i see with YOLO has half naked eleventeen year olds Girls. And of course booze and drugs and more half naked elventeen yearolds Girls. O how i wish to YOLO again!"
Rubiksnoob "Next you'll say driving a stick with a Scandinavian supermodel on your lap while ripping a bong impairs your driving. And you know what, I'M NOT GOING TO STOP, YOU FILTHY COMMUNIST"
Cheesecat wrote: "The dog is just happy to be alive, well-fed and taken care of; not all mopey cause it's missing a leg. Unlike Louie, who knows he's only got a month left with Amia and has to make the best of it, but instead wastes time questioning if it'd be worth it. The lesson is to be happy for what you have rather than unhappy for what you don't."
-megamanu64, random YouTuber
I get that. But the whole "Only a four legged Dog is happier"
But at this point im confused. Ok, No dating at work, but if you try to date a friend and she says No cant that get awkward, or a Project buddy?
I guess I just dont get it.
hotsauceman1 wrote: But at this point im confused. Ok, No dating at work, but if you try to date a friend and she says No cant that get awkward, or a Project buddy?
I guess I just dont get it.
The difference is that you can always just walk away from a friendship that gets awkward, but you can't do that as easily when it's a job you need to pay the bills and have food every day. And you certainly don't have any company rules to worry about breaking.
There is no such thing as a hobby without politics. "Leave politics at the door" is itself a political statement, an endorsement of the status quo and an attempt to silence dissenting voices.
It can get awkward on a no for project buddy , but there is less chance on the 5 hours in a box together being soul deadeningly awkward.
The reason I would say no dating in the workplace for you is just the amount of time you spend together without seeming to have much interaction from anyone else other than the other person in the box.
If she's a party girl I'm sure one of her friends is getting sick of "bad boys" and would like a "nice guy" for a while , she might even be thinking it is a good idea herself. Has she talked to you about her relationships ect yet?
Manchu - "But so what? The Bible also says the flood destroyed the world. You only need an allegorical boat to tackle an allegorical flood."
Shespits "Anything i see with YOLO has half naked eleventeen year olds Girls. And of course booze and drugs and more half naked elventeen yearolds Girls. O how i wish to YOLO again!"
Rubiksnoob "Next you'll say driving a stick with a Scandinavian supermodel on your lap while ripping a bong impairs your driving. And you know what, I'M NOT GOING TO STOP, YOU FILTHY COMMUNIST"
Cheesecat wrote: "The dog is just happy to be alive, well-fed and taken care of; not all mopey cause it's missing a leg. Unlike Louie, who knows he's only got a month left with Amia and has to make the best of it, but instead wastes time questioning if it'd be worth it. The lesson is to be happy for what you have rather than unhappy for what you don't."
-megamanu64, random YouTuber
I get that. But the whole "Only a four legged Dog is happier"
I think it was sort of an anti-joke. It's one of those "well of course" things. The point it served, at least to me and relating it to what the doctor said earlier, was that people try (or should try) their best to get by with what they have. They try to make the most of life because it's all they have. The doctor suggests that the three legged dog is the happiest it can possibly be, because it lives now, and is alive and has all it's needs cared for. It's out to live, and not dying to live, paralyzed with indecision.
You're not missing half your face or brain (I presume) and you're not dying (I presume), so stop viewing life from a powerful telescope, contemplating it from afar, and go fething live it. You want the girl? Ask the girl. Things go bad, and they likely might because relationships are hard, well, feth it. You don't want the girl? Don't go for the girl, but don't wonder what might have been, because you've made your decision. Either way, you'll wake up the next day, and life does go on.
Personally, I made a decision years ago to not date coworkers. But that's my decision. I don't sit around paralyzed by it. Make a decision and live the outcome, not the choices.
Also, that comment was halfway intelligent. I cannot believe that it actually came from youtube.
The burning pits of Hades, also known as Sweden in summer
Reading this thread with you boyz discussing how to get a date makes me wonder if there's a guy out there who is interested in me but who just lacks the courage to enter my line of sight.
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Albatross wrote: I just thought it might be interesting to get a little side-discussion going on the issue of Race and Dating: Is it an issue for you? Would you not date someone of a different race (no judgement, just discussion)? Has anyone ever refused to date you on the basis of your race?
I've dated most of the colors of the rainbow and ended up married to an Asian woman. And I can't remember any issues related to "race" coming up. Maybe it's a regional thing (I live in the Northeast), I dunno. Now, I did luck out with my wife's parents. It's possible that they could have been more traditional and less approving. But ultimately I wasn't the first white guy my wife dated, so they were fine with it and really only cared about her happiness and how well I treat her.
Honestly, I don't feel like I'm in an *interracial marriage.* Ooooooo. I'm not even sure what that means. Like we're two separate species or something? I'm more aware of her particular national/cultural background just because of language, food, etc. And that would still be true if I dated a "white" girl from Italy or Austria.
Ashiraya wrote: Reading this thread with you boyz discussing how to get a date makes me wonder if there's a guy out there who is interested in me but who just lacks the courage to enter my line of sight.
If you're a woman that doesn't look absolutely horrific it's basically a one hundred percent guarantee that someone out there is enamored with you.
The only way we can ever solve anything is to look in the mirror and find no enemy
Ashiraya wrote: Reading this thread with you boyz discussing how to get a date makes me wonder if there's a guy out there who is interested in me but who just lacks the courage to enter my line of sight.
*Ducks behind cover*
...
Is she gone yet?
Mandorallen turned back toward the insolently sneering baron. 'My Lord,' The great knight said distantly, 'I find thy face apelike and thy form misshapen. Thy beard, moreover, is an offence against decency, resembling more closely the scabrous fur which doth decorate the hinder portion of a mongrel dog than a proper adornment for a human face. Is it possibly that thy mother, seized by some wild lechery, did dally at some time past with a randy goat?' - Mimbrate Knight Protector Mandorallen.
Excerpt from "Seeress of Kell", Book Five of The Malloreon series by David Eddings.
"You need not fear us, unless you are a dark heart, a vile one who preys on the innocent; I promise, you can’t hide forever in the empty darkness, for we will hunt you down like the animals you are, and pull you into the very bowels of hell." Iron - Within Temptation
I just thought it might be interesting to get a little side-discussion going on the issue of Race and Dating: Is it an issue for you? Would you not date someone of a different race (no judgement, just discussion)? Has anyone ever refused to date you on the basis of your race?
Well it is interesting thing. I personally dont find black girls attractive, atleast physically. But Like I said, I love Philopino and Asian girls because they are so short and cute. Hispanic Girls. well, it depends TBH. And then there are race relation issues. My grandpa and grandma where Conservative and Democrat respectively(My Grandma "Why should we bother voting, We just cancel eatchother out) I think that would be harder in a mixed Race relationship. What if you are white and into BDSM and your black partner isnt because reasons. But you also get the problem of differing world views.
Ashiraya wrote: Reading this thread with you boyz discussing how to get a date makes me wonder if there's a guy out there who is interested in me but who just lacks the courage to enter my line of sight.
If you're a woman that doesn't look absolutely horrific it's basically a one hundred percent guarantee that someone out there is enamored with you.
Bullockist wrote: I have a lonely penis, so I am supposed to be happy?
What kind of lesson are you handing out here chezcat??????
lol... this thread is pure gold for sig worthy quotes....
To anyone wanting a date, trust me on this one, ask out any girl you can, you will get better at it each time.
99% of the battle is getting used to rejection and not letting ______ stop you from asking her out, what ever _________ is.
guys will "outsmart" themselves and come up with any number of reasons why they cant ask someone out, so never do, and it becomes a cycle.
If you get used to rejection, and your normal process becomes making the attempt, then your cycle turns to one of at least trying, which will lead eventually to sucess.
also,
Plenty of fish works... just say you are a doctor, trust me.
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When I was single, finding dates was pretty easy. I used OKC and was able to pick out people that shared a lot of interests, or at least weren't fething crazy on paper.
Picking up strangers cold (in a bar, for example) isn't my style, but I did that once during that time. I don't regret the experience, but it was pretty clear what we were both after at the time, and it wasn't a good way to find anything long term.
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I just thought it might be interesting to get a little side-discussion going on the issue of Race and Dating: Is it an issue for you? Would you not date someone of a different race (no judgement, just discussion)? Has anyone ever refused to date you on the basis of your race?
Well it is interesting thing. I personally dont find black girls attractive, atleast physically. But Like I said, I love Philopino and Asian girls because they are so short and cute. Hispanic Girls. well, it depends TBH. And then there are race relation issues. My grandpa and grandma where Conservative and Democrat respectively(My Grandma "Why should we bother voting, We just cancel eatchother out) I think that would be harder in a mixed Race relationship. What if you are white and into BDSM and your black partner isnt because reasons. But you also get the problem of differing world views.
Ashiraya wrote: Reading this thread with you boyz discussing how to get a date makes me wonder if there's a guy out there who is interested in me but who just lacks the courage to enter my line of sight.
If you're a woman that doesn't look absolutely horrific it's basically a one hundred percent guarantee that someone out there is enamored with you.
This. Its true.
Well, that's interesting.
Do you think it will help if I go all sugoii kimochi desu desu ~=^.^=~?
Or maybe, when he enters my line of sight, I should throw my Forgefiend at him and shout 'HA! Instant death!'? Guys like girls who outgeek them, right?
Automatically Appended Next Post: Or will that just make him uncomfortable?
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Ashiraya wrote: Reading this thread with you boyz discussing how to get a date makes me wonder if there's a guy out there who is interested in me but who just lacks the courage to enter my line of sight.
Well, you know how GW nerfed cover saves this edition, it's stay out of LOS entirely or get shot to death by the Riptides...
It's probably true for guys as well, given how many "undesirable" people are in happy relationships. There are just so many people out there that no matter who you are (unless you're an ugly serial killer or something) someone is thinking "oh god no" and someone else is thinking "oh god yes". The hard part is just finding that person.
There is no such thing as a hobby without politics. "Leave politics at the door" is itself a political statement, an endorsement of the status quo and an attempt to silence dissenting voices.
I always imagine that most girls would find at least one guy that was interested in them.
Most woman have at least some kind of attractive feature at least from a purely physical perspective. Smile, Eyes, Body etc, couple that with a matching personality and you're on to a winner. Unless you can't win her... but that's what this thread is for, right?
There is no redemption if she's a land whale unfortunately. I don't mean chubby. I mean what would be called morbidly obese by a medical professional. I don't think that's unfair.
Medium of Death wrote: There is no redemption if she's a land whale unfortunately. I don't mean chubby. I mean what would be called morbidly obese by a medical professional. I don't think that's unfair.
No, even that isn't true. Not only can they find people to date them there are people who specifically seek out someone that fat. Now, it's certainly harder to find a match in that situation, but that's why the internet exists.
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Ashiraya wrote: 'Hey cutie, wanna come home to me and forge the narrative?'
TBH that might not be a bad idea. Between the common social awkardness and assumption that any geek girl must have a boyfriend already even someone who is interested may not make the first move. Plus, style points for an amusing line. I know if someone said that to me I'd take the offer.
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There is no such thing as a hobby without politics. "Leave politics at the door" is itself a political statement, an endorsement of the status quo and an attempt to silence dissenting voices.
The burning pits of Hades, also known as Sweden in summer
Peregrine wrote: TBH that might not be a bad idea. Between the common social awkardness and assumption that any geek girl must have a boyfriend already even someone who is interested may not make the first move. Plus, style points for an amusing line. I know if someone said that to me I'd take the offer.
Thank you. ♥ If you were to design a pickup line for a geek girl, what would it be?
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