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I would avoid pick up lines in general they usually come across as more embarrassing and cringe-inducing.

Naah, they can be really funny, and few things are more cute than humour.

 Ashiraya wrote:
Thank you. ♥ If you were to design a pickup line for a geek girl, what would it be?

I don't think I have the cheesy sense of humor for that one, but the "forge the narrative" one would be pretty good if you're both 40k players. It's a pretty clear invitation if they want it, but casual and amusing enough for them to laugh it off if they already have a girlfriend or whatever.


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 Cheesecat wrote:
I would avoid pick up lines in general they usually come across as more embarrassing and cringe-inducing.

That's because most of them are just stupid and cliche, so it just says that you're trying too hard to be funny but can't come up with anything original. And people seem to think that you just walk up to a random stranger and use one. If, on the other hand, you make a 40k pickup line after a 40k game with someone you're probably going to have a lot more luck with it.

 Ashiraya wrote:

Do you think it will help if I go all sugoii kimochi desu desu ~=^.^=~?

Or maybe, when he enters my line of sight, I should throw my Forgefiend at him and shout 'HA! Instant death!'? Guys like girls who outgeek them, right?

Or will that just make him uncomfortable?

Either Or

Yes, guys like girls who are geeks, usually, at least smart guys.

Shouldn't make him uncomfortable. If it does, and he doesn't look disgusted by it, that's a strange kind of sign that the dude likes you. Some guys are very scared of rejection...even if a woman is showing interest in them, or so I have observed.




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 Ashiraya wrote:
Naah, they can be really funny, and few things are more cute than humour.

On a scale of 1 to America, how free are you tonight?

(might be lost on someone outside the US, plus its an internet meme that's going around....sharing just for funnies)


P.S. You're forge the narrative line is absolutely perfect...obviously it would be lost on people who don't know what that means.

If at first you don't succeed, lower your expectations.

Fatty's need love too.

 Peregrine wrote:

 Ashiraya wrote:
Well, that's interesting.

It's probably true for guys as well, given how many "undesirable" people are in happy relationships. There are just so many people out there that no matter who you are (unless you're an ugly serial killer or something) someone is thinking "oh god no" and someone else is thinking "oh god yes". The hard part is just finding that person.

I'm probably pointing out the obvious here, but you have to actually interact with people for that to be the case.

Also, that "forge the narrative" line is kind of vague. Pick up lines can work if they're really good or if you're really good looking, but why not just ask the guy out or be more direct?

Don't listen to trexmeyer (respect, yo!)

Good pick up lines coming from guys are absolute cheese, but coming from women, they are almost irresistable.

Good pickup lines are winmore...

They don't work unless you already won the battle.

 jasper76 wrote:
Don't listen to trexmeyer (respect, yo!)

Good pick up lines coming from guys are absolute cheese, but coming from women, they are almost irresistable.

I've used some corny and sexually explicit pick up lines successfully before, but I wouldn't recommend doing either and I only do that when I honestly don't give a feth about the response.
That "forge the narrative" line would get this reaction from me.

jasper wrote:

On a scale of 1 to America, how free are you tonight?

It is great, but you are a fair few pages too late!

Sorry about that....reading back through all these pages is a project I'm not prepared to undertake atm

 gorgon wrote:

 hotsauceman1 wrote:

 Albatross wrote:

I just thought it might be interesting to get a little side-discussion going on the issue of Race and Dating: Is it an issue for you? Would you not date someone of a different race (no judgement, just discussion)? Has anyone ever refused to date you on the basis of your race?

Well it is interesting thing. I personally dont find black girls attractive, atleast physically. But Like I said, I love Philopino and Asian girls because they are so short and cute. Hispanic Girls. well, it depends TBH. And then there are race relation issues. My grandpa and grandma where Conservative and Democrat respectively(My Grandma "Why should we bother voting, We just cancel eatchother out) I think that would be harder in a mixed Race relationship. What if you are white and into BDSM and your black partner isnt because reasons. But you also get the problem of differing world views.

What?

Yeah... What?


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 Ashiraya wrote:
Naah, they can be really funny, and few things are more cute than humour.

I'm sorry, I can't hear you over the sound of me booking the next flight to Sweden...

 trexmeyer wrote:
Also, that "forge the narrative" line is kind of vague. Pick up lines can work if they're really good or if you're really good looking, but why not just ask the guy out or be more direct?

There's nothing vague at all about that. If you're playing a game with someone of your preferred gender and they say "hey, you want to come back to my place and, you know, forge some narrative" I think anyone with even basic social skills is going to know what they mean. And you say something like that because it defuses a bit of the potential awkwardness. If they're not interested for whatever reason you can both just laugh at how cheesy it is, and you don't make a big deal out of some formal statement of I Like You And This Is A Date and risk making things awkward even if they're interested.

Plus, having a sense of humor is a good thing, and making a good joke out of a shared hobby says you have one. Even knowing nothing else about Ashiraya I'd probably say yes to that line, because hey, why not see if the good first impression continues?

 Peregrine wrote:
Even knowing nothing else about Ashiraya I'd probably say yes to that line, because hey, why not see if the good first impression continues?

I actually doubt you would, since I am 17 and if my impression from your writing style and experienced, confident behaviour is anywhere near correct, I'd estimate your age to be around twice that number.

Of course, if you are around my age, it could be interesting, but you're not writing like any teen I have ever seen. Not that I'd dislike you for that, I just think I would prefer someone my own age, and I strongly suspect you would too.

That was a lot of text for an irrelevant anecdote. I apologise. Anyway, I agree with what you wrote.

To contradict a 36 page thread...don't over-think it. Just tell yourself that you've already pulled and if she turns you down just slag her off to your friends until you feel better.

Also remember you're more attractive and charming than any other guy she's ever met. Though that might just apply to me

 Ashiraya wrote:
I actually doubt you would, since I am 17 and if my impression from your writing style and experienced, confident behaviour is anywhere near correct, I'd estimate your age to be around twice that number.

Yeah, definitely too old (and too geographically distant, and probably too not-single).

Anyway, since you're that young the advice is definitely don't over think it and feel free to use cheesy pickup lines. You're still in "make stupid youthful mistakes and have fun with them" territory, you're not looking to settle down and commit to your One True Love. The worst that can happen if you fumble the approach with someone is you get a bit embarrassed, learn from it, and do better the next time.

 Peregrine wrote:

 Ashiraya wrote:
I actually doubt you would, since I am 17 and if my impression from your writing style and experienced, confident behaviour is anywhere near correct, I'd estimate your age to be around twice that number.

Yeah, definitely too old (and too geographically distant, and probably too not-single).

Anyway, since you're that young the advice is definitely don't over think it and feel free to use cheesy pickup lines. You're still in "make stupid youthful mistakes and have fun with them" territory, you're not looking to settle down and commit to your One True Love. The worst that can happen if you fumble the approach with someone is you get a bit embarrassed, learn from it, and do better the next time.

Thank you. You should know I really respect you, though. Sure, I disagree with you heavily in certain parts of 40k lore, but that is really not that important. Remember that transthread about a MtF sportswoman? I almost cheered as I read your posts. (I am an activist IRL)

Which is another massive anecdote. Hrm. Anyway.
Keep on posting. I find reading about the subject interesting - youth won't last forever, after all.

I'm really pleased to have started a thread on the OT that has gone for 36 pages, especially one that has been generally really positive! No flame-wars or anything!

 easysauce wrote:

 Bullockist wrote:
I have a lonely penis, so I am supposed to be happy?
What kind of lesson are you handing out here chezcat??????

lol... this thread is pure gold for sig worthy quotes....

I knew I was going to regret that line as soon as I wrote it, it amused me so much I left it...BAD DECISIONS BULLOCKIST, BAD DECISIONS.



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 Avatar 720 wrote:

 Ashiraya wrote:
Reading this thread with you boyz discussing how to get a date makes me wonder if there's a guy out there who is interested in me but who just lacks the courage to enter my line of sight.

*Ducks behind cover*

...

Is she gone yet?

Ahh avatar you never fail to amuse me.

In response to Ashiraya , unless you are a 56 year old woman with no teeth and no personality targeting a 21 year old male (none of this happened to me, none of it, BAD MEMORIES BULLOCKIST, BAD MEMORIES ) I am pretty sure your chances are high.

 Ashiraya wrote:

 Peregrine wrote:
TBH that might not be a bad idea. Between the common social awkardness and assumption that any geek girl must have a boyfriend already even someone who is interested may not make the first move. Plus, style points for an amusing line. I know if someone said that to me I'd take the offer.

Thank you. ♥ If you were to design a pickup line for a geek girl, what would it be?

"Are you a DPS? Because every second my heart aches more for you."

"Please can I get a res? Because you are drop-dead gorgeous."

"I hope you're dragonborn, because I'm gunna make you shout."

"Are you dragonborn? Because Fus Ro Damn!"

"I'm low on mana, mind if I tap your land?"

"I want to do the sex with you."


I dunno, it's 3am, I'm getting a headache, and I was running out of inspiration.

If you want a proper pickup line, then how does 7pm tomorrow night sound? (Winky face mandatory)


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 Avatar 720 wrote:

 Ashiraya wrote:
Reading this thread with you boyz discussing how to get a date makes me wonder if there's a guy out there who is interested in me but who just lacks the courage to enter my line of sight.

*Ducks behind cover*

...

Is she gone yet?

Ahh avatar you never fail to amuse me.

I try, I try.

I'd be in the 'letting some people in the club know that your single and available' camp.

Seriously, not joking, not being flippant. I really can't imagine it not being that easy.

There's really not that much mystery.

 Compel wrote:
Seriously, not joking, not being flippant. I really can't imagine it not being that easy.

It's not that easy for three reasons:

1) Just letting people know that you're available works great if you have low standards and just want casual sex. For example, make a female profile on a dating site and you'll get hundreds of semi-literate offers from desperate men, but none of them would be even remotely appealing. If you're looking for a specific kind of match (or even a specific person) then you really need to be willing to talk to individual people instead of just broadcasting a "come and find me" message. Even in a narrower context like a gaming club you'll get offers, but they aren't guaranteed to be the people that you're actually interested in.

2) Not everyone who might be interested is interested enough to make the first move, even if they might think you're the perfect match once they get to know you better. Whenever I look at online dating sites there are always a lot of people where I think "she looks kind of interesting" but never get around to contacting them. But if those same people sent me the first message I'd certainly respond and give them a chance. And this was true even when I was single (and quite unhappy with that situation), so I assume a lot of (if not most) other people work the same way.

3) Not everyone who might be interested is brave enough to make the first move, especially when you're talking about younger people in a geek hobby context. 17-year old me would have been terrified of making the first move, even if a girl walked into game night and said "hey, I'm single and looking". It's a fact I (and most people who did the same things) would have regretted in hindsight, but that doesn't help anyone at the moment. So if you want to overcome that shyness sometimes you need to hit someone on the head with the metaphorical hammer and say "I LIKE YOU".

 Albatross wrote:

 gorgon wrote:

 hotsauceman1 wrote:

 Albatross wrote:

I just thought it might be interesting to get a little side-discussion going on the issue of Race and Dating: Is it an issue for you? Would you not date someone of a different race (no judgement, just discussion)? Has anyone ever refused to date you on the basis of your race?

Well it is interesting thing. I personally dont find black girls attractive, atleast physically. But Like I said, I love Philopino and Asian girls because they are so short and cute. Hispanic Girls. well, it depends TBH. And then there are race relation issues. My grandpa and grandma where Conservative and Democrat respectively(My Grandma "Why should we bother voting, We just cancel eatchother out) I think that would be harder in a mixed Race relationship. What if you are white and into BDSM and your black partner isnt because reasons. But you also get the problem of differing world views.

What?

Yeah... What?

Did I type that? What was I thinking? Must have been at night and on my tablet.
But I decided. Im tired of being scared of rejection, of tons of other things, of a girl being out of my league or not understanding my interests. Dead Fething tired. Even If I get rejected and kicked in the nuts. Im going to fething try. In two weeks the park goes to half time and I may not get the chance. Im going to ask if she wants to hange out, get coffee or lunch or something.

 Peregrine wrote:

 trexmeyer wrote:
Also, that "forge the narrative" line is kind of vague. Pick up lines can work if they're really good or if you're really good looking, but why not just ask the guy out or be more direct?

There's nothing vague at all about that. If you're playing a game with someone of your preferred gender and they say "hey, you want to come back to my place and, you know, forge some narrative" I think anyone with even basic social skills is going to know what they mean.

Apparently I'm a neanderthal that lacks any basic social skills because I would without a doubt bertstare that line. God, even saying "hey you should come over to my place and hang out with me" is better.


And best of luck Hotsauce. Go through with it if you really want to or else you will eat yourself alive.

 trexmeyer wrote:


And best of luck Hotsauce. Go through with it if you really want to or else you will eat yourself alive.

TBH,, its not even about the fact that I want a date. Im fine not dating TBH. I am sick and tired of being scared and being worried about things like this.

I've been in the exact same place. Prior to dating just sitting down and talking to this girl I thought attractive was an absolutely harrowing experience, but once I got past that initial obstacle everything changed. I'll be honest, I dislike dating to the extreme and have no desire to actually do so in the near future. Being in a relationship is the best thing I've ever experienced, but only when things are good. When they're bad it can be soul crushing.

I wouldn't say dating, sex, relationships, real genuine love, or any of that are underrated or overrated. They are all just things you can't understand until you experience them.

I can just hope I get the chance to TBH. Schedules dont always match up

 Avatar 720 wrote:


"Are you a DPS? Because every second my heart aches more for you."

"Please can I get a res? Because you are drop-dead gorgeous."

"I hope you're dragonborn, because I'm gunna make you shout."

"Are you dragonborn? Because Fus Ro Damn!"

"I'm low on mana, mind if I tap your land?"

"I want to do the sex with you."

HAHAHAHAH

Feckin' glorious!

Aside from the last one (too blatant, I would slap) these are all perfect!




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 hotsauceman1 wrote:

 Albatross wrote:

 gorgon wrote:

 hotsauceman1 wrote:

 Albatross wrote:

I just thought it might be interesting to get a little side-discussion going on the issue of Race and Dating: Is it an issue for you? Would you not date someone of a different race (no judgement, just discussion)? Has anyone ever refused to date you on the basis of your race?

Well it is interesting thing. I personally dont find black girls attractive, atleast physically. But Like I said, I love Philopino and Asian girls because they are so short and cute. Hispanic Girls. well, it depends TBH. And then there are race relation issues. My grandpa and grandma where Conservative and Democrat respectively(My Grandma "Why should we bother voting, We just cancel eatchother out) I think that would be harder in a mixed Race relationship. What if you are white and into BDSM and your black partner isnt because reasons. But you also get the problem of differing world views.

What?

Yeah... What?

Did I type that? What was I thinking? Must have been at night and on my tablet.
But I decided. Im tired of being scared of rejection, of tons of other things, of a girl being out of my league or not understanding my interests. Dead Fething tired. Even If I get rejected and kicked in the nuts. Im going to fething try. In two weeks the park goes to half time and I may not get the chance. Im going to ask if she wants to hange out, get coffee or lunch or something.

Just do it! Seriously, feth the arbitrary rules - go out there and make things happen for yourself. Get what you want. Be a man, basically.

It's scary as gak at first, but believe me when I say that it's totally worth it. I hadn't dated in 9 years before this year, so it was weird for me too, but it only takes a few good experiences to send your confidence rocketing. I guarantee that if you take the bull by the horns and start asking girls out, you won't regret it. The key, as discussed previously, is to not take things too personally if you experience rejection. It happens to us all and is no reflection on your desirability to ALL women, just that particular one. As long as as your personal hygiene and grooming is handled and you're going for 'appropriate' girls, it's just a numbers game. You WILL get a yes, it's just a matter of being patient and fearless.

 Albatross wrote:

Just do it! Seriously, feth the arbitrary rules - go out there and make things happen for yourself. Get what you want. Be a man, basically.

It's scary as gak at first, but believe me when I say that it's totally worth it. I hadn't dated in 9 years before this year, so it was weird for me too, but it only takes a few good experiences to send your confidence rocketing. I guarantee that if you take the bull by the horns and start asking girls out, you won't regret it. The key, as discussed previously, is to not take things too personally if you experience rejection. It happens to us all and is no reflection on your desirability to ALL women, just that particular one. As long as as your personal hygiene and grooming is handled and you're going for 'appropriate' girls, it's just a numbers game. You WILL get a yes, it's just a matter of being patient and fearless.

I am. But now I need a chance too. I was hoping I could when we both get off. But we dont have the same schedule net week. Ugh. I I hope I dont loose my will to do it though.